ANGRY about EVERYTHING | Why am I so angry all the time? 

Anger is one of the most URGENT emotions we feel and often is misunderstood. Using emotional intelligence will help you with strategies for better dealing with anger and stress. Tell us what helps you manage your anger!

I’m such a control freak. I want people to talk to me a certain way, treat me a certain way and do things a certain way and if they don’t I get really upset. I know it’s wrong and I try so hard to stop but I’m so deeply hurt somewhere and I just don’t want to be angry anymore.

I'm deeply hurt by things people have done to me in my past. I replay the scenarios in my mind every single day as if its happening right in front of me, wishing I had reacted differently or got the justice I needed in some way or another. But it's no use - its a waste of time because you can't change what's already gone. I struggle to let go of those things and the feelings that accompany them. I was never this way, I was always a calm and collected person. This has been built up over time and my tolerance for things have completely dissipated.

When my anger level reaches to the top i just start to cry because i feel like the anger and irritation never gets out of me

Im watching this pissed off. Sadly Ill still be pissed afterwards

I'm angry/pissed/annoyed all the time. From the moment I woke up to when I decide to sleep due to frustration. Idk why, but what I've noticed is that my stressors are my family members. Especially my mom. I'm not saying it all their fault, maybe mostly it's mine or maybe not but I have some contribution to that anger. IDK if it's due to pandemic. I just want to stop being angry all the time. It ruins my day, my relationships, my character, and my skin.

I am tired of being angry like i dnt understand what's wrong with me 😒 i used to b happy all the time not no more i got so much in my mind

Psychedelic's definitely have potential to deal with mental health symptoms like anxiety and depression, I would like to try them again but it's just so hard to source here.

I think I understand why I'm angry all the time (loneliness, no social circles, being cheated and left, panic disorder, ptsd, new scary work, hot small apartment, not liking myself, pressure to succeed..) and it's almost like my anger is my only way to get through my daily life. But it's not a great way to feel either, a bit better than constant terror but still.. I try to take deep breaths, exercise and believe that there's some joy for me left in this life. Not just work and loneliness. Humour helps sometimes but i'm afraid one day I'll explode if i can't get better.

When I was younger I used to go out looking for a fight, I used to hurt people and got it trouble, I managed to stop doing it but after 17 years of keeping it under control I don't think I can anymore I'm angry all the time, very angry, I'm happy I live alone because often I'll go raging through the house smashing stuff up and ranting and raving to myself. My biggest worry is work I don't know how long I can stay in control. I'm 6'3 243 lbs and could really fight in my younger days and really think I'm gonna smash somebody's face in and soon.

Throughout the day I’m just angry and bothered but at night it’s like that anger emotion went to sleep and I’m just numb

Seems like anger is all I feel nowadays, I've been angry for almost a year now

I see somebody on the street doing something stupid and it bothers me like im involved in the situation, while im actually not, and shouldn't care

I am always angry and the calm tone of your voice calmed me down and now I'm able to let myself cry thinking it's okay and legitimate I am grieving and this helps so thank you !!

I find myself being constantly overwhelmed, anxious and angry throughout everyday and it’s getting worse. I try to calm myself down and take deep breaths but it always comes back. I just want to feel something good again. Haven’t been happy in months

I was so incredibly furious your vid made me laugh and i learned a lot from it thank you i appreciate it

I wish I could keep my anger to myself. Usually I can but I know eventually I’m gonna pop. Thing is when I do the people I love the most are around to catch most of the flack. Makes me sad as hell once the rage is gone.

Wow this was incredibly helpful, my anger tends to stem from my hormones, and on heightened days all my traumas in the past pile up at once and that's when I find it extremely hard to control my rage once I'm triggered....

I'm often asked "Why do you look angry all the time?" Or "You look sad all the time." I'm a very angry person thinking I hide it better than I actually don't. I tend to always resort to shouting and swearing A LOT at the person or thing. I've been convicted of battery and assault for letting my temper run free. I really do want change. I really do. It's definitely hard work.

