Great video Alex! Really helpful! People often get to me when they claim that being with a bisexual is harder or more complicated than being with a monosexual. This video gives me the confidence to not let those people get in my head because I deserve to feel confident with who I am.
I have felt sexual feelings for both genders, though recently I have mostly only had sexual feelings for girls (I’m male). Am I bi or a confused straight person? Edit: and now I’m back to liking boys Why does my sexuality keep switching Please help lol
Bisexuals are only complicated when they are uncomfortable behaving as a fully straight or fully gay person. Bisexuals are no different than others when they are fully committed to dating one gender at a time. For example, a polyamorous lesbian triad is not complicated but a polyamorous triad that consists of multiple genders becomes complicated.
I saw my bi classmate a few days ago. He was subbing at my job. I Have not seen him since 2007. He voice much more high pitch. I might have changed to fully gay. I found out he was gay because he left with my bi church member to get a bottle opener. They left for hours and still didn't get the bottle opener. My church member wife is also vi. My church member is natural hair stylist and my classmate is an artist. They both are married to women with kids. I also noticed my classmate was really close to our other classmate that's openly gay.
I thought you weren't making videos anymore! I unsubscribed when I thought you were done with the channel. Out of curiosity I came back to the channel and I'm so glad you are making videos, you helped me so much when I was trying to figure out my sexuality and teenagers need channels like you. Thank you for not giving up on bisexualrealtalk💜💜
So glad i found your channel ... came out as bisexual like 2 weeks ago ... still learning and discovering. Interestingly, i’ve learned how we are different from pansexuals, which is one of preference. I do prefer women, but give my love to men as well. I do have had “male centered” sex dreams, so that was my first clue. Hope to enjoy your content for years to come
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Wonderful explanation of how different common experiences in life are complicated! If a person is open to learning how to drive or how to have a relationship, it can be mastered! 💗💜💙
When I seen this video I decided that I would like to answer this question before I see the video and my answer is yes because I am confused and complicated myself now I'm going to watch the video
Alex, I appreciate this so much. I've appreciated finding all of your videos. Thinking about being in a relationship at all feels complicated enough for me after being in an abusive marriage. It's often difficult to imagine letting anyone in. Even though that was a life time ago, it has lasting effects. After at least 15 years of burying what I knew to be true about myself, and right before COVID, I allowed myself to jokingly mention to my closest friends about bisexuality while we were out at dinner. The one friend, a gay man, asked if I'd had any luck dating lately. Playfully I said to my female friend that if neither of us are dating someone in five years, it's me and her. I kind of wanted it to be my coming out moment to them, but we all just laughed. But maybe implying it was enough, I don't know. Over the past year, I've really come to terms with my bisexuality but it does feel complicated. I've only come out to my daughter (I also have two sons), and to another close friend who I knew would be very supportive. I'm finally coming to the realization that all of my friends will be just as supportive because they are like family. The issue is my actual family, especially my mother. I tell myself that I wouldn't have to tell her at all unless I end up in a relationship with a woman, which is true, but at the same time is not being true to myself. Everything feels extremely complicated about truly coming out and being bisexual because I am 44 years old and have finally come to terms with this.
Kathy, Your comment is so touching...how brave to put yourself out here, and gradually, to friends and family. I am a 43 year old bisexual woman. I have known my whole life, and came out when I was still very young (13 or 14, I think). I only let my peers know, I never discussed it with my single mom. We did not get along, and I felt It wasn't her business (she's dead now). My adult children know, and most family and friends. No lie, it's a legit struggle. In my ever so humble personal experience, I have felt marginalized by both the gay community and the hetero community. The romantic encounters I've had with women have been limited, and thus, unfulfilling. Not all, but most. I feel often part of me is starving...However, I am married to a wonderful man who loves and supports ALL of me, so hope is not lost. I often wonder if polyamory would be worth it. Your journey will be unique and personal, I wish nothing but then best for you! Be gentle with yourself as you navigate this new path. There will surely be peaks and valleys; all worth while when you become irrevocably you own. Warmest thoughts are with you as you move forward.
Question(s)..can I bisexual truly be monogamous, while repressing feelings and desires that are obviously there. Unfulfilling those desires seems a stark sacrifice just to say one is capable of monogamy, and yet that burning feeling to...is always there ... Can a bi really love unconditionally, if they have to repress the urge for male or female attention while in a relationship, wouldn’t that be like saying, "we'll be together on the condition that you don’t be yourself, and act on your urges", is that not a set up to fall ...questions ?" smh
Can straight or gay people not love unconditionally even though they're so many other people they could have sex with? Being bisexual doesn't change your ability to love, just increases the amount of people you could love. Being open to having sex with a wider array of people doesn't mean that bisexuals couldn't be monogamous. If someone were to find themselves incapable of being monogamous that's on them, not their bisexuality. I'm bisexual myself and for me sex isn't even necessary for a relationship, if I were to happen to begin a relationship with someone that's asexual who wants to be monogamous I would be completely fine with that.
I am planning to buy some of your merch soon. Do you have advice for a new writer who would like to start writing FFM bi stories? And....have you ever considered writing short stories as well? I love literature and reading. I love hearing different voices in fiction. RE: complicated Hey. I crochet. That can be complicated, depending upon which pattern you are doing!
My advice is, just do it. Once you've done it, you can figure out what you need to do differently. But, you can't walk across the desert without taking that first step. I began my career writing short stories. I only switched to longer stuff because the market changed.
So Jesus explained, “I tell you the truth, the Son can do nothing by himself. He does only what he sees the Father doing. Whatever the Father does, the Son also does. For the Father loves the Son and shows him everything he is doing. In fact, the Father will show him how to do even greater works than healing this man. Then you will truly be astonished. For just as the Father gives life to those he raises from the dead, so the Son gives life to anyone he wants. In addition, the Father judges no one. Instead, he has given the Son absolute authority to judge, so that everyone will honor the Son, just as they honor the Father. Anyone who does not honor the Son is certainly not honoring the Father who sent him. “I tell you the truth, those who listen to my message and believe in God who sent me have eternal life. They will never be condemned for their sins, but they have already passed from death into life. “And I assure you that the time is coming, indeed it’s here now, when the dead will hear my voice-the voice of the Son of God. And those who listen will live. The Father has life in himself, and he has granted that same life-giving power to his Son. And he has given him authority to judge everyone because he is the Son of Man. Don’t be so surprised! Indeed, the time is coming when all the dead in their graves will hear the voice of God’s Son, and they will rise again. Those who have done good will rise to experience eternal life, and those who have continued in evil will rise to experience judgment. I can do nothing on my own. I judge as God tells me. Therefore, my judgment is just, because I carry out the will of the one who sent me, not my own will.
