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Welcome back to another episode of The Viall Files: Ask Nick Edition! We start off the episode with a written Ask Nick. Then we get to our callers…
Our first caller feels like she’s moving too fast in her relationship. Our second caller’s mother thinks she tried to manipulate her, but now wants to reconnect. And, our third caller’s wedding officiant RSVP'd no… and it's her cousin.
“Do you really want her at your wedding, or no?”
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@dholmesnc 25 дней назад

The total cost is $1500 (not $750) plus. The selfish one is the bride planning a destination wedding EXPECTING “guests” to offset the cost & not respecting her cousin’s budget is selfish. Cousin communicated her budget & somehow she’s the bad guy?

@jillianphoenix3270 25 дней назад

I feel like I’m in crazy town listening to the last caller lol. Spending $1500+ to attend someone’s wedding is A LOT of money for some of us. And if the cousin says she can’t afford it, it’s no one else’s business to speculate if she’s telling the truth or not. Wild lol

@theBoringL 24 дня назад

I saw both sides of it. but I was baffled when Nick said-we understood a destination wedding wasn't feasible for everybody, we didn't take it personally, we moved on, understanding some people wouldn't be there. BUT WE ALSO TOOK MENTAL NOTES ON WHO WAS AND WASN'T THERE. .... ?????

@elizabethblaney8960 24 дня назад

@@theBoringLyeah. That made me pause for a moment...😮

@RussellandBriannaMueller 24 дня назад

Totally agree. That’s ridiculous.

@nafafonafafofo 25 дней назад

Nick is coming off very privileged this episode. I don’t know who’s spending 750 for 3 pairs of jeans, but it’s definitely not me.

@arianagonzalez3058 24 дня назад

Am I the only one who thinks $1500 is a lot to spend on another person’s wedding? I know it’s nothing for Nick, but for us normal people, it’s a lot of extra money. If her cousin’s fiancé has the financial means to pay for her ring, it doesn’t mean they share finances. They also have their own wedding coming up and weddings aren’t cheap. For a person who preaches about boundaries , I don’t feel like you’re seeing the cousin’s boundary of spending no more than $750

@brightsidegirl 21 день назад

It's outrageous and these weddings are outta control. I spent so much money on being in weddings when I was younger and I honestly regret most of them or not setting boundaries because I'm not even friends with these people now. I spent $350 on a bridesmaid dress when I was 22 and barely making that a paycheck. I had no business doing that but at the time you just do whatever the bride wants. Definitely learned better.

@user-bf4eu2cx9z 25 дней назад

You claim the $750 isn't a lot of money, so why can't the bride just pay it if it's just pocket change. Y'all are out of touch with the average person. People are so narcissistic when it comes to their wedding. Gee whiz

@Ryanh1010 25 дней назад

Yall need to learn math. For the last caller it wasnt spending $750, it was spending $1500. She has her own wedding to plan. She also didnt buy her own ring. Is it her fault if her fiance spent more than they wanted? Why is it selfish for someone to splurge on themselves. Yall chose to do the destination wedding. The caller acting like she was some savior by saying oh i told them i dont need a bachelorette party 😂😂😂😂

@sab72794 25 дней назад

The take on the last caller is so shocking to me…I don’t think she should be paying for her cousin to come to her wedding but I also don’t think it’s a crime for her to not want to spend over $1000 to go to a destination wedding that she’s essentially being asked to work when she’s engaged and probably budgeting for her own wedding

@kristinaleefarmer1317 25 дней назад

Yes! This comment. Nailed it.

@laurab5849 25 дней назад

And often people get paid to officiate or they consider it their gift to the couple because it costs $ to become licensed or whatever the process is.

@erikao3982 25 дней назад

Nick was a bit out of touch today. First telling the first caller to just not sell her house and to just buy a new mattress instead of moving her old one, then acting like $750 (extra) isn’t a lot to spend for a wedding. Doesn’t make me feel great to listen to

@sadiegoodwin2830 24 дня назад

Out of touch is the perfect descriptor for him in this episode

@catherineritch6241 22 дня назад

And I believe the caller with the mentally challenged mother honestly, she should go speak to a psychiatrist she could end up killing somebody one day this is so so so serious.😢

@Badnewsfeminist 20 дней назад

I actually think it was fantastic advice to not sell her house to live with a guy she’s dated for four months, that’s really sound financial advice

@catherineritch6241 20 дней назад

@@Badnewsfeminist exactly like Nick said, it’s not even her husband. I totally agree with that.

