Are We in a Loneliness Epidemic? (ft. @Katimorton) 

How many people are watching this alone ?

It’s weird how the world entered a loneliness epidemic at the same time I experienced what it’s like to not be lonely and feel unhappy at the first time in my life…

People don't know how to connect with others anymore. We're all sitting around with hedgehog complexes and we have nobody to blame but ourselves. Basic human interaction is now lost on people.

My whole entire life I've never felt like I fit in. It's even worse when you're over 50 living in these days.

After I retired, I discerned a call to clergy and in The Episcopal Church had an option that fit what I am called to do as an extroverted introvert. I began the journey to the Vocational Diaconate. My formal education process is 3 years and I am in my final year. It is volunteer work and part-time. It suits me. And at the beginning of the pandemic I was a shopper for those who could not be in stores even masked. That gave me a small group to interact with in-person that I would not have had otherwise. One the UCLA scale offered here, I am a 4. Sometimes I want companionship since I am a widow... I do have friends to engage with and do. Enlightening piece!

I'm a pretty introverted person and a kind of lonewolf-type, so my social needs aren't that significant. I do chat with people online daily through various forums, but in real life I don't socialize too much (social gatherings other than with my family make me uncomfortable haha). For the most part I don't feel that lonely, but sometimes I do feel some sort of craving for interaction.

This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my RU-vid channel 8 months ago about self development. Now I have 925 subs and > 700 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I could haven’t learned without getting started in the 1st place.

That was pointless. Are you serious? One of your recommendations is to go back to the office? That's one of the worst ideas I've ever heard. Oh yeah, wasting 2 hours on commute and having less sleep is definitely a great idea.. /s

Every person's situation is so very different. I live very rurally and I'm back with my parents. They both have Aspergers, so they're very high functioning but not able to show or give warmth. I had to shield for a year when the pandemic started. I was completely cut off from everyone I knew and places I went to for social connection. I'm someone who really thrives on face to face contact, hugs and touch are crucial to me and now I find myself lost "out there" somewhere and not feeling a strong bond with anyone. I'm not currently working and to work or volunteer is a long way to drive...then my partner said he wanted a breather so my nervous system has gone into overdrive and anxiety sky high, there's so much yoga and exercise I can do but without closeness and proper face to face contact I'm losing who I am and my place in the world. I'm also highly sensitive so I feel other people's stuff! Where do I start? The loneliness is making eczema erupt and my body feels so tense and I can feel I'm closing down. I'm usually a very resilient and creative person but now I'm struggling. I would love some one to reach out to me and ask if I'm ok. It's usually me that does that but I'm now out of resources...thank you for reading and hearing me!

I have developed diabetes as well afterwards

I have an auto immune disorder and I am on immune suppression drugs, and I am my mom's (79 & 5/6ths) primary caregiver. She is a type one diabetic x 40 years and has poor lung function and is on oxygen 24/7. We are definitely still in Covid seclusion. Pretty much the only place we go is doctors appointments (when they can't be a telehealth issue) and the grocery store because Instacart is too expensive. It's very very lonely.

As an african American man with young children I find myself often as caregiver and having less social interaction. I told myself that I could use the five pillars that are integral in my life to build a better social network. Its a slow process but its a start

I'm married n feel lonely

Im introverted but I get very lonely being alone all the time. Now I'm getting depressed too.

Loneliness has its place in life. I think it's what we have to endure until we can appreciate others more.

". . . the tea that they're spillin' . . . ?"

2:50 hehe. I used to go towards the toxic threads on "reddit"- it was other websites for me though- it was interaction that I as an isolated kid craved. It felt safe and real- even though it wasn't safe nor real. That was definitely due to childhood trauma. Most other kids have a parental voice in their heads that tells them that that's bad. But my voice was kind of similar to the reddit voices (ie. Cold, crazy, delusional (from my crazy and loving mom))

all these seems like a coping mechanisms for individuals of the problem the society has.

Is there some man that wnats to make a new friend? From Latinamerica?

