Sometimes the treatment for kids with ADHD focuses too much on outward symptoms that bother other people, and not enough on what's going on inside the ADHD person.
So true and I never understood it. I'm 68 years old and all these years I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression only to find out they were caused by add.. Desipramin (NORPRAMIN) will possibly help you. I take 50 mg per day and it helps.
@@barbaracalabro873 How do you know it helps? My PA put (put is not quite the right word here) me on something XR. Does it help - I dont know. I still have 4 browser windows each w/ 4+ tabs open, email half drafted as I write this. I type letters from the next word in the middle of the current word being typed. That is my normal. How can I recognize normal normal? I know it's real & I know meds can help - and understand that not all meds help everyone.
@@amandareavey3985 My anxiety and depression increased dramatically over the past 12-ish years and I kept telling friends, family, and doctors that I felt like it was a chicken and egg situation: Am I depressed because I know my anxiety is stopping me from being able to do things or am I anxious because I'm anticipating the fact that my depression will keep me from being able to do things? Turns out the answer was neither. Both were symptoms of my ADHD.
@@johnplaysgames3120 SAME. When I was in my mid-20s, I saw a PCP who prescribed Zoloft (after talking with me for 5 minutes, and it was the first time he'd ever met me, but that's a whole other issue). I took it for a week and it was a DISASTER! I had a very bad reaction to it - it made me manic, and it amplified my distractibility and my inability to focus. I went off it after that week, and I never went to see that doctor again. In hindsight, this was an indication that I might have ADHD, but I had no idea. I just knew that whatever was wrong with me, it wasn't serotonin. Fast forward 20 years, and I finally got a diagnosis. How nice it would have been, if that doctor had referred me to a mental health professional like I was asking him to do, instead of just reflexively writing me a prescription and moving on with his day. And of course it would have been even better if I had been diagnosed as a child. Again, in hindsight, I presented as a classic combined-type ADHD kid: I was distractible and daydreamy in class, prone to sudden outbursts, super fidgety, always doodling or reading when I wasn't supposed to be, completely unable to keep my desk or bedroom clean, constantly losing things like coats and shoes, forgetting to do my homework or just forgetting to turn it in, and when outdoors always wanting to be *moving*. And I was extremely anxious in school - I can't remember not being anxious. In HS I had severe TMJ because I was clenching my teeth so badly at night - because school was hell that year. But I was a girl, and at the time the prevailing opinion was that only boys had ADHD.
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I think I have adult adhd. A teacher sat down with my parents when I was a child and they rejected the diagnosis. They put me in a different school and I’ve struggled all through my life. I barely passed high school and I dropped out of college. I broke down watching this video. Like you, I love how creative I can be. But I can’t get anything important done. I always chalked it up to me being a failure. But almost everything you said makes sense to me. Especially the anxiety and edginess. I’ve blown up at so many people in my life. I’ve been such a terrible person. I don’t want to be like this anymore. But I don’t have money to see anyone or get the proper medication I need. I’m still so lost.
Don't give up. I've been there several times. At one point in my life my wife left me, had clinical depression, left my shitty job (the people who gave it to me are amazing though) and was left with nothing. Was so low that got a loan from relatives so I could get professional retraining and support myself. Got a job, then a better job, then a even better job. Left that last job because I wanted to study, get back to uni and feel "fulfilled". Made plans, procrastinated a bit, then made new plans, procrastinated some more, now probably it is all going sideways for a bit. But the other they heard about add, more precisely the inattentive type and I think now I am getting closer to the truth. I am am currently on medication for emotional dysregulation and depression (went there for the procrastination, sensitivity and anger when overwhelmed). Just to show you that even if it is hard, and sometimes you feel you are not the best you can be, the struggle is a sign you are trying and every day closer to help yourself and live a better life.
Adderall saved my life. I was misdiagnosed my entire life with anxiety disorder. but I've been doing my own research watching videos and listening to others and being told over the years at various jobs that I am so ADD. This is why I went from straight A student all through elementary schools to barely passing through middle School, eventually failing the 10th grade three times. I just couldn't sleep at night my brain was so active, so I couldn't focus during the day so school got screwed for me. I eventually got my GED much later in life. but everything you said I deal with I feel that when I was diagnosed at the age of 15 with generalized anxiety disorder it was the wrong diagnosis. I'm 37 and I feel as though I've had ADHD since then. Living without the proper medication that I need. I am going to be making an appointment in the new year as soon as I can to finally see.
