we dont have to wait 2 or 3 years to be closed with our neighbours.. here usually when you just move in, you will have a neighbour that come to say hello and some of them even bring a food.. or vice versa.. its already a culture here..
Usually when come to Ramadan, we do share foods and exchange foods with out neighbours. When come to festivals we also give gifts to our neighbours to show our respect each other. That is how Malaysian with each other.
Yup but in defense, it actually works if the husband is older than the wife. Because technically we are calling a boy/man older than us 'Abang'. Same like 'Pakcik' which means Uncle to someone much older than us. Most of Malays couple are used to the nickname 'Abang' after married. But sooner will changed to 'Ibu' (Mommy) or 'Ayah' (Daddy) if they had children.
For all the questions you asked, 'is that normal?'. Hmmm.. yeah, i can say all are norms,though not all 100% people do those. Sometimes other family members also named the baby. The parents will filter which is the best and only meaningful names be picked. For the neighbour part, you can relate that with the Petronas raya ad with a bird singing.so yeah, we do share food especially during celebrations. it varies sometimes for the time to get close with our next doors. we can get close under a year or sometimes it took yearsss...or at times, never..(but very small % for never). 😅. And we got close through FOOD!! 😄. For us, neighbours are our extended friends n families. We can help each other when needed.
I share foods with neighbors almost every now and then. weekly or something. it's super common especially outside of the city. neighborhood spirit is way stronger there. part of our culture. even if you're not that close to each other. doesn't need a strict condition. we already exchanged gifts right away after just moved in
The majoriti race in Malaysia is Malay, and majoriti Malay is Islam. In Islam , we are teached to share foods and help each other. In Malay tradition too teach us to do so. That is why we keep on doing that to neighbour.
As for naming our babies, usually we do take suggestion from our elders (wisemen, imams, ustaz),parents, friends but the ultimate right is for us to name the babies.....usually our name is of arabic roots with good meaning behind the names, but there are also modern names and classic names choices.... We want good meaning for the name as in our culture and also in the prophets sunnah it is the name that you call a person is a prayer for them .... Like the name Nuha (meaning intelligence) so when we call the person nuha, it means we r praying for God to grant her intelligence....
The place i live have a community that's responsible about this townhouse. Mostly the dads 😂 My dad would have meeting at the park with all the dad from here every friday. We would held occasions when it's raya, Chinese new year to celebrate with our neighbours. They hang out together too like play bowlings, go to eat foods together, play golfs and more 😂 Literally good friends and it's so fun to see them ☺️
Hi Phezz & Miles.. It was the Malay side dishes, And Abang in this video a call for Husband .. Hope both of you enjoyed this video Salam dari Malaysia 🇲🇾🌹
It was common when I was young to exchange food during ramadhan for breaking fast. I remember sending trays of food to the neighbours with my cousins & bringing back food from them. Nowadays in general we will buy cookies, cakes, traditional delicacies and chocolates to give our neighbours especially when we return from our travels.
In Malaysia, it's a norm that young boys of different races, Malay, Indian, Chinese and other ethnic races play soccer/football together in a field whether in a village or small town.
Names of the siblings in Malaysia, usually have a theme or related to each other, eg. Starting with letter like A, Azam, Anas, or name of the Islamic months or days, Rejab, Khamis and so on.
Etiqa is an insurance company Abang is a term of respect/endearment. Literally means older brother but typically used to address a male who is slightly older or a male spouse Giving food to strangers is part of the culture. Not just neighbours.
During Ramadhan we share food with neighbours for breaking of fast. Neighbours are consider nearest relative, for immediate family could be living far.
"Abang" IS the word to refer to older brother but in this context it is use as an endearment and respect towards the husband who is the head of the family. This is due to the fact that we are still very much a patriarchal society where the men are head of families (less strict in current times especially among the ethnic I am born into). On Hari Raya, there is usually a tussle where to spend the first day of the celebration. Yes, our neighbours ARE like that. And, no... we don't need years to do that. I bake once in a blue moon and I would just pack some to our neighbours. Our neighbours change often but if I feel like giving, I would regardless of who they are. Of course we take into consideration if our neighbours has diet dos and don'ts (no pork (Muslims) or no beef (Hindus) or vegetarian (Hindus/Buddhists)).
