847 days sober, the social aspect of drinking is what makes it difficult, the friends always coming up to you with the “take a shot” comments, strangers saying the same, they make you feel like your missing out on something so glorious when it’s just a hangover 😵 in the morning, been working out more and more & I couldn’t be more happy!
How did you handle the urge to drink after you quit? Im not sure if Im an alcoholic, but I can't stop myself from drinking on weekends. I just want that urge to disappear completely. I never want to drink again. I want to enjoy life without getting drunk. I end up doing scary things and blacking out when I drink and thinking about it the next day terrifies me. I'm scared of the drunk version of myself. I want to understand your thought process on how to quit completely.
@@jamesrai5573 made a promise once my daughter was born to not drink, my father drank a lot when I was a kid & the setbacks I saw being a kid made me understand & want to introduce my daughters to an alcohol free zone 👍🏻 the biggest changes require sacrifice. 😊
Now that I’m in my 30s, my idea of having “fun” is building connections with people that I actually enjoy being around. And also building up my career and finances so I can become someone respected.
Five hundred and fourteen days sober. Within that timespan I lost everything, homelessness, bankrupt. I received my comeuppance and moved back with my folks. But, I managed to save and work my ass off to go on a twenty-one day, solo backpacking adventure which took my dumb ass to twelve cities throughout Spain & Morocco and the highlight of it all was the Sahara Desert. I literally broke down in tears for all the right reasons. I Did It! I recently applied as a Peer support volunteer for addicts and alcoholics. I have been through hardships and I managed to hang in there. Hopefully my "Experience being an addict" will motivate my fellow addicts to give up the bad and enjoy God's greatest gift... Life! Peace to all and have a blessed day.
I was born without any interest in drinking! Cause I've seen what it has done to my family. Arguments turned fighting, liver & kidney disease, blurred vision, binge drinking -- the list goes on! I'm the only one who will never ever drink for any gain in anything!
- Qur'an 4:43, O you who have believed, indeed, ALCOHOL, gambling, [sacrificing on] stone altars [to other than God], and divining arrows are but defilement from the work of Satan, so avoid it that you may be successful.
a lot of people don't understand how you can just get bored of it and completely stop overnight. I used to drink 5 days a week after work and only be sober Saturday and Sunday to recharge for the week. I moved to a new house June 29th and haven't drunk at all since. It's just too time consuming now that I finally have the space to work on my project cars in peace.
I binge drink for a month then work like a slave for a month and back and forth in perpetuity. Drinking is not fun. You drink and drink enough until you can’t even feel drunk anymore. Then you sit there in a haze and think about how you wish you were sober and had full control of your mental faculties. Just don’t drink and If you do just have a glass of beer. Beyond that it’s the same feeling you just can’t do math right the first time. it kills gains and while it makes you forget, you never forget the bad stuff, only the stuff that made you special or better or a legitimately useful person.
I was an alcoholic for longtime coke head didcthisceveryday for over 10 years bills still paided food in fridge and quit over 5 years ago boy I'm 44 now in the best shape of my life I'll never drink again and money good bet that dont hate on this man case he's rich level up.
I used to have to deal with drunk customers. Everyone says alcohol doesn't effect them and that they don't get drunk. Its TOTAL BS. No one can handle their drink and I've seen way too many people say they "feel nothing" yet the alcohol effects their thinking. I cut down drinking so much and am so focused and a lot less emotional.
Stopping drinking is just part of growing up. I loved drinking, enjoyed it, had a great time. Now that I’m older I’ve just decided to stop drinking. I mean I’ll have a glass of whiskey at during Xmas and special occasions.
I used to go out and get drunk every weekend because that’s what I viewed as fun, and while I could still do that, the urge just isn’t there anymore, it kind of got repetitive, now I find myself not drinking anymore, only on rare occasions will I do it.
So glad i found this video. Was starting to feel like a 40 year old lame because i dont want to live paycheck to paycheck getting hammered at local bars with the same people who are my age and dont have their shit together. Girlfriend pukes every weekend night in my toilet after wasting all her money on alcohol with a bunch of 40+ year old posers trying to impress other posers. She calls it "socializing". I call it alcoholism.
5:01 "So I decided to dedicate six months to being boring, and by the end of the six months I was having so much fun being boring that now I will probably never drink again." lol
I have been praying a lot with my brother so Andrew at least can quit alcohol. 1 Peter 5:8: "Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour." Andrew will need his 150% after all that happened to them. Being praying for all his family too. As a former Christian, I declare he is a brother and will always be. I am nothing to judge his decisions, but if we can help with praying, we will do it. Thank you so much for making me reconcile my broken relationship with my brother. God bless Tate and all his Family.
