When a man can't 100% be honest about their past but expects that of you. If you're not 100% honest with them, then they assume you're lieing to them and the argument is on.
I hate it more when women I date will talk about renewed interest in their exes, or suddenly announce their upcoming marriage to someone I've never heard of and then ask if I have something to say to her about it. "Good luck, bye!" A test? If I did that, it would be called lying or head games from a horrible person.
@@dezydream6472 Maybe I could have phrased that better. I can think of at least four women that I dated, past tense, that said different versions of things like that. I think it's supposed to be a test to see if a man gets jealous. It just makes me lose interest and go away. It could be #1 in my list of dating turn offs.
@@randystegemann9990, I see. Sometimes women need stroking and try to get it by making themselves feel valuable. They're hoping you 'll find them desirable. I had a guy tell me all about his "sexcapades" with people he met at the gas station, online and just how women can't stop telling him how handsome he is. All on the first date!!! He tried so much to impress me, but I rejected him. See men do it too. He chased me for 3 years, before I finally went on the second date and I felt nothing. He finally got the message.
At my best friend's wedding she and her husband to be then tried to set me up with a guy with chronic bad breath and he really tried I just couldn't get past that. Not to mention before meeting the guy all I heard was he was interested in the girl's figure numbers and honestly that lost me faster than his bad breath.
I hate guys who are arrogant and cocky, uses his phone all the time when I'm with them, controlling behaviour, sexism and a guy who criticizes me which is a dealbreaker
Lava Yuki : Oh my gosh, thank you for the reminder, men who criticize anything about you or your life, run away from them as fast as you can and block them on the phone, text, social media, everything.
No thanks, I’m done with men. Was married 20 years and got screwed over. Also have 3 sons, almost as selfish as their dad. I’m done! Gonna focus on me now. Fix my garden, manage my stock portfolios, go the gym, attend Tai Chi classes, go skiing! Yeah...why suffer. As a woman I don’t need no man to tell me what to do! (Pardon the slang).
Just be yourselves and let that guide you. Being with the wrong person is very toxic and draining. Remember, the wrong person for you will be the right person for someone else. We become our best selves when were with the right people.
I am having the best time of my life .I am not catering to any man"s needs I am working studying been single for 6 years now. Men can be a distraction to your life with their self centered needs.
Pumla : Amen!!!!! Relationships are highly highly overrated most often. That’s why the divorce rate is so incredibly high. It’s easier to go through life on your own for the most part.
@Pumla...rumor has it that single women are healthier than married women or women in long-term relationships....! A friend of mine witnessed this for themselves. She visited a friend of hers who has been married for over 20 years. My friend is single, a nice person, she's not gossipy or anything like that. Anyway, her friend hadn't seen her in a few months and so invited her for a get-together. Her friend was amazed at how beautiful she looked. And this beauty was not just in a physical sense but she was glowing, joyful, pleasant, and interesting and interested in others....and she is single. She could be herself without restriction. I know this isn't true for everyone of course...but once we learn how to love ourselves and share that love there's no need to latch on to someone else for fulfillment. If a relationship happens "naturally" it happens. If it doesn't...it doesn't. That's the attitude a person (not just a woman of course) should have.
Thats how I feel, Ive been without a man for 14 yrs, I like it better and better. And its not because I cant get a man, and they are usually quite a bit younger than I am, but it doesnt really interest me, I am done catering to the male ego and being used. I am wonderfully happy alone, and I doubt that will change anytime soon. I can do what I want, when I want, with who I want, its a great feeling.
I find my man distracting when I’m trying to stay with my studies of God. He leaves his phone notifications on all the time because he’s a long haul heavy driver. I have to ask him to turn it down
Turn ons: remembers details and brings them up later in a nice way. Sends a brief silly video to say hello. Suggests an interesting and unique thing to do. Wears good jeans and a cool shirt. Reads. Makes you a playlist. Brings you a fresh fruit in season. Asks how an interview or meeting went. Most of all takes a genuine interest in you demonstrated by questions asked and requests to spend time combined with an upbeat, warm, supportive attitude.
