As teachers we are often forced by fearful administrators and vocal parents to act in a way that we know is not in the best interests of students or society. We have what we have now as a result.
As a teacher and a coach, I completely agree. This past lacrosse season I actually had two juniors in high school who went home and complained to their parents that I was mean to them by pulling them out of a practice drill and correct them. They were also in absolute tears. Basically these children are uncoachable and possibly unemployable in their future. And I stopped coaching them and they didn’t realize and their parents didn’t realize what they were actually doing to their child.
But is industrial schooling in the best interests of young people in the first place? In reality, one-size-fits-all, labor-intensive schooling has always been at the forefront of causing all this damage.
@@meganbaker9116 I agree but what is the solution? - I have rarely heard about a good solution. Oh I know, but it’s expensive, people constantly complain about taxes that pay for schools, corporations, constantly fight against being taxed and drive the quality of schools down by refusing to pay taxes, such as Nike, and usually threaten to move if they don’t get tax break, or go to right to work states that caused “a race to the bottom” and gut communities who therefore don’t have revenues to fix their infrastructure and maintain quality schools. I believe the solution is to have some sort of a balance system of revenue collection and I don’t care what you call it that fund quality schools. The other thing that needs to be fixed is the concentration of extreme poverty and extreme wealth. Because when people currently talk about quality schools, they generally mean those schools that are in areas that are , high metal class the high class and when they talk about poor schools, they literally mean the social economic make up of that community. With substantial funding increases, you could replace, as you say, the industrial model of education, with a more individualized way of teaching. Currently, that is the buzzword in education and has been for the last 20 years.: that is individualized education, plans and differentiation which in classrooms of 25 to 45 kids is impossible. If we truly want to replace the industrialized model, then class sizes need to be dramatically, reduced, more alternative classes, and subject matters need to be offered, which means hiring many more teachers, which is gonna cost a lot of money, but I look at it as a conservative principle of investing in our future. There has been talk about the school to prison pipeline, and this is a result of that industrial model and the concentration of poverty. This is not an investment in our future, and we can choose to invest in schools or invest in prison. I don’t know what the exact numbers are but when there are some states that are spending between four and $10,000 per student And they’re spending $40,000 per inmate that shows that we don’t really care about our communities and we definitely don’t care about children or their future.
I so agree with Haidt's views about how we sheltered kids in the 90s to the point of rendering them unable to cope with life. I gave my kids more freedom than most parents did and was chastised several times by well-meaning "good samaritans" claiming to know what was better for my kids than I did. I recognized even then that the over-protection of kids had reached fever pitch and I wasn't going to cave! My daughter had a friend who was not allowed to cross the street onto the next block near her house until she was 13! I knew it was important to give my kids some agency, little by little, with increasing opportunities to make critical decisions as they matured. They thank me for it today.
@@shanecrump7932 They thought they were protecting you. Kids have to make their own decisions, make some mistakes, even fail a few times. That's how we learn!
@@tinyshepherdess7710 exactly. That’s why I hold zero resentment against them. They did the best job they knew how raising me and I appreciate it immensely. I also don’t have kids so I’m really in no position to judge someone’s parenting as long as they aren’t abusing their kids. I have also made some terrible life decisions and my little sister is 10x more successful than I am, so I have to accept responsibility for my part in my life outcomes.
@@shanecrump7932”My parents did their best” is the mantra of people who don’t want to see the reality of how their parents behaved. My siblings embrace it despite our parents almost killing me. Denial, denial, denial….
Beginning around 2012, during the “no child left behind” delusion, I was expected to make sure all my public high school science students passed my class whether they had tried to learn anything or not. I knew then that we as a country were heading for trouble.
My immediate reaction when I first heard the title of that legislation was, "No one can be left behind if no one goes anywhere at all--can't be stranded if the train never leaves the station...!"
Because of that Policy my coworkers 19 yr old son graduated highschool last year still unable to read or write . Robert had him file as disabled because he knows his son can’t even sign his own name on job applications . And no , his son is not special needs , he’s just a normal kid that got ignored in class because he was shy .
@@RumpleGold sorry to hear that. I pushed back against those policies which in my opinion hurt kids by being too willing to accept / create excuses and pass them on.
@@gangsta8929 getting in the weeds here. You can’t force a horse to drink. Sometimes kids / parents want you / the teacher / coach to learn and practice and play the game for them. Responsibilities belong to the individual. Lastly, public schools need competition. Parents need to have realistic choices / financial / vouchers.
