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I'm 15 mins in and this is truly heartbreaking 😣 takes real strength to talk so openly about this and then to succeed in the way sue has in her own life is really inspiring. I know you wont see this but I wish you Alex your mum your brother all the very best. kind regards Gary 💙
Her story is interesting but she is attempting figure life out. As a high level athlete her lack of control is controlling her life. One of the questions she asked was why did her mother stay for so long in the relationship with a man like her father. What is her relationship like with her father? She’s afraid that the book will damage his reputation. There’s so much that she is not saying.
The best thing Steve does for his guests is that he listens. Is present and listens. Doesn’t rush, finish their sentence or jump in the middle of their statement. Just listens. His follow ups tells them he’s listening. And that does so much for them (and us) 👏🏾👏🏾
100%. He waits after their answers before he thinks of what to say next, and you can tell he really thinks about what they just said, and then thinks about a follow up question and that's what makes some of these so powerful.
So true the key is that he listens he takes his time to go back to certain areas, gives them the space and time. Love hus style it's si refreshing and it's how interviews should be. I mean if you look at the ambience , soft lighting.,the back drop. Paying attention to detail, setting the scene for his guests to feel at home.
@@oyandakona5994 I concurr a lot of podcasters can learn from Steve. So many of them interrupt, self talk and finish their sentences. If you know all the answers why interview? Just interview yourself!
Thank you for sharing your story. I spent 20 years with an extremely violent husband and your description of you always knew what was coming is spot on. You live in constant fear and you tread on eggshells. I pray that anyone watching this will get the help they need. I have now been 20 years free from him and the constant control, humiliation and violence. Thank you both for such an honest and touching interview. ❤
This was the first interview that I've ever watched where I felt like I was listening to a private conversation. Steven has got to be the most skilled, impossibly gentle interviewer I've ever seen. Anyone who has experienced trauma at that age range will be able to relate to the feeling of overwhelming helplessness that Alex felt at that time. Needless to say, I was getting teary from minute unos. Bloody hell.
From your interviews it's made me realise the affect parents have on their children..forever. To all new parents out there, think before raising your voice or a finger to your children. The affects are so damaging to the heart and mind. Some people never get the right therapy they need to get over that and it devastates their lives forever.
And don't expect them to be there for you in your dottage. If you don't respect and care for your children, don't expect them to respect or care for you.
I resonated profoundly with Alex’s interview. I as as child I was mentally, physically & psychologically abused savagely by my father and step mother. The constant fear and terror of my daily existence coupled with being child and feeling hopeless in the prison that was home. Being forced to lie about my bruises, scars & chaos that was my home life. Threatened into silence and suffering. I appreciate her candor, vulnerability & courage to reclaim her power & narrative and the realization that to free herself she must no longer protect the abuser. I’m glad that in spite of her troubled childhood she was able to triumph and achieve success in her endeavors. May her mother & brother join her on the journey of healing and transformation. I read that her father vehemently denies the violence and terror he wielded against his family but that is typical of sociopaths. My dad is Jamaican as well and not all Jamaican’s are as violent & disconnected as our fathers but physical abuse at the hands of parents to their children as well as women being abused by their male partners is a cultural norm that must be addressed and dismantled. That begins with putting abusers on blast and holding them to account. Thank you Alex for sharing so intimately and authentically. May you continue to heal and thrive. Jah bless! 🇯🇲♥️✌🏾
The minute she started describing the father I know that brute was Jamaican and possibly born in the 1950s. He doesn't know any better. He probably was raised by a mother who allowed men to beat her. He never had any good role models and never learn to regulate his emotions. Her mom was trapped.
I know exactly how Alex feels. It brings back memories of my childhood. I can't help feeling the hurt that she feels because my mother went through the same thing. While watching Alex talk about it I wanted to hug her. It's a horrible situation for all involved. Scary for children. Helpless.
