Adrienne was being the most authentic here. Lets be honest, as women, we have all had atleast one moment in which we encountered a beautiful woman and felt 1) automatic jealously, dislike towards that woman or feelings of insecurity and/or 2) desire to be that woman's friend/liked by her
S W correct! And a lot of us aren’t honest enough to say this. We instantly compare and want to see how we measure up. It’s so toxic. Focus on yourself and your unique beauty. It’s not easy to do especially in this society. But it takes time. Spending time with God helps too.
No lol I can't stand when people don't have style. If I see someone else looking good im like okay yes a fellow fashionista. People really just roll out of bed and think it's ok
Hmm nope. Guess cuz my family looking fly is the norm so i am used to it. No jealousy, just admiration. And i want to be everybody's friend until they do something i don't like. Sooo no not every woman.
Truth is sometimes I do feel things I shouldn't. For example sometimes I may think to myself, "Now I'm worthy to be here." Sometimes dressing nicer commands more respect when you go into places of business. I feel entitled as a they should take me seriously when I go somewhere. When I go someplace in sneakers it's a whole nother story.
I totally agree. I love to dress up but no one at my work does. I slowly started dressing casual so they wouldn’t perceive me as trying too hard. It’s sad, and I mostly cared about what the ladies thought of me. But after watching this, I’m going back to being true to myself. I shouldn’t care what other people think and should wear what makes me happy. And honestly, I love looking and dressing as a professional; it makes me more productive at work too.
Roena Skates I didn’t know when you put clothes on, you blend with the colors. You’re not only weird but also slow. There are colors that don’t look good with dark either. 🤷🏼♀️ black and white are both neutral. Sounds like you got issues but that’s not my problem
I feel Adrienne on a wholllleeeee other level. There's been times where girls will give me dirty looks or go out of their way to not talk to you just because I like to over dress and love to look good, it makes me uncomfortable. So many times this has happened and it makes me feel guilty because I can't help how you feel or the insecurities you carry. I use to be so insecure and I worked on it and now I've blossomed and I will never not shine for anyone's negativity.
Well...... are you those girls that shows to much skin like all the time? Because if you are other girls are going to feel intimidated right away by you.
And she is nasty too but nonetheless..she is pretty.. she dont wash her hands when she us the bathroom when she is home.. but i do completely other females cause women in general are beautiful..
Stop perpetuating the damaging stereotype of girls hating other girls because they’re pretty. Society has been pitting woman against each other for centuries by promoting the idea that the source of the conflicts can be linked to outward appearances. Appearances that have been arbitrary set as standards to have men tell us our worth. Sis, we are far too complex for that. Don’t sell yourself short. 😘😘😘 Btw you’re beautiful and I love your smile!😍
Exactly, thats why people allways try to foccuse on the negative things about her, like "shes not as intelectual our as articulate as the other women" our she dosent have enough "depht". Its just insecure people who reflect that on others, in this case her. It happens people
Go Yolie! - agree! If a girl tells me I’m beautiful I feel more confident. When a guy tells me I look good I automatically think to myself “mmmhhhmmmm what does this guy want?!? 🧐🧐🧐🧐🧐🧐” LOL! 🤪
Same! It feels more meaningful to me when a female compliments me. I remember a friend told me that she didn't like me at first because I appeared stuck up but then when she got to know me she said I'm like the sweetest person she knows. I actually received similar comments from a few female friends. I think because I wore makeup, colored contacts, dyed my hair, and dressed up for high school and that was considered early to do. I think girls are different now though but in my generation it wasn't common.
Zara M I hate being stared at too and I’ve become more insecure. In my younger years I was all about sexy and I felt comfortable that way. I don’t now. That’s one reason I dress down a lot because I don’t want attention. I’m trying to change that because I have all these cute clothes I buy.
I moved to the south from the east coast 3 years ago. I noticed women overtly stare and will give a lot of compliments freely in the south! It’s quite a different feeling
I used to be like that - actually pretty recently but now I don't give a damn. Honestly, just go for it! You'll eventually get used to the stares and I kinda just not pay attention to them. People are always judging, so I mean, might as well do you!
Never, their are crazy people in this world keep your private parts covered to avoid being a target and to respect yourself ass, titties, breast never should be on display they are private
🗣🗣🗣Adrienne is speaking facts!! Women who dress nice and feminine are told by other women; “Why are you so dressed up”?! This happens to me a lot because I wear sun dresses and skirts a lot!! This is my daily wardrobe BUT women think that you’re over dressing!!!