I can't contain my anger anymore, I used to be very patient. I wanna cry but I can't, and as I'm writing this my heart is pounding and I'm furious.

I am so tired of being angry all the time. Thank you for this video.

I’ll say thanks. I’m still pretty pissed but now I know more about anger and I have realized I am very stressed. It shows in my back and neck. I have so much tension and my skin is so rough and I’m only 17, I have acne I feel like I’m large

After my family abandoned me and left me for dead after they found out I was mentally disabled has impacted my life for the worst and the best.. I'm forever riddled with Hate, Anger, Revenge, and the worst of all Vengeance.. I'm always so mad at myself, and the people who have done the worst things to me in my life. Therapy and medication no longer help me keep my balance, so I'm off everything. Im always looking for answers onto why and how but it could be genetics or it could be that my parents were never around for me which has enraged my anger onto why they never loved me and wanted me as a child... I wish to find my inner peace and happiness no matter how much I lose in life & no matter what the cost is.. I'm currently writing this message in a stair case and I'm praying for better days. Being homeless has brought me to realize having absolutely nothing and still being happy has shown me that it's not money that drives my anger but people.. People have driven me to become insane and it breaks my down every day.. Preventing me from moving forward is my anger towards the world and my ways need to change.. Thank you for the video and showing me an aspect and view on things that can potentially help me understand more on why i'm so unstable with my anger.. I still can't believe I'm 27 coming to 28, I just want to find my inner peace and happiness and show my full roster of colors... I'm tired of seeing the world in black and white.. I want better, I can do better.. As much as I want to give up and end it all my grandparents, Anastacija & Mihajlo(R.I.P to the people who raised me) would have wanted the best for me.. God bless everyone and I hope everyone is taking care of one another..

I look angry, I remember one time, a couple of years ago, while sitting at a park with my son he said you need to smile more, I laugh alot when I'm with my friends but I have a serious expression all the time. I've been through a lot though, but I even prayed that I wouldn't wear what I've gone through on my face! I loss my Mother 3 years ago

Anger is easier to cope with than feeling anxiety. Truth.

Wow, Im impressed. .t. This guy really hits the nail on the head, when he let me know I've been living in the red.

I am always so mad and its so draining honestly my hands are shaking as im typing this, im so mad right now and idk why. Im venting to a random ass comment section

1) set up 🆙 2) trigger 3) interpretation 4) reaction Very important chain of events. It all started when I was seriously bullied as a child 🧒 and physically and verbally assaulted daily in middle and some of high school 🏫

I enjoyed the non bias approach of the video, I have gotten stressed and angry at my work the past few weeks, and even though I felt like I had a good reason to be angry, other people noticed, and started treating me differently. This video helped me realize that, yes I did have a good reason to be angry, but also, it gave me some idea of ways to not make a fool out of myself in the process, which makes it worse, (like being angry because I'm angry) lol. Sometimes, I don't even realize that I am coming across as angry, when I really am.

I really appreciate this video. I'm married to an addict. At this point he is functioning but I'm still angry all the time. I have been in the red zone for years. It has effected my relationships. I'm trying to go down the path of recovery. Videos like yours, that are geared towards me is very helpful. Most content around my situation all go back to the addict. How are they feeling, why are they acting this way, and how you should act around them for their benefit. Your video was made for me and my issues, not his. I also find calm in knowing why and how my brain is working. I like to dig myself into information. It helps me. I found your video to be what I needed today. Thank you.

i feel #disrespected I am polit with everyone why can't everyone be polit too #Thanks this video was great and helpful

i get so angry that i can feel it take over my whole body

I cried listening to you explain how to get out of the reaction cycle and gain consciousness around it. It was so comforting and helpful to what I’m experiencing and I’m so grateful I found this video. I hope you will do a video about when your trigger is a specific person, how to drop the perceived threat when interacting with them or when they come to mind.

