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American Girl Doll Haul We Purchased...From a Hoarder?

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The exciting part of this video? We got lots of cool things for our dolls at a pretty good price?
The not-so-great part of this video? Getting those cool things brought me face to face with doll addiction (or shopping addiction or hoarding...) and it was very sad. My father was a hoarder (of books and paperwork rather than dolls) so I have experienced the impacts of hoarding firsthand.
I have intentionally not shared any photos from the seller's public listing. And I've waited a while to post this so that it's less likely a viewer could identify the seller (we've since been in four different states, so where we got the items shouldn't be evident). My intent in mentioning the details I did share about the seller is not to shame them or to reveal their identity. It's to point out the very concerning reality that this hobby becomes something unhealthy for some people and to encourage each of us to ask the important questions about our own collecting to determine if it is problematic. I want each of us to enjoy these beautiful dolls in healthy ways that enhance our lives and if that ceases to be the case, it's time to pause, reevaluate, adjust, and maybe even consider professional help.
Thank you, as always, for sharing your time with me and for your kindness and support. It means a ton!
-Kristie
agtakesover@gmail.com

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@clairep3688 Год назад

You should probably call child protective services if you haven’t already, and you don’t need to say publicly whether or not you did for your/ their privacy. But yeah they can help, since there was a kid living there and there were mouse droppings so it’s a health concern. They won’t put the child in care unless it’s absolutely necessary, and they’ll try to get the parents and the kid some help dealing with all this stuff.

@firecracker3911 Год назад

So many people really do have shopping additions. Thank you for taking this subject seriously.❤

@agtakesover Год назад

It really is a problem. It can strain partnerships, impact children, create shame and defensiveness... we don't tend to make light of drug or alcohol addiction, but as a society for some reason we downplay the destructiveness of problematic shopping.

@bethbacarella Год назад

I completely agree re: shopping addiction. Thank you for addressing this. As the comment below says, I would also be concerned about bed bugs. I've only had one run-in with bed bugs in my life, and it all turned out fine, but it was so traumatizing that I will never, ever go into a hotel again without checking under the mattresses. I can imagine that a situation like this could have put you at risk as well.

@agtakesover Год назад

@@bethbacarella definitely! My father was a hoarder and as a senior citizen, when he'd been living alone 4 years and had accumulated a ridiculous amount of paperwork and books (what he hoarded) it got to the point where he wouldn't let anyone in. He got bed bugs and wouldn't let someone in to treat it. The entire thing was kind of a nightmare, so we definitely inspect things thoroughly!

@bethbacarella Год назад

@@agtakesover Oh, wow. Yes, your situation was much more traumatic than mine, so I am quite sure that you are very, very careful. And now I also see why you wanted to take a moment to address the hoarding issue.

@agtakesover Год назад

@@bethbacarella yep... as a child I never really thought of my dad is a hoarder because our house was never more clever than any other house I visited. It was only after he and my mother divorced and he was left to his own devices and his book collecting and paper hoarding went unchecked that I realize what an issue it was for him.

@nanasewdear Год назад

What a terrific score! There is so much temptation to overshop. It can be really difficult for folks with OCD or other mood disorders.

@agtakesover Год назад

You are absolutely right. And unlike some addictions, it is so socially acceptable that it's easy to go undetected or untreated.

@starryeyeschick Год назад

Rebecca has had three beds - the pink one, a white version of the pink one (beforever), and the current gold frame version. I have the one you got, but honestly love them all. The Dolls Doing Good shirt was a benefit sale promo a few years ago.

@agtakesover Год назад

That's right - I forgot about the middle bed. I'm glad we were able to get the one Grace wanted, and the bedding brightened right up when I washed it :-)

@joannye2871 Год назад

Thanks for insightful intro…I always hesitate in situations where items come from less than clean environments as I fear bedbug eggs , etc. This group of items would be sold on eBay and other sites for a considerable markup. You did very well! I thoroughly enjoy your videos. I am a retired teacher and have only done restoration doll collecting.

@agtakesover Год назад

Very valid concerns. We generally inspect pretty thoroughly before bringing stuff in, because a good deal isn't worth that hassle. Out of curiosity, do you do color restoration for older, faded dolls?