I asked myself a few years ago, why don’t I have many female role models, but in Alex, I have found one and one I hope my daughter aspires to be. What a wonderful, courageous, driven woman xx
@@TheDiaryOfACEO Alex’s Dad fits all the criteria of being a narcissist. Sense of entitlement, lack of emotional empathy, lack of accountability for his actions. Alex’s Mum fits the criteria of being an Empath.Steven - there is a symbiotic relationship between these 2 personality types you must interview HG Tudor (please Google him). He is the world’s leading authority on narcissism and is a narcissist psychopath himself. Please let Alex know about his important and life changing work.
As an Arsenal fan I've always loved Alex Scott, every time I see her do something I think "I can't possibly love her more" but then virtually every next thing she does makes an absolute lie of that! An amazing person, with a radiant soul, thank you for being you Alex and sharing your journey with the world, sadly it resonates more than I'd like, but gladly you inspire me and others less than you'll ever know!
I can sooo relate her childhood… it’s both upsetting & great to know it wasn’t just my mum. Sending Love & Light to someone I’ve got SO MUCH respect for. Truly a strong survivor. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️💪🏻🫡
Amazing interview! I admired Alex as a commentator & loved her on strictly but had no idea of her back story. You are a brave lady. You’ll help other people by speaking out xx
I'm 15 mins in and this is truly heartbreaking 😣 takes real strength to talk so openly about this and then to succeed in the way sue has in her own life is really inspiring. I know you wont see this but I wish you Alex your mum your brother all the very best. kind regards Gary 💙
Alex Scott is a hero a phenomenal human being. To be a private person and to tell her story in this way, it takes a certain amount of character. We always forget these guys are human too.
She sounds so fragile and delicate. To be so brave and eloquent in telling her story, has been really inspiring. Alex is an amazing role model and an example of how you can move forward and find the inner peace that everyone deserves. Life often throws some awful experiences, and yet if we keep moving forward, people can find the light. Steven, yet again you have excelled. I'm shocked that your subscriptions aren't higher??? I look forward to each and every podcast from you. Thank you for your hard work. 🙏🙂
I work with kids in a mentoring and support role, Alex's story is replicated so many times by them. The back story, the reason they act as they do, once the back story comes to the forefront you witness freedom as the burden is released.
Wow, You could hear every ounce of emotion in her voice. If someone had said ‘Alex Scott’ to me a day ago I would have had no idea who she was… but after this I feel like her biggest supporter. I can relate to so much of her story and truly hope she finds her peace ❤
OK, I never heard of Alex Scott and this is my second episode of Diary of a CEO. 3 minutes in, subscribed. Thank you Alex for your openness and honesty. Respect to Steven Bartlett for the restraint and respect he shows Alex. Congratulations on your use of silence man, allowing time for her to formulate what are going to be difficult answers instead of doing as many would, blundering in with clumsy suggestions or embarrassed asides to avoid the painfully awkward silences. You should be running training courses on interviewing techniques. Nice professional set up, simple set, discrete videoing. Worth the subscription. This is the longest RU-vid review I have ever written, hats off.
This girl is pure love pure pure pure ❤️ I never could listen to such a sad story but in a same time feel uplifting and feeling hope and love in a same time and that’s only because she has had this journey from childhood till now only by keeping power of love in herself. So inspirational . Never thought I could cry but feeling happy in a Same time only because she is full of love and HOPE. Alex you are really amazing person and very inspirational. I felt you with all my heart . Keep shining girl keep shining 🙌💚🙌💚
That was such an amazing interview, I felt like I was observing something very raw and honest and intimate like no one else should be watching. I am buying Alex's book because I just think her story is compelling. It's funny how a Hard Knock Life makes us end up being the person we grow to love and protect... ourselves. BRAVO Steven.
I think this was my favorite episode yet. It was so powerful and relatable for me in so many ways. I wish nothing but the best for Alex and her family.
