Are Finnish People Rude? 🇫🇮 

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I am a woman and I was taugh to always open the door for the person behind you...either man o woman or cat...Has nothing to do with gender, its basic manners to my understanding.

Filipinos can’t survive in Finland😄. It’s imbedded in our culture to help and be needed. Living alone specially if you are an elderly is not normal for us.

Just because someone doesn't ask for help, doesn't mean they don't need it. Even in Finland.

Men might not open the door for you, but people usually hold the door open if someone is coming after them.

There was some rubbish in this video. Most Finnish men would help a woman with a baby. Definitely.

People in the comment section, don't judge a whole nation by listening some Helsinkian about her own surroundings...

I visited Finland and the people are all nice. I have a special needs son and all were warm to him and kind to him. Also, many children shared things with him which he didn’t ask for such as sleds (a lot). Maybe if you don’t come off needy they are kind because now they don’t feel used??? So the kindness was more genuine since I didn’t ask or demanded anything.

This sounds sad to me. But I'm Italian, so my culture is diametrally opposite than theirs. But I love to help others and I'm grateful for a kind gesture from a stranger person who sees I'm in need of something.

I don't expect a man to open the door for me because I have two healthy hands. However, if I carry something heavy, I expect anyone to open the door for me or help with the door. I will always do the same.

You can be self-sufficient, resourceful, rssilient, and still be helpful and kind to people, including strangers. It's weird how this simple thought has never occurred to a whole society. Cheers from Italy 🇮🇹😂😂😂

Well that sounds interesting. Im in Finnland every summer as my grandmother was from Finnland. I have experienced that when you ask someone they go out of their way to help you and at our summer house (kesämökki) when a neighbor sees or hears something that he believes you could need help they are immediately coming over and ask you if you need help. As for when a generator sounds strange or a boatmotor doesn’t start and stutters the neighbors suddenly appear next to you and offer their help.

My friend is Swedish and he says that’s why there’s a lot of single Swedes 😊

Well, I don’t consider myself an unusual Finnish man. I always make sure to hold the door open for the person behind me, whether it’s a mother with a baby, a woman or man of any age/ethnicity/style...

I am an american living in finland and people always hold open doors for me here? Both men and women do it so it doesn't seem gendered either, just whoever goes first holds the door open.

I’ll open or hold a door for any stranger if the situation facilitates it

Same here in Latvia. People don't like when strangers bother them or make small talk.

Happyness is real only when shared

Pretty much the same for the Dutch. (I am Dutch)

I'm a Finn and we always hold doors for others. But offering your spot in the queue to someone with just a few groceries is unheard of

I hope people don’t start thinking that we don’t want help. It’s more like if the person doesn’t need help, I don’t have help in gentlemen way but if someone is struggling we do ask if they need help or we need help. And we do keep the door open for the next person as long it doesn’t take them awkwardly long time to came.

Being direct isn't the same as being rude, it's just a normal way of communicating. If you are constantly annoyed by someone presenting things in a normal (calm), direct way, then the problem is in fact you.

Some people think this kind of behaviour is individualism at its best, a very common feature in Nordic countries, I guess Finnish people are not so fond of sugarcoating or fake politeness or pleasantries as a way of saving face because it's a waste of time and energy, but that's just my perception.

So asking for help is a weakness after all? I knew those therapist were lying to me

Coming from South America, something I really appreciate from Slovenian culture is how much people try to help, specially if they see you with a small child. There are situations where one person can't handle everything and you see a big difference when societies are setting in collective values, instead of individuals. Even if you are strong and self sufficient, a bit of kindness is always a great relief.

It's always good to be self-sufficient. But I like to use my self sufficientness to help others out to. We can be more efficient together.

What she said about politeness is true. I fell out with a Finnish friend because l found her direct to the point of rudeness.

Mediocre manners are the hallmark of a rancid society. I'm from Spain and I wouldn't be caught dead being disrespectful to anyone with children who needed help. My children were taught to always be helpful to those who are in need.

We are not not to be on our own. This is sad.

Once offered my seat on a train to a pregnant European woman I swear she looked at me like I was nuts,😂😂😂

They seem to behave as cold as their weather.............

I lived in Finland for 10 long years... I can say if you ask for help it's also looked down upon and people often do not help others even if you ask. As a foreigner who married a fin, you can expect it to be an issue culturally in your relationship. Especially if you ask for help or for them to do things. Their response will often be why can't you do it yourself... You can also be seen as lazy if you need help or can't do something yourself. Old people are often not cared for by younger ones and put to old people homes instead and never visited either is a norm. This culture in Finland has only been since the second world war. And the doors being not opened is only since feminism was so heavily pushed. I personally think it's a bit of a rude society and it comes across that way to people visiting also. Fins don't like Russians, but I personally find russians are more friendly than fins. Maybe they wanted to blast away anything of the russian culture on their own, including door openings. Maybe they felt that made them too much like Russians.😂

For all of you gentlemen out there, I really appreciate it when you open the door. It is such a polite gesture and very chivalrous.