@@lyloupanda yeah but I'm still having trouble getting it prescribed because they still want to stick to the tried-and-true anxiety and depression. however those medications don't work and what is the root cause of my anxiety is the add and not being treated, what's then leads to depression because it's so frustrating it makes me depressed. But you know I don't have a fancy plaque on my wall with a piece of paper. You're not supposed to do this butI've self-medicated over the years and when I take an adderal its amazing that my anxiety is less and so is my depression. And adderal isn't even for that.
When you mentioned having kids, I realized: "Well... at least I am aware enough of myself and what it would be like to have kids to have decided years ago not to have them." When I see people with kids, I just have no idea how they do it, I can tell that I would be extremely overwhelmed so I spared myself of that experience. I've always had this insanely demanding list of how I would like to raise my kids until I realized I would never be able to meet my own expectations. I am still trying to figure out how to be a functioning adult, I am kinda my own child and my own mom.
There are perhaps good reasons not to have children, but I do not believe (personally) that ADHD alone is one of them. Similar to what you said about meeting your own expectations - I'm NOT able to do that. Maybe nobody is. I also was not able to have more than one child, and sometimes I think it was for the best because I get overwhelmed seeing and hearing about people with more than one child. All that said -- as a mom -- I am smarter, braver, stronger than I ever thought I could be. I'm not perfect, but I'm perfect for my daughter. She would not trade me for anything and her love and wellbeing motivates me unlike anything else can.
Oh wow, thank you sooo much for sharing this. With all my research about ADHD I always thought, some things don't fit to my, because I liked school. I loved learning new things, I was curious and my brain can just soak up new things I find interesting like a sponge, also thinks that make sence to me. Yet, many other aspacts of ADHD discribe me in a way that I finally feel understood. Your video makes me feel like finally finding the last peace to the puzzle. No, waiting on my testing appointment is not such a hazzard anymore. Best wishes from germany!!!
Yes to just about all of this. When you spoke about being overwhelmed and being anxious, I can relate. If I’m going away for the night, say and I have to pack a bag, see to my cats, go to the bus or train station, I am so anxious I become inert. It’s horrific. I am 65 and I saw my doctor yesterday to ask for a referral. She was totally on board with this but the waiting list on the NHS (I’m in England) is TWO YEARS! So I will go private and pay. I was diagnosed with bipolar fourteen years ago, but I’ve known for a long time that there is something else going on and maybe I was misdiagnosed. We shall see. Thank you for this video. It’s been such a huge help. I’ve subscribed. 😃👍
As someone who lives with a spouse who has ADHD, I really appreciate the fact that you admit and realize that it affects the others around you. I don't and can't have that because they say they are just different and you just don't like that...
Thank you so much. I was recently diagnosed with ADD at 49. My entire life has been a train wreck and now I know why. I'm having a very difficult time coming to terms with it and my marriage is barely on a thread. I don't want to feel broken but I sure as heck do.
20 TVs all at once and not knowing which to focus on, needing to doodle in order to pay attention to what I’m listening to, feelings of inadequacy, feeling overwhelmed, shutting down when it becomes too much, anxious, inability to socialize well, irritability! I’ve been mentioning these things for YEARS. Not once did I want to admit, to myself or to anyone, how hard it’s been to have a brain like this. It’s debilitating most of the time because of the extent I go through to suppress it. Hopefully this is a push for me to actually do something about it. Thank you! 🌻
Wow! Thank you for this video! I'm sharing it on FB. I truly felt like you were telling my story too. It brought tears to my eyes because the struggle is real and very frustrating. After I was finally diagnosed correctly at 35, (1st diagnosis was bi-polar👎) it felt like a lightbulb turned on in my brain. Finally some answers. Suddenly it all made sense. My childhood made a lot more sense too. The homework struggle was never ending because it caused so much anxiety. My locker too! I don't have kids yet. It scares me because I want them but don't know if I could take care of them AND myself. It's hard enough keeping it all together even on medication. You are inspiring and your story like you said: empowered. Thanks.