This might be the best one yet. Alex is amazing, done so much and come so far. I actually thought Alex was a breath of fresh air when she started the punditry, well researched, interesting and thoughtful. Seeing this side of her just makes me even more impressed at everything she's achieved in her life and to even still consider her father's feelings after all of that is incredible. I'm not sure I could or would if that were my situation. She's a role model to everyone, no matter what background.
Steven you are an exceptional human being. You are a committed and compassionate listener which allows you to connect deeply and establish trust with your guests. Authentic & present always. You are an inspiration. I watch your podcasts religiously. Cheers brother! Keep up the excellence.✊🏾🔊💫
Dam Steven at 60 years of age with no addictions in my life your podcasts have got me hooked, I just enjoy the way you get your guests to open up about their lives and I feel all the roller coaster of emotions they feel within the interview thank you for your great work in bringing this to us❤️👍
Most honest and raw interview I have ever seen. Alex, you r a legend in every sense. A natural on tv who will be huge success for many years to come. Much love.
All these conversations are Really showing me how to listen and be present for another human being. Which allows them to be brutally honest and from that gain respect and support without judgment or pity. Also to watch a true friendship being forged. More than just a conversation on a podcast it truly felt like a genuine connection. We learn together 🙌🔥🙏🏻
My goodness. I stumbled on this episode after watching the Gabor Mate episode. Alex Scott has literally conveyed every experience, the trauma, how it impacted her and her mom, like she was talking about my life. This was deeply relatable and incredibly brave of Alex to tell her story! I hope this enables her to lay all her burdens down and see herself as the beautiful authentic soul she is. And Steven - wow! So patient, amazing listener and connects deeply with his guests. Just excellent!
Wow have followed Alex's career from the Arsenal on but had no idea! I so hope she finds the love she richly deserves. I pray her Mum finds the courage to deal with the past and her Dad the strength to change x
Well what a lovely lady. Love her vulnerability, honesty and emotional intelligence. There will be many young people watching this who will get so much from this.
Oh Steven…thank you for these brilliant interviews..there are no words to describe the depth of the conversations you have with your guests..what a privilege for me to watch and learn. 🙏
Alex. Such a beautiful authentic human being. So brave. So innocent. From our house, we wish you all the luck and success in this chapter of your life. Steven. You've really become a genius interviewer. Parkinson level, but better, because you have a real intelligence and gift to quickly analyse and take the conversation to depths it can only go to with true craft. A wonderful moment watching you both connect so honestly. Thank you.
After hearing this interview, I just want to give Alex Scott a great big hug, I’m so happy that she supported and played for arsenal, the club that I support
This was hard to hear. Alex has inspired me to play football, I remember her at arsenal all those years ago, but she really stood out to me when I noticed her as a pundit. I always noticed her smile, and how she just radiates this positivity, and I loved it! When she smiles, it’s infectious, and her laugh is beautiful. I would never have known that this was her backstory, honestly I didn’t know much about it. But this is shocking. I would not be able to stay that strong, yet she’s fought through so much, as well as the constant online hate and so much more. What a strong woman I guess it is true, that the biggest smiles hide the most pain. She hid her troubles so well, it’s so hard to see her upset- as I’m so used to seeing a beaming, smiling Alex! I just hope she is able to live life as she pleases now, and can really be happy! What an amazing woman! (And icon) We love you Alex x
What a beautiful soul and a beautiful person Alex is. A great role model and someone that has triumphed over adversity and an example of taking personal accountability for life. Inspirational.
