This song reminds me of my girlfriend from the mid-90's. Letting her go was my biggest regret. She is newly single and just as mesmerizing to me now as she was then.
As a boy who broke some hearts back in the day I'm not ashamed to admit I cried to this song and I felt like I matured a lot listening to another perspective
@@superdoobo didn’t ask don’t care and you’re actually wrong. u have that completely wrong vernacular and verbiage. go take a vocabulary lesson u uneducated bafoon, it’s assuming not amusing u airhead
This song bring back such nostalgie. I'm 41 y/o now and I can't help but think about how better life was back then and how it could have been better if I had made different choices. This is a BEAUTIFUL song and it will always have a special place in my heart :)
Exactly...I'm 42 (3/11/79)...I hadn't heard this in years and listened a couple weeks ago and it just broke me...the nostalgia of my youth, the heartbreaks I thought I would never recover from, the heartbreaks I caused, the fun that I've had, the miserable times that I've had, just everything hits so hard.
And obviously the thoughts of how things would be if I made different choices...'I used to be attracted to boys who would lie to me, the more self destructive the better' kills me because I got married after that to someone who treated me like a queen and then I left....
@@srhbluerain what is it that makes that happen? Is it just too boring to know someone is willing to die for you? I am mostly over all those days,, but the occasional ramble thru time with Alanis makes me wistful. I actually found someone who inspired me like Alanis' music touched my heart, and I finally let her in. After 32 years of being single and fairly sure that was the way to be. 13 years later, only one hurtful argument in all that time, and she left,,, never a plate thrown, never a hissed name called. She couldn't bear a child, and left in the confusion of finding that out. I've walked alone since. I'm getting to believe that straight line steadfast solid dudes just aren't appreciated anymore.
Damn, this song is such memories for me, when your young and you think that love is love, you have no idea what love truly is until you've had your heart broken, ripped apart and somehow find a way to let someone who truly loves you repairs it, this song is just a real reminder of all the times I had to repair my heart for myself, for the right person to come along, and love me.
My loved younger brother who was in his early 30's at the time cried with this song many times, we used to hang on my garage ,drink a few beers and listen to many of our favorite artists, we were pretty close, I saw him as my son, I'm 8 years older than him, he passed away in 2015, left a big hole in my heart, now this song makes me cry every time. 😢
My brother is eight years older. I think theres something magical about that age difference... its almost like raising ur own, getting to teach them about the world. I used to love hearing my brothers stories and all the grown uo shit he got experience and that I would too one day. Im sure ur brother admired you and looked up to you. I absolutely adore my older brother. Even tho im a girl and very feminine, he always treated me like one of his boys and I love it. ❤ Im sorry about ur loss. Im sure you have many memories that you wilk forvever cherish. Sending positive vibes from toronto, happy holidays.
I have experienced the Terrance and Lou. Terrance was too available and I felt smothered with too much affection and attention. Today, I miss that the most. Lou and I were working on highly stressful degrees, he in medicine, me in the middle of switching from a music major to criminal justice. We just got burnt out and really didn't know how to make it work. Ultimately we just parted ways, with no argument, no lashing out. We just stopped communicating, and after graduation I moved and never heard from him again.
The first to fall for me was "Terrence", and I rejected him (stupid move of me, I know), because he began asking a question I did not think he'd ask, as I felt at the time, that he'd become possessive of me. Now I would very much like to have a "Terrence". "Jonathan" was the tragic type, sure, and not particularly honest. But he was the one to reject me, and pushed me away. He just looked for the first reason to do it. I think I met "Marcus" once, but that was it, because he ruined it. A former friend is a mix of "Matthew" (a musician) and "Lou". A current friend is a bit like "Terrence", but he has been, and always will be a friend.
A woman speaking openly to her various ex lovers about what she learned and felt. She admits feeling everything from love to anger. She is the focus and the men are supportive her story - for a change. It is so bad ass and beautiful.
Alanis is such a great songwriter. Here she sings about past relationships and what she learned from each one. I don't know why I feel sad when I listen to this song, I guess it makes me think of bad past relationships.
One of the most perfect songs about relationships ever written. It never gets old. I think of all the thoughts I've had about former loves that I could pen into letters unsent. She is out of favor now, but one day I think the world will celebrate her for the enduring poet and artist she is.
