Is there a way to affair-proof your relationship? “The Real” ladies chat about ways to minimize their risk of infidelity, in this Girl Chat. Check it out and share your comments below.
Mariam morjan To this day we really don't know !We can just assume that she got fired maybe because she was rude sometimes and she was acting too much like a diva or that her husband didn't get a long with the production . Only God knows.....
mariyaa111 communicating effectively and communicating often would definitely not hurt. You're right but there's definitely something YOU can do to help...
It’s facts. If you’re mean and have a nasty ass attitude no ones gonna want to be around you, especially your man. He’s gonna go find someone who treats him like a human being with feelings
She didn't hit nothing... Jeannie is the one that broke it down for them this time. Some men are just trash, no doubt ijs, but if a good man is taken for granted to long and she feeling herself so much to where the woman just dog the brother out cause she think he wont leave. It could definitely push him into the arms are someone "sweeter"
@True Brother America is one big melting pot of Adulturers and fornicators if you're really trying to go there but Jeannie made a valid point here. That's all I was speaking on. Who wants to live long-term with a mean-spirited, nagging, woman when you don't have to?
But that’s what makes this show so good. There’s the naive woman, the experienced woman, the blunt woman, and other personalities on the show that makes it interesting.
Jeannie has the best advice. The shade is real up in these streets. it Seems like everyone is turning against her. why they had to cut her out like that. i needed to hear the rest of her advice.
I think they cut her out because they sense the bullshit. I want to like Jeanie. However, that stem from me always rooting for the underdog. Jeanie definitely makes good points at times. But, she gives off a fake vibe that makes me unable to really connect with her persona. I feel like she's an actress.
In their most recent videos, Tamar and gamers are ALWAYS ganging up on Jeannie ... And they always say she doesn't understand because she doesn't have a baby. I used to like tamera and Tamar, but they are just mean now.
+nanophomonique because at the end of the day even with marriage problems which you're going to have anyways if you can communicate properly with your spouse then you have the best marriage. Just because people seem to be without issues or they aren't as obvious doesn't mean they're nonexistent, I think Jeannie's biggest issue is the kids thing without that her and Freddy probably have the best marriage. They fully understand the needs and wants of their spouse and that's obvious they respect each other's opinion which from what I've saw of both of them generally is sound advice.
@@janetmecham1059 That's called holding him accountable. You respect him by expecting him to live up to HIS standard. Treat a man like the man that he says he is. If he acts out of character, call him out. That's accountability.
No she was not right. A lot of women sacrifice and make men feel important even more than they kids and a man will still cheat. It’s never about the woman because if you live someone no matter what happens I’m that relationship, if you love the person you would rather walk away then to cheat so that’s a bs excuse. A man who ain’t happy and gonna waste time like women, they will just leave or stay because they ain’t got nowhere to go and the woman is supporting them but Tamar is right! A man gonna cheat with no reason at all if that’s what he wants to do
Jeannie is undeniably the realest on the show. She talks about her marriage so openly and shares intimate details that know other host would share. That must take a lot of courage
I mean if you really havin to do all this to try to “prevent” him from cheating. He prolly ain’t the right man and you needa find someone better who loves you enough to not cheat💅🏽🤷🏽♀️👀
Adrienne needs to pick an opinion and stick to it lol! the minute they disagree with her she agrees with them looool.. but bless jeannie for being so REAL
It’s okay to have more than one opinion about a certain topic. It’s all about being able to understand other people’s perspective and thus that may add to if not change your opinion entirely. Her agreeing with another opinion doesn’t make her a people pleaser.
I don't know why ppl are criticizing Tamar when her opinion is absolutely rt. If a man wants to cheat he will cheat anyways. You are just becoming his maid by doing everything he wants just to "please" him. A relationship should be mutual by pleasing and respecting each other and not taking advantage of a person or kissing his ass just to keep him. Ppl should learn to love each other with loyalty and respect in order to have a successful relationship.
