Ask Nick - Carrying My BFF’s Baby | The Viall Files w/ Nick Viall

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Welcome back to another episode of The Viall Files: Ask Nick Edition! Before we get to our callers, we talk about menu anxiety and gentle parenting. Then we get to our callers…
Our first caller is carrying her best friend's baby, but her mother and law doesn’t approve. Our Second caller is a single mom and it’s been 9 years since she’s last called someone her boyfriend. Finally, our third caller feels like the city she lives in makes it impossible to move on from her ex.
“When you look back at your relationship, was he really the perfect boyfriend?”
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@punk.rock.hippie Месяц назад

Nick is saying alllll the same stuff parents say before real life parenting hits them. He’s the “best parent ever” before actually experiencing it. He’s coming across so self righteous and his kid will hopefully humble him.

@Free420Love Месяц назад

There’s always been a lot to criticize about him, but since Natalie was not even halfway through her pregnancy, he’s been absolutely insufferable. He was already pretending he knew everything & giving actual experienced parents a talking down to BEFORE their daughter even arrived.

@stefd7359 Месяц назад

I can't wait til their kids won't eat a sandwich bc it's triangles and not squares.

@FosterJen91 Месяц назад

Agreed. Has all these thoughts about how to raise a child but doesn't know developmental milestones or when his child should be able to do different things. Parenting doesn't start at 9 when your child can lead you through an airport. It started 4 months ago.

@nafafonafafofo Месяц назад

You all just really love to hate on Nick. I did not get the vibe that he was being self righteous and condescending towards people that practice “gentle parenting.” He was simply stating how he would personally try handle particular situations. And I agree with him completely. The only thing that really bothered me though was him cutting off the producers constantly.

@organiclady Месяц назад

@@nafafonafafofo Yep, shitting on him over this is ridiculous. He’s a first-time parent and is learning. Give the man a break.

@kellyoconnor8385 Месяц назад

I’ve been a long time fan of this show….But sometimes lately the intros feel like I am reading an argument in the comment section on Facebook 😅

@peidan86 Месяц назад

The convos are beyond stupid these days. ‘Menu anxiety’? Give me a fucking break.

@peidan86 Месяц назад

The convos are beyond stupid these days. ‘Menu anxiety’? Give me a fucking break.

@Badnewsfeminist Месяц назад

The show has really taken a nose dive in the past six or so months

@kristinacollins8380 Месяц назад

Can't wait for River to become a toddler and humble him. I would love to see him listen back to himself on this podcast. I said all this stuff before I had kids too.

@SpeedOfDesperate Месяц назад

I usually like Ask Nick, but I couldnt get through the intro this time. Let Leia and Justin finish a sentence. Leia tried so many times to explain gentle parenting and you didn't let her get past "So what I think they mean with collaboration is..." or "In the case Justin is describing it would be..." It comes across very rude.

@lilypeterson232 Месяц назад

so rude! i wanted to slap through my screen

@racheyy_g Месяц назад

HATE when nick asks a question and then proceeds to talk over the person.

@Sara-gb8wu Месяц назад

I feel like the one aspect of gentle parenting, from my understanding, that was missed in this convo is knowing that as a parent you're bound to lose your temper when your kids are limit-testing...but part of gentle parenting is incorporating rupture & repair: so many older generations never apologized after snapping in a parenting moment when they were dysregulated. Showing your kids that you're human too, demonstrates that we all make mistakes and are worthy of love even in the face of those poor choices/judgement calls.

@jennyonthecoast Месяц назад

I picture the first time his kid has a breakdown in public and he has to deal with it lol

@LynzeNicBeauty Месяц назад

It’s like nick refuses to listen

@taylorkatte7481 Месяц назад

Gentle parenting is often confused with permissive parenting. It’s not about negotiating with your kids or never saying no but more about working with them to learn how to self regulate and eliminating unnecessary power struggles. As far as not using negative words that is accurate for young kids (under 5) because they don’t have the cognitive ability to understand negatives. So when you say stop throwing they only hear “throwing” so instead I would say something like the toy stays in our hands. It’s still enforcing the boundary but in a way their brain can understand. If they continue to throw then they lose the toy as a consequence. As far as punishments, it’s about having consequences that make sense to the behavior so instead of a time out they might no longer be able to have access to the toy they were misusing.

@mmeshke Месяц назад

He is insufferable as a new parent. 🙄

@LynzeNicBeauty Месяц назад

Also there is a difference between a punishment and a natural consequence and nick doesn’t seem to grasp that

@carolinedonlon601 Месяц назад

I think Nick needs to figure out when to wrap it up... I enjoyed the first caller & her situation was really interesting to listen to but my god, at some point they kept talking about the same thing in circles for about 20 mins.

