I am very emotional watching this knowing how much fathers love their daughters my dad is my life I don't know what I would do without him but not only my dad my mum I do everything with her don't want to leave them 😭😭😭
Now that I have a daughter, I can understand how scary it is to let your daughter go. But we just need to trust Allah and pray our daughters marry good men who will love and respect them
As well as that you should teach your daughters how to rely on Allah and to learn about their rights. Because sadly it does still happen, I've seen pious women who marry men who don't treat them right or whose families don't treat them right and they just put up with it either because a) they are ignorant to the fact that they don't actually have to put up with it, b) they endure it in the hope that someday it will get better or the most annoyingly common fact c) they endure it because they 'love wuv' their husbands and therefore don't want to walk away too easily. Not trying to scare you but the best thing you can do is be a realistic in this situation. This is why any daughter of mine won't just be constantly prayed for a good husband and constantly supported by her family but I will be very sure to remind her daily of what her rights are as a wife, mother and daughter-in-law, what shes supposed to do and what she does not have to put up with. Plain and simply if you are being mistreated by your husband he is committing a sin and you have EVERY RIGHT to walk away. Don't let them threaten you with typical cultural bullshit of 'what will people say if you get divorced?' or 'who will marry you again?' or we will take your children away from you ffs we live in the west. and our families are usually nearby. so why even in these countries are muslim sisters living like 2nd class citizens? Regret, its a horrible thing to have. So learn Islam properly - as in the proper version, not the cultural version that suits the men and the in-law where they treat it akin to Hinduism and think their wives/DIL is now their property and servant. And learn your rights. And don't be afraid to exercise them.
Only if my dad never messed up. He would get to see me getting married this year. I guess Allah plans and he knows whats to come. Make dua for me inshallah 🤲🏻
Sahar Ayoubi we shouldn’t break kinship as Muslims. Trust me no matter how bad it is, just ask him to come please! You will regret it no matter what the deal is now. In Shaa Allah it’s not too late and you’re yet to wed. May Allah guide us all Ameen
@@jfknows6542 I know dear but its really hard. It's about that trust is well and it's broken what he did to my mum. she divorced him. Its a really sensitive topic and yeah I'm thankful he's not in our lives.
Sahar Ayoubi sis I hear you and when I say I KNOW your pain from what you say I really do. However I will say your parents divorce is not your battle in my humble opinion. We love our mum’s, but we must be logical on what battle we are fighting and with whom. Anyhow I can’t dictate to you, but please do istikarah or just think about it please
@@jfknows6542 I get u sis but I do respect him I don't have any hatred, just that I don't find him important in my life no more, as he put us through hell. And ur right dear. Even if I do invite him to my wedding, he would embarrass us.
Aaww bless I hope she and him have a good life and marriage but this is the life of us girls this is the first thing that I don’t wanna be a girl we’re not ready to leave our family I feel there pain /I’m a Muslim and Pakistani /
I know everyone has their own opinion but I'm just saying wouldn't you start crying if you've got taken away from your parents and get married all that time you were with your family and when you get married it won't be the same.
Well in most cases (I’m middle eastern) the bride could possibly be marrying someone from another region and she’d be separated from her family that’s when I usually see the extreme sadness !! Believe it or not some countries are still not as modern and advanced getting to and from places is not as easy for example Palestinians and the Syrians they have conflicts and check points getting to see family is nearly impossible when you’re traveling from one province to another 🤷🏻♀️ that’s just my speculation
Wow this is so powerful sisters have it so hard man. Brothers are you watching are you listening. There whole there raised and grow with there whole family always being told what to do how to behave then she leaves her whole family behind to go to the unknown for the man she will spend the rest of her life with it could end up.being heaven or hell
NAZ A lmao south Asian weddings are known to be the best and cheeriest - south Asian wedding traditions are fetishised in the world while everyone else’s are overlooked. Truth hurts. Our weddings are very emotional so the ending usually ends like this - every function that comes with a south Asian wedding holds a deep meaning and you are not part of the culture so will not ever understand. Please move yourself.
Sadness especially for girls as they are leaving their loved ones and their homes that they lived in since birth...life after marriage is never and can never be the same. It’s a huge change in many peoples lives once one person gets married in the family. Also like already mentioned, most of our weddings hold very deep meanings and although they are very cheerful at the start, it gets emotional towards the end because it’s almost like family members are saying the last goodbye to the bride/groom as life for them will change drastically. Also marriage is such a big thing and comes with many difficulties and hardships and parents always feel emotional towards their daughters especially as so much can go wrong in a marriage and they of course don’t want their child to be hurt or uncared for.
