Something different for you guys :) Really hope it helps some of you .xx Zoe: / zoella280390 Alfie: / pointlessblog SOCIAL LINKS TWITTER: MarkFerris2O16 SNAPCHAT: MARKYYFERRIS INSTAGRAM: MARKYYFERRIS SPOTIFY: Mark Fs
Video Potato I have a friendship like Zoe and Mark so I know how to feels! Like we have soooo many inside jokes, we laugh at the littlest thing that aren't even funny to most people, we get along really well like it's honestly the best feeling ever to have a friendship like them 💕
I never talk about my feelings to anyone cuz even when I try to no one gives a shit so I just stick with being on my own when it comes to my feelings...and maybe everything else as well lol... Also the bloopers at the end made me laugh so much.Thanks for that! love you three
Talking about how you feel is SO important. If you honestly think people don't care, then you aren't hanging out with the right people and they don't deserve to have you in their life.
Same. I feel like everyone will think I over reacting or doing it for attention, so I just keep my felling a to myself. And I'm so hormonal which makes it worse, so I'll just cry randomly like if I've had a bad day and my parents will ask what's wrong and I just make something up or say I don't feel well😞 don't worry. We'll all get through this❤️
I had the exact same problem as you I told one of my friends and she told one of my teachers , eventually my teacher brought my mum into school and explained everything to her and kind of softened the blow , but my mum took me to the doctor and as much as I hate talking about my feeling and problems it really helped. So I hope you know you're ur not alone.
It's so incredibly nice to go through the comments and see people explaining their problems and then see others helping them out. It just reminds me that I'm not alone and that there are people (even strangers) that do care and are willing to help out with your issues. I have been diagnosed with mild depression and a lot of the time I feel so alone and worthless but going through the comments makes me realise that I'm not alone.
I think perfection is what you see your self as for example if you think you look good you do just like the song most girls by Haylee Stanfield it said " some days you feel so good in your own skin, but it's ok if you wanna change the body that you came in,coz you look greatest when you feel like a queen" and that just means your your own kind of beautiful 😊keep your head up people nobody's perfect x
Omg the depression thing i can relate I feel sad and numb all the time and sometimes I get these really happy hyper moments and I want to go out and buy really expensive stuff. (I once bought and barbque ) hahaha and I've told my mum but she doesn't do anything she doesn't think I'm serious. Help😔
I'd honestly say go to the doctor, my mum wasn't much help either because I feel like they think you're too young to have stuff like that, but it's very common, the best thing to do is honestly see a doctor or find people either online or in therapy groups who are going through the same thing, it makes it SO much easier when you can talk to someone whose experiencing the same thing! Xxx
Sit her down and really explain to her about how you feel. As Zoe said in this video parents care about how you feel and they always want what is best for you. So don't feel like you can't sit down and have a deep conversation because you can and you should. Until you really talk this through with her she's gonna always think you're not serious. Couple days ago I sat and told my mum, and it's taken a weight off my shoulders. She finally understands me and helps me when I need it badly. It will truly help you to talk to her or anyone else about this xx
I am really sad to hear that you are drepressed, I have been depressed over a year now and it sucks. If your mum doesn't believe you talk to somebody else, teacher, school counselor, friend or somebody that you feel comfortable to talk to. Try to find something that makes you happy whatever it is watching youtube, sports, reading, whatever. Stay postitive and thank about everything that you are thankful for. Suround yourself with positive things. Try to let your mum talk to a doctor so he can give you advice, maybe a therapist and some meds. Remember you are not alone and there is nothing to be ashamed of. Do not let depression define who you are. And everything happens for a reason and What doesn't kill you makes you stronger. Sending all my love and i hope you will feel better soon. ❤️
Try not to avoid going out with friends, you'll miss so much fun memories! And don't blame yourself it's not your fault you get anxious and uncomfortable. I suffer the same, but after a couple times going out just started small with friends I grew out of my uncomfortable and anxious stage and felt so much better! Some days I'm really bad but I'm lucky the friends I surround myself with are friendly caring people and always help me and take me away from a situation if it gets bad. Ensure you have friends like that that will help you when you need it, give going out a try! If it works it works if not find some time where you and friends can do something a little down to earth :) xx
Just start hanging out with them every now and then for a little bit at a time, always know that if you do start feeling uncomfortable they'll understand if you want to leave.
yes so me too...i reject hanging out with so many friends because i feel so anxious and uncomfortable somethings but then feel like they might be moving on and dont call me in other places and they always force me to say why i wont come with them and its really hard to make people understand that..
I went through depression and i was sure I was alone in my situation, after 2 months I couldn't handle it any more so I mentioned it my friend and he said immediately that he was going through the same thing. we had both been in the same situations so we talked about it. he made me feel better and pretty much got me through it all, so did I for him. it was a year ago now and we are both In such a better place we were in a few years ago! he really wanted to tell his parents about it however I didnt, so me and him went to his dad's and mum's place and explained his situation. the reason why he didn't tell his parents was because he was scared that they would send him to therapy or wouldn't accept it. so after the talk with them the completely understood it. I still find it difficult talking to people about it because it is still a sensitive subject, but because I quietly mentioned it in a conversation I'm now a completely new happy person. the moral of my message is that you have to talk to someone!!! trust me, it's does help alot.