I’m definitely a “girls girl” like A, I love women I am always down to be another woman’s hype man. I just hate when women are in competition with one another! Let’s uplift one another, team women ALL DAY 👯♀️
i agree 100% but i think that's only something pretty women say because they don't have a reason to be jealous/insecure. the ugly women who hate themselves yet don't work on their self-improvement are the ones who need to have this mindset.
I loved the way Amanda voiced her difference in opinion from Jeannie's opinion about being "naturally insecure". Respectful and eloquent. Glad to see the improvement in the dymamics between the girls.
@Galva Tron That may be a matter of opinion. I'm not taking her comments as facts. I also dont think that women are naturally insecure. Insecurity is a natural human emotion/feeling in general.
@Galva Tron I agree with you. People are insecure, that includes women too. Some women will become territorial, unkind or dismissive when interacting with a woman who makes them feel insecure, others may feel a bit sad or bad about themselves but WON´T be unkind to the other woman. You can be insecure without taking it out on the other woman. But no point in denying insecurity exists.
Adrienne should dress how ever she wants! Dont dim your light for anybody!❤❤ Plus people will judge either way. If ypu dress nicely they dont like it. If you dress modest they dont like it either. Its more about their insecurity than about you.
@@gaila.9852 No. But it just proves that just because you look pretty it doesn't mean that you are clean. If a person doesn't care enough about the health of others except how good they look, that is pretty conceited and selfish.
The Leo in me wants to look presentable everywhere I go, even if I’m just going to the supermarket. At home I wear pyjamas at all times (still matching pyjamas tho) my friends embrace it and are absolutely stunning regardless of what they wear, we always hype each other up.
I dress modestly to represent my relationship with Christ. Jeannie is right that your outfit sends a message. I definitely want to draw more attention to Christ than myself!
Ebony you don’t have to dress sexy you can dress modestly and have a little bit of makeup on and everything just fits you right and some women unfortunately hate on you.
@@user-cc7od4mr7i No u need to wake up and stop living in your delusional world and worship your paedophile prophet. And who are you to say your religion is right and others wrong?
@@herantomastekeste1184 Oh please, he was no pedophile. On the other hand, maaaaany priests of your religion are. And read your Old testament that justifies the killing of innoncent babies because of their parents' sins.
If someone actually gets mad at you for dressing up, don't worry, they're likely just projecting their insecurities onto you. You have the right to dress however YOU want.
@@lilchristuten7568 I had someone ask me why have I been wearing slacks lately instead or scrubs at my workplace. I thought it was a peculiar question considering everyone wears either one. I just chalked it up to them displaying their own insecurities onto me. I do get complimented more often when wearing slacks rather than scrubs. 🤔🤷🏾♀️
Love what Tam said about feeling inspired by seeing another beautiful woman rather than feeling threatened. There’s nothing wrong with telling another woman she is beautiful, I’m all for it , us women should be uplifting each other ! 💕
Bria Barrows everyone is insecure so I reject the popular opinion that it’s insecurity that is to blame for women being nasty to each other. I think we’re literally just conditioned to see other women as threats all the time. That said, I’ve luckily been sparred from this foolishness and have always been a girls girl! I love women and want nothing more than for them to succeed
I learned to no longer give a crap about what others think about what I wear. What matters to me is if I feel comfortable in what I’m wearing, not others thoughts.
I believe you Jessica but I think that Loni does care. (See my earlier comment) In addition, her body language and facial expressions betray her words. Fortunately, the other Hosts go out of there way to be gracious and kind to her.
seeyouagain911 I’m only 23 so technically I’m not old too, but I meant to say it as like I’m an adult & shouldn’t waist my time caring what other woman think of me(:
I was at a dinner party with my husband and some friends. The waitress kept smiling at me the whole time 😊 she patiently waited until the party I was with exited to tell me she admired my sense of style and my makeup was gorgeous 🤩 it was really sweet! It matters ladies! These young girls are looking at you! Keep yourself looking up to the part always!!! You never know who you’re inspiring
Adrienne is very beautiful, I'm sure she makes insecure people upset when they see her. I'm sure she's had a lot of moments like the ones she's describing.
Anyone who puts that much effort on their hair make up and clothes will look beautiful periodt. Don’t come for me its a surface statement. I do love that she does it for herself. I believe in the same concept just not that much make up.
Ive always admired other girls. I grew up a Tom boy so to see a pretty girl looking super girly I’d be inspired to get to that level. I still to this day compliment women for how they look. I know it takes work to carry yourself well.