@fthurman Год назад

re Kit's stuff - you got Kit's Scooter Outfit. And $25 is a SCREAMING deal - hats often end up crushed.

@agtakesover Год назад

Yeah, the seller actually had two of that outfit so we got to pick the better shoes and the better hat. It's really cute!

@fthurman Год назад

@@agtakesover that's fantastic, I'm glad that you got that opportunity! I don't know if its the SoCal heat or what, but a fair amount of our AG shoes are not aging well. Some it's stuff I can fix, like the heel coming off from the main shoe part, and others not so much, like the surface flaking and peeling. I appreciated how you began the video as well. I think that it's a lot more common in the doll community than folks realise, and some of the "joking" is that "haha oh :(" kind of joking folks do when it really IS a problem. I recall being on the boards in the 00s and women saying about how they're hiding their purchases from their husbands - people would laugh but it always made me feel so *sad*.

@agtakesover Год назад

@@fthurman this! 1000% this. We cloth diaper our little one and we are in some cloth diapering groups on Facebook. There are so many people in those groups who are legitimately addicted to buying cloth diapers for their children. People who have 1000 cloth diapers. It's problematic spending, they're hiding purchases from their spouses, they are lying to their partners, and when they share this... people egg them on or make jokes. It really is very sad.

@bethbacarella Год назад

Kit's Scooter Outfit was a screaming deal. Wow!

@agtakesover Год назад

@@bethbacarella :-) it'll be great for spring!

@michelleshouseofminiatures Год назад

You bought so many great items, I love love Kit’s scooter dress and hat! Thanks for sharing the distressing situation with the hoarding. I’ve never been in a home that’s as bad as you described but it’s very sad.

@agtakesover Год назад

Yeah - it was definitely a day of mixed feelings. And I hesitated to share that story because I don't want anyone to think I'm sharing for likes or whatever. My dad was a hoarder, though. And there is also a LOT of unhealthy spending in the doll collecting community that doesn't get discussed so I wanted to at least mention it. On the lighter side, I'm very excited to put Kit's dress on someone. Does it read more spring or fall to you?

@michelleshouseofminiatures Год назад

@@agtakesover I’m glad you did mention it. For Kit’s dress I know it has Fall colors but I use it as a Spring outfit. With a jacket it could definitely be Fall too!

@agtakesover Год назад

@@michelleshouseofminiatures Yeah, I definitely think of it as a spring outfit but I was thinking if styled right it could work for fall. I guess we'll see in September lol

@cindyeisenberg8367 Год назад

I have schizoaffective disorder, which is a very bad mood disorder. I was into buying everything that comes out. But, I had a flood in my condo and have to replace a lot of stuff at once, not related to the flood that broke. After buying the Janie and Jack items, pajamas on Ebay, and Molly’s dog for 15 dollars. I have quite a bit and am slowing down on buying for my dolls. Now, that I have realized I don’t need everything, I will have more room for the dolls that I have and their accessories and clothing. When I started collecting American Girl, I gave away all of my Our Generation dolls and clothing to someone who would enjoy them more. There were 3 dolls and probably 50 outfits and 12 pairs of extra shoes. It’s bad enough that I have to keep dolls and beds in both of my bedroom and plastic containers of items in my spare room. So, I have to go through my closets, drawers and cabinets and get rid of things that I don’t need, that have accumulated over the years. The last thing I want is rats 🐀. They are disgusting and I don’t want them crawling around on my things. Besides, they can chew a doll up. I know that I was using the dolls for emotional support and I didn’t empty my closets out when I should. So, I can relate to the hoarders. Also, my brother-in-law had a traumatic childhood. So, while he brought home an great salary, he filled his whole vacation house up and his regular house has a lot of clutter. So much so, as he can’t fix the water heater or air conditioner. He was from the country. So, he wouldn’t be afraid of of “the critters”. But, my sister wouldn’t like them. Maybe, that’s why she doesn’t go to the vacation house.

@agtakesover Год назад

Thank you so much for being willing to share. Obviously these dolls serve a lot of purposes in our lives - creative outlets, emotional support, etc. And there's nothing wrong with that, but you know firsthand that sometimes things cross a line and or approach to then can create more negatives than positives. I'm glad you're finding a healthy middle ground where having fewer dolls and accessories allows you to enjoy the ones that you have more.