I don’t know. At least half of the ideas resonate somewhat with me but I gotta say..the “sticks and stones” thing is so exasperating. It’s frustrating because it pre-supposes that people are raised with a solid enough foundation to overcome verbal abuse, which is very much not the case. If you were raised having cigarettes put out on you, and you already have a voice in your head telling you your garbage, when somebody insults you at school you’re supposed to just get over it? It’s just going to feed into confirmation bias, you’re going to gravitate to the negative feedback, not work on yourself, and engage in a cycle of self-harm. I’ve seen it time and time and time again. Words DO hurt, and I’m not a “beta” for saying that. Words can swing governments, topple giant corporations, and rile a population up to overthrow tyrannical rulers. And we are worried about being punched by some 9 year old more? It just makes no sense man. Shrugging it off is a great tool for those of us who have the confidence to do so, and I agree you should always just overcome it and agree to disagree, but again, not all of us have had that confidence instilled in us. It’s easy to blame millennials and zoomers, but what about their parents?
Exactly, I have diagnosed PTSD from what my father did to me as a child and it didn't make me stronger, it made me a shattered wreck of a person, and being homeless for most of 2020 didn't make me tougher for surviving, it just meant I had to sleep curled up in a parking lot and taught me never to trust anyone, ever. This "tough times, tough men" mentality is always pushed by the softest, weakest, pastiest people who've never had to go through a single tough day in their lives who couldn't cope with what I have to deal with before breakfast.
@@unknownuser3926 Suffering will not make everyone tougher/stronger/better, but these idiots in the video seem to genuinely think that for whatever reason. No functioning brain havin asses. I’m bipolar, special Ed all through my childhood years with speech therapy, and I can think more than them. Fucking why?
@@unknownuser3926 If you're old enough to remember the original "sticks and stones" quote, it's what your parent told you to say to the bully kids. Nobody including Jonathan Haidt would claim that you can grow up emotionally stronger and mentall healthier when you don't have a nurturing home environment. But you DO need to be able to stand strong against people outside your tribe who are hitting on you, verbally or otherwise.
People are always going to be out there who are bad parents or bad or nasty folks. Trying to shelter from the inevitable just like trying to avoid all germs will cause great harm eventually to an individual and to our society and our freedom.
Every generation has over protective parents. Now a days we have regulations to keep people safe. "Tough love" and getting a little hurt, isnt the same as neglect. And yes words can traumatize you. Discrimination and bullyiny come to mind
I've noticed the excessive asking for permission in younger people when they are ordering at a deli. They will say, "Can I get half a pound of ham?" or "Can I get 1/4 pound of Swiss cheese?" instead of saying, "I would like..." I find this way ordering very annoying. The deli wants to sell its products - one does not need to ask permission to buy them.
The same with speaking to children. You shouldn’t say “can you pick up your toys now, please?” Instead: “pick up your toys, I’ll be back in 10 minutes to check.”
As a Gen Z parent of 3 children all born between 2019-2022 I am relatively harsh with my kids. I’m intentionally raising them more similarly to how my grandparents raised my parents. My grandparents are still alive to this day and are a part of the silent generation. My parents are Gen X. From what I’ve learned and seen, is that me and my siblings have the most issues. We all have terrible anxiety and struggle to stick up for ourselves, and we are all hyper sensitive. I’ve become less so over the years having put myself in harsher situations than my siblings. My parents were gentle parents. However, my parents also have anxiety but do not have the same issues with coping and over coming challenges and I think that’s because my grandparents were part of the “don’t cry toughen up” parenting style. I want to raise my kids to be more like my parents and less like me and my siblings, so I’m taking my grandparents parenting style and modifying it. I will always be there for my kids, and I do guide them in talking about and recognizing their feelings; I want them to have the emotional self awareness but I also do not cave to their feelings and I will tell them when they need to just suck it up. So far (in my particular my oldest) is a tough cookie with an in charge personality but a good heart and always trying to help or take care of others. So so far the method I’m doing seems to be working.
