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Americala நாங்க வாழுற இந்த வாழ்க்கை Sainthavi's Perspective on Living Abroad Part 2 !

I cant understand why ppl always complain abt living abroad by enjoying luxury life. I stay in usa for 8 yrs. Here i can say the student education is free till 12th grade. If both husband and wife earning they will earn more than 12000 dollars per month. Instead of hiring a help they invest their money in million dollar houses. Instead of getting 1 house they buy 2 house, bmw car mostly 2 cars with high end model. In usa there is wage regulation which has to be followed. In india ppl exploit maids by giving them low salary which i feel is unfair. Moreover there is no family politics when we stay in usa. Depending on parents to pamper us i feel its unfair. Am in 30 s after babies i feel i need my personal space. Parents must in be 60s they need to be freed from our emotional turmoil. Its our life we need to take care. As well as support our parents. I see so many indian women in usa just bring their parents here to babysit their babies which i feel is vry bad

It’s been couple of years in USA. Totally we can relate. Always loved to listen to your conversations and feels like someone with the same thoughts are next to us ❤ Thanks for your time to share the thoughts

Hi Sainthavi , I saw both your videos .. true information provided . I came to UK after marriage from Bangalore and took a while to adjust .. I dint know cooking or any house work for that matter , as I was pampered at home and worked in IT , I think it was more difficult for my husband to train me and bring me to the mindset that we have to do everything on our own . We’ve had multitude fights over this … all the parents and Girls must know the reality of living abroad , everyone thinks it is as shown in the movies , like a dream world .. but reality is different. Hope people watch this and realise and make an informed decision .

Dear Sainthavi, firstly I want to appreciate the nature of your videos and the transparency in your lifestyle (both, martial and maternal) that is refreshing to watch. Personally, I love your practical nature and inclusivity in how you and Vinod conduct your life with the boys and your vlogs are a representation of that. I loved your take on allowing the kids experience everything in moderation, having a liberal outlook on personal choices ably partnered by Vinod. In the context of this video, I see that couples who immigrate from a small town lifestyle driven by necessity cope better than people who move from Indian Metros who have been born into Upper middle class families that enjoy certain amenities and services which ends up luxury in the US. Also it is very difficult to find your village, supprt group here if you are not chasing the American dream above all else. Again, I love listening to you and Vinod as a mother of a 14 yr old and 11 yr old and so many of your experiences have educated and opened my world so much. Keep vlogging. ❤

Lovely content, neatly conveyed. Totally relatable. 👍

There are 2 issues here.1.Having career,family and living in India ,like millions of others 2.Going abroad for higher education,career and living with husband/wife and children like a few lakhs (no.increasing over the years) In both the scenarios there are expectations , achievements to celebrate, challenges / hurdles to overcome.மொத்ததில்- இக்கரைக்கு அக்கரை பச்சை.If you want to gain something you might be ready to loose certain things .That's how life works.As rightly said ,happiness and contenment can be achived by sharing and caring with life partner. Interesting to watch your videos. Please cover specific topics each week- income-expenditure/savings,medical facilities (pros too ,not just cons), own house/reneted, school /college education etc..

I understood the context of this video and previous video. So the solution would be.. Be prepared for marriage life irrespective of the country. NOT JUST ABROAD.. struggle is same.

Hi Sainthavi.... both parts really good.... can totally relate all from part 1. Waiting for part 3. Please explain more in detail about Estate planning, trust, life insurance, bank account beneficiary and living will. Thanks.

Hi, nice video. I also would like to say that in most states in the U.S., to live in a nice home and to raise 2 kids to buy needed things for them and to save for college which is very expensive you need 2 incomes. 1 as a disposable income and the other for mortgage and other main expenses unless the husband is a doctor or running a profitable business. Even with 1 normal decent income , you can have only a certain life style. Plus the job uncertainty especially in the U.S. and you cannot live here without medical insurance. So, for these reasons many women have to work not because they cannot afford to stay home.

