I told myself that I would wear shawls and I crochet them. Guess what I don't and won't wear them 😂😂. I also made a top with bright colors that I told myself I would wear but I lied to myself. A wonderful video as always and has given me something to think about.
My gap between fantasy self and real self comes to the fore with housework... I lie that after a few more rows of crochet I'll transform the whole house into a paradise!
The biggest lie my fantasy self has told me and convinced me to try to do is to make a temperature blanket for each of my three sisters and one for me all in the same year. Yeah like I really was going to make four temperature blankets.
On point, as usual, Shannon. My fantasy self used to get on the Fantasy Bus all the time when watching on-line yarn reviews. My fantasy self would see a yarn and say “you’ll make a fabulous sweater with that!”, and away I would go-ordering sweater quantities, and then it comes, and the minute I see and feel it, I know that I am never going to use the yarn. So I have had to get strong, and pull my fantasy self off the fantasy bus and lock the door. 😊. Now, if I see a yarn, and fantasy self starts sneaking up, I will wait a few days, and if I am still tempted, I’ll just by one skein or hank to see if I really like it. My fantasy self isn’t to happy about this, but my wallet and practical self is comfortable.
Yes, I think we all listen to our fantasy self and get ourselves into trouble more times than we want to admit to. I know mentally that l have enough yarn in my stash. My fantasy self thinks that I should keep buying more so l don't run out of yarn. I just have to tell that fantasy self go see what you already have to work with and use it. You don't need everything that is new to do a project.😊
100% All of the above. It's nice to know that we are not alone in this. I'm guessing it is more common than not...The human factor. Thanks again for discussing topics that make us think and help us grow. Well done!
My fantasy self mostly talks me out of things that I really love for fear of being embarrassed. Thanks for the video. It's important to be honest with yourself
My fantasy self convinced me that I would definitely become a knitter…well, that self bought every needle in every size: straight ones, circular ones, metal ones and wooden ones…still can’t knit and still trying to just catch up on all my crochet ufos. My fantasy self is so silly! Thank you for this video.
I know!!! That fantasy self talks us into the silliest plans!!! Although mine has not tried to convince me to knit, she comes up with enough outlandish crochet ideas 😂
Telling myself I will remember hook size is classic me. I could swatch to work it out, but usually, I just put the project away. Just last week, I decided to make my first sweater. Instead of using a pattern, I decided to use sweater math. I purchased 4 ply marino, when something chunky would have worked better for my first try. It might be ready for next winter.
Hook size has definitely gotten me before! I think that’s why I have so many 5.5MM hooks, because I have to keep leaving them with the WIP! 😂 Oh wow, yeah, that may take awhile to finish, but I bet it will be amazing when you finally finish!!
The FOMO gets me. I need the yarn that a reviewer likes, or I want to do the group projects like Sophie's Universe or other crochet along blankets..There are only so many crochet hours in a day, even if a person did nothing else! I can relate to so many of the things you mentioned.
Right!?!?!? So I will totally agree that those sofies universe blankets are so flipping cool but I know I DO NOT have the patience or attention span to complete one! 🤦🏻♀️🤷🏻♀️😂
My fantasy self convinced me to buy a ton of yarn from Lion Brand because it was on sale and I said I would use it for such and such a thing. This was seven years ago and more than half of it is still in my yarn stash unused. Curse those.yarn sales!
Girl. It has nothing to do with yarn, but the thing I tell myself most often is, "That doesn't bother me." The 9.9 on the Richter scale and subsequent pyroclastic flow say otherwise (bless my own heart 😳😅), but I sure do like to pretend... for a little while. Great topic as usual, my friend! Always thought-provoking and heart-examining and reassuring and validating. We all get to be human together. You're making a difference in people's lives, Shannon, and it's beautiful to see. 💓💓
Thank you for the encouragement and your kindness Mary! I’m so thankful our path’s crossed. You’ve enriched my life. So there’s a few memes going around about us midwesterners. We say “No Worries!” (Because we don’t want to be a bother to anyone) but in-fact, we have All THE WORRIES. Does that sound a little like you? 😂
Such a great topic!! I used to make a LOT of shawls, beautiful all of them were BUT the one I actually use (in cooler weather, at bedtime while reading haha) is a simple utilitarian one in a very neutral color. All of the other ones I made I enjoyed learning new techniques BUT all of those fancy, dressy and bright colored ones were donated to a friend for her church group - the people that received them loved them so much which really made me so happy.