#1 HYGIENE!!!! I can not deal with a smelly man 😩 #2 disrespect You will NOT talk to me any ole kind of way! #3 FINANCIAL INSTABILITY- nothing is worse than a man who is broke and I mean broke.. broke I don’t mean stumbled upon some hard times but you ask him to pick up something from the grocery store like a pack of chicken and he says he can’t afford it 😩 the times we live in are too hard to be with a broke man a man is supposed to be the provider that’s the way I was raised 🥰
@@susanmuathe6066 Susan you are so right about men wanting the ladies to do EVERYTHING for them. I REFUSE TO DO ALL THE WORK! I was married to a wonderful man for 33 years & we BOTH worked together for each other. I was blessed. Now I am a widow & would like another relationship like I had. Guess I'm spoiled, but I ABSOLUTELY REFUSE to do ALL THE WORK. If I'm alone the rest of my life, so be it. I know how good I had it & I will never settle (with the help of God) for anything less.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder which is a natural fact because you are as beautiful as your thoughts, compliments of the band EARTH, WIND AND FIRE. ITS ALL ABOUT LOVE. L
LADIES: these things apply to men as well. He’s not saying it’s only us that need to implement these. He’s a coach, mostly for women, so its focused more for women, but he’s not saying men can do whatever and women have to be perfect. Bettering ourselves is good for all of our relationships!
When the phone is a constant issue it is the drain factor in our modern world. I set a boundary & turn electronics off during meals & sleep time. My goal is respectful 💙
Great video!! Only I want to add that some man who use gaslighting, subtle abuse or do everything they can to make women jealous and then not happy if women complains all the time, they need to reevaluate their own behavior. Often there is a solid reason that women complains.
You’re absolutely right, most often, there’s serious issues with a guys behavior when a woman is complaining, and yes, we need to admit that we do not change people. We need to set high standards, use good discrimination and not get involved with people who are toxic & have nothing to give.
I dated such a guy once who kept checking his mobile every couple of minutes so, jest I asked if he was drug dealer or something like that and he replied "I wish...I would be here with you if I was..." Which made me feel uneasy, then he checked a few more female's texts and said "I was wondering how long it would take her to text me... You know she just bought me this beautiful hold watch to show how keen she was..," I looked at him and commented on how keen "she" must have been to buy him such a valuable gift and he replied "Very..She knows what a great man I am..." I looked at him and, yes, he was good looking and then I said, "Well being such a wonderful guy, you won't need me around and I certainly cannot buy gifts to match that one and I am not even going to try to comete. But, thank you for the date and, no, I shall pay for my share of the meal, thank you, save your money. You might need it some time, in case you cannot find any more women to buy you expensive gifts but I am sure you will have no difficulty, given all the texts you keep getting from them. "Oh, they don't mean a thing...." he pleaded, "Please stay...I'll buy you a cocktail....". "No thanks, I don't really desire either your cock or your tail. Let the tragic, deprive women who keep texting you get a bit, since they are obviously such tragic, needy women...He was shocked "Behave like a proper lady!"he ordered. I replied "I do...When I am with proper gentlemen worthy of such ladylike behaviour. I don't share them with other women. I'm outta here. I need my beauty sleep, ALONE!" I asked for the bill, paid my share, called s cab and left him there. His constant checking his phone was so insulting to me.