This podcast has benefitted me in so many ways. They have over all completely uplifted my self confidence & my determination to succeed. I’m 18 & i genuinely hope Steven that one day, i’ll sit across from you at that table and i’ll be able to thank you for giving the encouragement i’ve needed, while telling you my story. Thank you for this ❤
Serous amount of respect for this woman, hard times and pain but her smile near the end regarding her book was beautiful - be strong, happy and realise your position, you’re great
Been waiting for this one for a while. What a heartfelt, genuine talk this was. All this should do is inspire people to follow their heart, passion and do what feels right for you. Nothing but massive respect for Alex and she should be so proud of herself and her Mum for making Alex the lady she is today. So brave to do this one. Big up Alex 👊
My husband went through abuse and the heaviness she felt is still there with him, that heaviness is so powerful it affects the next generation . Its not the circle of physical abuse because I know now he worked hard at that , but the cycle of mental abuse and energetic abuse that still swirls around him and effects us . Getting help is a must . Steven and Alex what an incredible episode ...Thank you
That was beautiful, painful, funny, positive and so sad by turns. An amazing, inspiring woman who is beautiful, loving and an absolute credit to the strength of her mum. Steven's gentleness is part of the positivity of this post.
this woman was one of the few women who made me fall even more in love with football. she is so humble, and absolutely fantastic, she deserves the absolute world and i hope she knows that.
Alex I can totally understand how a traumatic early life can affect your later life,my dad had a very short fuse,and could be very handy towards my mum,and I too tried to be the peacemaker,I walked on eggshells for 21 years,right up to my marriage…which was the exact opposite of my parents marriage,but my siblings believed I was on dads side,they couldn’t have been more wrong,all I wanted was to keep him sweet, for mums sake…looking back I now see it didn’t make a difference how I behaved ,a short fuse is always going to be short..they are both gone now and as much as I loved both my parents,all I feel is relief…
You are an amazing person Alex and I've watched you grow in football and become such an inspiration to millions of young people, little girls especially. Be proud of your life, your not a victim you are a survivor of growing and living a life full of challenges. Keep being your amazing self and good luck for the future whatever you put your mind to you will smash it. Well done on everything you have ever achieved in life and the beautiful role model you are to everyone. Take care beautiful soul xxxxx
I really liked this interview I loved her transparency. I understand to a certain degree wishing hoping and wanting to free the 'abused' parent so bad, however I had to let that wishing, hoping and trying to free them - go. I would love to see that unpacked it must be common for children of abused parents. I love Alex's strength and vulnerability I wish her all the very best in the future and continued healing 💕
such a beautiful human. i've always admired and looked up to Alex, since her football days. so proud of everything she's accomplished and excited for another new chapter of her life. this was one of the most inspiring and compelling videos i have watched. truly amazing to see such raw and honest words with a host that is so respectful and compassionate about hearing her journey. thank you Alex for being a role model for me and so many others 😘
That bear grylls story was so touching..feels like a lot of people can place themselves in similar position at least I did. So raw and honest interview nowadays is so rare! Kudos for bravery and in midst of all of this she still looks like queen with those beautiful brown eyes, warming smile and great hair 🙌🙌🙌
I was hooked from her first word, what a beautiful,honest woman Alex is,I wish her and her family nothing but happiness going forward.. congratulations on another incredible episode x
Thank you for sharing Alex. Your honesty and authenticity is so important. You are a light in the world - inspiring others, speaking out for change and sharing your truth like this will help so many people. X
I can so relate to this in many ways...it sounds so weird someone else saying 'we don't know how to talk as a family, we don't know how to hug each other' I honestly thought I was the only one.
When you try to take care of others it makes us feel needed, we have a purpose, we think we have to work harder to be loved, that's one of the patterns Alex grew up with. She's come so far from that little 7 year old having to decide which parent to choose, so humble, definite fragility, yet a beautiful inner strength. ❤
I am not much of a podcast person, but this podcast channel really adds so much value to ones life and not even just that. Its a reminder that EVERYONE goes through the rough patches of life growing up and even in adulthood and these are the life experiences that defines us. It can affect us positively or negatively. Thank you.
Beautiful & selfness person. Heartbreaking what she has been through & despite the difficulties she has been through she is still thinking & worrying about others. I always liked her but I like her even more now. Great interview.