That’s awesome your shawls ended up in the right hands! While I can see it may be a bit disappointing to have put the time, money and effort into making them, to not wear them, they have served their purpose!! That’s an awesome ending to a story that could have ended differently! ❤️
Ha! My fantasy self gets me every year about this time, but it's not shopping or crocheting, it's in the garden! "You don't need labels or tags; you'll remember what you planted". Well, I have a lot of things growing and I guess I'll know when I see zucchini, cukes, etc. Great, thought provoking video, Shannon!
I'm a very practical person, so my fantasy self doesn't usually show up when I'm shopping. She has learned to mind her own business. (You have a cute way of teaching people.). Very good content.
Yeppers, all of the above! However, I have come to terms with getting🎉 rid of yarn from my stash that I think I may use, but thatI know I never will because 😢 come to recognize my fantasy self. Thank you for talking about the crochet phsychy
I’ve recently gone through my stash too. I was able to give my friend’s granddaughters lots of bright colorful worsted weight yarns to work with. I felt good about it because I didn’t need to look at my “purchase mistakes” any more and some teenagers got some fun free yarn! It was worth letting go!
Oh man - my Fantasy Self is most definitely a Lying Liar Who Lies, especially on the "you don't need to write that down" issue. (Seriously though, how can I not remember what needle/hook size I'm using on a project???) Also had to tell her to Just Shut Up yesterday at Michael's. (I went in to score some storage bins on clearance and get one crochet hook... nothing else! Pleased to report that I was successful in not buying anything else.)
I love mid 1930s fashion. The only trouble is I'm shaped like ball of yarn! I really appreciate this chat. It made me realise the stash of fabric and yarn for 30s fashions is the fantasy self. This has given me some clarity of where and how l can constructively approach these ideals in the future. Good one Shannon!
Those are beautiful fashions for sure! I can see why you like them. I get what you're saying tho. I'm a curvy girl too. But I don't think you should deny yourself what you love. Maybe experiment and discover how you can feel comfortable and still incorporate elements of that time period into your wardrobe!
I tell myself many of the same things lol 😄. One time I bought a lot of yarn to follow a CAL to make squares for a big blanket…well, I didn’t follow through and only made 4 squares. Another time I bought yarn to make family members scarves for Christmas…the yarn is still sitting here years later😁.
Best method I've ever started was keeping a crochet journal. So helpful if you write down the project, yarn and hook. I ended up also writing lots of thoughts especially when I change aspects of the original pattern. I made a lap quilt for my adult daughter and she picked a very nice green color, but I COULD NOT do the whole afghan in the same stitch so I switched the stitch every 4 inches and realized I needed (wanted) to keep a record of the stitch and source (crochet books I own and and page numbers.) She doesn't care, but it was important to me to keep a record. I am very forgetful and it was very uplifting to know I had a plan and executed it.
Gosh I loved this video. I can relate to so much of it. I have become aware that I need to write things down otherwise I will disappoint myself when I don't remember a stitch or a project that I've abandoned. Shoo it's nice to know I'm not the only one
! have on blanket yarn blanket in process. Granny pattern; it tires me out, and I can do part of a row at a time. Great plum color, takes up room, a whole large tote bag. I am just going to make myself finish it, gift it to someone special, and NEVER, ever, make something with blanket yarn again :) Great video, thank you
It sounds like a good plan Geri! Finish it (on your own timeline!) and then never look at it again lol! Hey, at least you learned from the experience and can save yourself from the same fate in the future! ❤️
I thought I would remember where I left off in a pattern. Yes I thought I could remember. I have to write it down now. Also thinking I could make more projects than I can. So I bought the yarn and of course it’s still on my shelf waiting for that project I was going to make. I understand the struggle is real lol
The older I get the less my fantasy self leads me astray. Hmmm maybe I’ll listen to her next time she shows up. My practical self has been in charge too long.
In the past, I absolutely lied to myself about yarn i would use. Im always very attracted to novelty yarns yet I never make anything with them. I used to decades ago when I did Swedish weaving, but with knitting and crochet I find them really annoying tk work with. Yet even now I am drawn to them in thrift stores and always tempted to buy them when they are so cheap. Now I find myself needing to go through them and just let it go.