She is right but I also think there is a point to treating him right. I mean, of course you should be kind, loving, attentive, etc to him...he's your husband, not your enemy, right? And of course vice versa. But here's the thing, I don't think everyone is always with the right person. As an example, my uncle is a very good, hardworking family man. He's not very affectionate or talkative, but I think that's partly cultural. Anyway, his wife is a total nightmare. She doesn't respect my grandmother, she's loud and obnoxious and rude, etc, I can only imagine how she is at home with him...and she also abused me when I was a small child, so yeah I'm extremely biased against her, but someone like that I wouldn't be surprised or offended if my uncle has cheated on her. He's such a good guy though that I doubt he has. Obviously my example is extreme, but I think it can be relevant sometimes. If you have a good man, be sweet and attentive to him and love him and respect him. He should do the same. Yes, he could still cheat on you anyway, but at that point he has no real good "excuse". He's just an ass and you're better off without him.... which really, in my opinion, all cheaters are, but sometimes they fall into it when the marriage is strained for a long time instead of having the courage to address the issues and either try to work it out or leave. And I'm sorry my comment is so long, I think lately I've been using captive audiences as mini therapy sessions 😬
Adrienne is the only one now that acknowledges and agrees with Jeannie and the sensible things she says. It's like Tamar and Tamera feel some type of way about how wise she is. They hardly ever agree w. her when it comes to the topic of marriage. I mean she's been married for 8 years, I would think she knows what she's talking about.
Tamera and Tamar are entitled to their own opinion. Personally, I feel that the agreement that Adrienne and Jeannie have is based upon a superficial friendship. In this particular clip Jeanie is only agreeing with Adrienne because her husband is probably cheating on her. Honestly, Jeanie doesn't come across as a woman that has married the man that she's fallen in love with. That explains why she felt the need to mention the race of her husband every chance she got. She married for status. I'm sure he has someone on the side. Adrienne is a complete a kiss ass. I don't why she makes my skin crawl. I believe it's because she's sooooo fake on 'The Real'. It's annoying to watch her, Tamar and Jeanie.
Listening to Jeannie then fast forward 2 years and her husband disrespected her by cheating with their friend AND conceived 2 babies after 10 years of marriage is just heartbreaking.
+Fabulous Divo Her personality doesn't fit daytime tv, she do better in reality tv show and music!! the show will be just fine not the 1st time a show loses a co host.
+Fabulous Divo and you just prove me right 😂😂 her low class and your low class dont deserve to be on daytime! dont worry you can still tuned to her reality show every week. guetto asses 😊😂
Listen people you can respect a man, upkeep your appearance, give him sex every night and he'll still cheat. Like Loni and Tamar said "A Man Gonna DO What He Wants To Do." We've all know someone who's done all those things Adrienne and Jeannie said and still get cheated on because the man wanted to cheat. When it comes to cheating its not the victims fault but the suspect. Like they said in everything else never blame the victim. A cheaters gonna do what a cheater wanna do, just accept this and move on with your life. Please...
You're leaving out a whole group of folks. I agree that cheaters will cheat. But, every person that has cheated or been cheated on didn't necessarily start off with the intentions of cheating. What they're trying to explain is when people lose communication, attraction, trust whatever it may be...it gives the enemy within and the enemy without a chance to creep in. Everyone isn't a cheater but everybody has the potential to cheat.
@@debrakimberly5279 False. Not everyone has the potential to cheat. You can't MAKE someone cheat. No one could ever MAKE me cheat. And I've been in relationships where that has been tested. Cheating is a choice. In all those situations you mentioned there were other choices people could have made besides cheating. Like leaving. Like talking. Like therapy. Cheating is just another choice and all it does is prove your character. People with integrity, self respect and dignity DO NOT cheat because they do not dishonour themselves. I never cheated because I didn't want to do that to someone who cared for me, but also because I would never do that to myself. You either have the capacity to cheat or you don't. Leaving a relationship that's not doing you right is always an option. Distancing yourself from your partner and explaining you're not satisified is always an option. If you really don't want to leave physically, then telling them you're over them and that you will now be pursuing other people is always an option (at least it's honest). You always have choices. Cheating is one of them and not everyone would make that choice, regardless of the circumstances. It never matters what the other person does or does not do for you - cheating is a choice that only you choose. You could have chosen otherwise. How dare you say everyone has the potential to cheat. Cheating shows your character and if you have integrity, you do not cheat. Point blank, period. May you meet better people with more honest character.
What Jeannie said at the end was real. Communication is key! Let each other know how you feel, before doing the wrong thing. And never blame yourself for being cheated on!!!!!! Lets ask the question in the different direction, what do the men have to do, so that their partners don't cheat on them? I'm sick of people always asking "well what could you have done to make him/her stay". NAhh, if they cheated is because they don't respect you.......!!!!!!
I feel like what was left out of this conversation to really bring home Tamera and Jeannie's points that a man will go where he's respected and treated like a man is that an affair doesn't start with sex. There's stages before that. A man and a coworker don't just wind up in a hotel room together there's a period before that where the 2 realize they're getting to close and if the man is happy, respected, and feels like a man in his relationship he's more likely to shut it down then and not move forward and cross any more lines.