The Japanese and Scandinavians keep looking for excuses not to talk to people😂😅

Thr complete opposite of southern Europeans

It's not a country of polite and warm people. That's all i can say.

As an American woman, I love everything about her energy and her dialogue. Be self-sufficient and stop waiting for dudes to do sh!t for you. ♥️👏

Scandinavians are Germanics and similar! Wunderbar 🇩🇪🇫🇮🇸🇪🇩🇰🇦🇽🇳🇱

I'm a woman but ive never cared about chivalry i dont mind it but i just think its weird cause opening a door does not require any effort but gives the illusion that a man is taking efforts for you.. everything ive heard about finland is awesome. People are self sufficient and mind their own business mostly. I love how direct they are.

This is not particularly Finnish culture, but rather Helsinki city culture. In other parts of Finland they do use polite words, open doors to strangers etc. daily polite things. It's just that Helsinki is quite rude place

It's not self sufficent. It's repressed and cold. It's why most of the world was horrified about Swedengate in 2022.

not sure how you can claim people are self sufficient in a country with such an extensive welfare system. He may not open the door for you but he contributes to your health care etc.

It’s so weird how different things are here in TEXAS. I’ve never opened the door for myself, and even if I get there first and wait for a gentleman to come through, he refuses for me to open it (ALWAYS)and asks me to go through first. EVERY every single time. I think it’s important to preserve cultural differences😊I’m glad I’m on this side!

chivalry, not politeness

This sounded very strange. People help one another if there seems to be a need for it, e.g. I think she is totally wrong with having it hard as a mother with a child in a stroller. I don't know how many times I have opened doors for them or let them go first etcetera. Another thing is helping as an automatic reaction, particularly when it come to "being a gentleman", which imo is a strange notion from olden times. As a man trying to do it, you can actually get negative reactions, i.e. it has to do with the last point: Do you think that I can't manage it myself...

Its a different story outside the cities, like its city people that are rude and selfish. Go to a smaller town and people do speak about everything you do but we also help each other much more, we thank each other even the bus driver(they do not do it in the cities). Also when a city person moves to an area the "village spirit" goes down until the city person adapts because they just abuse the help from everyone not giving anything back(like you can bake some bread or something make something that you are good at, doesn't need to be expensive as long as the person knows you put effort into it but nothing is better than something bad tasting).

I can tell you they are proud of being very independent. I lived in Finland for quite a while. One of my neighbours was a Finnish elderly lady who spent most of her life in Italy but she returned in her later years. One day that we happen to strike a conversation (because she locked herself out) told me that it was a mistake to come to Finland. She was completely alone, despite the company of two dogs. She was just alone all the time. Nobody came to visit her.

The most difficult nation I encounter , I was last summer in Helsinki and it was bad experience !! People living in their own shell 🐚

I wonder if that mentality also makes them more likely to be single? Are there a lot of people there who choose to stay single for their entire lives?

It's not missing, I'd say it's different and that's ok. Finnish people are very honest and respectful and I prefer this to fake politeness that is mixed with demands and high maintenance attitude. Maybe nobody opened doors for me but I didn't have to ask anyone to respect my private space, not to endlessly talk on the phone on a long train ride. Also, anytime I asked someone for help they were really nice and dedicated. Maybe they didn't indicate it themselves but I think it's ok to just ask.

Netherlands is similar

I'm not going to sugarcoat it. I've encountered many extremely rude people in Finland, and I'm a BLOOD Finn with a Finnish family. Not everyone is like this, but a significant number are. Some Finns learn their manners abroad, as I have. First and foremost, Finns value their personal space and will yell or harass you if you get too close, whether on a bus, in a store, or at a swimming pool. I once politely asked to sit next to someone on a full bus, only to be yelled at so loudly that the whole bus heard. Another time, a woman accused me of giving her a headache because of my perfume, even though I wasn't wearing any, just deodorant. In a Lidl store, a Finnish man yelled and waved his arms at me while I was at the cash register, simply because I was waiting for my items on the opposite end after my husband paid. I said nothing, yet he continued to get louder. Another man in an outdoor pool berated me for swimming close to my husband, despite the ample space available. Initially, I thought it was a joke, but he repeated his comment until I moved away. One day, I was sitting outside an R-Kioski when an elderly woman sat next to me. She complained about the sun and then made a racist remark, asking if I was white after I told her I was from Finland. I was shocked and told her directly that I am white. The only time I experienced respect was when I dyed my hair blonde. People were kinder to me for a few months, but when I couldn't maintain the blonde and returned to my natural brown hair, the harassment resumed. Even family members can be harsh. If you're not skinny or don't fit their mold, they'll outright tell you that you're too fat or big. They don't care about your feelings; if you don't conform, you're an outcast. Unfortunately, people here are not the easiest to deal with. Their personalities can be as warm as a refrigerator. While Finland has some good qualities, it's far from a perfect nation. I wish people would stop glorifying us and claiming this is the happiest place on earth because it feels like an international joke at this point.