Alex, sweet girl, there is such power in your voice and story. This talk has been so amazing, and freeing. You are beautiful and courage personified. Cant wait to read your book. xx
Hi Steve, I really feel the need to comment on this edition and to say well done to everyone involved. Alex does a remarkable job as a BBC pundit especially this summer when we won the Euro's and hosting the celebrations the next day in Trafalgar Square. Whenever I feel a bit down I play the recording to lift my spirit and it works, it actually brings me happy tears. I'm also from east London and raised in a violent house. I'm a middle aged white guy but had an older black brother, whom I loved and was so extremely proud of and I when the kids at school found out I was racially abused, that upset me very much. Steven, I'd appreciate it if you would pass on the following to Alex please: From someone who's pain people couldn't see because of the colour of my skin, 'Keep Going!'
Wow, this is a tough listen and only 15mns in. Hats off to Alex for sharing and being so vulnreable reliving memories, I feel honored to have listened. Well done to Steven for creating a safe place allowinf for this conversation to take place and for moving through the conversation in a supporting way, amazing approach. Time and time again you get to the places in conversations that no one else does.
What an amazing woman. I didn’t experience violence in my childhood but I definitely relate to walking on eggshells. I took it all the way to my 30’s/40’s. The damage caused to children by parents is so sad. They should teach mental health in schools. What a great interview, I think you’re amazing Alex ❤
This is one of the best podcasts on RU-vid hands down. I'd love to chat with Steven one day just in general, there's a lot to be learned from him! definitely one of my "online-mentors" for sure.
Never watched one of your podcasts before but this was levels. Great work Steven, I have now pressed that sub button 😊 Alex’s story was eye opening and I’m so glad she’s now in a better place!
Alex is so inspirational. She is so candid and honest, it’s a breath of fresh air. Her face lighting up when she speaks of football is heartwarming. We need to help children find their escape and their passion. I remember daily mail readers would hate on Alex for being a woman and being from a council estate in a male dominated industry. They feel threatened because this is a person with no persona, they are real and truthful, and people find it hard to deal with. I was captivated by her story and I’ve taken a lot of confidence from seeing a woman achieve so much from humble beginnings. Now I see why Alex was tearing up when the women won the European cup; this was so much more than football for Alex, it was an opportunity for a better life and a hope in a childhood of some dark days. Alex, hold your head up high and keep owning everything you do. I will look forward to reading your book, you deserve all your success ⭐
Its a great inspiring interview, I hope the book and even this interview with Steve, help to lift some of the trauma she has been living with of her past. Well Done Steve you have a great way of interviewing people where you let them talk
For anyone who says that finding love in a same-sex couple is how you are born this for me is a very sad story that helps me understand how it happens. If you fear your father and the love you show to him is betrayed and the abuse your mother endured, would you trust a man enough to love? Alex I'm sorry for how your father has been and the damage that has been done. You are a wonderful loving individual and so strong.
Wo Stephen…..well done! Your interviewing technique has improved so much over time…..and you entertain your guests conversations so well and then you take time to dwell on them and take advice from them. A great natural tenacity on your part.
Alex’s story is almost a mirror of my home environment as a child. My father was a heavy drinker. My mother and myself got the beatings for when we didn’t do what he wanted and my younger sister was spared of this. Yet when my parents divorced when I was 18. I formed a relationship with my father that consisted of me forgiving him for his terror.
Another hard watch and listen. It reminds me that the people you meet each and everyday have their own weights to bear and hurdles to clear to stand there in front of you. Be understanding and very considerate. What a great previous guest question, A. not getting out of my current head space. TY
🙏🏻❤️ To this amazing woman. To have the strength & courage to share her life on such a gut wrenching topic is eye opening . . Her message is going to help so many people . We are watching an 😇 on earth.
