All About Agoraphobia // ANXIETYMAMMA 

Thank you so much!

Destinee Bader you and me both!

I completely understand, but you need to not be so hard on yourself. Panic and agoraphobia is emotionally and physiologically terrifying, so it's not surprising that you've gotten to this point. Anybody would. It's very hard to do something that literally goes against what your body and brain is telling you. Hard to reason with the illogical, the irrational. You will get there, and it might be slower than you expect, but you WILL get there. Forgive yourself for getting to where you are, and just take it slowly - but know that what you really need right now is for YOU to be on YOUR side.

So sad to hear that cause that's how I feel sometimes but i stop that thinking and turn it around..am like "your not alone your going to get thru it your strong and you love your self and this is not your fault ..if she's doing it that means we can to😍😊😉😁cheer up and pray to God to give you the strenght to keep on going..God bless you

I feel alone with this as well. I understand you.

I totally get where you're coming from. I am working with the idea lately though, that this part of me that is terrified and unsure and scared to move forward, is actually the most precious and beautiful part of me. I don't think there's anything 'wrong' with people that have this condition, rather I think that we are just incredibly sensitive people with a particular way at looking at the world. And once we can learn to honour this part of ourselves instead of fearing it, we can finally let go of the unworthiness and realise that we are INCREDIBLY capable. When you find your way through this, and you will, you are going to come out the other side with such a great sense of yourself. I think what we're really running from is ourselves, not the outside world.

I am the same only much older.

FelineSine 28665 oh thank you! That's so nice 😊 I totally understand, staying in the situation feels completely impossible but it does get easier with time. ❤️❤️

FelineSine 28665 try your best to stay because it will retrain your brain, to know there is no danger.

Honor thank you so much for your lovely comment! Please don’t give up. I know I felt that way many times, but it IS possible for you to get through this and find a new normal. I have been exploring the idea that a lot of anxiety and agoraphobia ends up being a habitual state and the good thing about that is that habits can be changed. I really recommend reading the book ‘breaking the habit of being yourself’ by joe dispenza. It’s not a book about anxiety but it explained to me more than any thing else ever has about my condition and why it seemed so hard to break out of the panic cycle. And I’m always here if you need someone to talk to. Sending big love your way. ❤️

Thank you, you are so sweet! I will check that book out ,thank you for the recommendation :)

Thank you so much for such a lovely comment!!! I'm glad that's the message you got from this video - that's totally it. Sending you much love

Thank you! I'm so glad!

Thank you for the lovely comment!

Lucy Wardle I would also suggest getting Claire Weekes books and audiobooks. They're very good and have helped many people recover.

Great video!

Ohhh hey fellow melbourne-agoraphobe! :P Thank YOU for the lovely comment. Things will not be like this forever!!! (PS excellent profile pic, I feel a kindred spirit, haha)

Kylie you absolutely should do that!!! It's great for other people to follow your journey, but also it really helps you along the way. It's helped me so much knowing that others out there are going through the same thing, and I swear half the reason i went and did a city exposure session (in one of my other vids) was because I really wanted that to be my next video! Being on youtube has helped me to push out my comfort zone a LOT. Go for it I say!!!

Thank you so much Katie! :) You absolutely will make it through.It's just part of the journey, not the destination

Hi Belinda - Great choice, it was such an amazing program! Andrew is a fantastic guy. Enjoy!!

you can and you will!! For me it was all a matter of consistency and habit. And don't forget to focus on how far you've already come. You've got this mama!

Angelica Alvarado I can relate with the train situation.

I can understand that. It's so hard to stay because literally every fibre of your being is telling you to escape. Especially with something as loud and jolting as a train! It will honestly just be a matter of practice. Have you tried noise cancelling headphones? Maybe they would help to take a tiny bit of the loudness away which may help you to stay?