Adriana Antonio what makes you to be a Tom boy? I was just talking recently with my BF about something that I noticed. There is a woman at work who dresses like a man and to be honest I not pay attention to her body until one day I caught myself thinking “ oh she got a big belly” like realizing that she’s is fat and that’s something usually I just realize at first on a woman. either by thinking she’s fat, skinny tall or short. But with Tom boy woman I don’t pay attention on how they are physically (body type ) at first maybe because it’s part of we don’t judge man hard as we judge woman so a woman looking like a man gets the day treatment that I get to man 🤷🏻♀️.
I agree. I consider myself kinda modest but not to the point where I’m wearing just black or bland colors. I love bright colors and bold prints but I also like to be covered up. No boobs or booty showing lol and usually my shoulders are covered too.
I was at the hair salon about two weeks ago..After I had finished getting my hair blown out and wrap, a young lady said to me, you have beautiful hair.. I responded I do, thank you”... (typing this I want to 😢😢cry).... then after I said that I was like why did you say I do like you don’t have pretty hair or don’t believe you have pretty hair... The problem is and I realize it that day.. after being involved with a narcissist, who put me down and would tell me my hair never looked good even after getting it done, nails done.. I was put down so much in that relationship... but when the young lady told me that.. I had to believe it cause I always did love my hair as a kid and as a young lady
O B I A N U J U thank you.. being with a narcissist is very crippling.. I am Out of that relationship 6 months now..thank God.. everyday I tell myself I am good enough, I deserve love, I deserve to be loved the right way etc
SWOOP SWOOP Aw the fact that that relationship made you second guess her compliment makes me sad. But I’m glad you’re out of the relationship and you remembered how beautiful you are ! He was the wrong one, I’m sure everyone else sees the beauty in your hair, your overall appearance and in your heart because I can see it from this comment. Remember to pay those compliments forward and make someone else’s day also☺️. God bless 💕
I'm so glad you recognized your own beauty. I know also what it feels like being with someone who Will try and put you down. But, God has better in store for you. Keep loving yourself and I'm so happy you left that man. I did as well God bless you on your journey and always remember God made us beautiful.
I completely understand how Ade feels!! I get that all the time from other women it's really sad.....I tried to dim my light for years and I was miserable. I'm glad I'm submerging out off it. I just want to be happy at the end of the day
Absolutely not. I don’t dim my light for anyone. If I wanna get cute, 🤷🏽♀️ thats my prerogative! If a woman is upset that I look good I think thats a personal problem she’s gonna have to deal with on her own...
Yes Adrienne, 1000%. In my former church everyone used to watch me sideways because I dressed nicely. But eventually I just decided to be me and dress up because I love too.
I dress modestly if the event calls for it - family gathering, church, barbecue, ect. But I do not dress modestly on a regular if I'm going out with friends or my bf. I usually dress sexy, not always showing skin but usually something figure hugging and when you got curves, you got curves. BUT I always carry myself in a respectable manner and speak like a lady, so I'm never judged by my outfits and people usually think I'm actually very conservative.
Nah. I started dressing modestly once I learned to respect myself. When I dressed sexy, I didn't care what others thought and I still don't care LOL But I do care how God views me! That's just me though!!
I didn't know God judges people based on how they dress. Last remember we are born naked and created without clothes. Shame is a human thing. Peoples bodies are beautiful and awesome. It's our inability to just see bodies as bodies and respect them as such that brings this futal obsession with oversexualising people, trying to control ourselves by projecting our insecurity and weird repressed socialization with our own bodies and sexuality.
RubyRim same! And some women are very surprised when I do. Lol I’m just open like that. I’ll meet you at a store and be like hey beautiful! You gotta spread that positive energy. And if a girl is giving me the side eye my first instinct is to remind that woman she is bomb.
Abigail Owusu , she did her time let her keep reminding us. Sis, you know how your people be forever reminding the rest of Africa that you on top😩😂😅. But I say, let y’all have your shine. You’ve earned it.
I love wearing heels and dressing up. I used to wear heels just going to the shops but I got so many dirty and judging looks from women that it stopped me so now I don’t do it anymore and I miss it. I should start it up again
You definitely should do you sis 💪🏽 wear your heels because if you’re anything like me I have waaaaay too many pairs of shoes 🤣 I wore my heels to the grocery store a few weeks ago! Men were with their women on a Sunday trying not to stare 🙄 yes, on a Sunday
Yess, I’ve always felt that other womens low self esteem was my responsibility, but if they have confidence I feel that we can both be free and be ourselves.