Thank you! It is so hard, especially when we feel others might not totally understand. Thank you for sharing! I think the more we share our stories, the less stigma there is.
@@sbenefield76 I, too, have ADHD and I got married and had one son. Unfortunately, though, my marriage ended after six and a half years, and when my apartment lease was up, my mom wanted my sister to help me move. Well, I guess when she realized messy and disorganized I was, she didn't think I was capable of being a good parent. As a result, she called Social Services on me and had them to come out and take pictures of my apartment. I wasn't nasty but I was messy and disorganized. It was hard for me to work and keep a structured life for my son. My case was unfounded by Social Services, so they did not take my son away. When my sister realized Social Services wasn't going to do anything, she got my dad and ex-husband involved. I didn't know anything about seeking the right kind of lawyer and I was on a fixed income, so I couldn't afford a decent attorney who specialized in child custody. Unfortunately, with all three of them submitting affadavits against me, I didn't have a fighting chance and I lost custody of my son. It was the most heartbreaking day in my life. He was six years old at the time but I had visitation every other weekend and some holidays. Today he is thirty and has two young children of his own and he is a great father. He lives in a different state than I do but we still keep in touch on a regular basis.
I'm sorry that happened to you. I wish the people in your life at that time would have supported and helped instead. Lifting a prayer for you and your son. I hope you can continue to grow your relationship with him and your grandkids.
Thank you for sharing. This is my story. The issue didn’t show until I became a parent I really appreciate you becoming vulnerable and helping me better understand myself 💕💕💕💕💕
My adult diagnosis took so long!!! I first reached out to mental health on 6-1-21and my first appointment with a counselor was 8-24-21. I had to do multiple therapy sessions just to have the counselor weigh in on the diagnosis, fill out multiple forms (self assessment, and forms from mom for past, and form from husband). My psychiatrist finally diagnosed me on 10-20-21, and started taking medication on 10-24-21. It should not take this long. My original diagnosis was at 14, but all my medical documents were gone so I had to be assessed as an adult. It was worth the effort, but the process to receive the help was crazy making. I’m glad I was pretty stable at the time, since I feel so bad for others that need the help but have to go through all the red tape to get help.
Oh my gosh this is so much my life I am crying. I already got diagnosed and a therapist, and meditation, but I still feel this way. I'm so overwhelmed and yelling at my family for the mess around me. I try sooooo hard to keep things clean but I'm no match for my kids. They can mess it up so much faster. I had it all done 4 days ago and it looks like a bomb went off. It stresses me out so bad, but it takes twice as much work to get them to clean a single thing. I don't know what to do. I feel you.
The time spent wishing I could be like other ppl basically kept me from ever knowing myself. Wasn't until I found these videos. To hear it from a stranger makes it hit home. I'd wager that a big portion of drug rehabs are full of ADD.
Very similar in the way our minds work. My therapist said I might have ADHD, which I have been suspecting for quite awhile. Then I just saw this video and it really put me at ease. I've never had someone explain my brain as well as you just did. Thank you.
It’s ALL about MEEEEEEEEEE ! Count how many times you say I or me? Seriously though I get it ! I’m 54 and just getting diagnosed because I can no longer move forward, it’s affecting my life both professionally and personally.
You just described my life from being a good student and being “good”, and then once I had kids my life imploded. the note taking and needing a computer in hand while tv is on… not doing anything when my list is 36261 items long bc I don’t know what to do and anxious all the time. All the internal dialogue is me. Wow. Holy cow I had no idea this was ADHD. I just thought I need to get it together. Damn.
You sound like me. I'm currently waiting for an appointment with a psychologist....funnily enough it was a broken foot that got me on the path to seek help. The first step was prozac which helped with my anger issues, once that was sorted my husband became convinced that what I have is C-PTSD with ADHD rather than the BPD we had presumed.