@melanierogers950 25 дней назад

You are so out of line talking about the $750. It's no one's business on what cousin spends her money on. Destination weddings, especially to another country, is just obnoxious. Elope and have a party when you get back. But don't try and tell me how I should spend my money. Bad call Nick.

@user-pm1td9vw8x 25 дней назад

Wow a little harsh on the last person’s cousin? It’s not $750, it’s $750 extra what she was already planning on spending. Double her budget, and is a lot of money for a lot of people. Not to mention she probably didn’t buy her own engagement ring and it’s likely she and her partner don’t share money…it’s not a good idea to assume we know people’s financial situations. She is also planning her own wedding and could be bummed about taking a forced vacation without her partner while having to do work. I get it I just had a destination wedding but I promise you will be happier if you don’t let this upset you. Take her at her word and either give her the money or don’t. It’s important to remember that while your wedding is the center of your world while you’re planning it, it isn’t the most important thing to others even if they are super happy for you.

@catherineritch6241 22 дня назад

Exactly when we got married, WE had to PAY the officiator . It doesn’t matter if it’s your cousin or not they need to be paid. She is asking the officiator to pay her. I would have paid my cousin ALL the expenses and for her to say that her cousin was flaunting money maybe she did it on purpose?😊

@Brandimom 25 дней назад

Nick we get it $750 is Pennys to you. $750 in this economy is a lot to us normal people with 9-5 jobs to spend to travel to someone ELSES wedding! Sorry but I couldn’t swing it either. That $750 can be spent on my own expenses. Esp since the cousin has her own wedding coming up.

@elizabethblaney8960 25 дней назад

I get what you're trying to say, Nick, but honestly, $750 is a sizeable amount of money for a lot of people.

@laurab5849 25 дней назад

Thank you, tell me you’re privileged without telling me you’re privileged lol

@melanierogers950 25 дней назад

@@laurab5849$750 to him is like $75. To some it could be a house payment. IMO- destination weddings are ridiculous. Just elope and have a party when you get back. Sounds bridezilla to me.

@laurab5849 25 дней назад

@@melanierogers950yeah I’m never that excited about going to weddings like some people are. Would you rather someone go to the wedding and be a shitty friend or be someone who always shows up in your life but can’t afford the wedding…

@laurab5849 25 дней назад

@@melanierogers950he makes It seem like if the cousin doesn’t go then she truly is selfish and doesn’t care about the caller. That’s simply not true and so ridiculous to hear. Also when you’re 40 it’s like who cares about these things.

@nathaliemurillo-flores7731 25 дней назад

He said so many times that depending on her finances it might be more money to her… so I don’t agree with that.

@AK-jd7td 25 дней назад

The 1st caller should not sell her house. Why can’t he move in with her and he rent his house?

@shelbysailer8730 24 дня назад

I’m an avid listener but the $750 comments are crazy, no average person is spending that on shoes or jewelry. There’s been some bad takes recently wow

@risarisa-bx2rf 22 дня назад

I wonder how much the officiant at the resort costs! 🤔

@melanierogers950 25 дней назад

Aren't the bride and groom responsible for officiate flight and travel on destination wedding?

@risarisa-bx2rf 22 дня назад

Exactly! She should pay for her!

@laurab5849 25 дней назад

A a little hypocritical Nick to talk about how boundaries are so important, yet the boundary of the cousin not wanting to spend an extra $750 is apparently “selfish”

@hannahadams1207 24 дня назад

Nick seems a little out of touch with caller 1. Nick is married to a girl who gave up all her independence to be with him, so he thinks that’s normal. Most women are terrified to give up their independence for a man these days & having property is one of the most powerful ways to have independence. But according to Nick, she should just sell it/rent out and get over it

@peidan86 23 дня назад

Nick in the last call after talking in circles for 30 min repeating himself and the caller repeating herself: ‘You have 2 choices - you can do something or you can do nothing’ Wow. Bravo Nick. Way to state the obvious. 🤦🏻‍♀️

@lilycoleman9129 22 дня назад

I often agree with and appreciates the takes and advice given, but universally when Nick mentions money he is out of touch and shockingly so.

