That's why I avoid asking someone about kids, because many times someone is struggling with infertility or other issues. If I ask someone (that someone is always very close friends and family), I will ask them like: Would you ever like to have or adopt children? Thank you for opening up even if you don't owe us any information about your private life. 💛
I always think that too. Plus I don’t think it’s any of my business why or why not people choose to have children. It’s not always a sure thing if someone can. I would hate to hurt someone’s feelings.
I will never, ever understand how so many people will think it’s acceptable to ask a woman when she plans to have children!! The answer you gave is proof that no one is ever certain what someone is going through. Sending you positive vibes for your fertility journey.
I don't get why ppl bother so much either. I'm on the other end of the spectrum (as in I chose not to have kids) and I get attacked so much for my choice. People are often very vocal about their opinion on it and someone once even had the balls to tell me "I don't deserve to be a woman" because I didn't want to bear a child. It's usually women being rude and trying to tear each other apart. It's very sad!
It’s a neverending story of people being effing nosey 😒 if you don’t have kids they ask when you’re gonna have them, if you had the first - when you get the second one? If you have 3 or more then why so much, Earth seems overpopulated anyway. If for any reason you don’t have and don’t want kids then comes an endless parade of arguments why you should change your mind... I hope that as awareness raises, those questions will end 🤷🏼♀️
Yes!!! I actually appreciate that Andrea keeps her personal life more private because it’s really none of our business and she has no obligation to share! I had a cervical cancer scare last year and people who asked when I was having kids (which I don’t really plan to) didn’t know they were hitting on a nerve as I and my partner waited for biopsy results. (Cancer free for now, though!). That info just feels like private between me, whoever I’m sharing my goodies with, and my ob/gyn. ❤️
I agree. It's really so insesitive for people to keep on asking why you still don't have kids and that i am getting old. I mean, it's not your life, move on please. 🤷♀️
I appreciate your kind words! 💗 That means so much. I know that a lot people come from a good place but I’ve definitely learned firsthand it can be a tough question to answer.
@@aprilsilvers381 Couldn't agree more! Especially, when she said winter is lasting forever! This year is winter feels sooo long! I remember when she had under 20k subscribers.
Agreed! I love watching you anyway but I’m more likely to comment because I k is you read them, and in these trying times (esp personally) sometimes a small thing like a response is a small bright kindness and it adds up. xo
The fact you're such a "normal" person is why I love you so much. you're do down to earth, sweet, just living. "boring" can be a good thing, too, if it means you're safe, knowing what to deal it... it can be in control.
It kind of astounds me that you have such a large following and still read and respond to comments. You are one of the sweetest people on RU-vid. Whatever route you choose to becoming a mother, you're going to be an amazing one!
I would love to see what kind of eyeshadow pallet you'd create with colourpop! Colourpop, if you are listening, we'd love for this creater to get a chance to make her own pallet!
Why do people care if other people have kids? 🤷♀️ Andrea, I’m so sorry you have been struggling with infertility. I wish you all the best. And I hope people realize that certain questions are unnecessary. You don’t know what people are going through, so don’t be nosy about things that are so personal.
@@roxanamarroquin640 I understand there was no malicious intent behind the question, but being nosy is not a virtue. Asking people when they’re having kids, if they’re struggling privately with infertility is hurtful. People should think before they ask as a common courtesy to others.
I've been married 32 years... and when our kids were young, we made a decision to live a simple life. That meant I wouldn't spend every afternoon in the car running around to tons of activities. They did fun things, but we limited them. We focused on having family dinners every night, and I will admit that we are all home bodies! I guess we were quite "boring," but boring can also meant being content. OR drama free, or having your priorities in the right place. Sorry, this hit a nerve because you are anything but boring!! You are an amazing makeup artist and I love your philosophy towards makeup!!❤️ PS Our children are married now, and often refer to what a happy childhood they had!!!
