Answering your questions about birth Part 2 ft. my Doula! 

Hi Tina Yong its a beautiful Day

Yay!! Was waiting for this video 🥰

It was Amazing

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Tina Yong You're Absolutely Great

Khalilah D the day you reply back to me I will create a fanpage

I see you everywhere Khalilah 👀

@@meowrchl97 ME TOO 😭 ima make a fanpage of her if she ever replies to me lol

@@JoshHutchersonOfficial Lmfao that's cute

ayyy I started watching Tina around that age too!

Aww thank you so much! 😘

You are very lucky to find a role model like Tina at your age. When I was 14 the internet was not really a place you could look to for stuff like that.

I concur 100%. Doulas should never interfere with the medical aspect and should not be allowed to advise the patient about what is safer. They have no knowledge and it is out of their scope to advise anything different from what a midwife or doctor says. You are right. Some just want to be in control and are not thinking about the risks to mom and baby. Yes, the fathers need to be included in everything. They grieve just like the mom at the loss of their baby. I am so glad you mentioned that.

Couldn’t agree more. Glad to see there are others like me in the world ❤️

I am a medical assistant and specialized out of college to OB/GYN. I worked with both doctors and midwives. Both were always encouraging the most natural way. The less interference the better. Let the mom labor down the baby and for the most part, they would stay out of the room and let the mom and partner or doula or support person go through the labor on their own in their own way. Midwives coach more than docs do, but they both actually discouraged the use of medications. Of course if a mom asks for it, it is given. When someone is in active labor, they don't to allow epidural, because the baby would be born before it even got inserted. Having a group of doctors and midwives on the same page with clear expectations is key. We would go over the birth plan the mom wanted and follow their direction. I live in Maine, USA. healthier is always better. They even encourage VBAC after an ultrasound is done on the old uterine scar. 95% are successful. I have been lucky to work with doctors and midwives that encourage the healthiest way possible. Many of the midwives have Doulas on speed dial. Very few forcep or vacuum births, unless absolutely needed. Two of the midwives were actually certified for water birth and home birth. We always let the parents to be set their plan and we always followed it, outside any medical intervention that might be needed for various reasons to keep mom and baby safe. The hospitals here have made birthing a baby an intimate moment, dictated by mom and dad. Always encouraging healthiest first.

@@llewisdolphins that's amazing!

So sorry for your loss. Sending you a hug.

Sorry to hear about your son. Sending you lots of love ❤️

I am so sorry for your loss hun.

Amen to that. I think people are finally becoming more educated about them and at least here, we see them more often in labor and delivery.

Wishing you all the best with your birth! Chantel will take care of you 😊

Absolutely and childbirth gives you the best gift ever. Pain wit purpose. I delivered my 3 sons natural. You won't regret that decision and so much healthier for mom and baby.

You got this girl, each lab I r and delivery is different. Get a provider you trust that listens to you, your needs, your wants and puts you first. Take control of your health, your plan. I have 3 sons and each one was different. Your body knows what to do. 😊

Same here...

I am so glad I am not the only one, I still use my lamaze breathing to this day. It is so useful during pain and stress. Who knew that breathing technique could be so powerful throughout our lives.

@@llewisdolphins RIGHT! I am also so surprised what our brains can manipulate. We can make ourselves feel sick literally and we can make ourselves better also. I was having some severe panic attacks years ago before I was medicated for my OCD and I quite literally would make myself feel like I was going to throw up, now I knew I most likely wasn’t going to but in my head you couldn’t tell me any different. Now I look back at it being that it was years ago and I know my brain was actually doing that to me. My daughter has epilepsy and throughout this journey I have found out how much of the brain that we don’t know about, the majority of our brain are things that doctors are baffled about. So yeah I really feel like breathing can help us through so much like you said pain and stress, I do think at times it’s more powerful than medication. It’s nuts to think when we feel pain whether it’s in our back or we stub our toe, it all comes from the pain center in our brains. Crazy right.

