Andrew Pierce: 'I Met My Birth Mother & She Didn’t Want To Know Me' | This Morning 

Your two children and your five grandchildren are blessed to not have that person in their lives . You know the truth and can move forward and leave her in the murk behind .

That's sad , but maybe a blessing in disguise, who would want a parent with those thoughts

You are so fortunate that you were adopted, what a vicious comment she made

Horrific thing to say, glad you were cared for by someone else, with your children and grandchildren.

What a thing to say to a living person. Delia Morris

To lynn: You are a far better person than she is. I am so, so sorry that she treated you like that. Don't let her define who you are. ❤❤❤

I’m sorry you were treated that way. It had nothing to do with you it’s all about her mess and it’s her loss

She's probably lying about your father. Try finding him.

I’m so sorry that happened to you. I’m curious if you tried to introduce yourself to them and how they reacted?

very true i have a similar story

You too are a beautiful soul. I hope you meet your son and that you beat cancer! ♥

Kathaerine, I wish you every continued success in your life. You sound lovely and I am glad you have made the connection you have with your son and grandkids albeit at arms length. Ask, belive and recive. Visualise your remission. Visualise your meeting up in person happily. I wish you well. Truly. I also wish your son and his family happiness too.

Glad you were able to find your son in your lifetime. A Gift it is.

Alison Hammond has been chosen because of diversity, no such thing now as a white slim educated British man.

Good luck

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I suppose you can count yourself lucky that you weren't one of the four she kept, because in all honesty, the woman sounds like she has serious issues, and being brought up by someone like that destroys you in ways you can only imagine.

@@leaveittothediva Yes, I agree. Whilst I was being adopted/relinquished, my mother was actually pregnant with my full sister (which is unfathomable to me), she was one of the children they kept. By a chance in a million I had contact with this full sibling very briefly on FB and by all accounts she did not fare so well.

@@user-jh8sm2ph5e God love you, that's terrible. But believe me, it's something that doesn't surprise me one bit.

@@leaveittothediva Thank you for listening to me. All the best.x

God Bless!

Precious Love.

God bless you.

God bless you❤️🙏🏽

Would have been nice if she had informed her before she paid for the flight. It may have been her family stopping her.

@@user-pl3yo9cq5o No, they talked and the bio mom agreed to meet. But last minute, she (bio mom) had cold feet.

@@Ka-Iank exactly may have been family influences when they found out who was coming to visit.

@@user-pl3yo9cq5o I believe the bio mom didn’t want to face her mistake.

How sad.

Yes his adoptive parents must have been wonderful

Adoption is amazing. Can you imagine how unfortunate his life would’ve been if he were raised by his single mother? No father, no family unit. Children have a right to grow up in a family unit and adoption does just that.

He should have been happy with that.

My mum was the same, we met the child that was adopted several years ago now and it all went to well, I’m so happy for both my mum and her.

That’s extremely sad your parents forced you to give up your son. How traumatic 😢 and unfair. I’m sorry you have experienced that pain. I’m adopted and my birth ‘mom’ is awful. I had hoped she’d be someone kind like you. Your son is lucky to know you. ❤

So sorry you were forced by your parents to give up your son, that's dreadful

'There is no limit to love' .. Thankyou, i will try to remember that

As the 6th of 7, when I asked mom how She divided her live amongst us. She said Love doesn’t divide, it multiplies.

Adoptions can be open from the start, which is much more common now. That unlimited love, as you describe. Adoptions used to be closed & secretive, but that doesn't have to be the way are handled.

What role models you are!

So many mothers still desperate to rekindle their babies 🕯🕯🕯🙏🙏🙏🙏💐💐💐🌺

Adoption is a blessing in disguise in some cases but not every

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Brilliant story.

She was a special person who did the right thing for him

What a lovely son to have ❤

Exactly these programmes only focus on positive cases which are quite rare

@@joannegregory3024 for my sister she did not get to meet him but she found out he was doing very well she was told he was a very successful business man and was married with 3 children so she was so happy to hear that.

Very sad but he may well change his mind as he gets older . Hope so for your sister's sake .

