You can still date men even if you are in your decenter men era. You just go into dating with a different mindset. You’re no longer in a desperation energy, looking for validation. You’re not heartbroken if he doesn’t text you back or if he doesn’t want to see you anymore. You’re just indifferent 😅you don’t care because your secure in yourself
Decentring men is about you and nothing to do with men. Relationships and your bond to a man is not important. It’s about coming to an understanding that you have a whole life outside of men and relationships with them and that your needs need to be nurtured more than your desire for a relationship. It’s about knowing you man not find the man you want or at all and being okay with that because you’ve built yourself and your community.
I’m currently decentering men, I’m still entertaining them but I make sure that if they brake my boundaries I waste no time in addressing it first hand and detach myself straight away . I also make sure I prioritise other things such as health and fitness goals/❤
I get that you have your own hobbies and activities but you also seek companionship but the reality is that, if you have a man because you seek love, affection and companionship, he's going to ruin it all for you. Why ? Because mxn are naturally born entitled. They feel entitled to your time, money, energy, attention, body, success, anything you can think of. If youre not careful, due to wanting companionship in your life, you can lose everything you've worked hard for. All because of a mxn. The women who I know have reasonably successful marriages ans relationships make sure to keep their men at a distance. They dont let them get too close cause they know and understand most mxn have black, dark energy.
not 2023 concubines lmaoooo. tbh I am a lover girl who is extremely sensitive. so to protect myself decentering men for me means not entertaining it at all. because it becomes something it doesn't need to be so quick! I decided to give dating a try again recently for a month or so, and my conclusion is that men present as everything you could ever want but slowly fade into the classic 'go with the flow' situationship talk. at that point its up to us to end it cos sadly they like what they've got but enjoy the non committal aspect and thats what I hate. they love holding us hostage in that space where they have access and benefits without the stability. theres nothing wrong with trying a relationship if it fails cool we move on but a lot of men seem to be afraid of just trying to be committed. and they specifically choose the girls who outline that thats not what they want
I think what you have desribed is having boundaries in interactions with men rather than decentering men. The idea kf decentering men is usually the first step to eventually decentering relationships.
I haven’t been through the entire video yet, but to the decenter men question, it doesn’t mean you don’t have men in your life at all. I believe that is an unrealistic expectation to impose on women generally. However, it does mean that you center yourself primarily.. anything else is secondary. It means men are not the center of your life, you are and God is if you’re religious. It means putting yourself first and foremost and not prioritizing the wants and needs of men over your own. So you can still date men and have men in your life.. as long as it does not supersede your desires for your life and your ambitions. Any man that is in your life should be adding to it and not draining you. If you determine that someone is draining you, that is when decentering comes in and you recenter yourself. We all fall short sometimes, but what matters is how you readjust. And that’s what I personally believe the decentering men movement is about. It’s not about men it’s about yourself.
I've taken a step back from a relationship. I'm just focusing on myself. I didn't realize that being single is still taboo, especially after a marriage is gone. No one knows you better than you! Go volunteer, get a hobby, etc. When it's time for a serious relationship, I know it will be on God's time, not mine. I know that you seek it and find it, or ask and receive, but you can't be eager to have it! That's how you end up with a long-term relationship with a "seasonal" person.
Man's perspective here. Decenter Men but only for a short term not long, because like it or not... we cannot cheat our natural human want for companionship, with one person, where there is mutual views/values/goals/attraction. Dare I say it hold onto such person for dear life if you find. I say short term because stay in that place for too long the outcomes likely won't be favourable. I sincerely hope you find the Man for you because life in my opinion is better with someone than without.
Did this for 2 years 😂 probably a bit too long but I felt better and actually met the love of my life now was not even looking for him or anyone tbh 🎉❤
I've been single for 6 years now. It's great. No stress, no drama, no lies, it's peace and quiet ! Also , relationship and marriage is not for everyone. If that's the case, every single person on this planet would be married or in a relationship.
And before you find that one person/woman you want in your life, what will you be doing to the countless other women you meet who are not "the one"? Anyway ladies please stay focused, don't be tricked by words, how long will we be tricked by their "sweet" yet empty words! Stand on business!!. Decentering these men is truly a movement. We will not put up with what our mothers, aunts and previous generations of women went through. Best way to start is refrain from hookup culture, it does not benefit women at all!Our bodies are temples! Do not lose focus ladies!
I decentered men my whole life and now I’m in a happy relationship ❤ he’s a very healthy minded man so naturally he was attracted to me who also was healthy minded. I didn’t have a talking stage I stayed single for years and became friends with him and eventually fell in love and he then courted me and asked my out. It works when you are not looking for love. I’ve never looked for love or gone on apps before to for love, feels unnatural
For someone that has de-centre men or whatever u do seem to talk about it a lot, if I didn’t know any better I would assume it was ur main focus this whole video was men men men, good men, bad men church men lol big up urself though.
Same like I don't get the obsession with every topic being about this... Like what type of person is she if she's keeps finding or attracting these men and don't tell me about the weight issue cuz she wasn't even that big to begin with 😂😂😂