Great video Betsy. I was diagnosed with anxiety and ADHD a few years back. Im in my late 40s ,noticed all the Symptoms and difficulties I had experienced in looking back the past 30 years. I finally spoke to a professional during and after my Divorce 3 years ago.The passed two months I have slowly weed myself off my medication but starting to notice my symptoms coming back especially with focus. After watching your video and listening to other videos my thoughts are speaking to my doctor again and going back on my medication full time again. I think I've come to realize I need to except this condition as a friend and quality of life. thanks again for your great video.
I wish I'd seen this earlier. I was diagnosed with ADHD about a year ago, when I'd turned 36. I've struggled with a lot of things throughout my life, but when I decided to give the university a second try and I just couldn't manage it I, somehow, ended up getting help. It was a bit of a rollercoaster ride at first, as what I was assumed to be needing help with was managing stress and procrastination (which was true, but that was just scratching the surface) but eventually it panned out. Still new to this and about to start a group CBT programme in January, and hopefully I'll be getting more on track after that. Thank you for sharing your story and this video. Very high level of relatability.
I just got help this past month finally with my ADHD. I have always had major issues with it. My family always told me I had anxiety. Definitely got worse after my daughter was born. I’ve been stuck in a very “what’s wrong with me” mindset. It’s really reassuring for me to hear all the ways you learned to work with yourself.
Took a doctor's app going tomorrow morning, fell upon your video and could relate to all that you shared. At 53 just realizing I need more help & a diagnoses.
Thank you for putting such a positive spin on this- this is me all the way. And it’s not the end of the world! Really changed my view when you said “my brain just functions differently”. And that comes with advantages over normal people, as well as disadvantages. Seeing someone soon!
You explained the snappy / anxiety perfectly! That's me daily.... Stay at home, homeschooling mama [atm online curriculum]. children aged 9,7, and 3...
Wow! I am three years late, but am so grateful to have watched this. So much of this is my story especially after becoming a mom. I am just starting to get help.💗Thank you for sharing your story.
Am sure there are different symptoms from ADHD because am 52 realized recently that I have it. Am very clean and organised I know where my things are and I love to have my space clean so am very tidy!
Verbatim, that is 100% where i am at right now. I keep feeling overwhelmed and jumbled and hard to get sorted? I literally am watching my friends, my girlfriend, my family all "succeed" and move forward and i just feel like i wish my brain was different. "I wish life was as simple as ____'s life.", "Why can't i just be like everyone else?" That's how I know i need to find help for this.
I watched your video and realized I need to get checked out at the age of 64! The multiple television description really hit home. I totally feel like that at work. This has gotten worse since I had a concussion five months ago. It definately is not getting any better on its own. Thank you SO much!
I feel like you're talking about me! If my brain isn't stimulated it also shuts down. I've been working this past week on a temp job and because it's not very stimulating for the first few days - my brain felt like it wasn't working properly, so when things got really busy the anxiety came and it felt like shutting down. Luckily the only thing I had to snap at was my computer! It was a struggle to get through. Whereas another job i had that actually stimulated my brain with problem solving I was much better at - despite some of the task being repetitive and dull (so music, podcasts and TV were playing in the background during those parts)
As young as I can remember , I have had this condition . I am going to my family doctor for help . I heard the right medications really help . I am 57 years old and feel unable to cope with this disability . I can write a book on how many jobs I have done in my life and actually fill it . Needing to obtain work , discouraged by my own job record in keeping them , and my zoning out , not being able to pay attention is unmanageable to say the least . Seems some things are worse the older I get . Some things are better . I hope medications help .
I am waiting for an appt with a psych for an assessment (I'm 49) and this video is the first one I've watched that explains my experience perfectly! Thank you so much
I constantly got in trouble in school for doodling in the margins of all my papers, notes, tests, etc. These days, I understand that fidgeting and doodling is how I occupy part of my brain so the other part can pay attention. I've taken to telling friends and family, "If I'm fidgeting with something and not looking at you, I'm paying attention to what you're saying. If I'm not fidgeting and I'm looking at you (or making eye contact) while you're talking, I'm not actually listening."
Thank you, you definitely spoke to me. I will be contacting my Doctor tomorrow to start the process, you described what I go through daily, plus grumpy dad is definitely me and I never understand why, now I'm starting to understand myself and my around the houses brain function!