@@mjones4083 she passed away but she was so happy to hear he was doing well I remember she was 16 and I was 14 she would ask me to hitchhike in the freezing cold of winter to go visit him she was allowed to do that for a year she had to have an adult sign for him to keep him nobody would do it.

There are real issues with children being adopted. AP has a "pro-adoption" story that centers his birthmother as bad and his adoptive parents as fabulous. This is one instance of a successful adoption placement. It doesn't take into account that most adoptees feel a tremendous sense of loss of identity and psychological issues from being separated from their birth mother. Society is responsible for the shame (he is older) surrounding illegitimate births/single mothers and the fact that the biological father gets to skip off without a care in the world. Despite AP's unhappy reunion with his birthmother, he still searched for her so he obviously wasn't a hundred percent fine with just being grafted onto his adoptive family's tree and wholly assuming their identity and history.

Sadly this was quite a problem during the war and the women took their secrets to the grave because of societal pressure. Very sad I personally know of two such women.

Very sad , but most are happy .

He could probably confirm who his birth father was by doing the Ancestry DNA test for £80.

Adoption is wonderful. Can you imagine the life of poverty and frustration he would’ve had being raised by a single mother? Adoption gives children a chance at a decent life with a mother and a father who want them. Another happy ending

Lovely man. Mx

Course you do 😂😂

I can appreciate his story but he is a horrible person and this story doesn't change that

Is it really nice it hasn't got care and compassion only for himself he was obviously adopted by very rich people who brought him up to be the snob he is now if you listen to anything he's saying for most things he says it's not about helping poor people it's like stamping on them never got a good word for anybody who is not a tory I feel sorry for him yes because that must have been quite awful for him I think lot of people would have a made out I didn't know him as well

@@user-iy1sx6wk9e Thank you for that info. People assume that just because a person has a posh-sounding accent they were born wealthy. If he is a Tory, he's got a right to his opinion and shouldn't be deplored for it, as some comments here have shown. Very sad. I believe what makes a person is how he behaves in life and this man has shown he comes from a good place.

He has lost trust in humanity. It's a primal wound. Rejection by his birth mother probably left him feeling unloved and unable to trust your love. I hope you can let him know you will always be there for him, whenever he's ready to talk. Tell him just how amazing he is and seek professional help from adoption counselling.

God bless you

He's angry, confused and you are the person he loves most, so he takes it out on you because he knows you won't hurt him. Please be patient with him and as another poster suggested, get some counseling to help you death with in a healthy way. When your son has battled his own demons, he knows you'll be there to bandage his wounds. ❤

Sending you both healing and prayers❤️🙏🏽

i feel enormous sadness that you triplets were separated and for so long. What was the world thinking in that time?

But the facts are you don't know where they are going. So you could be setting them up for a horific life. Selfless ? No,utterly selfish.

@@faydoveeasy to be so critical sitting here in 2024, but in the 1950s and 1960s it was a different story.

bmbutler: Perhaps. But those of us born before 1970--there was such thing as forced adoption, so it had nothing to do with the birth mother doing the best thing. It was forced, babies removed from the room the minute they were delivered. And then, people automatically assume that adoptive parents are all wonderful people. Some adoptive parents can be horrible so much that we break all contact with them!

Well said 👏

​@@rrickarrTwo I know of were adopted to mend marriages, but it didn't work.

He promoted the 💉

A nice man really! He and Angela Levin in the same boat degrading and lying on others. God doesn't like ulgy and he ain't to keen about pretty either. Andrew need to check his integrity at the door. 🤔🤔.

​@@Blaze23557Thanks, I didn't know that.

@@Blaze23557 He promoted the... I'm sorry I don't understand.

@@gerardk51 the jab

5/23/24: Your last few words nailed it. My story is similar. My lovely adoptive parents ARE my parents. Best wishes!

I am proud of any mom who keeps their baby, goes through full term and delivers a healthy gift from God. IF that baby is given to another family to raise, then it is all beautiful. Brave mom.

And yet, obviously, you DID ask for more. Curiosity unalived the cat so it’s lucky you weren’t born feline.