@catherineritch6241 Месяц назад

I think it’s called processing. I think Nick is processing the information and or allowing the caller to process the info, sometimes people go in circles because it’s a lot for them to process.

@trlyng1 Месяц назад

The single mom call went on so long I moved on to a different podcast. Boring!

@colleenh5273 Месяц назад

What’s the point of the cohosts if Nick is going to interrupt and talk over them every time they try and make a point? So annoying. Also, Nick thinks he’s some sort of parenting guru. How about he waits til he goes through of the stuff he’s talking about before making bold claims about how he’ll handle it?

@carolineboyk9692 Месяц назад

Gentle parenting does involve saying no. It's about consequences for your actions. They absolutely get taught right from wrong, without getting screamed at. It's about helping kids emotionally regulate and learn clear boundaries in the home. Kids test boundaries, and there are consequences for breaking them. If a kid draws on a wall, the crayons are taken away and they're helping to clean up - that's the boundary and consequence, no one is framing the wall lol. Gentle parenting IS NOT permissive parenting, permissive is letting kids rule the house with no consequences. I think if Nick and crew actually learned about it, and bothered to read more than a tagline, may find it to be quite insightful.

@Awest0803 Месяц назад

We gentle parent and we say “no”. We also explain why we’re saying no instead of “because I said so” there’s different levels of gentle parenting given the child’s developmental age. Gentle parenting teaches your child how to self regulate and know they deserve respect.

@seven92023 Месяц назад

That's total BS.

@RachASMR Месяц назад

The girl that said she will make her kid eat whatever she wants them to eat, come talk again when you have a kid. I said a lot of things I was “going to do” with my kid before having my son. He has sensory issues, his pallet is small of what he eats, and we respect that. What you say you’ll do, and what you’ll actually do once you become a parent are very different.

@jillianphoenix3270 Месяц назад

Before I had kids, I definitely also said my kid would eat everything and that I would never make him a special dinner. 4 years later and I just roll my eyes when I hear non parents and parents of tiny babies say that lol

@phoff783 Месяц назад

I’m not a mom but I’ll never forget I was in 2nd grade and I wouldn’t stop crying and being a brat one morning because I only wanted Mac n cheese for breakfast- so my mom just quickly made some. She was just like “fuck it”… and I don’t think I turned out bad. A lot of the times we are all just trying to survive lol

@AK-jd7td Месяц назад

Forcing your kids to eat things they do not like does more damage then good. It stunts their ability read their hunger cues. Please read on AFRID and other sensory issues when it comes to food.

@phoff783 Месяц назад

I’m dating someone with AFRID and I legit am like please lord just make sure your kid is fed. Forcing them to eat foods they clearly don’t like is so outdated.

@lindsaybell6657 Месяц назад

I definitely don’t feel like the idea of gentle parenting was understood. It’s more about consequences versus punishments. For the peeing yourself example having the child do their laundry would be a consequence versus a punishment. It’s relatable to the negative behavior. You pee yourself, so now your clothes are dirty, so now you need to clean them (and yes a 5 or 6 years old could do the laundry with guidance from parent). A punishment in this situation would be yelling at the child, saying something mean like “why did you do this again, now you smell, you can’t watch tv for a week” it’s demeaning and the punishment is not relatable to what happened at all. Just makes an angry, embarrassed, resentful child.

@lilypeterson232 Месяц назад

can he let anyone speak?!!! producers try to explain something and he just talks right over them

@heatheraggus7501 Месяц назад

As a maritimer, the discussion of mussels vs. oysters and gagging whilst eating them - hurt my soul. But, way to go Justin for eating the mussels.

@nafafonafafofo Месяц назад

First call just DRAGS

@anarascon1316 Месяц назад

On the painting the wall discussion as a gentle parent I would say no and I would not frame it. This has happened and I had my 2 year old help me clean the wall and explained that we do not color on the wall. I had him say sorry and then we got out paper and colored.

@fhay1 Месяц назад

The amount of interrupting and speaking over by Nick is insane. Let ppl talk. It’s very rude

@seven92023 Месяц назад

The main reason many people in their 20s and 30s are messed up is because of poor parenting, that "gentle parenting" BS for example. Can't wait to see it get worse when kids currently 10 and younger grow up to be adults. Life is not "gentle".