We clearly understood what you are trying to share …it’s an awareness who is coming here newly and trying to get them ready for the struggle we are going through ….you both please ignore whoever misunderstood….thank you for you both ❤❤

I am Malaysian.. it's a totally different lifestyle compared to here.. just be grateful for what we have.. Happy weekend..🩷

I am sorry if you find my comment unrelatable but this is my take on it. After listening to you speak, I realized one thing. Your point is that there is cheap help available back home. It's true this is not available in USA and never will be. I am so glad it isn't either. Back home the labour laws are bad. They don't ensure people get paid minimum wage for being house help, driver, gardener.. this is so unfair. Your perspective is for educated middle class people who make more money than the common man and often seek help from the poor for less wages. But in USA there is wage control. If you get a cleaner you will pay for their work's worth, you will treat them well. That's the beauty of the US society. It's the mindset and how you look at it. I know people who came recently complain of the Canadian health care and wait times. They could afford to see a doctor back home in minutes. That isn't the case for everyone. The common man wouldn't have the funds back home to make this comment. It's all perspective. Also, if you settle for many years abroad we have to start thinking like people around us, not NRI's. I have lived 23+ years in Canada. My daughter is 18. We are about the same age group I suppose. I am not going to chase my kids to get married, have kids and definitely not going to make my life revolve around them. I feel like the younger people coming in are also very smart and are adapting well. Many of them have chosen not to have kids and are raising pets. That's new but welcoming. Social media has educated them. They can live together or separate if life doesn't work. No judgement there.

Thanks for sharing the reality of foreign Lifestyle our wishes and Blessings to you Both❤❤💐💐🙌🙌

I recently came across your channel.your videos are really informative and totally relatable. I lived in california after marriage for 6 years. We have two children( first one US born and second India born). I came back to India due to my family circumstances. Now my 19 year old daughter who is an US citizen wants to go back to US. My son is now 15 and he has future plans to study and live in US. My hubby and I have no choices left but to settle in USA. Now I'm in my late 40's and have a dilemma to handle the situations that is currently prevailing in USA. Thanks to your videos. They are really an eye-opener that really sheds some light over my concerns.Keep up your good work.👌

Last episode n idhuvum full ah Pathan.Planning,understanding capacity,preparedness as u said Elam irukanam..One thing I would like to tell,ie be it girl or boy they should learn everything at least basic level.

I am sorry, but your video is just lacking gratitude in every angle. You have a good life, something people back home don't. Don't keep comparing to Swiggy and Zomato.. it will be a few years before they realise what damage this has done to their health. Why are you paying $20 for Rasam when you are sick? What do Americans eat when they are sick? It is all about choices? Once you develop a sense of gratitude for like abroad and full immense yourself, you live life better. Your kids are not asking for rice and curry every day. They won't expect traditional connect, trips to homeland. It's all for your personal satisfaction. Its all because you want to be somewhere else. So if you are battling your happiness this is because of the lack of gratitude for what you have. You are earning in dollars. You have a better spending capacity, be thankful for that. Even today you can throw this life away and go back home and settle. Again, bbe thankful for that. The younger people coming in are way smarter. Many of them will not have kids to be a SAHM. They will raise pets as kids. Times have changed. They will sperate of things dont work out. It's all about choices. I see a lot of indian women who dress traditional, cook traditional food daily, gossip with other ladies 24/7, enjoy all the riches of the foreign world and then complain that Indians back home have it better. Like seriously?? First adapt, change yourself to accept the lifestyle. Eat healthier, exercise often, keep your mental and physical health under check. You can't sit in USA, eat rice everyday, watch Tamil movies every weekend only socialise with Indians and feel American. I am sorry this is what a newcomer would live like. Not a veteran.

Can you please talk more about estate planning (living will /trust)who stays in USA.

I agree your point akka, niraya beru over ah expect panitu vanthutu dissapoint aguranga, I got it. Athavida our extended families la etho foreign la irukanga she is well settled nu ninakranga nama avangaluku help panala apdinu ninakranga, ivangaluku enna kavalai nu ninakranga. Everybody have their own struggle nu puriya matakuthu.