@cooldollstuff Год назад

My family constantly calls me a hoarder but my stuff is clean just not super organized I need to work on organizing and buying less but it's a struggle but I can throw things out and I do take care of things❤

@agtakesover Год назад

People really shouldn't throw around mental health diagnoses like that. It happens all the time and it's really not okay. If you don't believe you are a hoarder at all but just need to organize, feel free to check out the two videos I have on organizing your doll space(s) and I hope they help :-)

@melangellperry5984 Год назад

That was a nice haul you got. Some very nice items there.

@agtakesover Год назад

Thanks! It was definitely a memorable experience.

@lisbetsoda4874 Год назад

What a great bunch of treasures. So fun to see. Sad circumstances that you got them under. I have been to a home somewhat similar to the one you described, and walked away with a few good buys but sad.

@agtakesover Год назад

Perfectly said. I feel like it's not discussed openly very often because ppl prefer to make light of it.

@starryeyeschick Год назад

I have Rebecca’s phonograph - I got it used, and yes, the album spine is a bit broken. I still enjoy it! One of my favorites.

@agtakesover Год назад

I just took it out of the box and set it up in a temporary space today :-)

@jadestarletia Год назад

As someone who struggled with mental illness for a long time and recovered a few years ago, I feel bad for the family. But I'm glad that you and your wife found some cool stuff. I also like that there are older collectors like you, proving I'll NEVER get too old for American Girl dolls. Some of the things you said were funny, such as when you talked to the American Girl toy dog as if he or she was alive, either like in toy story or a real dog. :)

@agtakesover Год назад

I'm glad you enjoyed the video. My father was a hoarder, so I definitely do understand that kind, caring, otherwise functional people can struggle in very specific ways because of mental health issues. I hope that I have not been disrespectful or come across as judgy because, like you, I genuinely feel bad for the family. Also, you definitely never get too old for dolls! I didn't even get into them until a few years ago, actually :-)

@jadestarletia Год назад

@@agtakesover I'm not offended. You didn't come across as judgmental to me. A lot of people struggle like that and I can tell you meant no harm and wanted people struggling like that to get help. I'm sorry about your dad. I hope he got help. My dad and I don't get along that well. Most discussions start out well but nearly always turn into a fight at some point.

@agtakesover Год назад

@@jadestarletia My dad has since passed, but we did find a compromise - a storage unit to put all his precious papers in so that we could get in and do some repairs to his house. He was good man and a dedicated father, but he had an irrational attachment to certain stuff the rest of the world collectively agrees belonged in the recycling bin. I'm sorry about your strained relationship with your father.

@jadestarletia Год назад

@@agtakesover Thanks. I'm sorry about your loss. I'm glad you and your dad got a long well and he was a kind person and you were able to figure things out.

@paulettepalmer4860 Год назад

Great haul and no shipping or tax costs!!🙂

@agtakesover Год назад

Yes! I love local lots!

@AGZoeEve Год назад

Congrats on a terrific haul! It’s a bonus that you could help eliminate some of their clutter.

@agtakesover Год назад

Thanks! The sad part was that they seemed to have replaced it with another frenzied collection so I'm not sure the clutter was impacted. But I wish that family the absolute best. Compulsive shopping and/or hoarding are really hard. (bonus entry noted)

@starryeyeschick Год назад

I love the wheaten terrier - my mixed breed childhood dog looked similar. Someday maybe I’ll get him. Ugh, I do feel like a doll hoarder. I’ve been collecting extensively since I was a child. I try to keep everything organized and don’t feel overwhelmed yet. But it brings me joy. I don’t buy just to buy.

@agtakesover Год назад

I also think there's a distinction between shopping addiction and hoarding. Both are super problematic and sometimes they overlap, but not always. What are your favorite ways to enjoy your dolls?

@starryeyeschick Год назад

@@agtakesoverlike you, I love setting up scenes and taking photos. I enjoy traveling with dolls, at least I did pre-pandemic - haven’t traveled much lately. I create my own characters and write for them. I used to make videos, stopmotions and things, although I don’t have time for that with a toddler.

