Ask TSL: Do LGBTQ+ Relationships Last? 

0:53 - How did you realize that you weren't straight? 4:40 - What makes same-sex relationships succeed/fail? 6:14 - Is there true monogamy in a long-term gay relationship? 7:07 - Favorite LGBT films? 8:07 - How was it like being gay at school? 9:30 - How did you come out to your family and friends?

Love how TSL is unafraid of creating content that’s inclusive of the LGTBQ community! Thanks TSL for spreading love and light, and thank you Huy, Mars & Jes for opening up ✨

i'm very blessed that my mum raised me teaching me that being gay is normal and that when i told her i liked girls she was just like "oh yeah so what you're still my daughter" and that makes me wonder why other people can't accept it since my mum was raised similarly to all the homophobic people out there.

Cheers to the 3 of them who came out and share their experiences! It takes a lot a lot a lot of courage to do so!! Kudos to you 3!:)

I'm straight but it's nice and brave of you guys to come out and talk about lgbtq+ stuff! kudos jia you!

OMG.... The toxic relatives are the worst, the things they said were horrible. Jeslene is so brave to share this part!

No one: TSL: *Making Everyone's Stay-Home A Thousand Times Better!*

Basically Singapore is hard for the older generation to accept.

This is to Jes, I know how you feel. I was called out in a train coz my girlfriend was hugging me coz she was cold.. This Auntie stood up and screamed at me saying I was a disgrace and that this was wrong. I even got kicked out of my church because I love girls too and that I wasnt allowed to be Gods child. I left all that behind. Stopped taking public transport , stop going to church. Its really still quite hard in Singapore..

Being an LGBTQ+ in Singapore is tough :') I wish that my family will support me but that is basically impossible

Sometimes I just wanna hug jes and take her pain away

this is one of the best videos that came out during this whole tough period :’) so so happy for yall

The answer to the title of the video is it depends, just like any other relationships.. Also it is nice to see Singaporeans who are informed about such topics talking about this openly. Thank you for the content!

thank you for opening up & providing insights into what situations lgbtq+ ppl may face,, yall r really brave & heartwarming and hope yall find the loves of ur lives 💓 stay strong ~

So glad to see that Smartlocal encourages diversity (of sexuality, races & gender) within the workplace. Happy Pride Month everyone!

proud to be a part of the lgbtq community and seeing more of these types of topics exposed on youtube for more people to understand & relate...keep it up TSL❤️❤️

Whether a relationship lasts or not, it depends on the two parties involved. It doesn't matter whether it's straight or LGBTQ. Many people think LGBTQ relationships are short-term, but look at your straight friends and acquaintances, I believe many of them also have short-term relationships. On a separate note, there is generally a lack of understanding about LGBTQ in Singapore society, even among the non-homophobic ones. When I came out to my friends, they asked me a lot of questions that made me laugh. They didn't mean anything bad, but it was their lack of familiarity to LGBTQ. Lastly, being LGBTQ in Singapore is like playing a game in the hardest mode. Family and social acceptance aside, there are also issues with housing, hospital, as well as aging.

thank you for this tsl!! it’s nice to see youtubers in singapore talk about the lgbt community :)

OMG jes is hilarious. love how she's so open n willing to talk about it. her story with her mum reminds me of mulan tho. :( huy's story about his mum cutting newspaper is so funny!

It is honestly hard for parents to accept their child's sexuality when it doesn't seem to be the "norm". I would like to share a tweet I saw the other day that says something like "do not give birth if you can't give total acceptance to your child's sexual orientation".

10:36 to 10:57 is the funniest part of this oml HAHAHAA

ahhh i've been waiting FOREVER for this vid

Thanks for sharing guys. Thank you for being brave and true to what we stand for. Hugs 💕

love how this video spreads awareness for the lgbt community :’

That unreleased episode caught me sooo off guard

I think it's quite sad if it is your partner who pressures u to come out to your family and friends, cos he/she would also know how it feels to be in the LGBTQ+ community and how hard it is to come out as well. Some words from relatives/family members can really be the most hurtful words u can hear from anyone.

can I just say,, to all the LGBT+ people in SG and around the world, whether u're closeted or open about it,, stay safe and rmbr u have this trans, pan boi's fullest support! Good luck out thr and rmbr there's always someone who will love u for u and u can choose ur own family no matter what. Happy Pride, my fellow LGBT+ family :D 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍🌈

It's good for three of you to be in TSL, where your colleagues accept you the way you are. And for me, I'd like to send to three of you my appreciation for you being brave & courage to embrace who you truly are, 'cause I believe there are still many of human being are too afraid to embrace things going in life (not specific to LGBTQ+ thing) Greetings from Indonesia 🖐🖐🖐

OMGGGG i loved this video so so much❤️❤️ everything was so funny and cute and i think yall are very strong rootung for all of yall but omg what if ur parents see this? Won't they know officially but yall are very brave 佩服💖💖

Thank you TSL, this really help us in the community to speak as well!! Totally feel Jes!