14:18 Alfie's face. I know they're all friends and all but his face made me laugh so hard cus it took him a few seconds to smile as if he was faking it
My mum has mental health and whenever she has a bad day(which is often😪) I always watch you and Zoe. I absolutely love you guys because whenever I watch you I'm crying with laughter and I love the vlogs ( my favourite is all the emotions). I know it's a long time after this video went up but I'm not one of those people that watch videos straight away but I'm still a massive fan😍😍😘😘😘💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜💜
U guys are all so inspirational and realistic. I have anxiety and I sometimes feel like doing nothing and never leaving my house and it's hard because I am just 15. Some people do try to understand but it is hard and I get that but u and Zoe really show me that u can do something even if u are really scared. Alfie thank you for always sticking by Zoe because I know that there will be times where u want to do something and Zoe will be nervous and have panic attacks. U guys may never answer this or even see this comment but to little young me ur so amazing. I know that the media and people in general may be mean or hate on u but there are fans who love all of u. I hope one day to see u all in person and thank u properly.
That was a generally nice video and knowing the amount of troubled teens that watch you, guys, I truly believe you helped a lot of them with your advice. Well done!
This helped me a lot seeing as I have had a recent friendship problem. It has shown me I can just forget about it now. Thanks so much Mark, Zoe and Alfie. Love you all XXXxxx
I'm 18 too and what Zoe said about going out is literally my life, it's not like I don't want to go I would love to go but my anxiety controls me so much I feel like I would ruin it for everyone else I'm with bc I'd want to leave 😂
i'm the same i had my freshers this week and i went with a group of friends but had one friend who agreed to leave with me if it was too much so maybe you should do the same? x
This was honestly so inspirational, I love how down to earth you guys are! Always willing to help other people and just by answering a few questions, some people are going benefit from this video, love you always x
This video honestly helped me, someone had the same problem as me not wanting to go out with my friends and distancing myself from those that i called friends but then get upset and jealous that i was missing out, so i decided to change my friendship group but not completely stop speaking to them but to not be stuck with them. So i have these other friends that are really caring and understand me and listen to what i have to say and are constantly supporting me like i do them and i couldn't have wished for any better advice than the one given to me from the most aspiring and amazing people zoella and mark. Thank you so much for the advice it has really helped love you x
this honestly made me so happy and there were points where I teared up because you guys are so nice and sweet and I see everything just the way you do.
This video is so helpful and it's great to know everyone needs similar advice at times. Also I love how Mark Zoe and Alfie are able to make completely hysterical videos and serious advice videos that are both entertaining.
thank you so much. I didn't know I needed this video until I watched it. I do feel like something finally clicked about never having a perfect body because it doesn't exist and it doesn't matter. You're fine the way you are. So thank you so so so so so much Mark, Alfie, and Zoe. ❤
i wish you three were my actual friends, you are the best people ever and i love your advice (and everything else about you 😂) Thanks for always making me feel accepted for who I am 💗
Oh my gosh, the end of the video had me in tears. Mark you are awesome but you and Zoe's relationship is so wonderful watch. I love how you can set each other off with laughter but its also really uplifting and infectious to watch, thanks for having me laughing with tears :)
After watching this video I realized that there are a lot of people who are going through tough times like I am. I'm not fully secure about myself and I do feel like I am not good enough for others but I always try to stop these thoughts. I moved away from home for university and left my 2 best friends behind. It was probably the toughest thing I had to do because till today I feel like I won't find friends who I can be 100% myself around like I did with them. Everything here is different and I am still trying to adapt to the new place and to new people. For some reason watching this video made me burst into tears. I'm not entirely sure why that happened but I feel some kind of emptiness in me and I just need someone to talk to to take things off my shoulder. However, everything you guys said and all the advises made me feel so much better. Watching the three of you always brightens up my day. Thank you guys.
What helps me, is to remember that the worst that can happen when you speak to someone is that they arent interested in that possible friendship. They might be rude or they might not... but that response shows you who they are as a person. If they reject your friendship then 1. Thats their loss and 2. You know the position and move on to the next person! Eventually you will click with people you chat to (and the more you chat to the easier it gets). the others wouldnt have been worth your time! Everyone is different and this might not help you but I though I would share it just in case x
I totally agree with you Sami! It also helps me to think that most people are so concentrated at themselves that they don't even notice the flaws you might have and even if you go up to someone and start talking to them or ask them to hang out and they reject you it's very likely they will forget about all of it after a little while :-)
yess same here i had a tons of friends in school but in college i littreally talk to no one...i feel hard to approach people who already have their friend groups and i dont feel connected with any one of them at all
Sami has good advice so I just wanted to pop in and say that you aren't alone! My gf spent college without friends. She did have them but they came and went, her roommates were horrible to her so she moved and truly felt alone but that's when she ended up making friends naturally just by going to classes so things did get better. They'll get better for you too!
