I'm a guy but I feel like im about to learn a lot. I have sisters, and I've always been appreciative of that because I think it taught me a lot about how to treat others. But I never broke the boundaries to talk about serious and tabboo things like this with them, so I think it'll be interesting hearing from you Fleur!
I really really admire and appreciate the way you’re so open with talking about “taboo” topics that get everyone so heated for no reason, and about sharing your own experiences and thoughts on them. I’ve only gotten 15 minutes into this but I can already tell I’m going to relate to and agree with everything you say so profoundly. I just want you know that I’m proud of you and I’m really glad you exist :) thank you for creating such a safe place for us to be in. sending you so much love
This video made my day, Fleur. Despite being a guy I've always loved having this kind of open and vulnerable conversation with my female friends. I've always felt a bit neglected by my male friends tho cause they're not willing to talk about these subjects, which makes this video feel like a real hug and a pat on the back. I do think that women and men can learn a lot with each other, if they're willing to share and that patriarchy fuck us all, although in a different way. Thank you again for the lovely video, Fleur!
Btw, it's funny how I can relate to your life. Like you I'm a 24 y.o who has never dated and that has been a coach for friends as far as I can remember. I'll be forever using your saying "coaches don't play" from now on lol
Sex is truly profound when there’s genuine emotions, feelings, and intentions involved. That’s my problem with hook up culture. One night stands are boring compared to having sex with a woman you’re in love with or have feelings for .
LOVED this video!!! Love the way you're able to talk about these kinds of topics so casually but also respectfully! Really inspires me and makes me feel comfortable in my own skin
Thank you Fleur for this honest and empowering talk🙏🏻💕I feel like stepping into womanhood confidently requires a supportive peer group, as well as the security from home to be free to explore and make mistakes, not constantly being in survival mode but being able to let creative soft energy flow. Didn't really have that all and I'm struggling calling myself a woman, even though I'm 23 I feel like I missed so many things teenagers do and it's too late to get into teen friend groups😅 anyone with a similar experience?
Yes, I definitely understand what you're saying. I'm also 23 (Edit: 24 now) and never went through things that the average teenager would so I'm like "Hmm, I guess I'm just an adult now, without teenager experiences"...
Ahh, yes!! I’m so glad you talked about compliments!!! It’s such a small and free thing you can do that could mean the world to someone else!! ♥️ You never know what someone else is going through, how they lived their life, etc. Seeing someone’s smile or talking about something- having that small human connection is worth more than anything. 💕
I appreciate that we have young girls with logical thinking!❤️ great video as always! Thank you for your hard work, I loved every detail in this video, we don’t have autumn season in our country but I just felt that by looking at the colors of the video🧡
Fleur I have been looking forward to this video since you posted you would do it! Thank you for answering my question!! Love the advice to approach crushes with ease and focus on seeing if you like them, rather than worrying if they like you. LOL for context, this guy is at the gym and I worry about future gym encounters being awkward, and being anxious about going to the gym in the future. ❤ you are our internet sister, I have loved getting to know you through these calm and cozy, open videos 😍
fleur thank you for this lovely, educative and at the same time also relaxing video. really admire how you express your thoughts. i feel very inspired to be more aware of things you spoke about. sending luv. 💟
i watched this video while doing my chores like a podcast and it was sooo interesting and nice to listen to! I especially like your thoughts on feminism staff, and in general AH I LOVE ✨️GIRL TALK✨️ feels like safe place ♡ thank you so much for sharing your opinions and experience! I'm really happy that I found your channel ♡
I think this is a really beautiful conversation and it is good that as a society we are becoming more accepting of new ideas and ways of being but I think its important that someone also points out that there is absolutely nothing wrong with traditional values. There is nothing wrong with a man who WANTS to provide for and support a family, there is nothing wrong with a woman who WANTS to be a homemaker and raise children. No one should be forced to do these things and we should all be able to choose what we want for ourselves but many, many people feel happy and comfortable in those roles and we need to be very careful that we do not push liberal values on to people who do not want them. Just as people who fall outside traditional gender norms or don't conform to other societal norms do not want conservative values pushed on them.
Personally, I really just enjoyed sitting back and relaxing while listening to your views on social and personal topics. I personally didn't completely agree with everything you said but no one completely agrees with everyone. Everyone has different life experiences that shapes our worldviews, and thats ok. I commend you for making this video and trying to make the world a better place through your channel and your honesty. You are very positive and uplifting and I enjoy people like that. I really liked your take on compliments. It is something that has been on my mind recently and I have been trying to implement it more into my life. I think if we threw around compliments like we do thoughtless tweets, the world would be multitudes better than it is. Thank you for this video and I hope life allows you to keep creating and allows you to keep being a positive force on the world.