Very brave for them to share such personal struggles they have faced. Thank you and stay happy always!

I enjoyed this video alot!! 😊😊 It's so brave that you guys are sharing your story with the world,while trying to keep the mood as "educational but entertaining". Huy's "newspaper clipping war" part was legit hilarious, I actually laughed out loud while watching the video😆😆 I rllyrlly respect how mature Jes's opinions on compromise are, bc Jes has clearly gone through her share of disagreements about her sexuality, and she's come out stronger because of it. You guys are the best, keep up the good work TSL!! 😊😊💕💕

this vid is amazing no cap lmaoo my best friend came out to me as part of the LGBTQ+ community and becos I am straight and my parents don't really talk abt this kind of stuff I prob like learned something from this that can make me understand abt this community better haha

I think it's really brave and inspirational of them to open up about it online. I think that it's really tough for some people to open up about themselves especially about something quite personal like LGBTQ. I really look up to them.

The last bit was a great advice esp for young people 👍❤ it's good to acknowledge your own feelings but one also need to understand and respect for others

happy pride month!! regardless of whether you're part this community or an ally, Singapore needs more of us :-)

Really appreciate you guys making this video. It was unexpected but very much appreciated! I hope conversations about LGBTQ+ topics don't just end here, and that this helps people with being more acceptive down the road!! 🎉🌈 🎉

“ you are a disgrace to a family “ WHATTT

Thank you for making this video, TSL. It's lovely to know that you'll always have our backs

Love you guys.... Thanks for sharing.... I myself is a gay person but really cannot come out because of a very homophobic family and friends... Its just nice to see that people starting to coming out...

i had to drop everything to watch this 😌

thank you TSL for this episode

Great video! Thanks for giving voice and space to a marginalised and minority community in Sg, TSL!

Sending lotsa love over to u guys! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

It takes two hands to clap one hand to slap

hi Jes, I am so sorry to hear what you have been through, but I hope you have all the love in the world in time to come. same goes for Huy and Mars, and everyone else too. ❤️

YAYYYY THANK YOU TSLLLLLLL

Totally felt their every spoken word. The youth of today honestly do have it easier as times are changes and people are evolving. Not so cute back a decade ago or more.

My cousin gonna luv dis cuz it spreads awareness for ppl from the LGBT community

Thank you for sharing your stories!!! Omg Jes thanks for sharing such a personal experience with us, I think it really helps the LGBTQ community!!! Thanks all and I believe that this video will provide comfort and advice for those who are out there!!!

I wanna watch the video about Jes meeting with her ex 🥺🥺 I hope she comfortable sharing!! ANYWAYS 🏳️‍🌈

I'm glad that they are so open with the LGBT community and coming out on RU-vid where so many people could see,I'm still questioning my sexuality but I feel better knowing that there are LGBT people that are in the same country as me as there are many conservative people

This is excellent. Congratulations to everyone involved.

I am ever so grateful that the day I came out to my parents, their reaction was literally just "we guessed that when you were a toddler, we've expected it".

Thank you for creating such content despite it not being easy

Finally Tsl uploaded again ! =D

Captain Raymond Holt and Detective Rosa Diaz approve of this video

The first time I found out I wasn’t straight was watching Lucy Liu on Charlie’s Angel as a kid and I was awakened

Thanks TSL for being inclusive of the LGTBQ+ community 💕 Oh and I have the biggest crush on Jes hahaha i love her personality so much 🥺

Nice... it’s the first LGBT vlog I’ve seen made by Singaporeans. It answered a lot of my own questions. Thank you TSL.

Really nice video to let more Singaporeans know about the LGBTQ community. It is tough to be gay in SG. Can u imagine your colleagues, relatives always asking u about marriage!?!?