@agtakesover Год назад

@@starryeyeschick my father was legitimately a hoarder and had irrationally strong emotional attachment to the papers and books he hoarded. I think the inability to let go of anything, an irrational attachment, and an inability to stop even when the clutter impacts quality of life and even safety are telltale signs of hoarding. Secretive and excessive spending can be a sign of shopping addiction. If you get joy from your dolls and none of these things ring true for you then I'd say it's a healthy hobby/passion.

@starryeyeschick Год назад

@@agtakesover I Have family members who are hoarders, for sure!

@agtakesover Год назад

@@starryeyeschick It's tough. When I was growing up I never realized my dad was a hoarder or had a peculiar compulsion for buying books he never read. I later realized my mom countered a lot of that so it wasn't until after their divorce and when he was living alone for years that it really got bad. I'm sorry this is something we both have experience with.

@louwrenemostert40 Год назад

Hi there, i recently subscribed to your channel so im going thru your videos and i have to say i love your channel, i think its because we are somewhat around the same age, don't get me wrong i like some off the younger youtubers channels also but your channel is just a tadd more serious i guess, i live in South Africa so we don't get Ag dolls here except if one import them yourself and i really don't wanna venture down that road again its a lot off trouble and the cost of import is just rediciolous so ive found Og dolls, im not a serious collector tho i buy the dolls mostly secondhand so i can customize them, been trough a ruff time recently myself, struggling with depression and the one og doll i recieved from one off my friends had a verry deep cut in her frindge, probable stumbled into a child with a scissor, anyway it was during the time i was in a deep depression again and i started fixing up this doll, i used yarn and decided to put some long braids into the pieces that had been cut, and ended up putting some pieces of ribbon and small charms that meant something to me in her hair, she became my therapy and now im trying to make a habbit off putting stuff in her hair, it really helped me and im thinking of creating ooak dolls for people who struggle with mental health issues and just for basically anyone one who struggle with any kind off related things. I am actually a seamstress and ive made my doll the cutest little hippy outfit and the outfit really matches her haistyle now and i have to say it makes me feel a whole lot better, i know that i still need professional help with my depression but it makes me handle every day a little bit easier and im happy about that, and i really enjoy your channel.

@agtakesover Год назад

I'm so glad you're enjoying the channel! And I completely get what you're saying about your dolls helping with your depression. In some cases the dolls can be part of the problem (with compulsive spending or hoarding, for example) but in others, they can be part of the solution (adding a bright spot to your day, giving you a healthy escape and creative outlet, for example). And I know they are no substitute for therapy and/or medical treatment when those are needed, but I do agree they can be a good additional tool to help with certain mental health challenges. I hope this channel will be a small source of joy or positivity when you need it :-)

@louwrenemostert40 Год назад

@@agtakesover defenately, you seem like a serious collector but you still have a fun side to you aswell and i like that. Thnk you

@lnp102 Год назад

The Dolls Doing Good shirt was an item you could purchase from one of the Benefit Sales (I don't remember the year). Your Sonali doll with the brown shirt and flower crown is absolutely gorgeous! Is she a re-wigged 62? And where did you find that beautiful wig?

@agtakesover Год назад

Thank you! I think I did figure out that shirt was from the benefit sale, but after I'd already edited the video lol. And yes, Brooklyn is a rewigged 62. I just love her! I don't remember the name of her wig, but we got it from zazou custom dolls on etsy.

@tashasdollsag Год назад

What a great haul! Thanks for sharing ☺️

@agtakesover Год назад

Sure thing!

@steph585 Год назад

Interesting story!

@agtakesover Год назад

It was indeed.

@tluderman77 Год назад

I'm not a big person of knowing what goes together and what doesn't put that kit outfit looks like that would be good for that fall sweater I could be wrong I can't even dress myself and style

@agtakesover Год назад

I think the kit outfit could read fall or spring depending on how it's styled (or just depending on the photo shoot lol)

@someoneelse9616 Год назад

I feel like the seller and you guys should have meet in a public place/ public parking lot. I don’t know how much stuff there is but I feel like that would have been the safest way for both you guys. I guess the silver lining is that you know what condition the collection was in so you can wash a sanitize everything.