But at the same time, the question and concept much be asked, but do you think our elders were raised too rough & mental development is just as intricate in the developmental process as physical development? A wound on the inside is a wound that you can’t receive medicine for too heal, unlike a wound on the outside of the body that you can heal easier. I feel a bunch of older adults are incapable of being vulnerable and tapping into their emotions. They were raised on the specific gender roles and boys had to be men, and girls must be women and it is possible it could have stunted their growth while trying to develop and are incapable of feeling certain emotions so they are always walled off to other people and can never really connect on an intimate level because of so? I think that is dis-advantageous to society for people to not be able to grow emotionally and for the, to stay hard all the time because that’s what their stoic father told him to do when he was little.
Verbal abuse can cause a Lifetime of problems however sometimes saying we can heal from It is enough to have a belief to look for options or see them when they present themselves.
It’s amazing … how uninformed kids are today. High schools are diploma mills. I had occasion to see an 11th grader use phone calculator to find 10% of $75.00.They can’t write either and forget vocabulary. I checked Pisa scores and was not shocked to see how were low on the education totem pole.
When I was a child I was roller skating with my mom in the early 2000s, and fell on my face while my helmet and pads took most of the impact. I was roller skating with my mom towards Dairy Queen for an ice cream, the same Dairy Queen that I had my first ice cream when I was a baby. So yes kids are too sensitive and glued to the screen. While I get scratches or bruises from the ground and just walked it off without complaining about the first aid kit. It was before the internet was viral and easily accessible, while I had a Game Boy and independently played on my own.
You need to go talk to Ron DeSantis and the parents in Florida. They don't want their kids learning about a gay parent or racism because it "might make them feel bad"
With all do respect ! Learn to never allow anyone to get the better of you and get you out of your mind set or get you angry or upset with words. Just learn to navigate through the situation and give back with a smart ass comment along with a smile. This world we live in is amazing but it has its troubles heart aches pain and struggles for everyone nobody is exempt from the good or bad but Handel your self always!! Don’t let others handle you
Did you just spent the whole video trying to deny the existence of psychological damage because to say that words cause no permanent damage is pure ignorance
It doesn’t! But that isn’t the case individually. Men don’t suffer brain damage when yelled at. That’s why basic training is important for recruits to be screamed at and taught that getting screamed at is not going to provoke you . Make you act reactive not responsive. But some kids just get bested down verbally and it’s a problem. Trauma? By definition no ! But that adherence to an old definition is waning quickly.
This is quite fully bullshit. As soon as you say “ skilled kids aren’t the ones being safe”, I realized you aren’t acting for the kids you’re acting for the parents.
What took you people that have the power to ride the internet so long to realize this,dont spare the rod to spoil the child,.....God does not make mistakes
These are actually a very interesting philosophical points that I’m thinking on, but I would like to *specifically* respond to number 4 because, while exposure therapy and such is beneficial to long term health, it is important to recognize the difference between exposure therapy to people who disagree with you, or talk about things that make you uncomfortable (for example, hearing people speak about Stalin in a good way, or being uncomfortable with sexual conversations, both of which I have to deal with very frequently), and verbal abuse/bullying, both from authority figures and peers. Whereas exposure therapy can broadly help you deal with stuff, from OCD to anxiety, bullying and verbal abuse *cause* depression, anxiety, and worse. If you here someone tell you to kill yourself because you are trying to get them to stop messing with your project, that is going to cause issues in a depressed mind, and if your parents or teachers tell you that you’re useless, inferior, an idiot, etc, that will cause problems. The important takeaway from this part is simply that we probably shouldn’t enforce minor content warnings such as random things that make kids uncomfortable, but absolutely *should* monitor their own speech, and that if the other kids, for much more severe things. A separate point is the difference between the above and the clip you used to illustrate the point, where, as far as I can tell, the person was annoyed because they couldn’t tell someone that they hate them ‘because they’re something,’ which sounds to me like they are annoyed that they cannot use bigoted speech against people without experiencing a negative response, which seems like a whole other issue, and does not illustrate your point well at all, with what you’re doing being essentially presenting the absolute weakest point of your argument. There is a difference between arguing against trigger warnings, and arguing *for* hate speech. I highly doubt that is what you were advocating, considering your comments on the negatives of tribalism at the end of the video, but it certainly comes across that way from that clip.
Interesting video. There seems to be an undercurrent of nationalism that is a little jarring to me for this content. Like we aren’t raising our kids to enjoy “American freedom” which comes into sharper focus with point 1. We are, of course, a product of our culture, but even saying that, I don’t ever parent with the idea of raising the perfect American child. Just a little jarring for me, dog.