Fareeha Sonia you got a point I swear every time I go to a wedding its always so sad at the end cause they are leaving their mum dad and brothers and sisters I always try not to show my emotions though St the ending of weddings
NAZ A I'm a Asian Pakistani girl. Our fathers and family love us dearly and treat us like princesses no joke or exageration. So in their eyes went a daughter gets married it's their baby girl leaving the house and not bieng under his roof and care anymore. It's very overwhelming. BUT trust we know how to party. This is just one bit of wed the rest is fun and crazy 😉
random hijabi same I don't ever wanna leave my parents and I am Pakistani and I can't even think about leaving them and starting my own family my mum and dad are my life❤️❤️😢
ek girl ke liye katna mushkikl lmha hota he ye waqi mari to abi se anso age he ankho mera to ek both chota bahi he muje ise bi ek din esi trha chor ke apne ghr jana parega
Dolla Holla I get that but like she doesn’t have to live with her in laws she could live in her own house with her husband near her parents a marriage is between two people not a whole family. Like it’s stupid how a grown man still lives with his family and the woman has to leave. Children should look after their parents so the daughter has a duty to hers and he has a duty to his there’s no point in getting making an even bigger problem by making her live with some new people and look after them. It’s against Islam and it’s just blantly stupid especially when she’s this upset. Anyone considering asking her what she wants or are they going to continue to follow traditions from hundreds of years ago. That’s like us following the Victorian society, times change, people move on, shit changes.
Well. It has nothing to do with islam. It is a south asian cultural thing. After marriage, a lot changes in a girl's life. Secondly, the girl leaves her maternal home. She won't leave with her parents anymore like before. She is married and has more responsibilities towards her husband etc. The whole thing is emotional. What ur saying is practical like they can meet closeby and all but at that moment bidai moment, it is natural to get emotional. During that time, they dont think about staying closeby or things like that.
Sankalan she has so many responsibilities doesn’t he as well? A lot changes in both of their lives. Living together being married. What makes the girls family cry? Almost as if the old tradition is girls are still treated as objects and like their being sold from one family to another from one man’s control to another. It’s bs it’s not tradition it’s an old sexist way which people continue to embark on today.
Amy Jones indian women are still not as strong as west. And the tradition of women n her family crying is because she is leaving the house where she stayed since her birth. She will be coming there as a guest. Thw husband does not have to do that. Secondly she has responsibilities towards her inlaws too. Her husband does not necessarily have such responsibilities. U need to understand indian culture before commenting. I am not saying if its good or bad. But the bidai thing makes an indian/pakistani/bangladeshi or any south asian girl emotional and it is a natural instinct. Nobody forces them to cry or the amount of tears is not measured. The girls cry because they won't be able to be a part of the family like the way the user to be. The culture here is diff from the west.
Usually in south asian weddings there are two major events. The marriage party is thrown by the girl's family. After that the girl goes to the husband's house where the reception is held. So usually this bidai and crying takes place after marriage when the girl is going to her husband's home. Unlike West, in India, the culture of staying with parents still prevail. Even when guys and girls are independent they prefer living with parents. So the girl will obviously be at her parent's home if she aint working elsewhere. @amy jones
Sankalan No one has a responsibility to their inlaws that’s not tradition. I have done my research. It’s more of a backwards minded mentality that has been brought in todays day and age. Like hanging and execution that’s gone one could argue that’s tradition because that’s how prisoners were dealt with but it doesn’t happen anymore because it’s wrong likewise with that ‘tradition’. A girl has a responsibility to her husband and her husband to his wife I mean your talking as if she is an object. That’s wrong it’s not culture it’s wrong and the eastern areas need to change. But it won’t if everyone thinks like that then 🤷🏼♀️
This is very interesting culture why are they crying. I get that she’s getting married and moving away maybe but still they should celebrate. Not that she’s leaving but for starting new chapter in her life probs they gonna see each other again lol. No offense tho, they all looked good!
Hm apni dol nai dety ksi ko ........ma bap beti day dety hn........ Bap se b milti hai to b shohar se poch k Beti jab rukhsat ho to haqdar bdal jata hai
I don’t understand why the brides cry? Like it ain’t that deep. Especially in London like your just moving to the next road. It’s not like your never gonna see your family again. No offence to anyone but I really don’t get why the bride and her family cry. It’s not like someone died. Does anyone else agree?