1) addicted to the phone. ( yup ) 2) toxic behavior. Starting fights for passion for attention reasons creating a fight to ensure your partner cares. ( OMG do I know a couple like this Yup and they fight all the time. Not cool ) 3) Insecurity in the relationship ( neediness clingy fear ,,,constantly needs to know ,,, manipulating situations to get his attention like flirting with other men in his presence etc. is not attractive and exhausting for both you and him. Do something for yourself to make u feel good about u without putting him on the spot for validation. When you do , it will shine through and make you oh so more attractive and u won t be that weak insecure questioning everything you do person. This takes constant self maintenance but so worth it )) 4) gossipy women and men ( negative vibes) ( if they talk to you about someone they will talk about u or share confidences about YOU to someone) ( boy have I ever experienced that ) 5). Stop complaining stop looking at the minus’s instead look for the positive s in any and all situations. ( it s so not hard to do. To turn off that crap in your head and walk away from it is so empowering and damn attractive too ) ...... it s taken me years to learn these things through of course experiences and hard knocks Thank God That this guy has laid it out for you so that u do not have to learn the hard way like Moi God Bless You Sending to you peace and light --that’s why my other nick name is “Glo N Tha Dark “ LOL
That's me, still in the school of hard knocks & over 50! Will I ever learn? 1. He was addicted to his phone, so I also became addicted to mine over a period of time out of frustration & boredom. 2. He picks fights, I retaliate, full on argument for hours. He quits relationship, I get angry. He apologised. I want to quit. 3. I make big mistake to talk about this with a friend. He finds out. Mega trust issues. 4. I'm happy, being positive, he picks fights or brings up past issues to rehash over & over..... 5. I'm going mad!
And also in security due to anxiety or abuse is also very hard to control and cope with. It's constantly there. it's something your partner needs to understand.
It's weird but I know people male and female that fight about what crurch I attended like it's their business that I go at all. Politics and who I date. So now I absolutely refuse to talk to them at all about anything. Who wants to be friends with anyone that'll argue about anything and everything ? Not me.
A woman wouldnt complain if she doesnt see a red flag, these advices can be applicable to both parties. People can be as they want when they're truly in love. All these factors would just hit them up to know whats the priority n not. U dont need to try hard or try to remind urself these things cause it would just come naturally if ur both truly committed to one another.
Yep, if hes showing me through his words and actions so I shouldnt be insecure in the relationship. My ex always told me I was soo insecure, but its just his words never matched with his actions, he always told me he loved me but I never felt loved by him, I felt invisible in his life many times, the case is he broke up with me saying he could not deal anymore with my insecurities. For long time I believed it was true, that the problem was on me, and I blamed myself for so long, now I realize I was not that insecure, that I did have reasons to feel that way. Whatever...
Exactly those 5 qualities that made me catch the nearest bus out of a recent relationship. Yukky male behaviour. Don't want to repeat that any time soon.
Nicci Mc Cormack : congratulations on having good boundaries! So so important, and most of us women do not have them. So we get tangled up with Men who are not good for us at all.
I find more negative complaining guys out there. Maybe they're insecure. I get fed up with all the whining they do. Looking for that positive energy man to do life with me.
I find women who complain about men complaining really dumb and using double standards. That's immediate turn off. You want positivity in your life? Create it yourself first.
What turns me off when dating a man ; I dated a really nice guy who would constantly quote old movie lines. Only talked about his two kids.( who were great, accomplished young adults .) Only talked football and watched football shows. I like Baseball,Hockey, and Boxing. Conversations were only about what mattered to him.
WE are not victims!! WE make the CHOICE to stay in a unhappy situation! It has absolutely nothing to do with the other person. Lose the victim label and watch your life change!
Clearly you’ve never experienced cognitive dissonance aka the Stockholm syndrome. Empathy will take you far in life, do some research then be a light to someone stuck in darkness ❤️
Notes: 1) She’s addicted to her phone. 2) Keeping the passion alive with toxic behavior. 3) Insecurity in the relationship. 4) Gossiping like she’s in high school. 5) Non-stop complaining.
This is why it is best for women to go out and date and have fun, but do not get eexually involved with anyone. You are basically conducting interviews for a partner and mate. You are worth protecting from heartache. You are worth waiting for. You are worth having a man wait for you and treat you very well. When you go to far with a man it makes him feel guilty and uncomfortable and he will turn off from you because of his own uncomfortable feelings. He knows he did wrong to sleep with you when he is not ready to decide to become involved with you. It's not you, it's him, but why put yourself out there to be hurt?