Thank you so much for your comment and kind words. They mean a lot to me. Like you said, no one can completely agree with everyone! It’s hard to talk in front of a camera one-way like this because I’d have loved to hear your thoughts too! It’s how we learn :). Sending lots of love 💓
I really appreciate this typ of content. I'm only 15. But this make me feel a bit more hopeful about the future. I have my whole life hade a hard time keeping friends because I have a bad habit of blocking my own emotions out. Now I start thinking about getting terapi. I really love your videos and you're a safe space for me. ❤
I'm a guy so I'll head out now to respect the girls' space, (wish guys did things like this, yk? real talk about real things) hope y'all have fun! just wanted to comment for the channel support 😊 also Fleurrrrr, I LOVE the hair! 👑✨
@@mangos3943 well actually I watched the video now after Fleur invited me to. I just respect when women want safe women's spaces to talk about things amongst other women, y'know? the video was for girls, that's not my place to enter unless I'm invited. it was very educational and nice and I enjoyed listening. I'm also a transgender man, so as a child I grew up with some of the girls things. I also still get my period too- so I can relate to that struggle (and then some with dyphoria). although not for long, hopefully; access to trans healthcare is a bit hard to come by. but you're very right, it's good for men to get educated and talking about these things too :) 💙
This is great, but I definitely need to actively listen, I’ll try to do it in chunks of more than 10min so I don’t mess with you analytics 😅 but I can’t work and listen at the same time 😇 I’ll save the video for chores haha
I absolutely love how you talk about these things, and your opninions on them. And I'd absolutely love if you did a girltalk livestream like that! I totally would like to ask you about stuff also
Girl Dinner 🍴😊 Loved the video Fleur. I'm a cishetero male, so not the primary audience of this video, but it's vital to understand others' point of view on these important topics.
weirdly enough i had younger friend told me she thought was pregnant (she wasn't) and only told me, no one else it did catch me off guard tho and also two older friends,one a young parent and the other dealing with her job and private life.😅 experiencing this made me appreciate women way more. thanks Fleur love you! ❤
I agree sm on the hookup culture, I mean me personally (I’ve never had a one night stand) but if say I’m going to do it, it has to be someone I can emotionally connect. Not just seen my body and take off, so I find it very mature of someone who can communicate.
I’m only 3 mins in, but I just want to say.. I love getting to know you through your Q&A vids. Your perspective & growing sense of the world, & yourself in the world, gives me life. Who you are inspires me to find time, within myself, to reflect, and sincerely find gratitude for my life and where I am. You are remarkable and it’s very clear and loud in your content (pun intended😋). May love continues to carve your path 🩷
You could literally make an entire video on the porn subject because it’s such an important one && like u said it’s literally an adjustment for both man and woman! And I also feel like a lot of men have been struggling with consuming too much porn recently and it’s been affecting their real life sex experiences
I ABSOLUTELY LOVE how your responses to the questions are blunt and hardcore as FUCK! 🥰🤗💖 I'm lying in bed working on the apps on My phone while I'm dead tired, going to bed soon, while listening to you. 😁👍🏻 I like how frank you are with the discussion of technical terms for sex and body parts. Unless you're a doctor online, nobody talks like that. 🤔😁👍🏻
Working in a problem-area-gym with lots of misogynistic males is peak patriarchy let me tell you. Hearing those gym buddies talk about how they are the strong provider of the family while I'm out there carrying the 45kg dumbbells they left in the other room with no offer of help always makes me so angry. When I show my upper body they look disgusted by my muscles but when I wear short pants they stare at my butt. When there are creepy clients they watch me struggle with them but only afterwards they say if I'm uncomfortable I can ask for help. My colleagues call me vegetable because they compare my physique to male athletes, but make sexist jokes. On the one hand I would embrace being in my feminine energy having someone care about me like a gentleman, on the other hand I feel like I can't ask for that because I have to fight for respect. It's so messed up
Tbf its a pretty 50/50 split between people that go the gym just being general narcisists or people actually there to better themselves. Sorry you have to deal with that shit :/
I am a man that goes to the gym and I feel bad that you feel this way in a space that is supposed to be positive and uplifting. If you're open to advice I may have some that is helpful.