When youve depended on your anger most of your life and you decide to live without it its like having to learn to walk again. You feel so naked and vulnerable, its mind blowing.

Thank you for creating this content. I find it very valuable as a psychologist and personally. I think an important advance that this approach (like many other models of help and therapy) could make is to talk more about basic psychological needs and not so much about tools. When our needs are recognized and met, we flourish as human beings and have mental health. I see that progress in areas like Deci and Ryan's self-determination theory or Young's schema therapy. Thanks again and best wishes!

May God bless you sir! You have broken down a problem that is very hard to recognize.

This is so good I was crying as I watched this cause I’m so angry.

Thank you. I have struggled with this my entire life. I have smashed my body to pieces trying to escape this feeling and always kept people at arms length because I never had control over any of this. This has given me a great deal of help and hope. Hope that there is a light at the end of a very dark and long tunnel.

Thank you for this video! I'm in early menopause and was diagnosed with perimenopausal rage. The pandemic didn't help as being holed up made my social anxiety worse. In addition, I've lost 5 loved ones in as many years and feel like I'm stuck in the anger stage of grief over all of their deaths combined. And to top it off, the man that I know loves me has his own issues and to avoid any sort of negativity or drama, he lies/denies to avoid trouble at any cost. It's too much. I'm in counseling but it's expensive and I can only afford so much; if I could afford it, I really should be in therapy weekly. Thankfully this anger is a recent thing for me so it has only affected one person, my husband. I find I can justify that anger toward him because he lies to me. I'm in a spiral and it's heartbreaking. This is not who I am. I used to be so calm, level-headed and rational.

That really amazes me all the time because I was actually looking for a different video and had nothing to do with this topic and he knows I needed it so somehow I ended up seeing this video and it's a really good video and I learned a lot and I need to continue to keep watching because when you've been through trauma it's not easy but I'm blessed!!!

I’m so glad I know I’m not alone with these feelings

I'm watching this while crying from anger right now... I'm so angry all the time but manage to hide it when I needed to while interacting with others for my security (so people don't hate me of course..) The worst thing is I do know why I'm angry all the time because I feel not in control or helpless in my childhood, not feeling at home in my own home, being disrespected by elders all the time when I was a child and it was frustrating. Now that time has passed but my brain can't get over that kind of anger. Being angry all the time is exhausting. I can't get over things easily. Angry with the same thing/person for years. I'm happy when something bad happens to people who were bad to me over ten years ago, my mind always fantasy about revenge, craving for justice and I feel like a monster for that. I'm feeling hopeless with my attitude.

Sometimes I feel like I don’t even have control of my own actions when I’m angry. Is like once I’m up there is not even me anymore. I always try to control my emotions in stressful situations but the anger always wins. I have small children and I see their lil faces everytime I get mad and then I calm down but by the time I do, is too late.

I really love how you used many shorts to meaningfully rellay the message and bring some fun to the topic as well 😊!

Thank you so much for such a helpful video. 3 cycles helped me out in understanding it

I feel bitter & angry 😡 & I hope this feeling passes but I think it never will. When I was young I was a positive, optimistic person & I consider myself resilient. I have spent most of my life helping my mom, dad, sister, friends, community on and on. I ask for very little. And everyone seems to move on & forget about me. It seems like the most narcissistic, self centered people get the most out of life. My sister is an example. Ever since she was a child she has gotten everything. I have helped her so much & she always complains about something or someone. I feel like every time I help her she treats me worse. I feel like I want to die. Even my ex boyfriend tread me like garbage & wanted my sister because she would parade in front of him. My life is just one disappointment after another. The only saving grace has been my education, job & God & other things that make me happy.