I have wondered if my Dad is my 'biological Dad' but he had me at 18 and I don't think they'd have let an 18 year old adopt 😂

@@allesasmart I am proud of all women who every day make tough decisions....!! Whatever choice they make... Not everyone is as maternal as I was blessed to be..... So many women face so many challenges... Just try not to be a Drug Addict or an Alcoholic because it wrecks lives..... 💖

Your adoptive parents were/are your real parents

Don’t give up. If you do a commercial dna test like 23 & Me or Ancestry there will be a chance others in your father’s extended family will have also have in the States. It could very well lead to identifying him. Best wishes to you.

As above said, definitely don’t give up and take DNA. You will probably find some of the extended family members at least

He’s not a lovely man sadly, his politics are callous and selfish, like every Tory. He deserved some answers from his Mother though.

Still a lovely man

@@FannyShmellar A person can be a lovely man even if his policies are not what you like. YOU are not the decider of the politics of "lovely men."

@@cathynewyork7918 You can’t be a lovely man yet think it’s correct to vilify and demonise those suffering most in society and also think it’s right to protect the very wealthiest in society in order that they get richer. He’s an awful person in general, the way he goes after people is despicable. No, he’s not a lovely man.

@@FannyShmellar Many people in society "who suffer most" failed to get an education and a good job - that is NOT Andrew's fault.

No he is not!

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Wow! Such cutting sarcasm! 😂😂

Me

Me.

Me, I’d be horrified to have produced such a toxic individual.

The blessing of being adopted is you were wanted and selected, that's a blessing.

Surely his “real” mother was the woman who raised him? The “birth” mother you mean not the “real” mother. That title is reserved for the woman who mothered!

It’s not narcissistic personality disorder necessarily. Guilt, shame, denial are strong emotions.

@@dianakircher4565 Stop making excuses for women who mistreat their adult offspring. She a narc. No care or interest because her ego would be bruised to hear anything that would trigger her.

@@MsBox5 💯love your comment.

@@MsBox5you’re not a psychiatrist or a psychologist and therefore can’t diagnose.

My bm was the same.

I think your comment is very accurately put.

I think everyone who has been given up by mothers thinks that when they are reunited with their mothers they will find a warm living story about why they were given up but sadly this is not true far too often.

She visited him for 2 and a half years in the orphanage. There is more to her story she chose not to share.

@@amys5669 Yes she loved him otherwise she wouldn't have visited him in the orphanage. Am sure knowing that makes him feel good she did that. Maybe his half siblings will get in touch now. Am glad Andrew as able to go to her funeral, that was completing the story for him.

5/23/24: so sorry. I’m adopted and waited to search when I thought my birth parents might be gone. They were. I have a good relationship with half sisters on each side.

I hope one day you will find her x

Oh that is so sad. I feel for you.. The brothers bonded together. Am glad you have your sister. God Bless and leave those men to wallow in their old age. You sound lovely and they are not worthy of you.

Sounds like you’re better off without them

The mum is a coward bc she doesn’t want to deal with it

Life is not a Hallmark movie with a happy ending. Respcet the prvacy of the woman, since you dont know the circumstaqnces of the conception.

The truth of the conception could be much worst

@@katjaxxx7353 shame on you! It must have been a terrible burden for her to give a child away, but dont dare call her names. She could have aborted him instead.

@@katjaxxx7353 Please stop judging his Mum vent your venom on someone else. Those who liked your comments please read mine.

I am with you.

They can be totally horrible people. I’m sorry that happened to you, it happened to me too. Trust me, we are better off.

Wishing you a happy life 🌻 People can be blissful or sad in marriages or alone, with or without families. Let your mother go and focus on building your own loving blanket of family and friends🌻