You are talking about expenses. You have to talk about income also. After all these difficulties people continue there. It means there is something which worth it. Whats your opinion?

Hi Sainthavi, I can relate myself what you are conveying msg.I started working a month ago. I am happy now and helping my family financially.

Though we have parents and in laws ... How many are ready to come ans support us. And more importantly you are talking about taking care of yourself and kids. Here we need to take care of elders, we are spending time, money and energy for them also.

Saw your previous video too, very much relatable, good points sain

People who come on H4 can volunteer in the community in person or remotely. Even though it’s unpaid, it’s still valuable & valid work experience.

Loved your video😍 Thanks for sharing 🙏🏻

Hi Sain, recently discovered your channel and going through the playlist .. you have done very good and useful videos .. i have a middle schooler doing second year in band . Parents here say band is a lot of work , but my kid loves it and the euphonium instrument. I want to know about the experience of parents who have done until the end of high school. Would you be able to make a deep-dive video into band all the way from 6th to 12th grade (7yrs in band) ?

Loved ur way of talking Sain. Came to US just 2yrs bk....was able to relate what u said.

It's true it's self adjustment last week I went through flu, though my husband tried rasam it was not actually that good so I had to order one rasam and one kulambu was 22$

Inflation is high in UK too but health care is absolutely free. No insurance needed at any point in time. And cost of university education is less. Even for Cambridge and Oxford the tuition fee is just £10000 per year. I think these aspects UK is better though cost of living is high.

I can totally relate to it. This is exactly my status now, I’m a masters holder with dependent visa and a Sahm.

You sound clear and honest❤

Contribution to the family need not be financial. Taking care of the children, family and their needs are even bigger Contribution to the family. Financial Contribution can never match this.

Very useful video. Can relate to it. Love and support from Hong Kong!!

On an average what according to you may be a good range of salary to be earned in US let’s say in California or San Francisco or NYC to maintain a upper middle class lifestyle of a person in Chennai.

Thanks for sharing very useful inf 🎉

I appreciate your effort to talk about this which many can relate to their life. Can you post video on estate planning and trust?

Please answer my question. What makes people to stay abroad with so much of struggle when there is comfort in India?

Truly said sain,living in abroad is kind of,you sacrifice something and get something else,life is not as easy for everyone.simply i can say for ppl dream about US "That side of land is greener than this side."its been more than 15 yrs living here still i don't feel comfortble in US..wherever you go Hometown is always a best place.. Reply

$8 in ppp its coming around 190 rupees. Similar price range

U guys are lucky in our place a normal veg soup is 10 dollars

Education related post pa...detail video needed about visa what are all there

I completely agree with what you said in this video and the previous video. I couldn’t afford to stay at home . So working. It helps in having a schedule/ time management/ self care etc . Please include the huge daycare expenses here and the difficulty in getting medical appointments. I never knew it before coming here . I had N number of instances in which my health issues got cured by itself before the doctor appointment date . The difficulty in buying generic prescription medication from pharmacy , waiting for doctors appointment date with home remedies.

Few points from Indian couple (both are working).. We have domestic help for vessel washing and mopping the floor. That's what most of them have here. Very few percentage People will have cook.

Very useful and clearly explained you both are... super 👍🔥👍...

What a transparent share? Beautiful video sain

Life abroad both have to contribute in household work. Children valakarathum conscious ha irrukanum. Lonelyness irrukum.What she says is true.

At last, viewers mind: sainthavi akkavayum kovapaduthi pathityae paratai” ( patha vaechtiyae paratai) Totally just kidding sis. Love you and Anna always. Take care.

Started watching your videos

I can relate myself with ur words

Highly recommend new comers who are planning to come or thinking to come abroad especially their parents to watch this useful frankly spoken video for sure. Thank you Saindhavi to you and your husband truly relate to every single word you spoke 🙏🤝It is definitely not a cake walk reality hits very hard that too when you are in abroad ennadhan homework A-Z pannitu vandhalum out of syllabus inga roimbavey athikama parpoim kathukkuvoim. 😊

Please talk about forming a trust. We have done a will but wonder why we have to create a trust.