Hey Kevin! I don't think about this as "nationalism", which in general I find to be a negative force in the world. Case in point... I don't believe my son knows the pledge of allegence. I find it to be a symbol of everything wrong with public education. Rather, as you've said, it's about the distinctive culture of America that's positive: our entrepreneurial spirit of risk-taking and trial and error. I've traveled abroad enough to have heard this echo'd from the outside. My time in Denmark reinforced that this was a contrasting perception there. Despite what is now the vanguard on mainstream discourse, America is far more pluralistic and inclusive of wildly different people and perspectives than just about anywhere else in the world. And for good reason. We're a nation of mostly immigrants and people who've escaped persecution either through moving here or through the internal battle for equal rights.
That is not an undercurrent. That is called compartmentalisation. Means Haid is able to hold two completely conflicting views namely that tribalism is bad but that American tribalism is good. As I mentioned above Haidt was brilliant when he was not yet that famous. But moving up in the hierarchy alters you brain and in this case I am confident to say, that it destroyed it at least for the purpose of doing science. Haids true tribe is now the American elite (his net worth is up to 5 million). And he will use a lot of post hoc reasoning, compartmentalization and other mental biases to protect his tribe. As he already predicted in "the righteous mind" that high intellectual capabilities (which he has) will make him only better in fighting and supressing the lower classes ( which includes most young) not more open to discussion or more logical. Welcome in hell :)
These damned computers don’t help. I can’t even get my son to go outside. This summer I’m treating him to a week of nature. No internet, no electricity, nothing but nature.
Biology copies MUM So ask yourself the question ? How scared is MUM ? Men create the FEAR that MUM FEELS that the BABIES copy "rock a by baby on the tree top, when the wind blows the cradle will rock, when the BOUGH breaks the cradle will fall, and down to earth tumbling come baby and all" this is a message left by the Druids ,before the Roman Slavers wiped them out
This whole idea that we should stick to doing things harder for some sense of value is all I’m hearing if we can give her kids a easier life we give them an easier life it’s called progress
These guys sound ridiculous, it's different strokes for different folks. People protect their kids because the world is getting worse. There's nothing wrong with that. It's human nature to protect our weak and vulnerable from outside threats. You will never change that.
I never thought I’d be appreciative to have suffered such a crap childhood at a school with lots of mean kids. It sucked so much when I was going through it, but now I literally never think about it and hardly remember anything.
But you would have been better off not going through that? Because negative struggle doesn't really build character all too much, unless it's a positive challenge?
@@anti1trainingThank you for pushing back on this macho shithead attitude. There is a middle ground between treating children like fragile morons on the one hand and saying “Yeah! Sink or swim!!” on the other. They both lack intelligence while demonstrating how ego-driven adults are.
I remember being told, "There are occasions when seeking forgiveness is better than seeking permission." Too much has changed since those immortal words were spoken. We must keep pushing back or too much of our humanity will be lost.
I think it's a bit of both, parents have been getting increasingly more protective of their children to the point that kids don't play outside much. But also, there's been something seriously wrong with all this sensitivity training among adults. A few of my thoughest friends became incredibly fragile a little after turning 30 years old and I still don't understand just what caused all this. It's like their confidence shattered and they became extremely reliant on external support and validation to avoid second guessing themselves at every tiny decision they had to make and not feel overwhelmed at the tiniest obstacle they find in their path.
@@gcolombellibut don’t you think that’s where the problem is? The toughness? We define toughness as not being vulnerable then hide and ignore our emotions and live behind the tough man mask. Then after many years break apart. I think as men we should learn other values aside of just being tough.
When I was little, we were left to our own devices often. We organized our own softball, baseball, and other games/sports, we explored the woods on our own, we created our own entertainment, rode bikes a considerable distance from home, etc. during all of this, when we encountered problems, we solved them. No adult intervened. As a result, we learned problem-solving, cooperation, consequences, ingenuity and creativity, equity, etc. - all valuable skills to help us build the confidence we needed to face the challenges of adulthood. I taught in a college for 30 years and towards the end of my career, my students would come to class and dump all their problems on me. I would ask them, “How do you plan to solve that problem?” and they were always shocked that I expected them to come up with a solution. Kids did become more fragile because the adults in their life overprotected them and did everything for them. That just creates a handicap because kids can’t do things for themselves. They lack the skills, experience and confidence and too often, even the will to do so.