"nooo, stop working from home, all the bosses and real estate are going to feel lonely if they can't pretend to have a purpose!" 🥺

1:20 “I have patients who prefer to be alone, you can attach a mental illness if u want” Sure ok, can I attach a mental illness to always seeking external validation from others?

Fascinating. This was very helpful

Did she have to define what loneliness is? And in words that I don't even understand - spilling tea, what? And then they defined it two more times? Like people don't know what it means.

It is hard to attach to someone you feel is not genuine. More people than most put on a front that's hard to discern and keep you from engagement. Unsure of you will be used or taken advantage of. We lost the sense of open trust

Thanks for info. Yes very lonely!! Most connections seem missing a real connection.

0:00 No. The thing is the room is empty.

I have a fairly severe seizure disorder, and it has caused loneliness. I was a practicing MD, and things have turned upside down and I have had a counselor to help me. The seizures seem to be getting worse, but volunteering has helped. Its soooo important to get up off of the couch and do things, and that seems to be harder with time. I read books, excercise, and I'm going to get a dog. I had a dog in the past, and that is the only thing that wasn't mentioned . Thanks for your help!!

jajaj , the covid generate of all this... doing people more cold with other and cold the friendships and families members... the people does not have the problem just were a victims. They need to get out with a correct people and that is it, but whatever other people can not help you , only God can help us.

1:19 for me I can actually somewhat control my desire. Right now I'm choosing to have my desire be very high because I know the good things that come with friends and I know my situation is unfortunate (i chose to isolate to make sure I stick with high achievers because at home my situation is toxic and not healthy. I didn't want to bring that to school and make the wrong choices based on that.) Anyway, it's destroying me horribly. But I also remember a time when I just accepted it and thought about it differently. There were downsides, but I felt free and happy then. So desire definitely has a lot to do with it. I guess our logical desire creates some kind of subconscious primitive life or death feeling if we don't meet that desire. That's an idea for what's going on.

I have cardiac arrest and starved of love kinder unsafe

7:21 "I can't talk to anyone" Advice "Go talk to someone 😂😂😂😂😂" In my case my crazy loving mother or my grandma with dementia because my mother isolated me from my entire family. So now that I know about my family talking to them is talking to a random stranger. Do people realize that people in these situations often... Feel they can't talk with anyone... Possibly because they don't have connections with anyone.... I'm sure they do.

Kati is awesome! I'm definitely a person who prefers being alone, but I do need my animals ❤️

wow. do you know that you are giving a platform to a highly unethical therapist? She called people with ASPD "icky" / dehhumanized them on Shane Dawson's show

Most importantly lone wolves die! Because they stay to themselves and get eaten by the pack.

Tbh it’s seems being more social is actually a negative for human advancement imo. Being social holds us back from accomplishments that individuals could do better by themselves. And is refusing to adopt that mind set seems to be hurting us a lot.

All of these social maladies go back to disobeying God. God's first command was get married and have children. Not have a cat/dog replacement, travel the world, live in a tiny home van lifing with a god/cat. This is why. We've turned into a society of disobedient to God, selfish people as outlined in Romans chapter one that people in the last days love would grow cold and they would become 4 footed animal worshippers (cat, dog, horse). That is why there are literally millions upon millions of hours of cat/dog videos on RU-vid and lonely people. They refuse to read God's word and obey him, which starts with the very first command to not be alone(it's not good), to marry one man and woman and to have children. We are told in God's perfect word that children in a marriage are a reward from God. Nothing will ever compensate or fill that void. People that are selfish, self-centered and disobedient to God will be lonely and God said that is not good for man.

You were really on, until you went on about the solution not being finding a group of peers, but just wasting your time on people who you have no real bond with.

With Jesus you are NEVER really Alone or forgotten even in isolation. God is enough!

Spread the solution #zatzmansportsplex

Hello? Echo echo echo... I'm not allowed to speak in public so how am I supposed to have successful social relationships and tribal bonding? Aye, media parasite?