More likely. But there are NO guarantees. It's the culture in America to blame the victim. To put the RESPONSIBILITY on the victim. She got raped.....what was she wearing? She got slapped....what did she say to provoke him? Cheating is often a pattern of behavior. Cheating is often a symptom of a deeper, underlying issue. It is NEVER the other persons fault. Your actions are yours and yours alone.
@@malhunt7 I agree everyone is responsible for their actions and their actions alone not another person's however we kid ourselves to think that the way we act doesn't have an influence on those we are close to. Every moment you have with a loved one either brings you closer together or farther apart
@@smeak9246 We can agree to disagree. My final word is I hope ALL humans learn to take responsibility for themselves and their actions. Self control begins with the SELF. "Life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it" No one could ever turn me into a cheater. When you have integrity, when you know yourself and respect yourself, cheating just isn't an option. It has NoTHInG to do with anyone else's behavior, it is intrinsic.
I think what Adrienne is trying to say here is not just to be nice, shes saying, in essence, dont be a SHREW. No one wants to be arouvd some shrill overbearing harpie who only cuts them down and is always argumentative, much less be in a marriage or other comitted relationship with them. Additionally, how about picking a man with character who is respectful of his relationship, partner, and himself enough to not need to cheat?There are men out there, for example, who believe in God's Covenant enough to do the right thing in holy matrimony because they simply want to lead a Godly life for His glory and His alone. It can be done. I see it every day. If it doesn't hapoen for you or those sround you, then examine the character and integrity of all involved.
Unfortunately I've seen plenty of women who are just "B's" period...guys, too. Some people simply just have terrible communication skills, and think bullying over overwhelming any given situation is the key to life. Life can be a lot simpler when you choose a person who simply "fits" you, and together you choose to work as a team and respect each other. I've seen the Vince & Tamar show, and all that strife and infighting between them and the family members raises my blood pressure. Life really can be a lot smoother...if you WANT it to.
Also: don’t examine any life other than your own. Take life day by day and ask God to help you live life and see the right way to go as each challenging day comes IN THAT MOMENT. What WOULD you do, what IF, and BUT MAYBE: are all things that absolutely don’t MATTER. I have THIS day and this moment. Why do people share horror stories if they don’t actually have answers? Just tell the truth and say: Why are you looking at problems you do NOT have SO closely? I swear, people act like they have never seen ‘til death do you part’ relationships. Plus, once to die and once to live: why let yourself keep dying over and over in your mind because a hellacious paranoia about your marriage won’t leave you alone?!?
stylecollective then leave. Simple if you don't want to be with a agree leave. Once you cheat rather she's a great woman or terrible ass that's ok you for being a lieing cheater
Adrienne's comments are so idiotic I cannot. When a person is cheated on, it is NEVER through the fault of their own. There is nothing wrong with the person who got cheated on. The cheater however, needs to re-evaluate their values, self esteem, and morals.
Lol, Adrienne contradicted herself when she said her ex cheated because he was curious and it didn't mean anything was wrong with her. That's the point Tamar & Loni were trying to make. She could've not been traveling and at home all the time, and he STILL would've cheated out of curiosity.
Seriously? :/ .....wasn't expecting that response......actually this made me look forward to next season without her so I can hear more of Jeannie......and this is coming from someone who enjoyed Tamar's sense of humor but I'm looking forward to seeing how much Jeannie opens up and drop these gems for us next season
I've never been in a relationship, so I've never been cheated on. But that's the main reason why I stray away from them. When you're a virgin at my age, half the time a guy does not want to wait for u to be ready and trust me they will not hesitate to get what they truly want from someone else.
I don't think Adrianne is saying be happy and nice always (like that's wrong to do) but you should have more happy days as a couple verses miserable disrespectful days everyone has a mood but to stay mad and angry at your spouse all the time yes a man/woman will cheat if they want to no matter what but some of Yall get too comfortable and like the saying say what you won't do someone else will
+Sheila C but you cannot always believe what you read she Cleary cleared up that rumor he was not married and Adriane was just in a relationship a year ago engaged she was with her ex for 6yrs I feel like even though ppl get the truth straight from the horses mouth they still don't believe it like she ever publicly Lied before we need to expand our minds beyond blogs and drama you can't go off of hear say
sadly i think she’d be the type to just forgive him and take him back for the kids. and she’ll never trust him again and never be truly happy but will still say.
It doesn't matter WHAT you do, if a man wants to cheat, he's going to do so. You can be the perfect partner and still get the short end of the stick. I personally think there is NO excuse for cheating.