I agree 100%. All the New Age feminists are about to call you a "pick me" and say that women shouldn't make decisions to please their husbands because they're men.
I feel adrienne 100. I dont care which job im hired at, Im coming with my hair/makeup/outfit on point because thats what type of girl I am. Other woman use to stay throwing little shade.. and idk if I was naive bc I never caught it, other plp would have to tell me like girl she was definitely hating lol. like adrienne said DONT HATE, BE INSPIRED!
People say im intimidating, my face is like that but im actually goofy.. So I end up meeting a lot of my women friends in sweatpants and the girl looks like she came from a magazine and i always feel underdressed. So i totally like this, inform them with the dress code thing 🤣👍
Story of my life , and I had to realize that if people have a problem with it , it’s their problem not mine. I used to feel so insecure when all I am trying to do is feel good about myself. I learned to love me and I want people to love themselves too
I gotta say I was hardly insecure, even when I had a little chub chub belly. It was CUTE on me and always has been, and the Devil really did tried me. He wanted to make me hate everything about me but it just made me love myself more. I was picked on, harassed and hated but praise be to God I raised above it all. And God came into my life at 21 years old and nothing has been the same from there on. Amen.
As someone who also loves to dress up and look put together, I completely understand Adrienne cause I've done it multiple times. Don't want to step on toes etc.
I don’t care how people feel about how I dress. If my croptop and mom jeans offend you I don’t know what to tell you love. Sometimes I’m covered head to toe sometimes I’d like for my thangs to thang. If you’re stacked you’re gonna be stacked modest or not. 🤷🏾♀️ I’m always complimenting women on their purses, makeup, shoes, outfits, you name it modest or not. I don’t care what you do with yourself it has zero effect on my life, who am I to tell you what to do when I don’t know you from a can of paint?
I agree with Amanda n Adriane there r women who judge are feel u think your better when most of the time the women is just being who they are and they shouldn’t feel uncomfortable for being themselves !!!!!!
Amanda has become nicer with the girls or warmed up, more accepting of their opinions and delivery is much better, makes her more like able, Loni however has become intolerable of the other girls
I think because she's lost her place because she's not the funny one or the pretty one or the smart one every one of the ladies represents something except her unless you want to count oldest
Robyn H no because they said they couldn’t relate which I understand. But I just sound it interesting that they at least never heard of this issue. That’s all I was saying.
Im with Loni on this ion care 🤷🏾♀️ y’all ain’t paying my bills/clothes. I believe in looking presentable in the right situations but trying to look cute for him she them, I’m good
Jeannie does have a point though. People are in general insecure and that includes women. Yes, society reinforces that insecurity but there's also a very primitive instinctual mechanism. Just google Intrasexual competition (male or female). Jeannie had quite a strong point there.
I LOVE THIS VIDEOOOO!!. God i’m a teen and i love telling girls they are pretty all day wether they are stranger or not. It’s a short but beautiful moment between women.
Also I feel like women’s figures are a trend and we don’t rlly notice it. Like back in the 90s tall and skinny was the main image and now it’s been changed to thick and curvy women. Whatever figure you have you should love it and it shouldn’t be a trend
I'm gonna be honest, I was a little worried when Amanda first came on the show bc I felt like these 4 girls have been with each other for years so I thought it would be weird to just bring another girl in the mix BUT I actually love Amanda on the show!! I think she fits in perfectly and brings a whole new element to it which I love ❤️❤️❤️
I agree with everything Adrienne said. In high school I wud literally have girls bump, trip, & even try to fight me because of how I dressed. & the next week they’ll have the exact same outfit on. Fast forward to adulthood and I even get grown women staring at me up & down and giving me dirty looks. It’s absolutely crazy how u can be treated based off of your clothes.
The only time I really dress up is for church or when I'm broadcasting in the studio at my college. I have a very basic sense of style. I like my denim jeans and a sweater, with my rubber boots and a warm jacket.
Amanda has really brought new life to the show. The discussion is more spirited and well informed. It's improved significantly. I love them all even more.
This is so true! My boyfriend says why you wear makeup guys don't even notice or care about your eyebrows being good and cleaned. I'm like hey I must look good. But when other females notice and complaint it's the best. I always give kudos when I see a girl with bomb makeup or outfit.
I get this.... I've been told by a female co-worker. That I needed to slow down with applying makeup. Because it was to hard to keep up with me. The makeup I wear isn't about the other women around me. I wear it for me. I like how I look in it. It makes me feel good about myself.