I just cried my eyes out because for the first time I haven't felt alone with the way I feel! Thank you so much for this video, i have the same presentation of adhd i have an appointment for next week to find out about being tested!
You got a diagnosis?! Lucky you! I started with my GP, and got passed up the chain of responsibility and saw psychologists, a psychiatrist, had a brain scan, till I go to the top of the tree and saw the head of the psychology department, who told me "You don't have ADHD because as a condition, it doesn't exist!" I didn't completely give up at that point - I saw a Dr. Dalrymple, who had worked on the team that produced Ritalin. He said that if I wanted to try it, he would give me a prescription, but advised me that he wouldn't prescribe it for a member of his family because of its possible effect on the heart.
Hi Betsy, I want to compliment you on such a great and informative video. Little story: My 7 y.o. daughter is currently being assessed for ADHD, since it was first suggested I thought that there is “something wrong” with her (to me she is perfect) and on researching, I have found that she has A LOT of symptoms of ADHD - very busy, can’t sit still, talks a lot, very creative, very attentive to detail. But, since I’ve been doing my research (in both child and adult), I have started to notice that I, myself, have also some ADHD OR ADD symptoms, and I have to admit, it scares me, I even feel nervous and anxious just thinking about making a doctors appointment.
I kinda wish I never decided to get help. It's only led to me getting defrauded by insurance company and humiliated by a psychiatrist who refused to listen to me and tried to convince me that I'm depressed. Now I just feel totally demoralized and hopeless.
Thank you, Thank you so much. Some times I feel like i'm going crazy. I started crying when you explained how you felt. That is exactly how have being feeling for the last 2 years with things progresively getting worse. I have spoke with my doctor and have an appointment with a spychiatrist . Let's what happens, Thank you. Sometimes i find myself crying at night because i feel constantly overwhelmed and just mentally exausted. I find it hard to go to the store with the kids because I just hear so many noises, to the point where i can't focuse it's like I'm in theme park with noise and so many people around me.
Omg this is exactly how I feel in my brain. I am a caregiver and I have had a lot of moments when things would get so overwhelming and I get very reactive in a wrong or gruff way. I don't like when I get like that at all and I know I am better than that reactive behavior. Thank you for sharing this video.
The one thing that often goes through my head is, and this will sound crazy, despite all the trouble it causes me, if I’m really really honest I don’t want to lose my ADHD does that make any sense? I think it’s because when I was diagnosed about 15 months ago (I’m 54 now), the diagnosis was like a badge, something that made sense and all of sudden started to shine a light on all the crap that I’d got into and done through my life. I’m still discovering more and more and watching channels about ADHD like yours, and hearing peoples experience has been truly a revelation. Trouble is I still don’t know how to manage anything but I think if I was cured of my ADHD it would mean then that everything I have done is meaningless, for better or for worse. I need to have that reason that explains why I am. It’s become my identity, is that wrong?
I can relate so much. I really enjoyed learning in school, even through HS. but I've always been cluttered. I lost lot of documents like ID, credit card, my wallet, healthycare card, assignments, etc etc. It feels like each word of yours apply to me. Every single word. I don't have formal diagnosis, but once my psychiatrist said that I may have ADHD, and then he said me to test, but it's expensive here in Brazil the neuropsychology test required and for me it was like I wasn't "ADHD" enough, BC I did so well in HS. But since then I've felt really close to how ADHD brain works and it really helps me using strategies ADHD friendly. I have also anxiety and depression that it can be ADHD related but at the same time issues related to not being able to concentrate well, cluttering, staying still, impulsive, hyperactive, can be related to depression and anxiety so I'm in a loop rn. but no matter I have ADHD or not, I'm willing to improve my life every day, no matter what
Hi Betsy, firstly, thank you so much for the video. Your video found me unexpectedly and it's surprised me because the way you explained yourself and everything you said it unbelievably sounds just like me. It changed my whole perspective about ADHD. Last 2 weeks, I accidentally found out that my boyfriend has ADHD during the convention with his parents (I wanna break up with him, so I talked to them). He was diagnosed at the age of 7 and 2 doctors confirmed that he has ADHD (his mom also has). The problem is that his parents didn't explain to him clearly what he has and what ADHD really is. It means he knew that there is something wrong with him but he doesn't know what. I was upset when I knew this and told his parents to have a serious talk with him and tell him what he has because it's unfair for him to be held with this information. Few days after that they told him and until today I don't really know how he reacted. It means, since 2 weeks, I searched all information about ADHD cuz I wanna know more. I even did the ADHD test online and the result was surprised me. I got score of 30, it showed that I have moderate ADHD. I always believe that the person who has ADHD always has problems at school, which I have never had. I have my own mental illness also. I was diagnosed with depression. So I believe that I was born as hyperactive child with developing of depression through my unhealthy childhood. Now I'm 44 and your video just opened my eyes. Thanks again for your afford. God bless you! ❤️ P.S. I'm divorced (a survivor from psychopath and narcissist husband), have no kid, having a messy home but I always know when someone moved my stuffs. 😂
I'm going to get a diagnosis this Monday. I really spiralled the last two weeks and learned about adhd. It fits my whole life description. I've been trying so hard to get everything together and I just can't.