Tamar only listens to respond. She always tries to see where the other person is "wrong" so that she can jump in and show them how wrong they are and how right she is, gosh!
Instead of asking what people could do to keep their spouse from having affairs, they should ask themselfs what they can do to keep themselfs from having affairs and communicate that with their spouse.
Have God at the center of your marriage. Love, respect, honor, submit, protect, provide for, has safe guards in place, forgive, admit your mistakes, date each other, have healthy boundaries. Do these and you will be divorce proof. If each person grows in their obedience to God the marriage will thrive. It is when people do what they think is best, without having a clue how that will affect the marriage, is how things get messed up. Selfishness is the root of many a problem...
I kind of understand why Tamar got fired. Don't get me wrong... I'm really upset that she won't be continuing because I am obsessed with her, but in this segment she disagreed with whoever said something opposing to what she's thinking and she got all nasty and uninterested saying "chile" as if she's an expert in life. Seriously? Say what you have to say then listen to the others & be respectful!
In this segment.... She does this ALL the time!!!! If your opinion is not the same as her opinion, then she will disagree... Nobody ever disagrees with other peoples opinion they just hear them and then state their own. But Tamar is so rude when it some to the others not having an opinion that is not her own. That's why i stopped liking her from early on. She always came for Jeannie every time she would speak. Now she's been let go.
Vince is worth something, tamar soon will be looking for work. Album flopped and lost her job, now she's back on her sisters' level. She didn't marry vince for his looks.
Society has taught us women to blame ourselves for men cheating on us. I was on the road a lot, I was saving myself for marriage. No. If a man really loves you, he’ll do wait for you and work with you. If he cheated, is just because it’s in his nature or he just wanted to. Don’t blame yourself for other people’s mistakes. That’s what I learned.
I think it’s a mixture of both. Men tend to marry women they don’t really like and so get bored after awhile. They don’t wait around for Ms. Right. Occasionally, you get a jerk man who will cheat with anything that walks; but not all cheaters are that way.
“How to prevent a man from cheating on you 101” is it a woman’s fault if she gets cheated on? No. Therefore she cannot prevent someone from carrying out their free will. MOVING ON...
Told my husband he's been away for too long and I needed loving. Told him, my top need is time and affection. I don't want to get that from anybody else. I want him to fill the need. He changed his job and now he's home every night.
I don't need to hear relationship 'advice' from the likes of Ms. Bailon. Can't they discuss more thought provoking topics. I'm fed up of hearing about infidelity.
Trust me I know, when someone wants to cheat he/she will regardless of how he/she is being treated in a the relationship, because it’s a selfish act and once you want it you will do it and if you love the person enough and yourself enough you will stop, and come clean. Once you’ve come cleaned and really understand how bad it is then things may or may not work out, regardless telling the truth is needed. Men and women will cheat simply if they want to. Sadly. Cheating it’s a selfish act and no one is perfect. Also knowing what you can and cannot tolerate helps.
Some of the prettiest girls I know have gotten cheated on ,some men are just greedy and want more ,you can be the nicest,prettiest ,and the most talented /independent woman ever and he can still cheat.
Love Jeannie!! I always look forward to her stories. As much as I always agree with her, the show needs a person like Tamar. Some people will agree with Tamar, others will agree with Jeannie and some of us will agree with both of them. The show will become boring if everyone agrees with each other.
I’m 5 years late to this response but a woman can be very kind to a guy, very caring and totally crucified herself for him, but he’ll cheat on her for other reasons. My ex cheated on me because I was growing very successful. A lot more successful more than he was and he got extremely jealousy and insecure. The kinder I was to him, the more he thought I was only being boastful. So it’s an internal demon that cause cheating
It's about trust, morals, dignity, respect, love, faith, and self-control. If you want to have the best chance of "affair-proof" (ing) your marriage, start with someone who has those character assets. It at least offers the best chance of protection. Honestly speaking, there is NOTHING a spouse can do or not do to prevent a cheater from cheating. The question for those that think they can is: "How many hoops are you willing to jump through?"
Cheating has no excuse like Loni says. You cheat because you want to. Its not because of another person. People who don't cheat have self discipline and respect for themselves enough not to disrespect the other person.
It is not up to any woman or man to ensure that they are doing enough to keep their partner interested enough to not cheat. I can’t believe they said all that and they’re still talking about being “strong, independent women”. If someone is gonna cheat there’s nothing you can do to prevent it. Just find someone that you can trust, that’s it.