Oh yeah, I have definitely been tricked into novelty yarns!!!! I have a hard time resisting fuzzy yarn, but then I’m clueless about what to do with it 😂
When it comes to your mohair, maybe have a look at the Ophelia Talks Agatha Reading Shawl. I found it very simple and easy way to work up a very comforting wrap that basically doubles as a cosy blanket.
I'm doing a blanket yarn tonight! My 3 year old gson loves loves loves the blanket yarn blanket I made him. He's gotta have it for sleeping,, so it seems worth it. 😊 so maybe someday you can use it.. I only did 3 blanket yarn blankets though. Doubt I'll do any more
My fantasy self chose to make a crochet cabled sweater for my husband. Never made one or have experience doing cables. Took 14 tries to do the just the bottom ribbing . I did eventually finish it, guess what … it’s too small for him.🙄🙄
My fantasy self here lately has been telling me to make Amigurumi’s with chenille yarn. Like girl… we are not jumping on that train😂 Oh and to knit these big ole projects.🙄
Hahahaha, I get that!!! My latest one is that beaded blanket trend and Kristen just made beaded pillows. But deep down I know I'd never finish it!!! Also, I swear I saw a video quite awhile ago from you where you were like" I'm not ever doing amigurumi again" . I swear I'm not crazy....was it like a elephant or giraffe????
@@ShannonTalksYarn I don’t know if I’ll never not do another Amigurumi lol but I did do a giraffe about a year ago I never finished😂 I was on a kick a few years back because I had people ask me to make them but they’re not my favorite. I’ve seen those blankets going around and I really don’t know how I feel about them. I just feel like they wouldn’t be very functional…
Hi Shannon. My fantasy self tells me, it's time to go thrifting. I made a beautiful granny square blanket by Joanita Theron during the shutdown(each square is different, and was a challenge for me). I used mostly thrifted/vintage yarns, some new(but in my stash), I was proud that I didn't buy anything "new ". She has all her crochet alongs on her website and I want to make another blanket. These are works of art, I really felt like I accomplished something. Anyway, I keep telling myself I need to find more vintage yarns for the next project instead of just getting started. Do you ever get the thought in your mind that you just need to go look at the yarn? Wherever in might be, store or thrift store? Sometimes my brain says" let's see if someone gave up their stash, it's waiting for you" .
Yes absolutely I do! There’s only one thrift store “in my area” that ever has any yarn and it’s about 40 minutes away. There isn’t much else in that town so I don’t go there often. I would probably be way more tempted to go there if I could run more errands. But also just in general, I love thrift store and estate sales so it’s always on my mind! 😂
Yes. My fantasy self is always telling me this time learning to knit will work. And no, no it does not work. Only I end up buying more knitting needles each time. I have a lot of knitting needles. Maybe they will hold up my hair?
Every year, i have great and wonderful ideas 💡 for Christmas presents 🎁 guess what? It is the nearing the end of June, none of those gifts have even been started yet 😔
I'm not sure if the thoughts in my head are fantastical but do know that listening to many people saying they hate sewing pieces/squares together, made me think I hated it too. Come to find out I really don't mind sewing parts together it is rhythmic for me. So I understand being duped by voices in my head. Also I know what I will or will not try despite the popularity of the trends. My hands also control that thought process.
That’s such a great point! When we hear so many people recite the same opinion it’s easy to think that’s the way it is! I’m glad you listened to your own voice! ❤️
I agree with you about sewing pieces on. With so many people talking about hating the process of sewing, I was also convincing myself that I didn’t like it either. I am now telling myself that I like doing that and this changed everything. I crochet mostly amigurumi and I don’t really even like the “no sew” projects. Time to start taking those opinions with a grain of salt. 🙃🧶
The biggest lie my fantasy self has told me and convinced me to try to do is to make a temperature blanket for each of my three sisters and one for me all in the same year. Yeah like I really was going to make four temperature blankets.
Oh my gosh, I tricked myself into trying one too, I only made it halfway through February but couldn’t admit that I failed until September! I felt so good when I “officially “ gave up lol!!! So I feel you, but 3 is really ambitious 😃