I really respect what you say about not wanting to live the “influencer” lifestyle. That’s so cool because I don’t see that with many other youtubers. You have proven that it is possible to be successful on this platform without having to follow that same template that many others do.
From one normal "boring" person to the other, I love how relatable and down to earth you are in your videos! I would so much rather watch your content that some consider "boring" than other youtubers with over the top extreme videos. Keep being you! 💜
I’m almost 30 and got diagnosed with PCOS which can affect fertility, we don’t want kids but I see so many people struggling, it is more common than people realize and it’s no ones fault! Thank you for normalizing it, hoping your journey goes smoothly. Love from Nashville ❤️
Thank you for your kind words and opening up! I think there’s such a stigma around any sort of fertility/infertility talk and it can be really helped to hear from others. 💗
Sadly PCOS is so common, I was diagnosed with it SEVERAL years ago. I’m 37 and am almost 19 weeks pregnant with my first (and probably only) child. It definitely needs to be talked about more, the reproductive system in general and it doesn’t need to feel so “taboo”.
I really enjoyed hearing about your life. It's nice to get to know the person behind the "creator" if that makes sense. You've always felt like your talking to a friend about makeup, but it was nice to hear a few more personal things about you. Thank you for sharing.
Thank you so much for your kind words Angela! Whenever I see your name in my comments section it makes my day because you are just so sweet and supportive. 💗
There is this one quote that I really love from one of the Lord of the Rings movies : "It is no bad thing to celebrate a simple life." I feel like over the past year I have really come to acknowledge and embrace the fact that I don't want or need a super glamorous life, I would be fine with a small house and a cat, I don't need an expensive mansion. Just made me think of that when you were talking about not wanting to go on brand trips and things like that! Love you!
I totally agree! Even with all the things the pandemic has caused me to lose, it's made me grateful for how many things I have and reminded me not to get caught up in the rat race. There are certainly benefits to a larger house, more stuff, etc., but there are drawbacks too--the more you have, the more you have to manage. I'd rather put my energy into people than places and things.
My husband and I are dealing with infertility issues too and he got laid off from work. It has been a tough time for us because of this pandemic. I agree with the things you have said, not a lot of people can really relate to it. Some even joke about this. Thank you for sharing your story. I liked you even more. 😊❤
The baby's question is so rude and a lot of time hurtful. I watched a latin youtuber who only has one son and people asked her all the time about a second child without knowing about her infertility problems and that she lost one baby before her miracle boy. She address the question again on instagram, and it was so painful.
You are so not alone with working through infertility options. Everything surrounding it is so sensitive and isolating. I will keep you and Brady in my prayers as you navigate this
Even as my interest in makeup has started to dwindle, I continue to watch all of your videos because you are just so relatable as a normal, wonderful person. It breaks my heart to hear you are struggling with infertility. I will pray for you and Brady as you navigate how you will grow your family. Blessings to you and thank for your being such a bright spot in my life over the last year. 💜
You have no obligation to ever talk about kids. It’s no ones business, and it’s not always in your control. I had a healthy planned pregnancy in 2017, then lost a baby for no reason in October. We’re always asked when we’re going to have another baby and we simply can’t. People are so rude. I’m sorry you have to field inappropriate questions like that. Blessings.
So sorry for your loss. Yes, it’s no one’s business. I always tell people if someone doesn’t have kids, it’s for a reason. Whether they can’t, don’t want them, lost one, etc. Its a sensitive subject to bring up not matter what the reason is. If they want to discuss it, let them bring it up.
When I was about to move with my boyfriend, her mom talked to us and to be careful with babies and I broke into tears, she didn’t know what she said, but me and my boyfriend knew I have fertility issues, so yeah, it’s hard to speak about It even with your family, I appreciate you being so open and sweet about it 🙌🏻 and I send lots of love to your family
I've always thought that if I had a reality based show of my life, it would be cancelled after a couple of episodes. I don't do anything exciting, I read and read and read, spend time with my husband and kids, cook and clean. I never miss your videos, I love makeup and you're one of my favorite youtubers, thanks for sharing.