I'm so glad that when I subscribed to you I decided to watch your very old videos to present. Watching this helped me so much. It was a very funny video as well in the end. Love you Mark
Ohh... my gosh you guys crack me up every time I watch your channels! :) Loved this video, I've been going through a lot of the stuff people asked for advice for, so hearing what you guys had to say was great. Love you Mark, Zoe, and Alfie!
I love Zoe and Mark's videos because you can just tell they are always having so much fun together they are not just doing it for camera. It makes me feel so happy!
I would love if all 3 of you made this a series!!! I love hearing all of your different opinions because you each have your own insight to bring into these advice videos 😊😊 thank you guys for making my days 1000x better
I'm so insecure about myself. I'm so far away from being confident and that makes me really shy too. People around me tell me I'm funny, I'm nice, I'm pretty, I'm beautiful and I'm kind but I can only feel like I'm not enough, like I'm not worth it.
Why wouldn't you be worth it ? You deserve happiness and love, and to be loved, like everybody else. Ask yourself what you would change about yourself to be "worth it". :)
I used to feel the same way!! But listen to your friends and those close to you, they know you and are able to see things about you that you can't seem to see just yet. The first step is leanring to love yourself because of course you're worth it!!
This video was really helpful to me. I've lost the majority of my childhood friends in less than 2 weeks to a new squad that I'm not a part of. I'm still cordial with most of them, but I realized that people just change. I haven't talked to my best friend at all because I'm just tired of her running back to me when her new friends can't do something for her. I kind of felt like I was isolating myself for awhile, then I started to make new, better friends. This video has helped me come to peace with the fact that people grow apart and thanks okay. Thanks guys 😄!
omg yes i need to rewatch this sometimes just to make me feel better that i am not the only one with these problem and people who i look up to go through the same thigs
I wish I knew about this. Can anyone give me advice? I'm in college and pretty much all of my friends drink and party and I don't, so I'm never invited to parties and always left out. Also they always talk about them afterwards and I can never join in I just have to sit and listen. But the thing is I find the stories so boring because I just don't like when people are drunk and think they're just stupid tbh. I don't understand it. I don't want to drink but I hate being left out.
I'm so sorry. I don't drink either. Maybe new friends would help. You're an awesome girl, so i'm sure you have tons of people on a waiting list to be your friend.
don't pressure yourself to do anything you're not comfortable with, if these friends don't invite you places then they aren't worth your time, i mean like obviously still stay friends with them if they make you feel genuinely happy but your happiness is the important thing x
Omg I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes my friends got to parties and because I'm not really a drinker (or more popular I suppose) I never get invited to parties. Some stories are quite funny but when they always talk about them I have a feeling of fomo and it makes me feel a bit like I don't fit in, but I do love those friends so I wouldn't end a friendship because of it. It is hard. I understand how you feel. We'll be okay, I'm sure. Hope you're alright. We can do this. Stay strong😊😁xxx
I was in the exact same boat as you this time last year. I spent the majority of the year not being invited to things, feeling left out and just feeling down because of it. I spoke to one of my friends about it and she said that i was never invited because they all thought that i didn't want to go or be included because i hated it so much, and i completely understood that and then i explained how left out i felt etc, so i came to a realisation that if i want to remain friends with them, friendship is a two way thing. I started going to the pre-drinks before parties so that i'm involved without the party part, if it was a house party i'd go for the first hour or so before people got messy drunk, id just involve myself a small bit so that i didn't feel so left out and knew all the people in the stories and understood them a bit more, plus, making an effort made my friends want to make an effort right back, and they'd often go out of their way to do things i enjoyed in return. At the start, its very uncomfortable, but it is so worth putting yourself out there a small bit without throwing yourself into Unmanageable. I also joined a bunch of college societies/clubs to meet new people with similar interests so that i could split my time between friends who enjoy what i enjoy doing and friends i grew up with and enjoy the company of but not what they enjoy doing. I think the whole thing is a maturity thing. You and I have past the party stage because i no longer see the point in it, i feel there are much more productive and fun ways to spend and remember my night whereas my friends haven't realised this yet, and that's okay. I don't think it's worth completely cutting your friends off for because when they mature to your level, the friends you grew up with will mean the most.
Honestly we have stereotyped the most unrealistic things to be seen as 'perfect'. It doesn't exist. We all have our own perception of what is perfect, yes. But really.. The concept of perfection is a myth. Live life being happy with who you are, making the most of today and seeing yourself for what you are, a wonderful, beautiful human being just like everyone else.
This is beautiful❤It really helped me,thank you for doing this.It made me smile and I love you guys so much...I know people who had been dealing with those kind of things and know I know how to help them and make their life wayyy easier.U make world a better place😉