As a Finn from Western Finland, I do not agree or relate to any of this🤨

She looks like a Nordic woman fron the 1600s. She's extremely beautiful

Their culture sounds like my personality 😅 I would thrive there ✨️

Interesting, I suspect it developed over the years as a defense mechanism to survive. Kind of how prisoners behave.

Seems like a fantastic loving society

Sometimes it embarrases me when someone even does not say "thank you" when I hold a door for her/him and even more they look at me like I didn`t deserve to do do that. In every, let`s say decent, society it is right thing and it shows you are well-mannered. Finland and Russia are similar in this respect.

Thank you.. so helpful to know!

It's almost like Independence to a fault.

Sounds like a paradise for me, an introvert!

I've never resonated with something more than this.

😐that sounds really sad. So much warmth comes from helping others

It's not bad to be self-sufficient, resilient etc. but not just for the sake of being. I think that humans as species got so far because of "team work".

Same in Norway

Finland is amongst the top 3 in the world of everything! I as a Norwegian bow. They are better than us.

Someone commented they seems cold as the weather I live in Norway border with Finland is hell they boring and cold

This is what Jordan Peterson meant when he said the more you try to make gender equality, the farther apart gender gets. This is the end result of strong, independent woman. Now you a single mom.

Its not a sign of weakness to learn to accept help, it is a humble Action.

Yo Finland sounds like heaven. Being dependent, sensitive, and weak are hallmarks of modern day America. Would love to live in a place where people actually do things instead of expecting others to do it for them

The common courtesies of older times are long gone here in the States,too. If you try to help strangers you’re probably going to get the cops called on you 😢

Finns are modern and great. Love from sweden🇸🇪

In this way of of life, its too easy to get depression, anxiety and so to commit suicide. These society norms of Scandinavian countries explain why they have highest suicide rates.

I'm Filipino, and this is shockingly different from our culture. Father's walk their babies when the mother is busy (cooking, laundry etc.) And it's quite rude for woman if the man didn't open the door for them. Gentlemen is common here.

Im a woman, but id help a mother if she seems in need 😅 Why does it have to be a man who helps u carry stuff, or open doors? 😅

I would feel rude to expect someone to open a door for me or do my heavy lifting just because I'm woman. Or take someone's time just to move my lips but say nothing. But I'm a Finnish woman. I love that we have raised to understand that anyone can do about anything and it has nothing to do with your gender etc. We are loyal, warm and loving people when we get to know each others, but we don't say we are friends or that we love you after few hours. And we help people with kids regardless of the gender of the parent if there is need 🙄

And It's the happiest country in this world. Really?? 🙄

Miss you, Carly

This is super interesting.

Sounds like Idaho.

I would hate living there.

Good job Finland! Equal pay = equal rights

I think opening and closing doors for the woman is sooo passé. Do women realize how ridiculous this ritual is?

Nobody can survive great adversity on their own. This is pure egoism... Not something to be praised

This sounds shit. Come to india we will change you 😂😂. This cannot be in the top happy nation from what she says. They should release the depression data of this country

Finland is a very beautiful country people are very good friendly nice and polite people who are interested in visiting Finland can visit I also invite finnish people to visit here enjoy the hospitality nature food culture etc

accepting help is it's own kind of strength

I think we should all practice reciprocity even in small actions vs just chivalry, there’s no reason men can’t hold the door for women AND women can’t hold the door for men. We should all be doing small good turns for each other I feel

Common courtesy also includes giving someone the opportunity to show their chivalry by helping you.

I can't count how many times I was given dirty looks for trying to be a gentleman. Stopped trying.

Doesn’t sound as the Finland I’ve grown up in. I help if I can even without asking. Opening doors and keep holding the up for others is also a natural thing. Don’t know what part of Finland she is talking about. Here in the neighbourhood of Helsinki we do care if someone needs help. Or maybe I’m very blind.

It’s straightforward, those that needed too much help never made it through winter in the olden days. So now it’s culture for the Nordic’s to value self reliance.

She's gorgeous.

Sounds incredibly depressing. When i met my Danish gf she was more like that then i latinod my way in and accustomed her to the latun chivalry, she is a much happier person now

We have many Finns here in michigan. Is especially in michigan's upper peninsula

What is the point to live in society, if you can't ask for help even on minimal things?? Seems a lonely place to live.

And once again, people around the world are judging us based on their own culture. 🙄 Our reasons are not what you claim, you just don't get it. I'm happy to help if anyone has any sincere questions.

I’m sorry I know a man is not obligated to hold the door open for a woman, but it’s considered common courtesy to do it.

A culture that glorifies self-sufficiency to the point where it rejects the concept of relying on others is sick.

Automatic doors are a great invention