Yep that was my childhood too. Nowadays that is called "free range" and such a parenting style is looked down upon because, supposedly, it puts kids in such horrible danger. When I was a kid, it was normal. I don't think the world is any more dangerous now than it was then! There are more dangers online than outside. I had run-ins with creeps in the "olden days", and sure I got in over my head a time or two, but I eventually learned how to steer clear and stay out of trouble.
You should write down your experience. I’m collecting stories like yours if you’re inclined to contribute. If kids never hear such stories they’ll never know that what we’re doing today is bizarre and deeply unnatural.
Love the concept of dads saving America! The video footage about Dads on Duty in a Louisiana school made me cry. It's time to stand up for the essential role that dads play. And I'm a huge fan of Jonathan Haidt.
We are teaching that no one is allowed to be offended. We teach that if someone says or does ANYTHING that makes you feel uncomfortable, to any degree, that person is doing something bad and must be stopped. If your kid is a little overweight and you go to try on clothes, and you ask the attendant to bring a size L for your child, but instead, the attendant brings a size L and a size XL, then the phone gets pulled out, the attendant gets recorded and the video gets posted on RU-vid showing everyone that the child was a victim of fat shaming. The attendant gets fired and sponsors are pulling out of the store. That is not far from what happens. We are teaching victimhood. We need to look at the word that started all this. Tolerance. But tolerance only went one way. No one is allowed to be offended. The pronoun war is about being offended. There is no tolerance the other way. Someone calls you a name, someone calls you fat, someone calls you her, brush it off. The person who brushes it off will grow up right. Teach the difference between intentional and non intentional. The person bringing you the XL is trying to help you choose what fits best. The person calling you "her" doesn't know you, therefore can't call you "they". Teach the kids empathy. Teach them that being offended has many stages. But right now, people are losing Careers for insane things. We are losing.
People these days self sensor too much and sometimes struggle with words, walking on eggshells trying hard not to offend anyone. When I notice people having this issue with me, I tell them not worry, if they manage to offend me somehow, I'd probably end up thanking them for it. In the rare occasion I feel offended, I have this weird urge to try to understand just why I felt that way. After finding the answer, usually it comes down to a few options: - I'm having an attribution bias and should probably just keep my cool and figure out what's actually going on; - I'm caring too much about opinions of people of no consequence and I'd be wasting my time overthinking that ; - I just heard a very uncomfortable bit of truth and I should either make peace with this flaw I found on myself or take action to fix it.
Being told your fat is a great motivator to lose weight. As is looking in the mirror and wheezing while climbing 4 stairs. Truth hurts but not as much as having your toes amputated from the Willford Brimley disease.
It’s a battle between right and wrong. Let’s have a civil conversations to test what is which. Those that bully people trying to have civil conversations have rarely been known to be on the right side of history.
As a mental health clinician working at a graduate school, I'm so glad I found Dr. Haidt. I feel very solitary on campus because I would literally be black listed if I expressed alignment with any of Dr. Haidt's views. In a system that celebrates trigger warnings, avoiding any and all language that could offend, and supports oppresor/ victim mindsets, I will be called racist of I expressed any concern about what this fragile mindset is doing to our society.
I work as a supervisor in a mental health facility. I can’t tell you how many grievances are filled in a month against staff for basically hurting their feelings. I often see memes regarding GenX being tough people because we weren’t coddled. In fact quite the opposite. Everything is a trigger now. There has to be a happy medium instead. For myself, when a client yells at me for something, I don’t fall to pieces. Some of that comes with age but I grew up in a time that’s kids were seen and not heard.
Being reminded that we have an internal locus of control is definitely the key! If I have control over my life, then I can gauge the risks I want to take, based on the consequences of success or failure. Good stuff!
@@Hajde_budalla remind yourself that you have control over your life. Even over things you seemingly have no control over, you still control your perception of it and emotions around it. Being a victim means you have external locus of control. This also means being optimistic rather than pessimistic.
ah yes humans are cups and immune systems... social systems aren't the same as biological systems lmfao. Also immune systems depend on the person. Social systems can be changed, adapted. This is such an ignorant take. He basically is saying that we shouldn't criticize social systems, just "toughen" up and ignore issues.
Yeah this video and org is undeniably funded by the architects of those social systems aka: oil billionaires. “Lol don’t criticize the way things are right now just keep your head down and work until you die :)”
All I had to contend with was mild PC and "multiculturalism" back in the late 90s at Penn State. There was nothing like this. It's a strange 180 in mindset.