Can you please give more info on forming trust

Way of conveying is nice

Hi Sainthavi, your videos are so close to my heart. I'm a domestic engineer, Some how I feel so depressed here in NJ. winter makes worst. what to do?

Hi sister, saw ur both videos .no words..ovaru words um 200 %unmai..atleast ovvaru visayam kandippa link agum indha video va USA irundhu parkiravangaluku also outside USA..part 2 anna solra annaithu ennakaga solra mathri irundhadhu..(12:30 to 12:46 and 21:20 to 21:37) anna konja pesunalum correct ah solranga..thank you anna...those points I can relate myself...also worrying for that..as u said he buy what I want ..never involve myself anything..feeling very low..I'm H4 dependent so oorla ellarum job poga solranga ana EAD matter solli puriya vaika mudiyala...sister neenga sonna andha "Should prepare" ithula avalon meaning iruku I understood...Thank you sooooo much for this video...expecting more akka..keep smile❤

Hello San you were 200% correct whatever you said . I don’t really understand how people correctly misunderstand such a brutally honest statement. Always some people like fake things . People please understand it’s not India vs America . It’s expectation vs reality Her whole point is to create awareness about the ground reality of US life for the new comers not for the ones who have faced all the struggles and have been successful here .many people including myself thought US as heaven like shown in GVM movies but in reality if you are starting from scratch you have to face lots of struggles from the commute via car pool, running to Indian stores n Walmart n Costco saving and counting money do your own household works etc. vs in India if you are in a middle class still you have more sophisticated lifestyle . Of course in US over a period of time when you gain experience or you get used to this kind of lifestyle then you are all set .

We can relate it dear

Talk about you settlement plan akka...? USA or India what's your plan!!?

I live here in US on my own I had to vomit today due to food some mess up. I had to cleanup washbasin after sometime when I felt better

when your property tax is 11000$ per annum since you are having computer knowledge why not you doing some job to reduce your housband financial expences. but it is your persional option.

Where are you going to settle after retirement???

Sr parents suffered lonely only six months allowed stay there America Sr parents pedekali lot of parents suffered in India my sister had 3 sons but they suffered in India with I’ll health ( sons in us)

Hello akka. I randomly came across your videos and could really relate myself with your POVs. Felt like talking to a sister/friend. I’m newly married and I’m moving to USA with my husband who’s in H1B. Can you please put a video about setting up and starting up a life in US as a new comer.

Why are Indian ladies finding managing home and feeding the family so difficult because we stick on to the same dosa, idly and other things where ever we go. Look around your American neighbours they don’t spend too much time on food and are healthier than most of the Indian ladies ( they can hike a mountain ) our Indian staple is not as healthy as we proudly think . Our Indian ladies will be really empowered when we learn to put proper protein , carbs and fibre as westerners( grill some fish or chicken, salad and lil amount of carbs) which can be made in 15 minutes. Most of us spoil our next generation also by giving the same time consuming unhealthy Indian food . I have two daughters and I teach them to make a healthy plate with in 10 minutes so that they can focus on their other aspect of life . If I say this many of our fellow Indian ladies get offended. I live in Uk and my girls are very happy with my healthy simple cookings and they are not particular about rasam, sambar etc 😂. True women empowerment comes when you spend less time in kitchen . My perspective

Superb 🎉

Akka very useful advice

Here domestic help pay rises to 15000 rs. Current charge 15000 rs for 2 months.

Have a suggestion - it’s ok to give examples of how foreign applicants misuse the system but don’t say you know them 😊… uscis has a watch around all sorts of information.. unfortunately people think ICE or USCIS won’t investigate.