I relate to you so much in the fact that I’d rather do more family oriented things then go to events! I am definitely a homebody lol! One of the biggest things I love about your channel is how interactive you are with your subscribers! I see some channels that very rarely interact so it is so nice to see a content creator that likes feedback with their audience💜
I second this! It helps keep us connected and most of the time once they reach a certain subscriber count it seems like they don't care, even if they do 🥰
I love that you’re totally normal. It makes me feel like your looks are actually attainable and wearable. Infertility is definitely pretty common although not talked about as much. I was lucky enough to have my daughter before I developed infertility but there was a grief for me on knowing my journey wouldn’t be what I thought it was.
You are honestly the nicest person I follow on RU-vid & a huge part of that is because you’re NORMAL so please don’t ever see that as a bad thing! You are so genuine and you translate that with such ease so keep doing what you’re doing! Sending you lots of love ❤️
I really appreciate you sharing your fertility story with us. I’m way too young to start thinking about a family yet but I’ve had some health issues growing up and I’m worried that my fertility will be effected by them so hearing you be so open about the topic means a lot ❤️
It tooky hubby and I 8 years to conceive and we had given up when we finally found out about our little miracle baby. We had come to terms with the fact that it might not happen for us and we would be dog parents forever. It can happen! I always send out good energy to people going through this because I was a mess about not being able to have kids. So good energy your way to give you the life you want, kids or no kids.
Dealing with infertility on top of the pandemic is so isolating. Thank you for sharing your struggles - it definitely made me feel less alone. You don't owe us any updates on how or if you choose to expand your family but I am hopeful that you will have peace with whatever option you choose.
I love how your calmness, kindness and sincerity just radiates. It was so great to see you open up. As someone who has been a subscriber for what feels like forever now, I love getting to hear a little bit more about you. You really make my day whenever I watch your videos, maybe it's because I'm low-key (ie boring) too!
In regards to people saying that you are boring, I appreciate that you are concise and only talk about the makeup during makeup videos. Sometimes there's no need to add in extra flourishes for no reason, and they bug me. BUT I've been told I'm boring too.
My husband and I started actively trying last year. I was diagnosed with PCOS and it’s definitely a struggle. Thank you for sharing. You are not alone in this.
I too, have struggled TTC and have had PCOS since I was a teenager. One thing that can really really help regulate cycles with PCOS is keto/ low carb. As ladies with PCOS usually have elevated insulin. Both my SIL and I were able to conceive after going low carb. I’ve heard several keto doctors who’ve said that a large proportion of their female clients got pregnant after going keto. There’s no one single cause of infertility, but I just wanted to put it out there as a testimonial ❤️
I think why I like you so much as that you just seem like a genuinely nice person. I can’t believe anyone would ask you about children. I feel like that is like asking someone, “do you plan on losing weight?” It’s so personal and can be tied to such painful experiences for people. Anyway great video, always nice to see you.
My sister so struggled with infertility and discussing it, so I really empathise ❤️ I have nothing helpful to add except I really enjoyed you opening up a little here, it is brave and helps take away stigma. Hugs
andrea you are so wonderful and inspiring. sharing about that was incredibly brave, it's so hard to talk about even with friends, much less talking about it to a screen on the internet to thousands of people. we love you so much, im sending you so much love! you are never obligated to share more than you want to, but thank you for letting us in.
Loved how open and sincere you were. I have been Dealing with fertility issues for the past 20 years. I have PCOS. I still have hope that it will happen but if it doesnt i am okay with that as well. Keep Positive and safe 😘😘
My husband & I have also been struggling with infertility issues. The isolation & shameful feelings are so hard to deal with and I'm so sorry that you have to experience that. Lots of love and positivity sent to you and your family. ❤
I just started my RU-vid channel, and I really appreciate your advise. By the way.... you are NOT boring. I love your channel and rarely miss a video. Keep being you!