@nafafonafafofo Месяц назад

“Pedastool” sweet boy Justin is becoming Nick 😳

@Badnewsfeminist Месяц назад

He is 20 years younger than Nick so let’s give him some time

@madibailey7392 Месяц назад

Why is Justin making stuff up 😂 gentle parenting has nothing to do with not using the word “no”

@madibailey7392 Месяц назад

@@AK-jd7td I’m gen z. That’s not the issue

@madibailey7392 Месяц назад

Nick, pls just listen to Leia because she’s correct and Justin is making stuff up LOL

@stefd7359 Месяц назад

Leia is going to get lesson in kids pretty soon too. I can't imagine WANTING to cook a separate meal for your kids every night. We don't do it for lack of trying.

@madibailey7392 Месяц назад

@@AK-jd7td I, at 26, am perfectly capable of critical thinking. And I have had plenty of exposure to children whether I’m a parent or not. Wouldn’t you like to discuss the issue that we seem to agree on, rather than make senseless and baseless jabs at an entire generation? It’s not helpful and it’s immature.

@clairenicholls8024 Месяц назад

Being grateful is super important. Great advice !

@Meredith_Paige Месяц назад

Stop talking over everyone ughhhhh

@genxvoice342 Месяц назад

Don’t listen to the haters-I’m 48 and needed the last two calls so badly! Great advice-thank you so much Nick ❤❤❤

@racheyy_g Месяц назад

The write in husband is def valid in feelings and deserves a convo BUT Nick saying her reading Iron flame w Xaden the dragon rider in a mythical fantasy books is the same as men watching OF girls is COMICAL. BSFFR

@arianagonzalez3058 Месяц назад

When I heard that, I laughed at him. I bet his answer would be, “you need to get over it” if the roles were reversed

@Urmomlovesyoutube Месяц назад

No I think it’s similar.. if I guy has a crush on a woman on TV or Ig model.. it’s basically like why are you fantasizing about someone else. If you’re insecure it would feel that way. I’m secure in my relationship and neither would bother me.

@ebstudio9525 Месяц назад

I live in the Ask Nick playlist. #obsessed

@Agata_Balbina Месяц назад

What can make a child sucidal is lack of understanding, attention, empathy from their parents, peers combined with some personality traits like beeing anxious,melancholic etc., NOT "GENTLE PARENTING". Children are different, some need more support from their parents to feel safe and grow to be a capable individual.

@rtidball5650 Месяц назад

A small thing that I did with all three of my kids that worked Was I would sit out in the car at the gas station and I would have them go in alone and I could see through the glass and they would buy what they wanted they are 18 and 16 years old now and just like you’re saying they order for their friends talk to strangers they do all the talking and buying because they’re the only ones that are independent.. so just a small thing to try!!!

@peidan86 Месяц назад

‘My city doesn’t let me move on’. Wow. Now it’s the city’s fault. People in their 20s these days will find anything to blame for their problem. Instead of taking any personal responsibility.

@lauriefarmer2821 Месяц назад

You're awesome Nick. Good point about gentle parenting. The world does not work that way.

@tarenmiller4178 Месяц назад

Love Justin on the podcast, his personality is so likeable! And also, Filipino represent! Justin I’m sorry you didn’t have a better experience with mussels, they can actually be sooo delicious if they’re cooked properly and are in a nice sauce. I like their texture way better than oysters.

@swtdi40 Месяц назад

I think everything kid is different. However, in my 52 years i have never met a 5 year old that can do laundry. I am sick of participation trophies. We are teach children to be weak. We need to teach then to be strong and self confident.

@kellyLynn0215 Месяц назад

And some children have weak bladder control which is normal.

@mirandapewitt2293 Месяц назад

Yeah not loving the long rants about topics you’ve never looked into and have no experience or education in😅 I’ve been a nanny for those who gentle parent - no one is framing a wall!! It’s about teaching your kid as they make mistakes. Kids are a blank slate and learn about the world through us. It’s literally your job as a parent to teach them - otherwise, they may learn the wrong lessons based on how you handle punishments. Do you want your child to think “I can’t get caught drawing on the wall cause I get hit and screamed at when I do” or “when I want to draw, I draw on paper. If I draw on the wall, I get my colors taken away and we have to clean the wall instead of playing together” Which one makes more logical sense? Gentle parenting is about teaching your child boundaries and consequences that correlate rather than causing shame. They will grow up to be way more confident and emotionally regulated as an adult if you make their childhood about learning.

@Infinitewake Месяц назад

Nick’s hat reminds me of Russell from UP

@swtdi40 Месяц назад

I think surrogacy is an amazing gift! You are an amazing friend and have an amazing hisband

@rtidball5650 Месяц назад

Only know one person that does gentle parenting and it’s like the only kid that I know that doesn’t listen Whatsoever is almost 11 years old also.. doesn’t respect elders like just ignores you fully.. if she pushes or hits someone steals toys from someone her parent just says we should try and respect their body.

