Hey, As a divorced father, I just want to remind you that you have not lost your parents. They still love you even though they'll end up living in different houses. You will get through this, I promise!
You didn't lose your parents and they will always love you, so that hasn't changed. As you get older and develop your own life, the pain will ease. As for friendship, most young people do not take the time to develop real friendships which are crucial to a good life; instead, they hang out with people for other reasons even though those people are not your real friends. Thanks for posting this video as I'm sure it will help a lot of people.
I can understand your hurting and remember you are on this Earth for a reason of your own. Follow your dreams and love each of your parents separately, as I am sure they still love you very deeply. You are quite right to smell the roses along your journey of life. Remember also that God has a purpose for you and to stay strong and love yourself before anyone else. ❤
This is GREAT advice, bro. I hope others actually hear and absorb the ideas you are trying to get out there. I'm also in a transition period and am sort of a "lone wolf". You are handsome and articulate, and you made my day. I'm happy to call you a friend!
hey bro been through the same. Its definitely hard to know they car for you when they are constantly fighting. But its all about staying strong. In the weirdest way possible Minecraft was my outlet away from all of this. I joined a small server with a great bunch of people. They ended up being my rocks. But ended up having to sit my parents down 1 at a time and let them know how i was feeling. When they are busy fighting they forget there are other people involved in this too. They need to be reminded. I will never forget the group that helped me.
From Randy in Chattanooga, Tennessee: Don’t give up, buddy. Remember this thought: Winners never quit, and quitters never win. Take care and God bless.😃🙏
It's always the little things in life that matter most. When I can, I head out to the woods (parks, simple wooded areas, the National Forest just north of here), and leave the phone in the car. Usually, I take my dog with me too. Definitely helps with my mental state.
Stay strong and keep positive thinking. I’ve been through this and I know how hard it is. Chin up and ask for help anytime , you will get through this and things will get better, hugs and best wishes, x
God bless you and bring you healing. That is a lot of loss and grief to go through. "God never changes." I pray you have peace. It seems like you have a great character so keep up the faith.🙏
Let me point out as a dad i definitely would be absolutely proud to have u as a son. Never give up. You are young your parents love you there is stuff going on there protecting you from. Dont blame them were all stressed with the stuff happening but you are one brilliant young man good luck 👍
I'm a grandmother in Northern California, which doesn't mean I know a lot, but I know a lot about endings, both good and bad. I'm so glad you're not alone in this. Another thing you might want to try is remembering all your successes, all the hard times you've already gotten through, and the things you learned. You can do it again, dear boy. I know you can. Love & light!
As you become an adult it's not always about you. You're earning your own independent life and your parents will live their own life (together or separated from each other). Love going back and forth significantly includes everyone living their own life. Your appreciation of "lasts" is also a part of growing up. When I was 11 years old I returned from summer camp to find that my parents had separated while I was away (to spare me the trauma). It took them 2 years to divorce, NOT amicably, and a year after that my dad remarried and had 42 years with his 2nd wife (my stepmother) before she died in 2012. He lived to be 92, and at that point he and my older brother had been estranged for 48 years. Do I have any memory of the last time my 4-member birth family was together for dinner or even in the same room? No, and I wish I had known at the time. My mother never remarried and died in 2002; my brother remarried and divorced twice and died alone in 2023. There are many lasts in every life. That's a part of life.
So sorry to you- this is tragic but, if possible, try to see this as not having to do with you- you are your own person and although this kind of change is hard and a new paradigm with them will be necessary but as you're graduating you're adult life is all ahead of you, and I sure hope you can focus on all the good things you can create as your own self. I also disagree that you "lost your parents." They are still your parents, but they are also people with their own needs and issues. Now that you are entering full adulthood, you'll hopefully be able to develop adult relationships with your parents separately as you won't need them in the same way you did when you were a kid. Change is hard but you can do it!