Mam neenga sonneenga la " Enaku vera option illa baby illaya nu ketaanga adhunala babies" nu "Actually en pasanga kitta marriage pannika vendaam nu solren, ready aana mattum Pannu" apdinu Apdi thaniya irukuradhu okay or babies vendaam nu ninaikraanga avunga thappa Namma parents kaga yaarume babies pethuka maataanga Avunga solranga apdinu yaarume pethuka maataanga Maybe silar dependency kaaga apdi solluvaanga

Now only I am watching your channel, I watched both videos, but after hearing all, this is the reason why hippie culture was created and same india leave family become samiyar, I don't what not able to process, as now I haven't face any of that, but one thing I can get from the video is , if you stay back n your home country with good education job Or business try grow that, be a lion in your own dent.

Very good upload. May I know which state you are in?

Dry clean pattu sprees only 120 rs only in Mumbai

Intha video last year potrudha nan inga vandhurukamaten

I am surprised you complain about life abroad when absolutely everything you can imagine is available when it comes to food entertainment etc. and staying connected to loved ones is so easy with current technology. There are people who came to US more than 50 years ago when even Indian grocery was hard to find and Indian restaurants hardly any. Phone calls to home country were so expensive.I find your complaints very annoying when all you have to do is shell out some money to get the labor you need

why you speak broken english and tamil. very hard to listen

Wish you happy life

It’s a shame that you are unable to handle any negative comment, you don’t have the maturity to be on social media at all. Please grow up , when will you NRI’s stop the dollar 💵 to rupee conversion and say idli costs rs.750

Mam Neenga sonnadhu seriously true, woman actually do double the job when it comes to handle the family and job Epadi panraanga apdinu naa niraiya naal yosichirukken Oru silaruku family support irukkum Maid kuda vachikkalam Neenga yaen Mam India laye settle aagala? Unga old videos paakala Ninga abroad la irukka mukkiyamaana reason?

Are you planning to come India??

Finally the school fees.. namma evlo save pannalum.. mothama we are paying to school.. tution.. etc

31:00 750 rupees ah? 14 pieces ghee idly

Life in u s romba hastam appa kadavula 😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢

why cant you get your EAD

Now a days india has more skilled worker, i know many of my friends are unable to migrate in India, becauss they cannot get the jobs, (even for the salary that they convert from USD to INR using purchasing power parity)

30:05 9 lakhs property tax ah?🤷‍♂️ Unga own house ah madam?

Are you trying to justify women should stay at home? I usually like your videos. But the two videos are really judgemental, sterotypical and conveys an ungrateful tone.

You DON'T have to lecture people living in India.. Its you who choose to live abroad for money we are content in India and we want to pay our taxes to India not to any foreign land.. India is my mother land.. Dont sit somehwere and lecture us.. You left India for your life style and money.. We arent crazy for that living....

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Maam - surely your perspective seems selfish, outside in. You said it was you and your husband’s decision to move there. Why should your parents suffer for this? When they are sick, it’s basic to expect to you as a son or daughter to be around to atleast admit them in a hospital. Your childcare, on the other hand is YOUR responsibility. You moved there knowing the lifestyle. You think travelling there 24 hours at 50? It is their CHOICE.

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U want only benefits of staying abroad without any hardships .. every one has a choice and u made yours. Parents need not take care of your kids and help you after a certain age...but you as their child definitely have responsibility to your parents...thats the least you can do to them ...coz they will not leave you on streets or give you up for adoption like most Americans do 8f they can't afford children..

If we stop living an Indian way in a foreign country most of the work is done for example the Indian meals and Indian pooja and other things are too complicated . I focus on my family’s health. Regular exercise and kids education. Not much of tradition followed and life comparatively easy.. look at the way English ladies are managing. They don’t spend much time in kitchen. Follow that and half of the problem is solved

Every expenditures are met by her husband. My husband and me are working. I can’t imagine ladies sitting in house .

Is Sainthavi is only a home engineer or also doing job outside the house ? Her mental suppression is because of doing house engineering. She has to go for at least a small job , part time . After the children grows to 8 to 10 yrs old, she can go for job . Her husband has encourage her to go to job. How many years she is in H4 . She has to study , do courses and go for job. Women are not slaves in home deceiving themselves as engineers.