This week, at my supermarket, I’ve notice people are slightly more dressed up because here in Ireland, there is no where else to go really, with social distancing. I think it shows people are placing a lot of value on getting on the house & as not suppose to loitering in store and chit chatting, it’s a silent way to say “I’m ok”. Fashion and style are powerful communicators and while we always should freely show our style, there is no harm in knowing your audience too and amending for them, you can still keep your style but it just shows you recognise the vibe of where you are going & who you are hanging with.
A group of friends asked me awhile back why I always wear makeup if I’m going out the house and why dress up for everything. I was taught to always look presentable. Even if I’m going to do groceries I will wear makeup and dress decent. I’m not a full glam makeup type but I’m never caught outside without foundation, mascara and lipstick. That’s just how I am and I won’t ever go in public wearing pajama pants and slippers. Not that I feel I’m better than anyone I just don’t feel presentable without some makeup. You never know who you’re going to meet while out in public and you want to leave a good impression on.
I definitely dress for other women, as well as myself. My man doesn't give a damn about my nails, makeup or hair. But my female coworker and I will give each other props when either of us looks really good on a particular day. Plus, I find myself looking forward to that and wanting to make an effort to impress her simply because I admire how she dresses, too.
Yo this segment spoke to me on so many levels! It was like dropping gems into my ears 💎💎for 2020 let’s appreciate eachother more as women and stop being so hard on ourselves and eachother! In the words of Tamera, stop being threatened by a pretty woman and instead be inspired✨✨
I totally agree. I love to dress up but no one at my work does. I slowly started dressing casual so they wouldn’t perceive me as trying too hard. It’s sad, and I mostly cared about what the ladies thought of me. But after watching this, I’m going back to being true to myself. I shouldn’t care what other people think and should wear what makes me happy. And honestly, I love looking and dressing as a professional; it makes me more productive at work too.
Yess ooo.....what use to be underwear and nightie is now an outfit people wear outside their home. And I think what they were all saying was good but I think they missed their question.
Once on a vacation to Cancun with my bf and his friend and his gf, FYI I’m the same as Adrienne, I just love dressing up and especially on vacation it’s so fun to wear different clothing. Anyway my bf’s friend asked him to tell me to not wear “over the top” outfits because he didn’t want his gf to feel insecure. Like WTF that got me so sad and so mad like if I’m the bad person now for wanting to wear some cute outfits for this trip. In the end I ended up wearing what I had packed and that girl didn’t even speak to me the entire trip, she would talk to my bf but not me. I can’t believe how some girls would act. SMH
pierusofpella I would literally just wear like cute crop tops and skirts or a cute bikini with some shorts or a cute little summer dress and she wore the same tshirt and JEANSSS the entire trip which is fine she can wear whatever she feels comfortable in but don’t try to make me dumb down some of my outfits just because she didn’t want to feel bad about hers, and for example she would sit by her man then her man by my bf then me next to my bf and she would talk to her man and my bf but when I put a word in a conversation she would just give me an ugly look and stay quiet so I minded my business and my bf and I would go wonder off to be alone because he notice her actions were rude towards me
I agree with most of the things they said, but one thing I believe is, you shouldn’t have to dull yourself down so another women can feel better about herself. We can all shine together! And you shouldn’t have to let other women know you’re not in competition with them, if they want to create something that isn’t there, don’t feed into it.
I agree with Adrienne! I am the friend where I absolutely love being dressed up. Even if it's brunch, lunch, dinner, small gatherings. It helps with my confidence and helps me feel beautiful. I typically haven't noticed myself wearing something different for someone to like me. My experience is very different I gained confidence recently in the last 8 months. Since graduating college, working and doing my own thing.
I’ve never dressed for how I feel like another woman will feel🤨. That’s so weird to me. I just really could care less how another female feels. If she’s jealous that’s her own insecurities.
It's true! If a men compliments me, I feel sexy and question if he wants me. If a woman compliments me, I genuinely feel beautiful. There's this sort of healing for my self esteem.
As a woman I often dress modestly to stay safe. It's sad but very often even though I enjoy wearing dresses and high heals, I'm afraid to walk the streets dressed in such manner (especially alone and late at night). So I don't do it out of fear of being judged, but out of fear that I won't be safe.
For ten years I did just what Ad said but ! Now hell nah I’m trying to do me if I show up in high heels and you’re in flats and sweat pants girl that’s your business !
A woman told me never dumb down for other people. If your lights too bright for them they can get some shades. Life is too short for me to dress for other people I’ll wear what I’m comfortable in