@@nanaisloved2736 First I'll say that I took liberties to watch one of your reels. You look great and personally I have seen way more muscular women in the gym. So, the fact that you're being harassed confuses me a bit. I could say "Just quit your job or quit the gym". True it may solve it, but it may not be practical. My experience has been that, when I see see a woman come into a gym with super tight shorts, I find myself having to practice way more restraint in where I look because it seems that wherever I look that person is there. Obviously, that because of me subconsciously looking for them. Males are very much visual creatures and so when someone is showing off every curve of their body it takes tremendous amount of restraint on the part of the guy not to look. On the other hand, when I see a women wearing pants, and more so with looser pants, I find that I am able to be more focused on what I do because I know there isn't that eye candy half way across the gym. Yes, guys should have the control to not stare and its creepy and disgusting if they do. My mother used to tell me this, "While one party may be at fault, no party is innocent". But It is your prerogative to wear what you would like. Another thing is starting a home gym. At least where I live, you can find used equipment for relatively cheap, and it does not take a whole lot of equipment to make a home gym. That is, if you have the space. Maybe finding another gym would be an option. Some place that is more uplifting would be worth a farther commute in my opinion. Its never fun to work out while people talk behind your back. Work is complicated and so are the relationships at work. Personally, I would try whatever to distance myself from them. Maybe taking break or lunch at a different time, or just choosing to just bluntly ignore them. I see being called stuck up a far less painful thing than ridicule for how you act and choose to portray yourself. Why seek respect from people who will not give it to you? I hope that some day you will find that gentleman that cares about you as a person and I also hope my advice may have been of some help. Best wishes
Such a good question! Like I mentioned I’m in a very privileged position in my experiences and I can only speak from my experience as a white, cis, european woman of course. I think it will forever remain essential to keep in mind historical, cultural, educational, religious etc etc contexts in mind! Acknowledging and respecting women’s differing experiences and identities is so, so crucial. I saw a quote a while ago that went like “if you see inequality as a ‘them’ problem - that’s the problem” and I think that about sums it up.
Net klaar met deze eerste girl talk, terwijl ik buiten met m'n koptelefoon in het eerste zonnetje van 2024 lig te chillen 😎🎧🥳. ❄️ Ook een beetje letterlijk, want ik heb m'n korte broek aan! 😜 (Het is elk jaar m'n streven om dit van februari tot oktober af te kunnen vinken! ✅🩳😅). Interessante onderwerpen hoor, thanks for sharing, Fleur! 😘 Nu verder met ep2...🏃🏻♀️
speaking of lovers to friends, Me and my ex were together for a while and when we broke up it took me 5 years just to even look at her again. also I love things like this because you learn from so many point of views.
I'm a dude :D. I'm in the middle of two sisters, and we have a pretty good relationship (especially from what I hear of other siblings 😆). I've always thought that people care too much about things. What I mean by that is people get all hot and bothered/offended by things that, in all reality, don't matter! A really basic example of this is swearing. Swears are just words that people have chosen to be offended by, and I don't get that (I will say that slurs are a whole other thing). Any words can be used hatefully, not just swears, and swears can be used lovingly! I could go on and on about this, but I won't :D. Love all of your content, live well!
Curious if as a guy this will teach me anything. I have a sister and my friends have mostly been girls in the past and I think I already learned a lot from how they experience the world. I'm very open so I've talked about taboo kind of things a lot with them. Hopefully I'll still learn about some of either your opinions or the actual definitions :D
got about 30 min through and it like 2am now so i'm going to bed and I'll watch the rest later when i have time. As someone who loves these topics this somehow is calming to me?
Aight so managed to find time to watch another 30 min :D (now its almost 1am again yay) but loving it! Also yeah def I wanna compliment people more cuz i know how much I love it when people compliment literally anything about me. I struggle with saying them tho, no clue why.
I wish porn was much more educational and represented those authentic quirky moments that come along with having real sex. j Cole mentions, in his ‘wet dreams’ song, that most boys go to porn to learn how to have sex … I did and honestly got lucky that it benefited me rather than damaged me . From watching, I learned how to be attentive towards the woman body and how it’s not all about the guy being pleasured and climaxing but the woman as well.. the only problem is, porn isn’t Intentionally teaching people those things, I just got lucky by catching on and then implying… Porn would be great if their intention was to educate rather than painting this false reality
Everyone should get treated equally and with respect no matter what race you are, what religion you have, what ever veiws you have. It should be a standard to treat every single hunan with respect. It aint that hard but thats just how we are as humans and you cant really change that which sucks
So not at all trying for this to come off as rude I’m genuinely curious with feminism and equality what do guys have that women don’t and not liek walking alone at night women can do that with a gun or even just strength training liek some of the most kick ass people ik are female boxers so like with that but what do men have that women don’t and with patriarchy do you not want anyone running or being the head of the family liek my mom is the one that runs it not my dad at all or me she’s the patriarch genuinely curious I love your videos so much there so relaxing love you hope you have a wonderful day keep up the vids love seeing them would love some clarification :):):)
Love love love 🫶🏼 Would have needed this like 10 years ago. But I did okay on my own. Found my now-husband 7 years ago on a dating app! Been living together for 5 years, married for 1 and currently pregnant with our 1st baby. :) Good luck to anyone on the apps! 😄