The problem is I enjoy anger. I enjoy the bulldozing, bull headed power of it as it consumes me. I’m quick to label myself a victim of issues of my own creation. I blame my past, my circumstances, even the people I love. What I don’t enjoy is how I hurt others. In the moment I don’t care, the only thing that matters is hammering my point home. Then the aftermath - the sight of good, kind hearted people in emotional anguish because of me. I hate myself for that and I’m TERRIFIED I can’t beat this. I’m 33 and I still have this problem, among many others. I wish I had the answer, but it seems there’s no easy way out. It’ll be hard, painful work to get where I want to me.

I needed this because whenever my computer acts up i have a nearly overwhelming desire to throw it into a brick wall as hard as i can.

Finally someone that understands, anger is a natural human emotion. Great video! Great information!

I needed a process to deal with my ridiculously angry reactions to simple irritations. I think this video might be the process I was looking for. Thank you for laying it out so clearly.

😭😭😭I'm keeping on hurting people due to my anger. Why can't I be happy like I used to be?

I am more angry after watching this video i dont know why

For a positive direction of negative thinking. Great post. Helped me today.

This is a very good video - the advice and the way it's edited with funny clips so it doesn't feel like rambling. I feel one of the most important thing is accept when we are disproportionately angry. Managing your emotions is so important - I am starting to damage so many relationships because of anger and the numerous nasty comments i have posted on the internet in volatility is so shameful.

thank you so much for this video, best video on this topic in my opinion been dealing with chronic stress anxiety depression for more than 10 years.

I was betrayed and mistreated by a former roommate they took advantage of my kindness, then they destroyed my personal belongings out of spite.🎉

I love all these shows, and I am so mad all the time I have always been so mad since I was a kid I hate being like this I can’t do literally anything without getting mad

Thank you for your concern, compassion and help. ❤

Thanks man. Saddest thing is that most people don't understand this and think that what we say in anger we actually mean..

I’m so sick of being angry, but I also live in it.

This is such a phenomenal video. So insightful. One of the best videos that I have come across on anger management! ❤️

really angry here as I simply can't get any respect at work and they keep treating me like a dog, always telling me to do what nobody else wants to do and I end up being the only person working hard when others are sitting and chatting, looking at their fake nails.. my knees and ankles are sore from the job, but they pay more than other places, which are usually more physically demanding as well.. I come home and housemates have their entertainment on loud speaker and I just yelled at them.. I also got dumped recently, not to mention coming from a narcissistic home and other frustrations and threats in life.. I feel terrible right now

Thank you so much, for this. I loved the music at the end :)

thank you man. all the stuff you said is making a lot of sense.

I’m so tired of being angry all the time. Crying is a good way to let out your anger but I don’t allow myself to cry. I tell myself if I cry I’m weak and a crybaby so why would I cry? I used to never act like this, now i feel that I cannot cry as I’ll be a weakling. I used to be so happy, i really wonder what happened to me. Why am I always so angry and will never allow myself to cry? That’s a question I think I’ll never be able to have an answer to.

Thank you! That was helpful!

I started to get angry so easily and scream at ppl so much and say such mean things I don’t mean , then I feel guilty the next minute , I swear I get angry at myself for being angry , I don’t know what’s wrong with me , I’ve never been like this? All my family always ask me what’s wrong and why I always get mad and I just try so hard to control my self but I can so I just lock my self up all day in a room and cry to not get mad at anyone anymore please help

thank you so much. this is the best video i have watched on youtube till date

The little things tick me off for some reason, like my wifi for instance, it disconnects randomly, and it ruins how well I was doing Ina game or if I watching something. Or if someone says something, or has opinions that are completely idiotic to me, thank you for helping me

I love the edits , they are enough to cool off my anger

Thank you! This has been sooooo helpful to me.

I have to say I usually skip videos like this but it was spot on. Great use of the video clips to keep it interesting. Would be amazing to meet you!

This was so helpful, thank you.

I usually get irritated because I can't handle pressure and then my anger reaches a very high level .I hurt almost everyone the re in my office...

That's very simply explained and really helps.

I’m a very irritable teenager. I was bullied in the past which has contributed to low self esteem. When I feel shamed in anyway, I lash out.