Andréa I’m experiencing the same thing as you in the infertility front... I’m glad to hear that I’m not alone on this struggle and please know you are not alone also! Thanks for sharing... this type of vulnerability will just make you stronger.
As someone who struggled with infertility I appreciate your openness and vulnerability. Having gone through it mostly alone, I know that having support of others is important. ❤️
As someone dealing with fertility issues myself, I would love to see it be talked about more and embraced rather than shamed. You are so brave for not only sharing, but trusting your YT community. We love watching you and enjoy your content. ❤
Infertility is tough and I know I had such a hard time feeling like it wasn’t my fault, etc. Plus I always felt like I had to put on a strong front so I didn’t worry my husband and friends. I know you didn’t ask for it (so ignore me if I’m out of line!) but my best advice to anyone going through it is to treat your husband like your teammate. Be in it together. So many encouraging thoughts from me to you!
I went through fertility challenges and appreciate when anyone shares that their process wasn’t the standard, easy route. It absolutely makes me feel less isolated! Thank you! 🧡
Thank you so much for briefly sharing your infertility struggle. No one should ever feel shame for going through something like that because it is something that more people go through than we realise. It should never be a taboo subject to talk about due to the isolating feeling that produces. I also agree with you about the “problematic” brands. Everyone has their own definition of what that means to them and absolutely NO brand is perfect in every situation.
I love that you are unapologetic about your chill and laid back lifestyle. I can definitely relate, and I personally enjoy watching youtubers who are authentic and don’t try too hard to make it seem like their lives are so wild.
It really does my heart good to know you can earn a living as a RU-vidr without exploiting all the drama, or ranting against brands/products. I love that you just enjoy talking about the products, and I always get so much out of your reviews and GRWMs and all that. Best wishes to you and your husband with your family planning! Also, what are some of your fave NYC restaurants??? I've not been to Manhattan in over a year, I think, and while I have some fave places myself, I'm always interested in learning about others.
It's truly an honor to know that I'm part of an audience that you trust to share this with, even though you don't have to. Thank you for sharing the more intimate details of your life and I'm wishing you the best of luck on your journey. ❤️❤️❤️
I recently found that I have endometriosis (so I may have fertility problems in the future) and it’s been very emotionally as well as physically draining. When I told my friends, a lot of them had stories about fertility issues either with themselves or close relatives etc... I think these issues are definitely a lot more common then you might think and having open conversations about it is helpful to know that you’re not alone x sending lots of love and I love your videos ❤️
I went through five years of infertility. It’s hard, people can be judgy, it’s a roller coaster. My baby was born from a FET cycle. Know you are not alone and we’re all here. :)
Andrea- thanks so much for opening up about your infertility. I am on a journey with that as well. It’s hard. Don’t feel the need to share if you don’t wish but know there are many people who can relate, you are not alone. Best wishes to you and your husband. 💜
How very sweet that you give your pugs a social day! Also I love that you let the older one stay home and chill. I really enjoy watching your videos and I think you have the best swatches on RU-vid! I share your love of eye shadow palettes so I try to catch everyone of your videos to get your opinion. I appreciate all the hard work you put into them. Sending you a hug!
Thank you so much for taking the time to do a Q&A. I completely understand some things needs to be kept private and I respect that. Always appreciate your interaction with your subscribers. I pray and hope that God will answer your prayers and give you all your hearts desire. God always knows the right timing. 💕Thank you so much for all you do behind the scenes. I'm so glad you love what you do and put your heart into it. I want to someday feel the same way. I hope you are doing well and having a fabulous day!
I love that you prefer the simple life. I feel like many ppl don’t like to admit that, even though it’s great to prefer privacy and peace and many actually prefer it.