Hi Betsy! Thank you for your video! Everything you spoke of from childhood to adulthood has been the same for me. After having my twins 6 years ago I started to really struggle with anxiety and always feeling overwhelmed. My stepsons struggle with ADHD so I am somewhat aware of what it is but I NEVER thought I had it. I lacked energy and always felt like I was a failure and would fuss at my husband because I felt like I was the only one managing our household on top of my full time job. My husband has never been diagnosed with ADHD but I am fairly SURE he does because he struggles with a lot of the same things. So three years ago I went to my primary for help and he put me on adderral and welbutrin. They worked for a couple of years but I noticed I was edgy at times and my anxiety was still there. I've tried two other medicines for ADHD that were extended release and for the most part I was fine during the day with focusing but the lack of energy came back and I was also struggling with waking in the morning. So my question for you is what medicine have you tried that you find successful?
I really needed this. I don’t eat right, I don’t sleep right,I get overwhelmed by instruction, noises and sights to the point of having a meltdown. I have trouble with my emotions, I feel drained every day and I get distracted very easily. It might be adhd. I finally decided to get tested. My results will be back in about a year Edit: I think I wanted to write more but I forgot what it was, I’ll try to come back to that later. Just not feeling like it right now.
@@captainherpeto5482 Ya, your boy has adhd and almost all of my anxiety disappeared with medication. The wonders of science ✨ I still get overwhelmed easily and distracted and I don’t sleep well, but thanks to therapy I am adjusting and the meds help with task paralysis
@@senecarus_whitur thats fckn sick, I hope things continue to improve! I've taken meds for ADHD for about 15 years now and my best unsolicited unqualified advice is to experiment with prescriptions if you suspect it's not treating you to it's full potential. I hope you found the perfect fit!
If I want to remember a song.I have to play it over 300 times in order to remember it cuz I have memory and concentration and attention and focus issues in my life for many years
this is literally my life..! I have been wanting to get tested for adult ADHD but I can't find anyone who offer the assessment near my area. meanwhile, I ve been working with a therapist, but I m having hard time to follow through or focus on homework i have been given. my focus is just scattered all the time 😶
thank you soooo much! it’s funny how life works... i’m at my wits end with myself struggling with everything you said was affecting you... now, i too am finding myself with no patience whatsoever with my kids, husband, friends... i will b making a dr.s appointment tomorrow! ty! ty! ty! xo
You just described me to a T. Thank you. In addition, we are born with ADHD. We were born with damaged dopamine receptors. We go through different phases in our lives where we’re able to manage it I think.
I was on my tablet while watching this video on my tv. Lol 😂 Thank you for putting this out. I also did fine in school. I think it may present differently in girls. But I fell apart after having kids. There are hundreds of little details in this life, hoops to jump through and it all seems so difficult. I always wondered how people function and have a positive attitude; facing each day like an adventure.
I`m curious how you got your mental health eval, I can't be the only one that has hit dead end after dead end trying to find a mental health expert that specializes in ADHD.