This is a weird day. We're in the middle of a pandemic and subsequent self isolation. It's my birthday, I live alone. So, the best I can do is reflect, which brought me here. I hope this finds you future person on the other side of this ❤️ EDIT: Well, this was a weird year. Dear future person (maybe me again?) we made it.
Dear Lou, we learned so much... I realize we won't be able to talk for sometime, and I understand that as I do you The long distance thing was the hardest and we did as well as we could... we were together during a very tumultous time in our lives I will always have your back and be corious about you... ...About your career, your whereabouts.
I'm always cry when I listen to this song. One of the mysteries of life people who we like, care about, we don't know the whereabout. It's like the love we have we need to keep in a special place in our heart util the time do the part. Thank you so much Alanis, for expressing exactly we feel.
Cannot believe I haven’t heard this track before today. Typical Alanis, sounds fantastic with a stunning instrumental behind it. I need to look beyond jagged little pill
Alanis, like always, teaching us a lot about life... After I heard this song when released, I made the writing goodbye letters to my former significant others when we went apart. Still do, and trust me, It helps a lot!!!
Essa música me transporta lá para fins dos anos 90, quando não havia internet como hoje, adquirir um CD da Alanis era um acontecimento na vida. Ouvia sem parar. Tenho até hoje o CD original. Virou relíquia. Essa música era especial, eu trocava cartas com amigas que tinham um significado especial. Outros tempos.
sim, eu ouvi o cd a primeira vez num toca discos no Carrefour, ia todo dia e ouvia um trecho.. lembro ate hj como Front Row e Baba me impressionava.... bons tempos.
I remember when this would come on the radio a lot in early 1999. I could never imagine this being played on the radio now days! It's too amazing to be played along with the rest of the bullshit that is played today....
This is my favorite Alanis song. I love how she pours her heart out and reflects on her exes. We can all relate to this...even if our exes are no longer a part of our lives, they still had a profound impact on us and helped shape us into who we are today.
this song made me realize that until i met my wife, those other relationships before her had a deep significance but where a means to an end, there were times when i broke up with one of them i felt i wasn´t gonna be able to find somebody who loved me as much as i can, but here we are, my wife, my best friend, my partner was just around the corner
I’m a 60 year old man. Watching June 2020. The World and the USA is so FUCKED UP. This song has a different meaning to other people. For me her voice is helping me decompress. Always thought she was really cute. Be safe everyone
The way she kept herself open for love no matter how hurt she gets each time speaks for itself. This song hits harder each time I listen it and this was on the 1st CD I ever got for my 10th birthday 20+ years ago. Been a fan for as long as I can remember honestly! Love your music Alanis Morissette! This is how music should be. 🥰🥰🥰🙌🙌🙌
Such a beautiful song, I used to listen to this song all the time... now listening to it, it takes me back to the lovers I had in my college years and 20's, and all the ups and downs i faced with them. I am very happily married now, but listening to this song brings back memories, both good and bad.
I've had a crush on Alanis most of my life Beautiful face, beautiful songwriter, beautiful voice. I know she lives in the USA but she is still a great Canadian girl.
The lyrics signify, truth, spiritual beauty. They are so touching and so relatable and I am just a teenager listening to this. I love Alanis, she is my inspiration.
Aida, Jessica, Tina, Andrea, Angel, Lisa, Tanya, Jess, Susan, thank you for the good times we spent together and there will always be a place for you in my heart. ❤
Such sadness. I wish each of us was not so afraid of rejection or embarrassment as to talk about the things that really matter in a safe, judgment-free environment. This song is a testament to fear controlling our need to trust. I hope I never have to be so afraid of my partner that I could not talk about anything.
Love letters she wrote about past bfs by reflecting on her Past relationships & the shortcomings... With Fondness & frankness - i can't believe how young she was in 1999 to be so wise & this reflective. #SFIJ #mtvUplugged #JLP
Hitting me now that “Dear, Matthew”, is no doubt about her quick time with Dave Matthews. They really fell for each other on the making of Before These Crowded Streets where she assisted. You can see in the documentary on the making of the album. Wow this is very nostalgic.