@sharlabullard1198 24 дня назад

If I had a sister-cousin who is getting married, why am I not MOH or at least a bridesmaid? It’s not about the pasta! Her feelings are hurt. Am I the only one who feels this about the last caller???? Maybe I’m projecting 🤷🏼‍♀️

@michelleriggs2571 24 дня назад

I had this thought! Also $1500 is just to get there.. not food, activities, outfit, activities... it's probably more like $2000.

@allysonreilly 18 дней назад

It doesn’t matter what her perception of her cousin’s financial situation is. Bottom line is if you have a destination wedding, you must be prepared for people not to be able to come, no matter who it is. If she wants her there, she can pay for it.

@kellyLynn0215 25 дней назад

I wonder if her brother helps the grandparents more? Maybe visits them regularly and she doesn’t? Some grandchildren rarely want to spend time with grandparents. Just playing devils advocate. If not then it’s not fair- she should have a conversation

@biancaopala99 23 дня назад

Im sorry even 750 is a lot to spend on someone's wedding and I'm guessing that doesn't include gift? At the end of the day it's someone else's wedding with their friends and family...not a vacation they would normally spend money on. She can do what she wants with her earned money and has her own wedding to pay for too. I feel if it's that important for the cousin to be at the wedding the caller should help supplement the difference. But I'm sure the caller partly wants to feel reassured by her cousin that she matters and it's strictly a money thing

@melissathompson5011 17 дней назад

Just because someone does not talk about money struggles does not mean they don't have them. To say it is not life changing money is bold as that could be all they have in their account and needs to go to other bills/expenses not blow on a trip/wedding.

@ryleemeyer3170 25 дней назад

Can you fix the rug in the studio please and thanks

@Brandimom 25 дней назад

😂😂😂 for real!!!

@maimayme 20 дней назад

Not American but I looked up the median incomes weekly is $1,136 in the US and 50% of millennials had 0-$10,000 saved. So i imagine $1.5k would be about maybe 15% of her savings if she was the average American with 10k saved not including having to also spend for her own wedding. The average American wedding is $35,000. It's bit harsh for Nick to keep say she would spend frivolously on clothes for $750.

@loveeeyari2582 24 дня назад

The last caller … IT’S SIMPLE if she wanted to she would

@caseyclayton7084 25 дней назад

Oh no your grandparents didn’t buy you a car? What? Have you asked your brother what’s working so well for him?

@Rcward89 25 дней назад

Will yall please fix the big wrinkles in the rugs in front of the desk and where Nick sits. It sets off my OCD every episodes lol.. it will make it look less sloppy!

@4inlovewithmusic 25 дней назад

Wow! the 1st caller received really bad advice. renting out a house is not an easy task. I appreciate the sentiment Nick was trying to make but he clearly doesn’t live in reality

@laurab5849 25 дней назад

But selling a house is so much more work (up front) and in this market if it doesn’t work out and she has to buy another house she will get a way worse deal for sure.

@ajleiva5359 25 дней назад

She doesn't HAVE to rent it out, selling is an option just like renting or have it sit and gain equity. All options. I think you can hire a company to rent out your property and not have to deal with it

@mrsjessicasmith 25 дней назад

@@ajleiva5359 or Airbnb. Many people have companies that handle that for them as well and if she ever needs to move back into it she wouldn't have to worry about a long term renter in it.

@4inlovewithmusic 25 дней назад

@@ajleiva5359 lol but that costs money to do that! That’s the whole point I’m trying to make. Nick is making it sound like she has all this money and financial freedom. It was just horrible advice

@ajleiva5359 25 дней назад

@@4inlovewithmusicit may be an issue for you, but She said money ISN'T an issue for her. Putting multiple options out there isn't horrible advice, that's just how you're taking it. Sorry for ya!! 😂

@cindicleee 25 дней назад

🩷🩷

@helenesan1836 25 дней назад

Nick,you are such a inspiration. You always give such reasonable and super caring suggestions for everyone who calls you with their concerns ,or people who need some empathy coming from a kind hearted person. For not being a trained counselor ,you give some amazing positive ,and special advise from your heart ,you really really want to make a world of difference in the lives of others,and I am so super sure that you do. i always learn difference ways to go about so many things in this crazy life we live in. Your a keeper for sure!!! I love you and Natalie your a beautiful couple. Sending Blessings to both of you

@krokat218 14 дней назад

is this a bot

@ajleiva5359 25 дней назад

The caller with her mom needs to apologize. You did what you did and you stand by it, but you can say sorry that it hurt her. Sorry that she felt abandoned or alone, that must've sucked. Show her a bit of empathy