@@mommashawna707 it really is crazy, but definitely goes to show that we can get through anything with the power in our minds. It's like if someone always saw things negatively then there life will just give more negativity, but a person that sees things in a positive light will just create and attract more positivity. Self speech can make us or break us. Hard to believe that the more negative people are self sabotaging their own lives within their own mind. People that talk to themselves positively are enhancing their lives. They are the ones always smiling, always helping others, look successful and extremely confident, the ones who look intimidating for some reason, but would take 5heir shirt off there back for a stranger. Like I tell my children, your life is a cumulative of choices. The ones in the past don't matter because it has no bearing on today and you can't change it anyway. Don't worry about things you have no control over. But, focus on what you can control, your choices. You choose every day if it is going to be a good one, or a bad one. You choose your outfit for the day. You choose to say hello to your neighbor or ignore him. Not all choices ar3 easy and some will force you to choose the lesser of two evils. Happiness is chosen, not given, not bought, not someone else's job. True happiness comes from within. But, they must be will8ng to accept the consequences with every choice. It could be good or bad and this is where they need to consider who else will their decision effect. Each choice is a pebble in a pond which ripples far and wide, so they need to think about how those ripples will work before they make the choice. Each human should practice making choices that will have more positive outcomes. Lack of choosing is also self sabotage. In the end, their lives are about choices they have already made, dealing with each consequence correctly, and understand that they are the only ones that can choose to make good choices. Anyone can change the course of their life by changing their choices. Choose to be happy, don't blame choices in the past or even5s in the past because they don't matter with the exception of PTSD. I choose a happy day, greatful to be alive. I choose to make someone else smile everyday. I choose to write down everything I felt guilty about and made it right with everyone I hurt and now have no regrets, no more stressful guilt wasting space in my head. We just need to choose today as a good day and choose to make the choice to choose good choses for our tomorrow. Sorry this is long. I simply love the way you think and wanted to share the easiest advice to choose the course of your life. It all start with positive self speak, like telling yourself you did a great job on a project, reminding yourself that you are strong, you can do this. Talking to yourself in the mirror helps too. Telling yourself everyday looking into your own eyes in the mirror I love you will truly help you to accept yourself including your flaws. It helps you stand taller and gain more confidence. The day you finally look in the mirror and tell yourself I love is the day that you accept who you are, embrace your own uniqueness, own your flaws like badges of honor, and learn just how much you are worth. All from your own mind, positivity, acceptance, tolerance, self awareness, self respect, responsibility for your own actions, selfworth, your own boundaries that you won't let any one cross, and most importantly confidence. You will walk a little taller, hold your head up high, and never worry about someone talking about you. They are, because confidence and a smile on your face will make others wonder how they can be more like you. ☺️ The power we have in our own heads and so few know how to use it to their advantage. That advice I gave my sons is because I already do it. Enjoy the book I wrote, lol and always stay curious about what you mind might be able to do for you. Maybe you'll unlock another hidden secret!😁

@@llewisdolphins I write books too so I totally get it lol I completely agree with you and I couldn’t have said it any better. I hope you have a wonderful weekend my dear.

@@mommashawna707 lol, I am a writer myself. Enjoy your weekend hun 😁

Oh wow! You are a strong mama to endure that for 2 days!!

You did your best girl, that is all anyone can do. You did great!!

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So glad you stood up for yourself. Doctors work for you not the other way around. Always stay in charge of your health. And the contractions happened a little worse after delivery when I started breastfeeding. I only had twinges after that.

@@llewisdolphins Yeah I am a little scared of the contractions after birth with number three. The second time Was already really tough. This time around my doctor is really calm about everything. Even about me wanting another homebirth. :)

@@miaurakimchi7349 I am so glad to here that. Go for it love. Pain with a purpose. It's hard, but after building that little human for so long, the day you get to meet them outshines any contractions 😁. You go girl!

I am so sorry they didn't give you anything to dry your milk up. Going through engorgement sucks. Your breasts get hard as a rock and hurt just from air passing by. I am so glad you had the adoptive parents there, I think that is important for you and them. When you decide your ready for a child you can use a doula you trust, that listens to you and walks every step of the process with you. Just the emotional support alone is golden. Hormones swings are hard to predict. It would be nice to have someone that is capable and ready to help you through that.

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You won't really see much blood. All of that is out of your view and when it comes to delivery, at least from my experience, there really isn't anything you really care about except the delivery. You won't care how many people are in the room. You won't care if your completely naked, nothing at all will take your focus away from delivering your baby. So, there is always a possibility, but I really don't think any amount if blood would bother you. Think of it this way, it is just a really heavy period.

@@llewisdolphins thank you! This helps me feel better about having children in the future

There’s usually another backup doula you meet with beforehand in case that happens

🤔since it's a longer process, I guess it's easy to have a couple of people on different stages of the journey: person on second trimester, on third, close to birth, on "fourth trimester". One on each 'slot' already makes 4 moms to work with at once, with low chances of them giving birth at the same time😊

Yes. Most of us remember the pain and the intensity. A lot of mothers will also try to push the baby out when watching a video of a delivery. You don't really forget, rather, you just don't care. Seems weird, but the maternal instincts take over and any pain felt before baby just doesn't matter after baby. I have three sons and I tore with all of them. I remember the ring of fire she mentioned. I had that ring of fire each time. I remember how each contraction felt and how sore and uncomfortable I was after delivery. Having stitches is hard. I was afraid to poop for fear I might break a stitch. But these are just the stories you tell your kids, at the end of the day, that pain doesn't matter at all. Pain with a purpose gives you the best gift ever and anything before the moment you hold that tiny human has no significance. Moms don't forget, it is just unimportant. 😊

@@llewisdolphins thank you for the answer, beautiful message there that the pain is insignificant to the blessing you’re given afterwards 🥹

LOL i think i might edit it out

@@tina_yong or u just upload it with japanese mask hahaha... this is a very educational video...

Yes! At least in Spain we have doulas and midwives. In many instances, midwives do the work of a doula. You can get your standard midwife when you go to the doctor (one gets assigned to you) but also there are specialised services for non medicalised births, always as long is a low-risk pregnancy

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I hope it went exactly the way you wanted.