This is so me! I didn't get diagnosed until my late 20's!! After I had kids! I get this!! I just need help, meds. I have a counselor so that's good. I'm being referred to a psychiatrist!! 😘💋 thanks for this video!
I would tell my two boys to do something, like tidy their room and then forget I had told them. I would start to tidy up then find a magazine to read and forget to tidy up. It reminds me of a ping pong ball, I just bounced from one thing to another. I felt other mothers were miracle workers!
I think because of my ADHD I retreat from relationships, including romantic- because I anticipate that they just won’t work. I will hurt them, or they will hurt me.
I did like 6 hours of tests and diagnosed 8ish years ago. But, I was pissed they wantef me to see a psych for meds. The gal texting me was a neurological psychologist. Neither her nor my neurologist would or could write the script. No psych covered by insurance and I don't have $400/hr to go to one!
Thank God! I have the sweetest most tolerant and organized wife, or I wouldn't be able to function in everybody else's world! My world works different than most people! ADHD is a fun disorder for sure; if it interests me I can get lost in what I'm doing and not even hear when some one is talking to me. Yeah! doodling, tapping ( I'm a drummer also) leg and foot shaking. The ADHD gets harder to control as I get older it seems. I forget things, I walk into another part the house to get something I need and see something that gets my attention, and 20 minuets later I remember I was doing something back in the other room. Yes, anxiety, depression, obsessive thoughts and frustration are all part and parcel with this diagnosis! Like you I refuse to say something is wrong with my brain! It's like I'm left handed and people expect me to cut with right handed scissors, or play a right handed guitar! That's the way I look at it.
I was watching the video and was relating to a lot and was like this is so me but I just can not sit and watch barely two minutes, i get overwhelmed so easy and worked up so easy and I’ve always been the bad guy for being like that my dad has adhd really bad but my school just dismissed any problems with me because I wasn’t a naughty or loud kid I was quite fidgety and lacked concentration still am like that worse tbh but I’ve left school. Thanks for the vid anyway much appreciated.
with me 1) because 20 TVs are open in from of me all the time, i become isolated in front of computer, trying to accomplist 20 TVs at the same time, it sucks! i become home sick 2) because there are 100 things to do in my head, computer is a fast way to accomplist any task (shopping, calculating, watching instead reading) i am always in front of computer. 3) because adhd creates understanding problem, i think i can lead myself to arts, such as music, which needs creativity that all adhd people have 4) i will try to have an activity to earn money in a sociable environment, not in front of the computer on my own trying to make software. moreover, if you want me to understand, read, write something in front of computer every body must shut up, which is not possible in a software company. so to be able to understand what is written in front of the display, i isolate myself to earn money, it sucks as well. To sum up, to perform a "brain work" both in an social environment and on my own (individually) did not work for me. 5) I am very sorry to have adult adhd, i am not enjoying.
I know i have ADHD/ADD, i want to take a diagnosis but there is no doctor near me who runs diagnosis on adults with ADHD. I am really struggling and frustrated with this right now.
Even when I was tested it was pretty new that adults could have ADHD. I was tested by my General Practitioner so I didn't have all the other support. Just medication. Also never knew I was Autistic until recently. I really do need help and don't know where to get it.
My kids 2 I kinda stopped making appointments and stopped adulting cause when I think about all the things I have to do it makes me want to cry and I panic...I relate to this so much I almost cried wahhh
I've been trying to get help since I was 16 but doctors never listen or they brush it off or are misogynistic. I'm 23 now, so I'll try once again, because it's starting to piss me off . . I just wanna be "normal".
I think I have ADD or maybe ADHD...Anyway I couldn't forces on school or organize right as a kid, and my family hated me for it. Today i still can't focus and my learning disabilities keep me from doing normal things. I don't work and I pissed people off so much That I just end up hating myself so much. I'm almost in my 40s and still struggle from this nightmare. I have depression and anxiety ect.... Another thing is I'm looking into some kind of housing or sec 8? Maybe a group housing?But I can't seem to fine it. If I can get someone to help me out, then I wouldn't be a burden to others around me. Especially to anyone around me as they get upset with me as having ADD and it isn't normal for me, as I forget so much it drives them crazy.