I'm literally pissed off right now of the smallest reason. I hope this can help me. I'm as mad as hell rn

Help me a lot! Really thanks, learn very valuable things!

Thank you for helping me today.

Usually I’m pretty go with the flow. I like making others happy and I like being a source of relentless positivity. I’ll take everything and more with a smile. But sometimes something will happen where my mind just snaps and I want to yank my head off and chuck it across the room. Making sure that I recognize when this is happening, why it’s happening, and forcing myself to get up and go for a walk helps so much.

Thank you so so very much!

When you speak about noticing the problem before the reaction and doing something quickly to exist that space, you bang on with that👏. I have to do that when I'm stressed. I go into a quick worrying state which quickly transforms into a mild panic attack then once I feel I'm gonna pass out, my subconscious reminds me to breathe and relax reminding me that everything is ok. It's just a scary feeling when u not in control. Don't understand why I can go for a few months of being normal to then sudden stress, episodically for a few weeks🤷🏽‍♂️. Ever since I immigrated to a foreign country and struggled with challenges and language barrier, I feel that when the worry and fear began

Thank you this helped me out so much!

I get a lot of road rage 😡 and one time someone chased me because of it which was extremely stressful and scary 😟. My dad is an alcoholic and my mom has bipolar schizophrenia and diabetes and I’m usually pissed off at strangers although I’ve never crossed the line into doing anything against the law. I could definitely though lose my license driving aggressively and I will then have to rely on public transportation. Not worth losing my driving privileges over.

When I heard the bells ringing I wanted to throw my phone that’s playing this video. What an intrusive sound. Thanks for the trigger, dude.

Awesome. Vital information. Thanks josh

Great video! Thank you

I’m very angry when I’m home and your voice has calmed me thank you

I was fine before I started watching this video now I’m so goddamn pissed off with all the bullshit I didn’t have to be in the video I feel like it wasted my time

this is my first time to search on how to eradicate anger and found this. I'm angry almost some time in a day everyday. this has been my trademark and attitude since childhood. I easily become frustrated at things especially if it does not give me some benefit and this makes me angry. My frustrationss today are from collective events from past experiences like I was bullied, feeling unimportant, feeling alone, fake interactions, family feud, saw the anger of my parents especially my mom when I was a child till now, identity crisis when I was a child. so These negative events somewhat influenced my attitude now that is why I easily became irritated and angry and impatient especially when stressed. I'm stressed like everyday mentally, emotionally and physically. Anger is sometimes like a defense mechanism to me but in the end it just makes me upset and make people down. I hate my attitude at times but I need to become POSITIVE, be PATIENT and understand the situation and people.

Awesome work Joshua 💪🙏🏻

Is it okay to bottle it up?like sometime when i feel i would loose control during arguement or works under pressure im bail out go smoking and try to let go but the anger is still there so i wait it to vent it on gym punching bag once or two times a week

My mum is a very angry person and she hasn't changed in about 40 years,she never sees the good in things.

awesome information, well presented, thank you

The only person I can't get away from is my Daughter, she makes me really angry, I'm learning to deal with my anger better and better. I think believe you can conquer it. Believe Ur capable of getting put of the red zone daily. Let things go, it's not worth it.

Great content, thank you

you have a choice about.. about 'how you feel. That's a really intelligent way to show people EI. Much appreciation for all this science communication.

Valuable information put forth with clarity 👏🏼👏🏼👍🏼

When you said “That’s lame”, I knew you got it - FOR EVERYBODY

Really good video, extremely well presented on causes, effects and solution of anger. I have noticed that meditation, Yoga helps a lot, our tolerance level gets super high, when someone else gets angery, we can still keep calm ourself and try to understand what other person might be going through. Best way to keep calmness is think that its not a big deal, whatever situation we are in right now is temporary and things always gets better with time. Thank you for the a wonderful video, would love to see more on this topic.