I was forced to drink at a young age I didn't really like it but I started getting used to it but I started getting more and more "addicted" but when i joined the marines it sorted of helped me stop started getting in better physical condition and mental and I will never drink again.
no tate, most men just want one loyal, beautiful woman txting them on their phone. tate is great but his constant "i get bitchz look at me" is childish and shows deeper issues
I'm starting to think it's not issues, but rather the eay he gets inpressionable younger men to follow him. He keeps drawing up the idealistic world for many young guys so that they dream of being in that scenario or as close as they can to it so that they keep consuming his content. I think it's very smart on his part. In fact, many things he says make a lot of sense, others I don't particularly care for or agree to them, but I'm 27 and can filter the showsmanship better now lol. I do agree that his rambling on about how "I'm awesome, I get many girls, you're a dork, everyone's a dork and I'm top G" and saying it over a full minute every time instead of getting it over with in 10 seconds does get very tiring lol
You are biologically wired to spread your genes far and wide. You might think logically that you only want one girl, but biologically you want more atleast for sex
It's a shame there arent more activities for adults to mix other than going pub and drinking lol. I never drink in the house as its a waste of liver/kidneys. Only reason to go out to drink is to see friends and see what girls are around. I'll happily be designated driver for nights out.
I despise the taste of alcohol, and have a "mental barrier" almost and feel anxious when I know I've got to partake in it. I feel sick before I even feel tipsy/drunk, so why would I force myself just to please others and live up to their standards of "fun"? It's not my scene anyway, as the sober observer, I look around at the way people are dressed and behaving, and wonder why I'm even there. I've stopped telling people I don't drink, or offering an explanation. Their reactions are quite telling, and say more about them tbh. But each to their own.
I am 8 months sober and i dont miss it i stop hanging out with people because all they want to do is drink i just keep to myself and work everyday to be a better version of myself everyday
My parents and basically ecery adult i grew up around was an alcoholic. I drank for a good 15 years and one day just realized i was going right down that same path. Didn't enjoy drinking that much, i just did what everyone else was doing. Glad i gave it up
I am a sober Alcoholic on 4 year i did 5 weeks of rehab and i am very happy for that decision, alcohol kills 3 million ppl every year direct or indirect,
I used to be a major alcoholic. Quite literally nothing, and i mean absolutely nothing good comes out of drinking alcohol. Go to the gym. That's my fun
@alectassey7441It's ironic because he doesn't hold his sins accountable, like fornicating with a bunch of women or his love for money which goes against his religious views.
@alectassey7441 Yeah its pathetic really. He's that insecure about proving to everyone he's rich that he takes every opportunity to emphasize how much money he has. Like who cares if you were on at $50k private jet paying $250 per 1mb of data drinking a 5000 year old bottle of gin that cost $500k. Its literally the same BS all the time about how much money he spends and being surrounded by females that he pays money to. The fact is he's a complete narcissist that fails to see how pathetic his attitude towards life is and is consumed by materialism to the point that it dominates every aspect of his life. Its sad really that so many people look up to him, but its really just a sign of the times and a product of a society that is consumed by his values.
😂😂😂😂 exactly! You can't be muslim.if you are not humble! The devil got kicked of the heaven by god because he was not humble in the coran so i doubt this guy is sincerly a muslim!
I have a problem with drink! I quit for the entire year last year (2023), and lost 32lbs and achieved loads (changed careers into Software dev which I have wanted to do all my life). I then had a drink on New Years day 2024, and over 2 months thats led to daily drinking again and now I struggle to not drink!! So I need to quit, but this time for good!!!!!
You can drink as much as you want. You don't have to quit. You don't need to force yourself to do something you don't want to do. To me it sounds like part of you still sees value in daily drinking. Identify what you perceive the value to be. If it's more of a habit built through routine then I would break it at the thought or at my first action. Just because you have a thought doesn't mean that you need to act on the thought (I also just began to view myself as a non-drinker). Another place to break a habit would be at the first action stage (usually the purchasing of alcohol). Each time you delay the action after the thought you will get better at making a conscious choice rather than reacting to impulse or habitual thoughts. For me it is my clear preference to not drink. Creating positive momentum in your life and making more positive choices in all aspects of your life will allow you to fill your life with your own choices and preferences. Eventually you may find your true preference is to be a non-drinker and live a life free from alcohol.