Being a "helper" is usually internalized trauma, you think you are just the best friend in the world to every friend you can, in reality, it's a maladjusted attachment
This has literally been one of my favorite interviews. I am crying. He was my stepdad and he would abuse my mom, me and one of my brothers almost everyday. I tried protecting my mom as much as I could from him. I once threw a glass bottle at him to get him off of her. It cut him across the eye and that was the last day I lived with my mom. To this day, my relationship is rocky with her. I tried telling her that I forgive her but she has so much guilt that she can’t even forgive herself. I’m in the process of telling my own story. This interview has been triggering for me but I’m glad I landed here. Thanks Alex for sharing and thanks Steve for just listening to her and giving her a safe place to be vulnerable. Much love to you both💛
Wow another powerful insightful interview. What a beautiful authentic soul Alex Scott is she truly is a lovely person. I came across her during the Olympics during Covd then again at the commonwealth I wandered who she was but loved her smile and style. Watching this and understanding from whence she cane is a testament to her character. Child hood trauma is real and alive and people are beginning to realise and face it head on. I really like Steve Bartletts, interview style he is emphatic and asks those pertinent questions with a real sensitivity and curiouness. Alex felt safe in his presence you really felt her pain without you feeling a certain why. Really insightful poww4ful interview. I Hooe one day I will achieve great things worthy enough to appear on Steve's podcast and purge myself and be safe in his presence. Keep up the good work Steve you are miles ahead from all the other's.
What a beautiful interview. Alex you was great and Steven you could sell ice to an eskimo because you a great calming interviewer. I really felt that interview in so many ways. Thanks for doing it doing it and sharing as I’m sure it will help a lot of people out there, myself included. ❤
I don't really care for many people in today's spotlight. But I've always liked Alex and have defended her from trolls online, which is not something I ordinarily do. She's a rare one. I wish her every success 🍃
I came to this podcast from something Alex shared on her social media earlier in the week. Never heard of it before. This episode is just incredible, so honest and raw. This one led me onto listening to more episodes of the podcast and I have pretty much binged it this week. What a podcast!! Such amazing guests and they are so open and honest about what they have experienced. Davina, Jimmy Carr, Mel C, Jessie J, Richard Hammond, Romesh so far, and can't wait to listen to many more. They are really interesting and helping me a lot during a time when I am making decisions about work and lifestyle. Steven's interview technique is so respectful and open, and I love the silences; so important when people are talking about such personal stuff.
What a truly inspiring person Alex is,a depth of beauty,warmth,kindness and a caring that radiates from within. I have two Daughters and I would be so proud if they demonstrate those qualities as they continue to grow. As someone who has battled(s) with depression and had to deal with a speech impediment, (easier to write than to say!) this excellent interview impacted me greatly. To the 'trolls',you only voice your threats/opinions etc behind the safety of a screen. This is through cowardice and jealousy because your own life is so lacking of a purpose and respect. My already high opinion of Alex has increased immeasurably and I wish her love and happiness for the future. The word that came up continuously during the interview was 'heavy'. I would encourage anyone who isn't already familiar with the Linkin Park song 'Heavy' to listen and feel its message.
Thank you Alex for sharing your story. You are beyond outstanding and inspirational. I’m so sorry you had to endure so much in your life. It will certainly raise awareness of DV and potentially save lives. Another brilliant podcast Steven. Thank you both and wishing you every success in the future 🙏🙏
I was not hoping to see this today. I really wasn’t. I’m now 45 and this has triggered me immensely. Too many memories I thought I’d buried. I never dealt with them, just buried them. Now they have all cornered me and I don’t know where to run. I grew up in a household like this. Me, the oldest along with my 5 siblings were raised in an abusive home. Father a preacher and a mother who was herself abused and because abusive too. Lord I wasn’t ready to revisit this. I’m so angry! The voices of my siblings crying while my dad beat them angers me to this day. I felt helpless, I heard my little sister and brother say daddy don’t beat us. I love you daddy, I love you. Yet he won’t stop until he was ready to. I can’t watch this interview to the end. I’m too angry.