There's a workbook called 30 Days Without Social Media by Harper Daniels that I really like. We have to be so careful with social...more like hypnotical...media today.
Yes exactly I remember hearing a story that a University of Florida had a 24/7 hotline for people who were offended by others wearing a Halloween costume that they didn’t like. These people were in college not kindergarten if they can’t handle someone wearing a Halloween costume then what’s going to happen when they are faced with a real challenge????? It is a recipe for failure in their life 🥺😥😳🙄😞.
Lol you think this is an airtight argument for debate team or something-- but you're not saying what the costume was. What if it was blackface? I would PREFER that my children have the courage and independent thought to condemn a costume that celebrates the legacy of slavery, or that subtly celebrates amnesia about historical crimes against others in our country. Your attitude goes precisely against this spirit of togetherness that the video claims to champion-- if we are solving problems and able to dialogue together, we don't intentionally offend others-- we are secure enough to take their point of view seriously. That's not fragility-- it takes courage and tolerance. This video and all these sycophants licking its ass are crypto-fascist hokum.
I mean if you nurture understanding and the idea of agreeing to disagree and trying to understand rather then get aggressive about ideas that you don't agree with it. Seriously don't know how many people I come across that get hostile and throw hate around like it's so easy for them too hate rather then reserving hate for something truly deserving of getting hate.
I don’t disagree with everything…but I want to remind you all that those latchkey kids are now on antidepressants and anti anxiety…just think about it for a minute..
*_They're lacking character! I feel sorry for the youngsters of today that got the trophies for losing!?_* _they've never had to do anything that they didn't want to! when I was growing up all the things that my parents said _*_"builds character"! and it really does!! Now all these kids are lacking in that! they're just being spoiled emotionally and physically!_* *and haven't had to grow in the face adversity!? that would help make them become better people! and they're just basically whims compared to the older Generations!?* _(I'm a millennial)_ *_I especially agree with the whole "sticks&Stones" bit being absent so theyre overly sensitive to negative verbal remarks!?_*_ They cant compromise in an argument, nor try to see the other side! Theyre so "woke" that theyre Actually close minded towards any other points of view!_ *They take different opinions as a personal attack!?* *_I swear, spoiling kids like this is the process that leads to Rapists!! They think they Deserve anything they want! And have the right to take it!- even against others will??_* *They need to be taught Discipline, Patience, self control, responsibility and Especially ACCOUNTABILITY!!* _and another major factor is this concept that everything/life needs to be Fair!!?? _*_When its Not!!_* *Until then we're doing a disservice to the younger generations!!* 🧐🤔🤨🤷🏼 #ToxicWokeness
Not all parents are raising their children to be weak. Some are raising their children to be strong. Many parents aren’t raising their children at all; the streets are raising their children. The weak will fall prey to the strong.
The more gentle weve been, the more fragile they've become. At some point, they have to learn to scrape their knees and carry on, preferably before they get jobs.
It’s a very different world. I’m only 42 but I was brought up “old school”. Now kids would sue you if you do something they don’t like. The world has become very weak. You see it in Sports, Professional enterprises. Everyone gets a bail out now and a trophy for doing nothing. Everyone becomes “viral” or “famous” for doing something stupid on social media. Don’t know the end results but it sure doesn’t feel like anything good will come out of this. All an illusion 🎉😅
Hey Dad, I encountered this subject yesterday with a few other dads who shared alarming rates of kids taken off the soccer field with cramps. We discussed whether it was "the jab" or overtraining with coaches. I suggested that our victim culture coupled with an aversion to responsibility could lead to this phenomena (Sarno's Tension Myositis Syndrome) which I treat quite often. As an aside, my left leaning girlfriend is moving right because of your channel. We have watched a few episodes and your tactful and open mindedness appeal to her. Thank you. I couldn't do it without you.
Whatever happened to “breathe through it”? You don’t die from cramps. Those kids getting off the field are being robbed of feeling good about themselves. “Yes Johnny you didn’t score a goal but you stayed in the game even when you didn’t feel good and helped your team”
The normal course of adulthood includes: confrontation problem-solving and emotional responsibility to own up to your mistakes. Bubble wrapping a kid does a disservice to everyone in our society. When did being non threateningly confrontational become taboo?
Making 100k/yr is below the poverty level in some californian cities. Nothing else matters if post boomer generations dont make enough money to support themselves. Having a family, getting married, buying a house, a car, vacations, they all get postponed indefenately. Younger generations are going to give up if this trend continues.