@agtakesover Год назад

They had so much stuff there's no way we could have met somewhere else. And things did not look bad at all from the pictures that were posted publicly. This was quite a ways away from where we live, so it would've been a real bummer to just turn around. It all worked out in the end, but it was definitely shocking perand yes, things definitely got sanitized!

@cassiefriedman1446 Год назад

Thank you for taking the hording and the meantal health issues very seriously and it is a very serious topic and this was such a great haul you got some really good deals

@agtakesover Год назад

Thank you. I hesitated because I never want ppl to think I'm coming from a place of "let me talk about controversial things to get more likes and watch hours." My father was a hoarder so it hit a personal note. And I see a LOT of evidence of problematic/addicted spending and of hoarding in doll groups I'm in but it's seldom taken seriously it seems.

@Prepwithane 10 месяцев назад

Taking into account these people’s home you described, what you got is all in great condition.

@agtakesover 10 месяцев назад

Facts!

@Alexa_s_life. Год назад

The merry and bright gown looks like something out of a Disney movie.

@agtakesover Год назад

It really does!

@tinmanlover1994 Год назад

You should look for mice chew marks on items and discoloration could be from mine

@agtakesover Год назад

Thankfully there was nothing wrong with any of it (other than these yellowed blanket which whitened just fine when I washed it). Whew!

@irishseadollies Год назад

some real scores here! great haul.

@agtakesover Год назад

Thanks! It would have been easy to spend more but we went in with a budget so that was our saving grace lol

@juliella86 Год назад

What a lovely haul! Hopefully the seller uses the money and. purging to get her life together. So sad. Do you think the person displayed signs of dementia?

@agtakesover Год назад

No, definitely not dementia. Not that I'm qualified to make these conclusions at all, but as I'm thinking back on that house and the situation, it was more likely shopping addiction than hoarding. My father was a hoarder and had irrational emotional attachments to the things he hoarded. It distressed him to part with things as insignificant as a random newspaper article he'd cut out months ago with the intent of sending it to one of us kids (or even some memo about a workplace meeting...from the job he hadn't worked at for a decade). This seller didn't exhibit those signs. They had the clutter I associate with a hoarder. And the neglect of the home that can accompany hoarding. But they didn't seem overly attached to the items. Compulsive/addicted shopping definitely were at play, though. It really was sad, and I think that's more common than the doll collecting community likes to admit. From what the seller shared, they're using the money to fund the next fixation (squishmallows - we saw about 100 of them in one room). 😞

@juliella86 Год назад

@@agtakesover Isn't human behavior fascinating. I loved psychology in nursing school. Regarding squishmallows....you've got to be kidding me! Sigh.

@agtakesover Год назад

@@juliella86 It's Beanie Babies all over again. There's a craze for every era ;-)

@mandyandadamamericangirldo6204 Год назад

Thats awesome love this

@agtakesover Год назад

Thanks so much!

@cassiefriedman1446 Год назад

Bitty Baby stuff does fit American Girl dolls

@agtakesover Год назад

Yep. I find that sometimes if the BB top is long-sleeved, the sleeves run a bit short on the 18" dolls. But in general, they fit fine. :-)

@user-yt6bu6st9j Год назад

Why are you disparaging the family you purchased your dolls and AG items from in the beginning of this video? You don't know their back story. Just be grateful. I have learned the hard way never to second guess. You just never know. Be kind.

@agtakesover Год назад

I'm not disparaging them at all. My father was a hoarder, so I have firsthand experience with it. I wasn't unkind or judgmental about it. It is unfortunate but I made a point to share nothing that would reveal their identity. I'm sorry you feel I was disparaging.

@user-yt6bu6st9j Год назад

@@agtakesover I just know as a nurse everyone's story is their story. You just never know. I just have learned the hard way to leave that information out. For myself it never served any one anyway and it hurt the other person or persons. There is too much hurt out there right now.. Thank you for taking the time and sharing your story for understanding.

@agtakesover Год назад

@@user-yt6bu6st9j it is definitely their story, which is why I omitted any info that would identify them. But it's also the story of a lot of other folks. Shopping addiction and hoarding are real problems in the doll collecting community and ppl often make light of it. That's why I addressed it. Thank you for taking the time to read my response.