UNSENT LYRICS [Verse 1] Dear Matthew, I like you a lot I realize you're in a relationship with someone right now And I respect that I would like you to know that if you're ever single in the future And you want to come visit me in California I would be open to spending time with you And finding out how old you were When you wrote your first song [Verse 2] Dear Jonathan, I liked you too much I used to be attracted to boys who would lie to me And think solely about themselves And you were plenty self-destructive for my taste at the time I used to say the more tragic the better The truth is whenever I think of the early 90's Your face comes up with a vengeance Like it was yesterday [Verse 3] Dear Terrance, I love you muchly You've been nothing but open hearted and Emotionally available and supportive And nurturing and consummately there for me I kept drawing you in And pushing you away I remember how beautiful it was to Fall asleep on your couch and cry in front of you for the first time You were the best platform from which to jump beyond myself What was wrong with me? [Verse 4] Dear Marcus, you rocked my world You had a charismatic way about you with the women And you got me seriously thinking about spirituality And you wouldn't let me get away with kicking my own ass But I could never really feel relaxed and looked out for around you though And that stopped us from going any further than we did And it's kind of too bad because we could've had much more fun [Verse 5] Dear Lou, we learned so much I realize we won't be able to talk for some time And I understand that as I do you The long distance thing was the hardest and we did as well as we could We were together during a very tumultuous time in our lives I will always have your back and be curious about you About your career, your whereabouts
man this song hurts my heart so bad ....so many nice guys I let go and now I'm alone and wishing I hadn't messed up so bad. What was wrong with me ....?
There are people of a certain generation who have seen it, back when music channels had it in rotation when the video had come out. I think it's like one of those perfect songs of the Cold Y Generation (which I am part of), as the lyrics hit at so many points. I'll put Gen-X and Millennials in there as well, but Cold Y is between the two, and as the song and the video get to my feelings, I could posit, that it most captures the imagination of the Cold Y generation, too.
Listening to this reminds me of my past relationships and how they shaped me and made nostalgic for some of those blokes and wonder what they're doing now...
The other break up song got 57M views but I think this one is more emotional and matured. This song doesn’t need to say thanks or whatever but you get it.
The way Terrence looks at her at the end of his clip ... Beautiful acting, you can see so much in his eyes. Love, nostalgia, regret, hope, resignation, I can see it all there :)
Para mim uma música com grande significado para pessoas que já tem alguma experiência de vida; relacionamentos sempre nos ensina muitas coisas como respeito, paciência, perseverança. Cada pessoa é única em nossas vidas e sempre nos enobrece como seres 👏👏💜💜
"you were the best platform form which to jump beyond myself" that's got to be the strongest thing to admit, and the sweetest thing to hear for the person to whom it is dedicated. Poignant! Wow
Just another classic example of her stunning talent. Lyrically emotional and reflective and thought provoking. Musically easy on the ear and articulately instrumented. Alanis, if you’re looking for another Terry, accurate description of me!
Dear Julie, you taught me so much, you and your family accepted me at a time I couldn't accept myself, It was only through their love, I could rise above myself, I only wish that you could see what I've become, you'd be so proud of me, like I was proud of you, I was always fascinated in the mastery of the all things you do, but now I understand, what you all understood, and I could never go back to that way of being
Dear Traveller, I love you to death. The most beautiful thing about us is our teamwork. We understand and love each other for nothing else than just what we are. All I could want for us is a life where we grow together, and I hope never grow out of loving you. Dear Grim, I wish you well. We were attracted to the fact the other one was broken, we reveled in our darkness and in just how lost we both became. I dragged myself down to pull you up from your self destruction, and in the end I only made things worse. Dear Bully, there's nothing left. I could be furious that you manipulated my mind, that you abused my trust and broke me down to mold me into what you seek, but going through hell forced me to face my demons and grow strong. I'm too busy living life to spend time resenting you. Dear Wonderwall, I'm so glad you called. I started out loving you so much my young heart would ache from it, but my infidelity prevented you from ever feeling safe with me. After years of separation we grew into adults, I cant imagine life without my best friend at my side. Dear Talon, what have you done? It took me years to finally stop looking for you in all things, and even now you show up in my dreams though I recall your cruelty. Since then you've apologised and I could see you when I want to, but I keep you at arms length because your power frightens me.
Dear Richard...thanks for all my first times,you're the first i would like to say these words " I love you" now you left me, i gave everything to suceed in our relashionship and i have this impression that something is lost: i'm afraid now to love someone...:((