Ok, I'm from a totally different generation than generation fragile. This entire video, to me, is a one giant DUH! I mean this was like common sense drilled into us as kids by parents and through experiences. We were also really fast runners as kids because that is how you saved your life for all the stupid stuff you did learning growing up. But of course the world back then was a lot more forgiving in many ways too. I mean not everything was a capital criminal offense and cops would scare you straight then send you on your way and you learned and you lived another day. And we didn't have cell phones to call for help. We were far from home with no means of communication and we had to figure stuff out ourselves and be smart enough to not end up seriously hurt or dead. Anyway, the kids these days, to me, appear to be pretty book smart, well some of them anyway, but they are completely mentally retarded on common sense and street smarts and I don't find that to be a good way to be. Ok, back to the video, this dude with all his PhDs is basically saying what my grandmother drilled into me daily. I mean, heck, my grandmother was a PhD. Who knew!? As far as being a parent I don't give a crud about my kids leading important lives or changing the world. The world is a mess, always has been a mess, always will be a mess. I just taught my kids to survive, be tough, make money, raise a family. Screw your grand ideas of everyone changing the world. These kids these days want to change the world into a total totalitarian nightmare.... no thanks. Stop teaching your kids to be leaders and changing the world. Just teach them to be normal people and the world might get a little better.
Another pervasive issue in America as we have allowed certain people to scream in our face and throw tantrums without consequences this also is not helping
🤣 Rather than, "Time heals all wounds," a therapist told a loved one of mine, "Time wounds all heals." TOTALLY different meaning today. Time wounds all 🦶🐍.
Authority & Accountability is the hardest concept for an individual to grasp because even though you have free will, you have limitations due to structural circumstances set by those who have come before. After all, without guidance from & the curriculum gained & refined by those who have come before, we are infact & simply another species of ape. Not all people can swim but people can swim.
me and another mom friend were talking about how parents without knowing conterbute to this mindset. making our children “weak” without even realizing it. and after our long talk watching our kids playing in the park it suddenly hit us! we do it in away because we cant afford for our kids to get hurt! we dont want them getting hurt because we both have other kids and no family to leave them with in case something happened. slowly we are now trying to do better about it and teach them to do everything without fear of getting hurt
Thanks for sharing this conversation. As a parent, it’s so difficult to find the right balance on this. And of course, there are dangers that we really do need to protect them from. Being aware that it can go too far is the most important thing. - John
This is why sports become so important to boys and girls, but we have made those into safety zones as well with a pay to play system as opposed to the old days of going down to the park and playing a pickup game with no adult supervision. Essentially there is always adult supervision and that is the fundamental flaw in child rearing today in America.
Don't matter, the world has your child more than you. THERE FOR your teachings & tradition aren't in them. . We must work to feed and keep a roof.. I'm a single mom and it's horrible 😞
It’s funny this reminds me of a what is now a very funny overreaction on my part at the time. I was riding my bike and I twisted my ankle, I told my parents I hurt my ankle and they told me I’d be fine in a few weeks and so I walked around with an annoying limp. And after a few weeks I was walking normal again. Now I’m smarter and tougher for it, when I twist my ankle I just walk it off and after an hour or so if walking and sitting I’m back to normal. Im grateful my parents both sheltered me but made sure I grew stronger as I grew up, and letting me make mistakes to learn.
Do you people envision a future world where we still have to go to work every day? The problem is that you people keep trying to prepare a kids for a future that doesn’t exist
Participation award era Lol our boys played baseball over a decade and it was super apparent in early sports. I grew up in the no seat belt and hold your baby in the car days. I liked the 80s, we were very accepting of all things alternative or not...we woke up ranking and grilling each other lolllll ... get a helmet! 😆
To all the parents doing their best! I detest the use of the word “weak”. Also let’s not forget we are all fragile. Still, some Excellent points made here! I was raised by traumatized parents and a Christian church to fear everything and that made things exceptionally difficult for me. Thank goodness I rebelled and got to watch 3 older siblings rebel. I
This video is nuts. I think the truth is somewhere in-between. Either/or binary thinking is a bit juvenile... even though this video feels marketed toward resentful boomers. Not sure why this got recommended but will hit "don't recommend this channel in the future" tab.
I delt with bullys at school so different then others did ! I became their bully, i didnt need a grown up to powder puff anything! No coddlers allowd !