AnxietyMamma sorry for the late response! its not the noise it like the fact that i have to wait to get home, like no escape. but my therapist said to count them and it kind of helps. but now i just panick with unfamiliar places

makeup mars not that I can recall, but I can tell you exactly why this happens! During a panic attack, blood flow is directed towards the centre of the body, away from the limbs. This can make your limbs feel numb or painful. This is just the fight or flight response, which also causes your muscles to become instantly active and strong (to get you to 'safety' quickly). If you're having panic attacks on a frequent enough basis, your legs may ache from this muscle tension. Or they may just ache during the panic attack. It's uncomfortable for sure, but a completely normal physiological response! ❤️

Thank you so much for responding so quickly!! Your videos have seriously helped me so much in just knowing that there is someone else out there that has gone through what I'm going through, so thank you💕

Sending you love Wayne, I know how rough it can be!

I have been agoraphobic all my life and now I’m in my 50’s.

j 23 you aren’t alone. I am the same way. I don’t even know what I’m afraid of. We’ll overcome it.

Ellyse, I'm sorry it took me so long to get back to you. I understand what you mean. And you know what? Motherhood is stressful enough before adding depression and anxiety into the mix. The thing that stuck out at me the most though in your comment was that I think you aren't getting enough quality time with yourself. It's nearly impossible to feel calm and capable with your kids when you haven't had any time to look after yourself first. Going for a walk with them sounds great, but I wonder if there's maybe some way you can get some alone time, maybe to do some yoga, or a walk by yourself, or just something that comes under the category of self care?? It sounds as if you have zero faith or trust in your own abilities right now, and I'm just wondering if maybe achieving a personal goal or having some time every week where you can really connect with yourself and show your body and mind some love will help to strengthen your view of yourself. You sound like an incredibly strong and amazing woman.

AnxietyMamma wow!! I’m completely in awe right now. I let me just start with, thank you for even responding back 😊. It says I wrote this 3 weeks ago and I’m literally at a loss for words on how much my life has improved just since then!!! I had been seeing a therapist for a while now and just like what you said she was telling me I needed to have time to myself and I needed to find ways for true self care. Around the time I commented I really just gave my all to myself and started taking a bath every night. Lol it sounds silly but I’m a shower person so I can quickly do what I need to do and get back to everything. It’s so amazing how much of a difference that little change has made in my life. And then last week I started a new RU-vid channel just doing my makeup but just that makes me feel like I’m an actual woman/human again... some how I’ve been finding the energy and drive to work on it daily. Seeing your comment just gave me sooooooo much confirmation that I’m doing the right thing and taking the right steps to better the quality of my mental health and life. So thank you sooo much!!! I still have a lot of improvements to make but just seeing this right now shows me that I have so much to be grateful for and my progress has been amazing... again thank you for responding or I never would have took the time to reflect on that today.

Ellyse Jae that’s so so so wonderful!!!!! I am so happy to read this! Amen to taking time - it’s so hard as a mum not to try and rush everything since there’s always a never ending list of things to do, but slowing down to enjoy a bath or whatever it may be is SO GOOD to show yourself some love. Go you for being so proactive. I’d love to watch your videos if you want to share your new channel! Beauty vid junkie over here 🙋🏻‍♀️

AnxietyMamma thank you so much!! And you’re so kind! I will comment from my beauty channel so you can just click it

AnxietyMamma hello 👋🏽 this is my New channel. It absolutely means the world to me that you not only showed interest in my mental health but also my channel. I hope it’s something you can enjoy 😊 thank you again. Hope to keep in touch.

Yep, I often take buscopan to ease stomach cramps, I get them from IBS which is directly related to my anxiety! Otherwise practising proper breathing techniques helps as well.

I'm so glad!

I changed it up! Sometimes I'd only walk for five minutes. Sometimes half an hour. And I'd usually change up the route to make it interesting!

It’s terrifying isn’t it? I have literally passed out 😵 in the store.

Keep going!!!! It takes a little time but you will get there.

Mia Nycole Claire Weekes books and audiobooks!

Sure! Great idea :)

FelineSine 28665 I don't tend to suffer nausea from anxiety, I get more digestive upset. But I know some friends who get pretty severe nausea during panic and they swear by ginger lollies. I think that and learning some deep breathing techniques may be helpful.

AnxietyMamma ok, thanks!

Thank you :) Wonderful vid - so informative!