I'm like 13 and know I'm bi, have a few friends that are bi/pan but non of us will ever imagine coming out to our parents 💔 too scary

Omg, i really feel hurts and sad at the same times when huy said "yeah people tend us to change to normal, but we can't, it hurts us" I feel that's too. It's remind me, one of my friend that's really into her religion (call her AB), and i happened to came out and when that's time happen she's there lah and just told me something like this "if i were you, i would change it no matters how it's hards, cuz it's not right" she always likes put herself as me. And that sentence really make me thinks hard and make me stressed, i feels like yeah it's true, how can i change it, i need to change this, and it's really make me fighting with my own mind and soul. But luckily i have one friend that's really supportive to me she always accept me as a person no matter what my sex-orient (call her SA). I told SA about what AB told to me, in here i really desperate and really stressed. And SA told me "if you feel wrongs you can change it, but if don't feel it wrongs just follow your heart, and accept yourself don't deny yourself" in here i feels like more relieved i feel not being judged not being a wrong person. I just feels, yeah it's me, i just happened to likes my friend and it's just happened that person was a guy. And yeah that's it. And SA really make me realize i just need to accept myself. By the way i prefer myself as pansaxual, but i think i more interested to a guy. and I'm from Indo.

some of the qns are rlly stupid ngl but whew yall are brave for this video, happy pride

Huy is the cutest thing ever

Call me by your name, fav film

YES we love to see it

Hold up.. Huy dated a girl at 14, dated his first boyfriend 4 years later, and had his 2nd ex hug him at age 17 :O?

wa props to the editor!!!

I love this episode so much just the inclusion made me tear up from HAPPINESS

it is true that you should consider coming out to your family members when you are financially stable. i remember when i was outed by a family friend when i was 3 months shy to ord from my ns. i was planning to further my studies @ a local arts school. but my dad refused to finance me because he was way too distraught when he found out about my sexuality. i ended up working in retail for a few years to put myself through school myself because of it.

i need more HUY

Hands down to The Handmaiden!!!!! Strong cast members!! (Kdrama fans will know what I meant ☺️

Very brave! Proud of you all

jesslyn, if you feel like the family is toxic and bad, have you tried moving out? it will probably start out difficult at least mentally you’re safe?

gosh, i actually started crying listening to Je(? sorry, didn't catch the spelling) talk about her relationship with her mum.

stay strong jes! x

Thank you 😊

Jiayou Jes! 💪🏽

7:11 Same gurl same ;-;

i kinda like the rainbow heart shaped decor at the background

Personally, I think same-sex relationships have a better chance of succeeding if both parties are out of the closet and comfortable with their sexuality

i’m a girl and i can’t decide i want mars or jes. both are freaking gorgeous in their own ways

Watching this vid make me think bout my fav couple who is gay and my friend who is lesbian. I fully support LGBTQ.🥰🥰🥰🥰

Of course there are successful gay relationships. I know men have a very strong sexual drive which make monogamy a bit more difficult but if it's more important to you not to hurt the one you love than to satisfy a fleeting desire then you can remain monogamous. I have been in a monogamous relationship with my partner for almost 28 years. Both of my parents and my 5 siblings accepted him as a member of the family. In fact we have plans today to have lunch with one of my sisters who lives closest to us.

I would not recommend Blue is the Warmest Colour because of the history and controversy of the production, and the target audience the producer(?) has when they make the film.

Yiayou guys!

Early!! :)

Such a fun episode

omg jes is so cuteeee i really want to know the list, how do I get more of those titles uh? hahhaa

We are all created differently to make the world a more colourful and interesting place. Imagine if everyone is the same, we'll be no different from cookies cut out from a mould. Embrace your own uniqueness. Deep down in every parent's heart, they love their children. Give them some time. Applause to your courage for choosing and leading different live.

Yay

I honestly don’t know what I am I know I have an attraction to girls so I can’t really put a label to myself I don’t think I will and I don’t think I’ll ever tell anyone honestly. I’m kind of the person that never is willing to tell people about my troubles. Haven’t even told my parents that I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety in sec 1 and I’m already in poly year 1. And I mean it’s hard to not say but it’s easier for me ? Maybe not easy per say but I don’t like having to face something that can be avoided. I don’t think I’ll ever date a girl but I have had about 2 crushes and they’ve both been girls. Maybe it’s cause I’ve been in a girls school for 10 years. Maybe it really is a phase I have no idea. My parents aren’t the homophobic kind either and my friends are open to all kind of sexualities because our school had quite a handful of lesbians and girls who had different sexualities. I wish one day I myself can say something but I really honestly think I won’t ever. But kudos to everyone who had enough guts to come out and speak up about matters like this. I’m kind of sorry I never will be able to.

Yesss more representation!!

List of lgbt films! Call me by your name Portrait of a lady on fire The miseducation of Cameron post Booksmart Below her mouth The half of it The favourite Carol Moonlight *don’t watch blue is the warmest colour because the cast was abused in the making*

Love Wins 🌈

I LOVE THIS VIDEO

Jes, you need to watch more lgbtq+ films

OMG CRASH LANDING ON YOU THOOO

first:) edit: huy is so funny ohmygod. also support lgbtq+ community wOhoOo !!