1) Most asian cultures use familial terms to call other people as a form of endearment. 'Abang', 'Ko ko', ' Mat cha'. In a way, you're indirectly telling that person that they're like family to you. Our cultures tend to have the community mindset, and in our community, everyone is family. Thus, neighbours are also family. So it is relatively easy to make friends with them. But of course, not all families are great with each other. So there are neighbors that can't stand each other as well. We're still human in the end. 2) Names are important to us. We have a saying:, 'Nama itu doa', which translate to 'A name is a prayer (or a wish)' You'd give someone/something a name that you wish that person to become in the future. For example, 'Arif' = wise, 'ikhsan' = excellence, 'ikhlas' = sincere, 'Kamal' = virtuous, and so on. Thus, names, in the Malay culture at least, should have meaning behind it. After Islam became the main religion for the Malays, most of the time they use Arabic words for their names. This means that you could take names of the people in this comment section and ask Google to translate it, and you'd get its meaning in English. But there are also people who use older names which usually are just names of things in nature. Examples: 'Helang Putih' = white eagle, 'Matahari' = sun, 'Mawar' = rose, 'Melati' = jasmine. And then there's also some who take names of famous people. My cousin's name is Genghis Khan. His older brother's name is Iskandar Zulkarnain (Alexander the great). My uncle named them after world conquerors. Btw, Etiqa (or the correct spelling is Etika) means Ethics. An apt name for an insurance company, I'd say. And my name means Warrior. Peace ✌️
In Ramadhaan, we exchanged food with our nearest neighbours or the neighbours we are close to. As long as it is Ramadhaan, we fooooood youuu... 🙆♀️❤ because feeding those who fast, is a good good good deed... to Jannah (heaven).
Brother, sister, aunty, uncle and many more ( Except mom n dad ) applied to almost everybody in Malaysia. I call a Chinese elderly man in my neighborhood as uncle coz I don't really know his name... I call a food vendor seller as a sister as a sign of respect even I knew her name... It's pretty common in Asia....
Abang is what we called an elder brother and others that are older.... It can also be used as as a term of endearment to your hubby, fiance or boyfriend, we also used other term of endearments like sayang, yang and words that adapted from english such as bie, hubby, dear, darl, ling etc....
You could take a look at how Malaysian's households cook. We don't make portions. We always cook more than needed, either to cover dinner as well or we keep the leftover in the fridge. Another option would be giving out food to neighbors. This is more commonly done by the elders compared to younger family, probably depends on financial situation (young couples may still be in the stage of stabilising career and whatnot, so they're more likely to portion their food).
I live in village. So we share food everyday. Sometimes they bought raw food, give it to us, we cook it and share it with them and vice versa. It is very normal among malaysian culture and also highly recommended in islam too.
abang can also be used as term of endearment. sometimes it is also used to address locals. for instant, a cashier or waiter, we call it abang or adik if he looks younger. this is more casual than addressing people sir which often used for formal environment. for woman we call it akak and again adik if she is younger. adik generally means a younger person/ younger sister or brother.
Normal here in Malaysia for elderly to name the baby... Doesn't matter if they grandparents or great grandparents even aunt, uncle even the brother can name the baby like my name, my elder brother name me.
My first son, I make sure I named him, my 2nd daughter was named by my mom in law and the 3rd n 4th are by me. The place to celebrate Eid usually creates tension between husband and wife.
As for tanjung it means cape in english, there are many places in malaysia that used that name such as tanjung karang, tanjung harapan (the places mentioned in the ad, both are in the state of selangor but more than 50km apart) .... as i have mentioned before in the tnb raya ad it is a custom for us to went back to our hometown for raya, and usually for married couples they have an agreement to went back to their hometown on alternate turns ie. This year my turn. Next year yours.... But in this ad it is a bone of contention for the wife when the hubby didn't want to go back to hers as last year they didn't go back to hers due to MCO.....
When I just move in to my new house, we already knew our nearby neighbours after the first month. I even made food and send to them from time to time, and they will do the same thing back. its a really common practice here in a community ☺️
Most people who live in landed places are like that on day 1 when you moves… but in places like condominium.. most people bought it for privacy rarely happen…
The grandparents just having fun picking up the names. It doesn't mean that the children are going to follow, but some do though. In terms of neighbourhood, it is normal here to befriend those who just move in the first few days. Then the relation will continue as times go along. The best encounter is to share food, other than smiles. We also have a neighborhood community group or association which will help a lot especially to combat breaks-in or burglary other than organizing sports or feast events every now and then. At least in my place here, we used to do that. Probably due to the teaching of Islam which says be good and nice to your neighbours. However there is a few choose to isolate themselves from the community group especially younger generation nowadays. Maybe when they grow older, they will definitely mix around better.
Food giving to neighbours are common in many countries in Asia. For Muslims ofcourse the practice is even further developed due to the idea of be good to thy neighbours and Ramadhan is month of good deeds and charity..we take this seriously and it doesn’t matter who is the neighbours like their religious background and all..ofcourse many non Muslims in Msia at times reluctant to give food to Muslim neighbours due to their uncertainty of which is halal which is not..but they will give something else like probably sweets or cookies which are safer food to give..but i think in modern generations the tradition is becoming less taken seriously...