@@river8760 I can tell you for a fact, adult adoptees can sometimes be horrible people too. I've seen birth mothers and their families who welcomed adult adoptees with open arms only to be subjected to years of psychological abuse and terror and misery by those very adult adoptees. I'm by no means saying in every case, but I think some adoptees can have a lot of deep seated emotions and yes, sometimes bear a grudge for their "rejection" and wish to cause as much trouble for their birth mother and her family as possible.. or, maybe they end up feeling jealous that they're not getting the same treatment as their birth mother's other children.. or if the birth mother is more financially well off, think they are entitled to money etc to "make up" for their adoption. Not all mothers want to be found and honestly it's probably for the best in a lot of cases. In my experience, reunions rarely end happily, especially those where contact is maintained. Everything is usually fine for a while, during the "honeymoon period" then it often turns to disaster. In this case, the biological mother is a very elderly lady here has a family of her own, a husband, children etc.. who know nothing of this.. inconsiderately throwing something like this onto her in the latter years of her life can't be a good thing. Mr Pierce has a family of his own, which he claims to be perfectly happy with.. so maybe be thankful for what you have, best to leave well enough alone. You can't have everything all the time. The only narcissism I see is from his side.. there's a lot of talk about him and what he wants.. not one piece of consideration for the old lady or her family's point of view here too.. this is something dug up from half a century previously, from an entirely different era, and just exposed to everyone in her life with which she has absolutely zero control of.. there's a lot of talk about the adoptee and their desires and feelings, but what about the birth mother and her family? What about their lives? What about their feelings? Just arriving on her doorstep out of nowhere is in itself very self centred, selfish and inconsiderate. Think of the consequences that alone could cause in her life. Her family could be torn apart. I've seen instances where birth mothers had complete psychological breakdowns over the stress of adoptees seeking contact or taking inconsiderate actions like described. I think there should be more consideration for the birth mother's choices and more laws to only allow this kind of contact if the birth mother agrees to it.. not just the adoptee. I have a lot of experience with this area and I would have once felt the same as most people here and had A LOT more sympathy for adult adoptees. But after two decades of experience with adoption reunions I have to say, my feelings have changed, and in my opinion, just going by what I've personally seen and experienced, I think in the vast majority of cases it's best left alone.. what is to be gained is not worth the damage and disappointment it often causes. I just disagree with Mr Pierce's urging to do it without massive consideration.. it's not something to be taken lightly as he would suggest. Besides the point, these adoptions from 50+ years ago were done differently to present day.. while not in this particular case, often times many Mothers had no say in the matter, their families often made the decisions for them.. it's an incredibly delicate issue. I find the advice given in this clip to be somewhat careless and not taking into account the complexities each individual situation.

@@Sinnerboy88 I am not a horrible person, and I went into this with zero expectations. I also told the agency that I didn’t have any issue with my bio ‘Mom’ not wanting to connect with me at all. I never ever treated her with anything but care. It was her choice to be the psychopathic, abusive monster she chose to be to me. So, no, not every adult adoptee is a menace. You’re making a sweeping generalization here.

Really he could have been left to a workhouse if the catholic orphanage wasn't there....

They were the ones finding babies and opening orphanages actually, in most cultures, you just left them to die, if they were sickly, if they they were illegitimate you left them outside and waited for them to starve.

Ultimately lack of birth control is responsible for much sorrow.

Absolutely 💯 Andrew is a credit to his adoptive family

Me too honey

Am glad you got to meet him that is the important thing. Maybe its just as well you didn't know him earlier as he does not sound like he has empathy for anyone. This money issue is not right. I hope you made a will and left him out of it. God Bless and enjoy your life now. He doesn't deserve you.

Than you for your kind words .All I wanted was to see my son again .I was seventy one ,when we met up again ,which was six years ago .He had always been in my will ,but he has blocked me now ,so it is his loss .After eight weeks of meeting him ,he wanted me to be a guranto for him .He could have taken out a lot of money ,and left me to try and pay it back .​@@bettymermaid8346

Well thought/said

Well said. Possible his mom was raised in abuse and narcasist behaviors.

Sadly I disagree with your comment "sense of inferiority" as his mother seemed a genuine person and based her decision on Sin which ruled her life. Do not think "inferiority" was ever on her mind which is a new educated phrase. Sometimes people should not be using derogatory terms. Am and Indian Catholic too and know why I make this comment.

@@agnescraig2912 And your comment is welcomed. Andrew story on the show and therefore book is about starting open dialogs.

@agnescraig......I think you may misunderstand what I mean. I think his birth mother may, rightly or wrongly, have a current day sense of inferiority/lack of confidence, due to her son's obvious great accomplishments etc and she may perhaps feel nervous and out of her depth. She shouldn't ofcourse, but I'm sure her mind is in turmoil about the whole scenario.