Good video ad excellent points. As for me I'm better off alone for awhile. Dealing and healing with codependency issues. I don't need or want to spread my negativity anymore. I'm glad to recognize it finally instead of constantly going through same situations......God Bless to everyone else. I wish y'all well.
Yes we do, but every woman who questions our existence in the first place is not worth dating cuz she has to sort some shit out before we get interested again.
I just spent a week with a guy on holiday who did just about all the things that men hate about women. He was on his phone, gossiping about his clients. Bragging about how much money his clients made. I now realize he just used me for a booty call. Lesson learnt. I've known him years and he acted as if he wanted to date me He's coming here to take part in a comp in March. we are in LD, I will have the talk. I'm not into just sex. I have been so naive. Even at 57 I got it so wrong with him.
My husband loves me implicitly , none of the five things mentioned in this video would make the slightest bit of difference to my husband , whatever I say whatever I do , he loves me , and he always will .
@@melindak.21over confident lol , I'm totally secure in his love for me and vice Versa , we just celebrated our 30th wedding anniversary , we love eachother as much as we've ever done , he is my husband and my best friend , he is the kindest and best of men ❤️ .
That feeling of being rushed.. Like they can't wait a few more minutes.. Could be you got off work late, you need more time, etc. And they complain.. that makes me feel miserable.. It's like a form of complaining about me living
the addicted to the phone one applies to both men and women. I had a guy who asked me out on a date but every chance he got, he would look at his phone. I rejected him after the date since i was able to treat him with respect and not look at my phone.
I know a guy whose done all these things, they also think women are beneath them and they constantly blame others for their problems. Plenty men are always gaming which is just as bad as a cellphone. High quality seldomly exists in either of the sexes.
I find most men are self centered. I think woman are too! Its about giving to each other. Forgive and be willing to change the things that are not pleasing to the other one!
Mariposa , Yeah. I suddenly realized I don’t care. I don’t need dating advice if I have chosen to stay alone. Not against anyone being in a relationship or needing someone else. But I am free now. And I have peace. Yeah... I found the title slightly repulsive even though this is a good channel. I am remembering the last controlling abusive cruel jerk who wanted to be treated like a god.
staying in the moment is very good advice. also picking fights is a nono unless you have a legitimate concerns about ethics or a values collision that means you have to resolve it before you continue.i agree about the physical challenge.
SOoo, does this mean that although you've been harmed by your childhood and previous relationships, you should swallow the hurt, hide the scars and paste on a fake smile to make others feel good about you? Does a high quality person want to learn that his or her darling has been hiding your true self behind a happy-go-lucky facade?
Thanks Jason, every time I notice I start to navigate off track as far as my behavior and attitude when it comes to dating and talking to someone I always come back to your videos to put me back in alignment. You have helped me so much. ❤️👍
Alot of men assume a women will join his world 🌎 They don't even think of her world, shes just an appendage. But its really about two worlds coming together. Compatibility and respect are very important!
Jeez, many men should put down their phones too! When I was doing online dating, only one out of five had my full respect and interest - he was the only one who never checked his phone during our six-hour-long first date, expect using the phone for direction to a beach we randomly decided to go check out (and he told me very politely that he had to use the map and quickly put the phone away when he found the route.) My worst date was with another man who was constantly on his cellphone, texting to someone. The first thing I did after I got home that day was to text him that we should stop seeing each other.
I am not attracted to the male brain. A woman never complains. Our brain is programmed to seek out empathy. She expresses herself with words to regain her footing in the same way men withdraw to mull over his challenges to find solutions or just to take focus off the stress. If they would just listen, and offer a sentence of comfort, and a moment of affection, our "complaining" would decrease over time, because we would feel safe to be vulnerable in this unsure world. You see, since the woman's movement, men have bought into the belief that we are strong and independent and we think as they do. However, what we crave is to be protected and feel safe. If you cannot provide that, do not expect a woman to appreciate your actions or be sexually receptive.