I am really sorry to hear this. During my life I had to realize that life in itself always is a source of positive energy. My advice: always stick to that thinking that there is positive power within everything and you are a part of it. That sort of thinking took me even through the toughest situations in my life. Take care and continue keeping your head up with a positive mindset.
God Blessed you to be here........and you are in a tough place. Hold fast. Persevere. I don't know about your Faith-life, but I lost 3 older brothers after my Dad, Step-Father and Mother all passed. The ONLY thing that kept me going, even still, was my Faith, (I'm Catholic, attending Mass, keeping the Sacraments, etc.) Keep your Faith Malachi. God bless you. This too shall pass.
Really Sorry man to hear about your parents divorcing take some private time off and time to process it all in we don't want you to go downhill stay safe and remain awesome
Malachi, I just discovered your channel. Just remember (any one reading this) you never know when those "lasts" are going to come. Take time to appreciate your friends, your experiences. Be well, Malachi.
As a child who grew up with 6 different step dads. It sucks beyond belief. I have no magic advice for you. Hopefully your situation will be different than mine. Hold on to your faith get counseling whatever it takes. It has nothing to do with you.
You have a deep emotion with your words and it shows on your face. Even without your church youth group, turn to God. He will carry you on eagles' wings. He is the only peace you'll find, as well as your lasting hope and comfort. Continue to love your parents, even as they struggle. Reach out to friends. Look ahead to your future while cherishing fond memories of your past. Life is full of challenges and heartaches but you will endure when you focus on what matters most. May God bless you and keep you in Jesus Christ!
Hey, stay with your church, even tho you are college age! If that's not working then find a church that you can be active in! Great support, friends, etc. I love my church and we have a place for every one! (First Baptist Church, Dallas, Texas)
Tough break but remember their issues are not your issues. When I graduated from high school, I realized this was really the beginning of making my own life. Life is full of “lone wolf” moments but they don’t define you, for me they refined me. You may have lost your youth group, but not some friends I’m sure you have made. You also have not or will ever lose God. He was there for me even when I was sure He was not. A lot of life is appreciated retrospectively. Don’t give up but instead hang on to good, positive friends who are there for you. Be patient, life is never done all at once, take your time and make good decisions. I know you will make it, just from watching your thought process. Best wishes for your future!
Gratitude and generosity will always take you further in life than anything else you do. Be grateful for your experiences because it gives you focus and positivity. Be generous with others because it will attract like minded people to you.
Many communities and schools have support groups for people whose parents have divorced. It can really help to talk with other people your age who are going through similar experiences. Focus on school and after-school activities. Keep up with your schoolwork and any clubs or sports you're a part of.
Dude, Sorry about your parents divorce, but believe me, they still love you as much as ever! You’re very neat and clean cut that is taught to kids whose parents love and nurture them! You’re very intelligent and will do well in life, what seems like and is one of the most difficult times in your young life, it will pass and things will be better! Stay strong and healthy and you be just fine! 🇺🇸
Fergus Dublin Ireland Malachi, You are wise beyond your years! This is the 1st or 2nd vlog of yours I've seen, as I see I was already subscribed. That u never really connected with your friends interests me. What was the reason annnnnd, do you have siblings, oŕ ģrandparents/ aunts or uncles you can talk to, about your parents? Maybe u can say inñ your next vlog. Promising to write to you more, Fergus 🤗👌
Malachi, so sorry your parents couldn’t pull it together for themselves and certainly for you and your siblings, if any. Your parents obviously did a lot of good things as you are a reflection of there years of work and love to have created a caring and sensitive human being (soul) like yourself. Beautiful. But, God has likely given you this cross (or grace) to take you to were He needs you for the things He has in mind for you in the future. To mold and purify (sanctify) you for His kingdom. These hurts and pains is like the refiners fire; taking something already precious (you) and making it more pure and strong. I think God has great things in-store for you; and I pray for you the grace to graciously suffer these current pains and disappointments to the extent humanly possible given your youthfulness and inexperience in these difficulties , knowing a great reward awaits you. I wish I could take some of your sufferings from you, but know I will do what I can by remembering you and your family in my prayers and intentions at future Masses. How you bear-up and take on these difficulties will be a means of change for others hearts and minds in your circle of influence as you are a role model to your parents, friends and all of us that have come to know you through your video. Good luck and God speed. Persevere to the end; Romans 2:7 and 1 Peter 5:10. 😘
Oh, so sorry for you. I remember when my parents once had an argument and said to each other that they would get divorced. I was so shocked and frightened. But fotrunaltely they didn‘t. But tragedy hit me later: My mother died within 4 weeks when I was 18 years old. Perhaps it helps when you get information about the needs of children of divorcing parents and then talk about that with your parents and ask your parents to get information how to cope with a divorce best for a family. Perhaps the exist some family advisors who can help all of you getting through this situation. Perhaps some rules of fairness and valueing each other can be found together. If all give their best to meet the needs of each other it can get a joint task. Well, a old woman told me that in her childhood divorcement was not allowed. Her parrents didn‘t get divorced and hated each other more and more every day. And she was a prisoner of this hate hell as a child. So she appreciates nowadays that people can divorce when their relationship doesn‘t work any longer. Wish you all the best. Sorry for my non-native English-I am from Germany.
