Answering YOUR Questions from Side Effects of Being Light Skinned 

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I want to meet her❤

YOU LITERALLY MADE THIS ABOUT A MAN! MEN? YOU BITTER, DESPERATE BIRD. GET LOST.

@@samyljones3871 No they didn't.

💯 the treatment and comments given when no other black people are around by non black people and then black men does not get talked about enough. That's really when things get awkward and like you said the "complements" are wild. The fact that some people think we don't realize we're preferences is weird because we're literally told so often...that's why Dani Leigh made that disgusting 🗑 song

Agreed. And when they say stupid stuff, they get corrected!❤🖖

Jesse Woo would be perfect. They are both from the west indies so they can give a perspective that is unique.

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Yesss that would be really good

This!! Such a sad never-ending reality😕

Very well said. Absolutely brilliantly articulated.

It’s true though… as a light skinned /high yellow person myself, if dark skin person wants my acknowledgment is going to be based on what they’ve told me not based on what I’ve experienced. I cannot talk about what I don’t know or have experienced…. I cannot say dragon fruit is bad if I have not tried it, I can only speak on what other people say about it not from experience but pretty much just repeating what others say. Same way why you cannot understand my point of view on why I cannot talk about what I’ve not experienced.

Are you looking for your light skinned friend to fix the problem?

Or maybe he had a different outlook on it and felt differently about it but knew y’all wouldn’t have been able to handle it because some of y’all men treat them differently too, y’all view them as weaker

That was a show

@@savillewilliams The probate fight afterward was even wilder. Literally the thing documentaries are made of. My aunt won tho (for the kids against his very new wife; yes she probably did).

I have been bullied by light skinned girls because of my dark skin and kinky hair. As a child, biracial and light complected girls almost always acted superior and would let you know they thought they were better. They always feel the need to articulate to me how they are preferred. Always announcing to me for no reason their man don't like dark skinned females 😮 As an adult I see it for what it is 😅 Unless you have walked in the shoes of a truly dark skinned female (I am considered dark anywhere I go in the world) you cannot be an expert on this topic no matter how much you want to be... you have no idea. My self esteem is all coming from within as there is no outside validation. We can ṭalk all day long but truth is the world, including other Blacks, hate dark skin people and always will. Prove me wrong.

​@@kimichismith6047You're right.

Your plight is anecdotal not systemic!

@@kimichismith6047Same thing goes for lightskin women…. You have not walked on our shoes either and I can also tell you many stories being bullied by dark skinned women for doing nothing. Making assumptions about how I think I’m better when all I did was live my life. So unless you’re a light skinned woman you cannot talk on our experiences or make it little to non existent because you had the same experience from a light skinned woman…. It goes both ways

This! My own sister would bully me because of complexion, hair texture & my facial features ( we have the same mom different dads) & as a child I thought it was just bullying & my sister being a mean big sister….It hurt not being accepted by my own blood…. & don’t even get me started on men especially black men saying they wanted to be with me because they either thought I was mixed & or just because I was lightskin which is a clear fetish… it’s a double edge sword for sure

Indeed! As Amanda said, it's genetically about how the melanin decides to pop out. Many people honestly don't know the difference between ethnicity and race, therefore they need to educate themselves.

Race is a categorization of splitting up people "by color". Ethnicity includes culture.

You bring up a really great point!

Not all because LIGHT SKINNED PEOPLE WERE STILL ENSLAVED AND SLAUGHTERED .

Oh indeed. So much of the oppressor's dark energy has been emulated almost effortlessly, for ages, by the "ones who didn't face struggle" because the oppressor really did a number on the soul and psyche of generations of black people. Colorism was ingrained and taught so conspicuously that it shocks me today when many of the "ones who didn't face struggle" aren't conscious of their behavior because they have been doing it so long.

@@tati-anabrissett4495 Good point. Even though I was talking about a spirit and not a person, replace it with ugly or incendiary energy, if you like.

I’m not getting how both of you are getting to this point. Is it that you were just refusing to understand what she saying? You’re saying that she should have an expert on colorism but who is that expert on colorism? Who is it say that she’s not that specially since she has actually studied Black and African studies in college? So who is this expert because just because your skin is darker does not make you an expert on colorism. So I hope that’s not what you’re saying. I am very dark skin brown girl and I’ll know that I am not an expert on colorism. Experiencing something does not make you an expert, studying at discussing it, and understanding it from my point of view from the inside and the outside makes you an expert. So again, I ask, what makes you an expert? She didn’t miss any opportunities here because she is speaking from her point of you as a which the questions came in. Apparently you didn’t listen to any of this episode because you are in validating her experience with this very statement and this response to the statement. I guess I’ll reach out to her to see if I can be her guest is the expert on colorism, seeing that I am the same color of shade skintone as Gabrielle Union and Tika Sumpter, but I am born of a biracial father, who could have pass as white if he wanted to. In that regard, I could see his world and be adjacent to it meanwhile, experience, everything that a person of my skin tone experiences throughout my life.

@@tati-anabrissett4495 I completely agree. Thanks for taking my comment to the next level! We would've been up and arms if a white person would've had this convo about racism in this way. Yes, I get the focus was on the side effects of being lightskinned, but I feel it got intertwined with a conversation about how colorism showed up in Amanda's life and from her perspective as a lightskinned person, which was (because she is lightskinned and is still educating herself about the subject) quite basic and more importantly reproduces colorism. And like you said that convo (its focus and direction) need to be lead by a brown skinned or dark skinned woman/femme.

@@tati-anabrissett4495you know what the real tea is? This episode was called Side effects of BEING LIGHT SKINNED! But go awf thoooOoOoOoo

@@BuckleBunny my point was that this topic deserves an expert perspective just like any other topic does. This way we give the topic the seriousness it deserves and don't reduce it to just a matter of opinion. Specifically, I was thinking of Dr. Sarah L. Webb. Also, as with any other topic that privileged folks engage about their own privilege the protocol should be. 1) use you platform to center the voices of those that are marginalized in this specific identity category. Your comments on lightskindness should contribute to a deeper understanding of colorism with the purpose of dismantling it not reproducing it. 2) The course and direction of what dismantling of colorism looks like needs to be set by dark and brown-skinned folks. And lightskinned folks need to do the work. 3) Do your research before coming on to speak about a topic and always ground your thinking in the collective work that dark-skinned and brown-skinned people have done on the topic.

Some of y'all are doing the absolute most. This was a Q & A featuring questions that people were specifically asking a lightskinned Black person for the purpose of seeing what a lightskinned person's opinion/experience is. How was that supposed to come from somebody that's not considered lightskinned? I understand the point of centering the voices of the people most affected by an -ism in discussions of the power dynamic, because they have lived experience that can't be supplanted by someone else's imagination, assumptions or empathy. However, that's clearly NOT the kind of discussion that this was meant to be, based on the format alone. If you disagree with Amanda's opinions, that's cool. Perhaps address the specifics with your own opinions, then. But it's like you're setting your own objectives for her video and then saying she missed your mark. Strawman mess.

But is it black in America?

​@@meme-fs1jnPossibly. But, should we follow that logic or actually use correct terminology?

Mixed people are black my my is full black my father was mixed and light skin u get my looks from him

@@elijahmcdonald1349 no mixed people are mixed

@@albertamathurin7084 if that’s the case then no black ppl brought here against their will are black because we’re all mixed. No one is 100 percent black here in America.