I just came across your videos today and have really enjoyed watching them. You definitely never have to explain the answer to those nosey questions. I was a surrogate in the year 2020 so while I didn't struggle with infertility, my heart definitely goes out to those who do. Just know that you are not any less of a person because of the struggles. It just makes the climb all the more special
Thank you for being open and vulnerable and courageous ❤️ I loved hearing about your diverse job experiences- how fun! 😊 We are homebody’s too and love just taking the dog for a walk in the neighborhood. Simplicity is underrated!
You are absolutely not boring. You are so so brave and kind and you help so much people to stay centered and comforted. Thank you for you, you do good things for people every. single. day. 💕
We are 1 in 8... *hugs* My husband and I ended up doing IVF and after two rounds and much anguish...changing clinics to travel out of state, other personal issues, we have a son. It's an extremely lonely process. Be gentle with yourselves and know you aren't alone. And you're so right! Growing a family happens in so many diff ways. Thank you for sharing!
You are not boring AT ALL, and why are they watching you if they think that? You are the most thoughtful creator that I watch. All of your content comes from a well thought out place. You really make me think about my makeup purchases and products. It has introduced me to some really great brands and saved me money.
Hey you are not alone in this journey. I had PCOS. after 8 years through IVF I have triplet girls. I never expected but it is a blessing for our family. I wish you you all the best and keep hope always.
It is a kind thing to open up to others about infertility, thank you for sharing ❤️it helps to make those going through it feel less alone. The journey to parenthood and infertility is indeed an incredibly isolating experience. You’re amazing Andrea!
We’ve been through the struggle of growing our family as well. It’s such a weird things to go through because we all KNOW others have been through things but it’s still such a personal experience. Praying for you!
I resonated so much with you with the first answers you gave. I am feeling very lonely with isolation. It really raises my anxiety when I see people on social media living life while I’m at home doing the work that needs to be done to prevent the spread. 😞 and also, the lesson you learned in 2020 that we don’t have control over a lot our lives and the example of school you gave. I learned that lesson in 2019 when I was in a doctoral program that closed due to bankruptcy and a lot of other shady stuff. It made me aware that I can have a plan but life happens and I must accept what is and adjust my plans. It really set me up to handle 2020 & 2021. I wish more people would realize that. 😞 Thank you for sharing your fertility journey. I know things will happen for you and your husband 💞 And I agree, youtubers should reply to comments. I’ve unsubscribed to channels who don’t. I find it rude 😬
I really like you, Andrea. Thanks for being so relatable and vulnerable. You aren’t alone! I struggled with infertility for 12 years and finally had my daughter. If you and your husband decide having a child is the right path for you - and frankly it is nobody’s business- then I wish you all good blessings. Don’t lose hope and I am praying for you. 🙏🏻
What scare me the most about being on RU-vid is to become well known or famous, I have always been scared of it, so I understand you a lot there. Some people don’t understand the fact that we do this because we love it, not because we want to become famous, being famous isn’t always that perfect 🥰🥰🥰🥰
I know that most people mean well, but having struggled with infertility for almost 5 years, I’ll never ask someone when they’re having kids ever again! I appreciate you being vulnerable about that part of your life, thank you for sharing with us. I’m practically an expert on infertility and treatment options at this point, and totally here for you if you need a friend who gets it. 💗
I'm sorry you're going through infertility issues. =( I have pcos and after trying for 10 months we found out I was pregnant only to lose the pregnancy 10 weeks later a few days before Christmas 2020. Take time for yourself and don't feel pressure to answer anyone. It's not shame. It just isn't always other people's business and you shouldn't feel bad for that. ❤
As a fellow infertility warrior - thank you for sharing your story. It’s common but so incredibly difficult and isolating like you mentioned. If you come across groups or websites/blogs that you find helpful, please share with the rest of us ☺️ 💗
Thank you for sharing Andrėa. My husband and I are going through similar things. It's nice to know we're not alone although I wouldn't want this for anyone.