I’m a little older than you, and I have to say that you’re absolutely right. Relish the good times that were, appreciate what you have now and look forward to what is to come. Getting older doesn’t have to be a bad thing. You can write you’re own destiny.
Remain in the faith brother. Jesus has got you through all of this. Take everyday one day at a time because we arent promised tomorrow. I'll pray for you brother. My parents divorced when I was 10.
"You Only Get ONE Life . . Then, You'll Be Dead For A LONG Time" . . . your life is just beginning, enjoy all the "little things'. Remember that just about HALF of the kids in our country have divorced parents - you are not the only one - you said you had a good talk with that one friend, call him up and talk more often - or talk to someone else who's going through the same thing.
Sorry to hear about this. I won’t ask what it’s all about as it’s not my business, and you wouldn’t want to discuss it on here anyway. I wish you well for the future.
We need to realise marriage no longer works.....I think everyone is aware the divorce rate is up around 50%....but what most people do not see is the number of failed marriages in which the couple do not divorce, but live out their years in an unhappy relationship..... and that is an estimated 20 to 40% more on top of the 50% or so divorce rate. I would suggest that no one gets married as it seems hardest on children when it ends..and causes the couple involved endless suffering during, ending and years after it ends...all for at best a few short times of happiness. A couple that does not marry can still have children, and likely work things out to have a better life then if they got married.
Remember the decisions your parents make about their relationship have nothing to do with you. Don't even spin it to something personal and start feeling sorry for yourself. Wish happiness for your parents and if that includes not remaining married, then so be it. All of you are entitled to live your best lives.
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Sorry to hear about your parents divorce and the timing was not that great - everything kind of hit you at once. I want you to know that the Lord is watching out for you and Jesus wants to wrap his arms around you and give you his love and care. Remember, you always have a friend - Jesus. I will be praying for you. God bless and keep you safe. Visit with your Pastor and seek the Lord’s guidance with him.
Well it looks like you handling it pretty well because I see a looks like you want to burst into laughter behind your face behind your smile. Not sure what it is. Looks like you want to laugh
The good news is life begins after High School. You have learned that adults will lie to you then leave. But fear not you will barely recognize yourself by the time your brain finishes hard wiring around age twenty-five. Don't drink or smoke live each day like it might be your last and don't sweat the small stuff. Everything is going to be okay.
This is not on you. I’m sure both your mom and your dad still love you very much. I would strongly suggest you take a gap year before continuing your education. You would seem to have a case for doing so, since you were not counting on this occurrence to take place.
Have breathing that may calm you. And try and develop a personal relationship with God Jesus Christ. Because he’ll guide you through topsy turvy areas. That flow unannounced to you. Remember it’s spiritual warfare. Be thankful for the little things. Do Not Worry. These things to shall pass. Keep Healthy.