TO be honest, I don't know one person who does not have or did not have at least one of those, to various degrees, of course. All those emotions and reactions are normal but when they become noticeable and uncontrollable, that's when it's time to move on.
I do Not Appreciate it when he thinks he knows me, (100%) and tells me point blank - this is what is going to happen to you, because in this individual eyes I was not smart enough to make the right choices. I don't like being made to feel this uncomfortable - I know I will find the right person In Time..... I am Smart, Wise, A Hard Worker and Even more than all of This.... He needs more Help than I will ever Need!
It could be flipped the other way because these r some things that drove me nuts about my ex. So either i have aman brain or this is relatable to both genders.. I have seen many men do this like gossiping or always on their phone or complaining..
Think I might be guilty of the gossiping one? Though I don''t really share negative or embarrassing information, just interesting stories about people that I know that is relevant to the conversation.
I am with you. Sometimes when I get really good news or some shocking news about my family or friends, I do share it with my other close family or friends. This isn't gossip but just sharing news since I might be very excited or very shocked or saddened by what I hear.
I definitely agree with number one. I see this all the time where I see just about everybody glued to their phone. If I'm with someone I want to look at them, not my damned phone. It's very rude. If someone picks a fight with me, I'm gone. I don't have time or patience for that. I would rather talk to that person and find a solution, and letting that person know I really love them. I had insecurity once upon a time. But I'm used to being alone and do fine and spend time with friends and family. If that person wants to be with me that's wonderful. If you can trust who you are with you won't have to worry. I was guilty of gossiping, but I never meant it in a bad way. I don't want to say anything about anyone again. I want to lift people up, not bring them down. Nagging and complaining makes things 100% worse.
But if a man tests a woman in this nature it is a 2 fold. Women want a high quality man and if this is what all men do, test a woman's boundaries etc., then a high quality woman will be turned off immediately. A high quality man won't test a a women. That is immature. This is what good women are trying t o say. A good
Your advice is right on! I will add one thing more to the viewers. A person with these behaviors, should go to counseling to put that behavior under control before they go out there searching for their soulmate. Why? Because this is an ingrained behavior that can only be curved for so long (usually until you "catch" the person), then you revert to that bad behavior, spelling disaster.
When he’s 20 years older he doesn’t care about anything but his image I found out the hard way! And I realize why he picked me, by some odd reason you mentioned that before he’s a smaller thinker like you said he’s immature in his self I’m so much younger in my self as well as my pretty image, I’m reevaluate my life I deserve better for sure.
My idea of a "HIGH QUALITY" MAN, IS A MAN WHO IS HONEST,+ KIND, HE WILL UNDERSTAND IF YOUR NOT EXACTLY RELAXED ON A FIRST MEETING, AFTER BEING SINGLE FOR A LONG TIME.A HIGH QUALITY MAN, WILL RESPECT YOU AS GOD WOULD WANT HIM TO.A HIGH QUALITY MAN DOESN'T WANT TO ROLL WITH A WOMAN WHO'S NOT HIS OWN.WOULD HE DRIVE A CAR THAT DOESN'T BELONG TO HIM? OR DRIVE WITHOUT A LICENCE?DOES HE PARK IN PARKING SPOTS THAT SAY "NO PARKING"? A HIGH QUALITY MAN RESPECTS HIMSELF,+ THE WOMEN HE MEETS.HE KNOWS HOW TO CONDUCT HIMSELF. ALSO, I BELIEVE GOD GIVES US TIME+ CHANCE TO BECOME HIGH QUALITY.AMEN
Or when You start to tell them something and you're real eager and they say "Well make it quick" and if I confront him then he's like," Well, you go on and on and on" while I'm sitting there knowing he's told me something this week for the third time but I don't say, " You idiot how many times are you going to tell me that this week?? "