Thank you for trusting us to let us into more of your personal life! I hope you find a path to overcome your challenges without too much upheaval in your life! I too have a quiet normal life! I can relate!!
I SO appreciate how well you respond to your comments. You are very engaged and it doesn't go unnoticed. I also appreciate Samantha March for the same reason.
I love this video and I love that you enjoy a “normal” lifestyle, I think that’s why I find you so relatable! Thank you for sharing so much as well, I can tell it is a subject close to your heart
I'm a newer subscriber, but I just love how sweet and genuine you are (and your accent makes me homesick!). People like you are a primary reason we need to mind our business! (Parenthetically, I had a two-pound preemie and almost died, and people still say, "oh, only one, huh?" 😠🔥 SHUT. UP.)
I love how you answer these questions!!!! You really never do know what people are going through behind the scenes! "Some" people mean well but it really is an intimate question dealing with children. ❤❤ It took me and my husband 7 years to have babies...it is really lonely AND its tough between couples as well. 😘 Thank you for sharing your life with us! 😘😘
Thanks so much for opening up and sharing your stories. I for one truly appreciate that you enjoy living your life rather than posting every second of it. That is such a genuine feeling and one that my husband and I relate to so much because we are the same. It is what has kept me following along for years.
Loved the video! Please ignore any hate comments. I realized that boring = drama free, and I love that about your channel, that I can turn to you and listen and learn stuff, or just see what life is like in your neck of the woods. I know awhile ago you mentioned doing a cooking video with the hubby, I would still love to see it!
I feel for you for your fertility journey...I also struggled and I realize looking back that I learned SO much along the way. You are not alone...thanks for sharing your story even if unplanned. No pressure to give an update. I’m here to watch your videos whatever you choose to post!
Controlling your reactions vs. trying to control what happens to you is great advice. Finishing my PhD has been delayed by a year, which was really hard to come to terms with this year, but I’ve become increasingly more thankful for what I do have. Wishing you the best with your fertility journey! I love you vlogs too! Also this eye looks is absolutely gorgeous on you! 💕
Thank you for being so open and honest. My husband and I tried for many years to have children but due to infertility issues we were not able to. It is very difficult & isolating. I have been asked so many times “when are you two having kids?”, “You don’t have any kids? Don’t you like them?” or “why don’t you have kids?”. It’s painful and uncomfortable especially to be made to feel like you have to justify why you don’t have kids by releasing terribly personal information. Thank you for opening up the discussion on this silent topic. 💜
I am a teacher and a part time RU-vidr and the struggle is real! I really loved listening to you answering these questions! I am so glad you can do this full time you have great content and I love your one palette a month philosophy!
Is it worth it, YT? I have a full time job (Financial Advisor) and have a passion for YT and am considering starting a channel. Everyone has a different view but like to get other's perspectives as well 🥰
I like you because I feel like I’m talking to a real human being when I wat h you. I love how you are so just real, you are a real person who doesn’t want the spotlight you just want to connect & bring together a group of people who enjoy makeup like you. I really like that so much and appreciate your videos. They are so calming
My husband and I went through infertility and I definitely relate to feeling isolated. I had no one that could understand how powerless and hopeless it makes you feel. We were blessed through adoption in 2014 and I can’t imagine my life being any other way. Life has a way of pushing you where you need to be. Good luck with your future family plans💖
Love your channel and thank you for the opportunity to get to know you a little better. We have lots in common! And I can’t believe you said brown or bronze eyeshadow. Totally expected to hear purple. 🥰 PS - love doggie daycare days. Nothing beats the excitement they have seeing you after a long day playing with their friends.
I’ve dealt with infertility issues, and I’ve never felt shame. I’ve felt more that it was so personal I didn’t want to hear what others wanted to say. I knew I would have others support me, but I needed to know how I felt first. I love your channel, and appreciate the tutorials you do from time to time. Good luck in 2021!