@@benevolent1115 Hi and thanks for the reply. For me there is no value in daily drinking. It's a poison. The only value I get is quietening my insanely fast mind. I am an addict. I do have to force myself to do things I don't want to do, every day. Otherwise I'd just lay on the sofa, eating pizza and playing xbox. Instead I take control and eat a healthy diet, exercise daily, and go to the gym 2-3 times weekly.. It's the first 1-3 weeks that will be a struggle again, a daily battle. I'd love to be the kind of person that can go 1, 2, 3+ weeks/months not drinking, then enjoy a few beers at a bbq or something. But I know that I would instantly be back to daily drinking. At the moment I am drinking 3-4 premium lagers a night (over 15 units a night - which in the UK is a weeks worth of units). I want to quit. I need to quit........ thanks again for the advice..
real fun is expensive . booze is poor people fun . that’s also what he’s realizing . driving a hyper car beats getting sloshed at a bar any day . yet the car is extremely expensive . so not everyone can have that kind of fun . his level of fun has clearly stepped up and became very expensive . it takes more and more to get his jolly’s off . he hit the hedonism wall and it’s undefeated .
Young men, don’t listen to this man, he really is extreme. Anyone who blows the way he does isn’t stable. Don’t do anything to access, have the occasional drink, but focus on what’s important in life, work hard but too hard. Have balance. And avoid fanatical religions like Islam.
people think im weird or maybe i am but i do almost exactly the same thing as andrew.. i cut all my friends of except my family cause i realized i dont perform the best when i have everything..after a few months i make new friends and realized i fell into the trap again and cut them off and the cycle goes on and on...improving is so much fun guys will never understand...no smoking no drinking just improving ..you will sometimes look in the mirror and admire the person you created.. sorry for the rambling
It's normal when you reach the point in life that "fun stuff" is boring, because you did it a 10000 times and it's always the same: party, fuck, eat, shit, drink, go home distroyed then getting annoying texts from top beautiful girlfirends. Everything become uselless and boring after you do it a 1000 times and has no final "higher" goal attached to it. Especially today, when it doesn't matter (almost) where you have a nice dinner etc. 30 years ago made sence to travel, today you're in the place on your phone in 10 seconds. Waste of time. Men don't need to go places (today) so much to accieve a goal, women do. To catch that "high value" men. That's why they are flying around like crazy, showing naked bodies on insta itd. Find what you enjoy doing and gives you inner peace ... Drinking at a party will never give you inner peace. Never.
let’s not lie though andrew. sharing an exquisite bottle of vodka with your brother and beating him in smash bro’s is still a blast 😂don’t lie . and is far more fun drunk than sober .
What he doesn’t understand is there are women (i.e me and others) who think like this as well. We have structure and discipline and rather work than blowing up some douchbags phone looking for attention. Unfortunately for Tate he doesn’t mingle with women like that, only insecure, vapid, needy types. Sad really.
Grew up with alcoholic father seen some stuff like aggressiveness and always leaving to go drink and always said to myself I would never drink when I’m older . I am 24 years and still live up to not drinking
At this rate, when he's 50 he would be on top of a Tibetan Mountain in deep meditation. "Will I enjoy life, without any of my material enjoyments". Even with all my billions, and Ferraris and Sexy women, I was still TOP G, now that I am stripped down to nothing but a robe and a beggars bowl, I am still TOP G. "Om mani padme hum..."
There is nothing scarier or worse than losing control over your actions/mind, and this is the reason he actually stopped. For some people nothing could be scarier than losing control over yourself. I mean, religion is additional stopper of course. But that fear of being overtaken by smth else to the point u cant control it is priceless. So he just has that fear.
Yeah drinking doesn't actually do that, all it does is impede your inhibitor receptors. Responsible drinking is absolutely fine and it can't make you do anything you weren't innately capable of doing in the first place. To use drinking as an excuse for violent or deviant behaviour is the biggest cop-out alot of people like to try and use. If you are antisocial after a drink, you were always an antisocial person before you drank. If you had an instinct to sleep with others before a drink, drinking just gives you courage to do what you wanted to in the first place but didn't have the courage to do.
For me I would say it was God that told me I had enough of partying and drinking & he’s slowly setting my paths straight now so I don’t have to even try. I’m only 24 so I honestly thank my creator for saving my life.
@@xred13BF3there’s nothing funny about what he just said💀 if you go to comments just to laugh your ass off at other people’s comments then don’t bother