@karlabc9251 Месяц назад

All kids are different, all kids learn different. I agree with the girl here on everything she has ‘tried’ to say. You have to try a mix of all the parenting styles and you never know until you are in the situation.

@punk.rock.hippie Месяц назад

To the person with the question about the book crush- the last part of your question you said “how do I get him to understand that it’s just a book” How about you be the one to try and understand HIM. Your position is now defensive and you think his feelings are silly. Find out why HE is uncomfortable with the topic instead of trying to prove HIM WRONG. It bothers him, validate it and try to understand.

@andreegodbout868 Месяц назад

JC Chasez

@Free420Love Месяц назад

Did Leia tell us when she is due?

@amygreene9470 Месяц назад

The helicopter parent, aka this generation of kids - so real! 😆 I’m a mom of teenagers and one of my mom friends (proudly!!) went to not one but two, of her son’s employers when he got fired and demanded to know “why? I disagree with your decisions!” and wanted to speak with THEIR boss. *yikes*

@jcarter0620 Месяц назад

Gentle Parenting: “Oh My” 😂 Nick- it’s obvious you and I are the same age. Negotiate with my kids? No. Fucking. Way.

@nancypaopal3 Месяц назад

No no no gentle parenting is redirecting the action they are doing , example if they are throwing toys you aren’t saying no to the action but you’re giving them a ball jnsteqd to throw where there actions make sense. In that way, you’re not scolding them for throwing a toy, you’re showing them what toys are meant to be thrown

@karenthorne2724 Месяц назад

My daughter is almost 4 years old, and i do think she's a genius and she was holding her own bottle at 4 months, so you may not be wrong Nick lol

@sassysandra245 Месяц назад

Just because your baby holds their bottle at 4 months doesn’t make them a genius.. ever thought that your baby realized if it wanted to be fed he/ she figured out that was the only way?? Just saying … needs are the quickest way to invention. Do you have any other testing to back that up? Other than the bottle holding? Lol almost every parent thinks their kids is the most beautiful and the smartest but until they have actually been tested you really have no idea and the mom next door feels the same way and so on lol also a genius at 4 yrs old your late to the game dear. Now your already holding her back so do you really believe that or is it just cause it’s your child and your first child to top it off? Just saying cuz that can go for every child as they all learn at different paces yet all end up in the average category or a little above or below in the end. And… your name is Karen… so. lol I’m totally just giving you crap to make you laugh 😂

@karenthorne2724 Месяц назад

@@sassysandra245 lol I was just trying to entertain Nick since he thinks everything he touches turns to gold. To be honest, my daughter has definitely been above average for her age when it comes to her peers since she was born which is why I say this, but I agree kids learn at different paces. Genius is a strong word, but she's definitely a smarty pants lol.

@trlyng1 Месяц назад

@@karenthorne2724Don’t most parents think their kids are advanced? 😂😂😂

@cindicleee Месяц назад

❤❤❤❤

@LisaThames17 Месяц назад

Why are there terrible talks about NJ having an affair after engagement.. ya ll should have open discussion before socials do their drama damage.. you guys teach by living out Loud in public. Clearly you’re good… share

@claudiapawlak6894 Месяц назад

Restaurant food is like I could a made this at home . The food that is a chore to cook, should be served in restaurants . When children's attention span is so into reading & toys etc. Playing with toys on the floor for hours . Mom put coloring books on the table . The evil people & good people in this World are separate . Just to get there way in Life is not a grown up educated reason . Keep in touch is out of the question . When you are in a relationship thinking on the same track . The couples who can or cannot have children is devastating . God gives babies to young people, but when a girl cannot concieve, excuse yourself . Maybe he will find that girl to carry a pregnancy . Some girls are raised in candy land ! When it comes to motherhood , give up luxuries . A boy looks for a family & children . Gods plan is played out till the end!

@nasteexohqalinle186 Месяц назад

Go educate yourself about how gentle parenting works it will you a lot stop talking. Over people

@littlebrowngal6759 Месяц назад

The first caller’s MIL sounds like someone who voted for the people who are currently attacking safe access to abortion, contraceptives, IVF, etc.

@arbalc Месяц назад

😊

@seven92023 Месяц назад

Women in general, especially single moms, don't understand the reality of the dating market. And very often they don't hear advice that really breaks it down for them.

@Urmomlovesyoutube Месяц назад

Does looking for single dads help? Clearly these men who aren’t dads are the issue