For your question on how long do we stay in one place?.... Well, the longest is 36 years for me at the place i am staying now and the shortest is 6 months....but even though only 6 months, we r in good terms with the neighbours .... Here we even have whatsapp group for our neighbourhood or condo compound ..... We exchange gift/food for every celebration..... Some even brought foods for others if they knew is someone is incapable of cooking due to ilnesses etc.... During last MCO, my cousin's condo community arranged for then to take turn to buy food for breakfast etc to be put in the multi purpose room for the entire condo block to partake , this they say to help the roadside food sellers generate some income and also as alms giving...
Sorry late to the party, i was down the youtube rabbit hole, and saw this 2018 maybe raya video, that i remembered, it was sooo damn funny. Please react to Touch n Go - Iklan raya paling touching. Seriously guys 🙏🙏
Tanjung..cape..Tanjung karang is in selangor..Tanjung Harapan( cape Ricardo.i think) is either in Melaka or N.Sembilan.correct me if m wrong someone..so they are from different states..Raya festival .n bakik kpg( going back home town n family .is a big issue n important to us Malay.as we have clode family yies including the extended family flus this is tbe time of the year where we get to see our parents n siblings othrrwise it would be years as all have their own life to.lead n most probably move away...from homes
"Abang" in general means "older brother" however in verbal context, "BANG" is more commonly used for older brother while "A-BANG" is more affectionate. Also "Adik" just mean 'younger sibling' with no gender. If you want to be specific, you say "adik lelaki" for 'younger brother' and "adik perempuan" for 'younger sister'. Also with the naming, you don't have to follow your parents. It's normal for them to get excited but it's completely your right to name your own kids. They'd be really happy tho if you consider their ideas.
Its normal for the elderly named the newly born kids let alone their own grandchildren..but its not really compulsory as the grandparents only act as the advisor in the process. Nowadays most Malay kids have 3 names so its normal the parents and both grandparents to choose each names. Eg - Ahmad Razin Qidran bin Mohammad.
Well, excuse me for this late comment. Sharing food with neighbors during ramadan is also for expediency. Like neighbors with benefits. Say, everyone prepares one type of dish, then, one shares with all neighbors and normally, the receiving will also reciprocate by sharing his/her dish. So if you have 5-6 neighbors living closely, you will end up 5-6 dishes to be shared for break fast. Even though you only prepare one dish ONLY!
Etiqa translate to english is ETIQUETTE.. it just protocol or behaviour while you in certain event in the house.. similar when u did a party, u need a drink, without drink that is not a party..
my grandma never suggest a name, but we always suggest to her what to name our new members, she will give an advice like this name is not good, this name has bad meaning like that
There were normal practice in the past...Grandparents of the past gave good meaningful names ..preferably names of prophets,the Prophet's companions etc..
The elder just suggest the name..its up to you to used it the name or not..even my name my grandfather gave to me..my dad just agree with my grandfather😅😅😅
In Malaysia at least among the Malays, quite many of the younger generations tend to give their children longer names compared to their parents and forefathers. E.g,: Great Grandfather - Ahmad Grandfather - Ahmad Rizuan Father - Ahmad Rafiqul Fikri Son - Ahmad Roberto Daniel Suparman
The word abang to address an elder bro.others or one husband has to do with our culture n tradition... 1. Eldest are respected.n we are great at filial piety.. 2.Its considered rude to address someone older than yourself by their names only without..their 'status'. Thus an elder bro is called abang If u are older than.me i would call u abang miles if we are fren if not if we meet formally i would addtess u as Encik Miles.Mr..us malay are quite formal u see n hage lots of protocol mn socisl etiqutte to follow..
my name was given by my granduncle... but its common for parents to give names to their children here.. we have a person with 78 letters for a name, i feel pity for her.. "'Princess Aura Nurr Ermily Amara Auliya Bidadari Nawal El-Zendra"
Thus in Malaysia or when u are amo g the Malay community nnothers too i guess dont be suprise for eldeky women stranger to be called aunty or man call uncle Age is respected in msia n elsevwhere in asia n that inclufing how one is address..now abang as form of address for husband.in malay / muslim marriege/family the husband is the head of the family the captain so to speak.so he is to be respected as such.in everthing n the wife is to to obey/ follow him unless its against God 'laws.but that doest men the wife or women are inferior or oppress just different roles n responsibility in the relationship homes n family for eg man are to protect n provides for the family the women are there to be the companion thr support for the husband and the home maker..women are protected or suppose to ge in Islam..as womnen /wife are amanah( trust) from God and thus men are the husband are resoonsible for them in this world n hereafter n is answerable to God for them..oin the next world...
