As someone who had never had penetrative sex, not used tampons, I wish my first PAP smear was like this. I had specifically asked the doctor not to do the test when I booked the appointment and they sprung it on me anyway. Bullied me into it doing the test, made me feel like a baby (and actually called me a baby) for being scared, I cried and then they sent me on my way with no sympathy. Absolutely horrible terrifying experience.
Same, with it being pushed onto me. I did attempt and then started crying on the table as she opened the speculum and then she stopped and pulled out, told me to gather my things and leave. I felt defeated.
I love how you respect your patients choice and then tells them that "it's absolutely fine, don't worry and do the other way around" i just love that and yeaaahhh another superb video just in time... Thank you so much Leanna... Keep up the good work ))))
I LOVE how were so respectful on the topic of “virginity”! As a bisexual girl, people really sometimes misunderstand what being a “virgin” is. Even though I have had sexual intercourse with a woman, some people still see me as a “virgin” because the intercourse I had never was penetrational. So thank you, it does mean a lot! 🥰
@@hawaii3231 typically, typically defined by penetration. but you can also penetrate without a penis. sex doesn’t have to be a man just repeatedly thrusting, there are a lot of different ways
@@hawaii3231 I don’t get why it’s impossible? Having intercourse doesn’t imply that it’s penetrational. What intercourse means for a person depends on beliefs, culture, religion, personal opinions,.. So I really don’t see your point? 😊 (It is true that I’m not a native English speaker, so maybe the word “intercourse” has the connotation of being heterosexual sex. However, I mean intercourse as “having sex”.)
If the opening is extremely narrow, you may experience a little bleeding after the exam My ex gf bleed after this exam, i guess she is no longer virgin This world, i hate it 😢😢😢😢
I’m in my late 20’s and I’m still a virgin and whenever I get a pap, I love that my gynecologist doesn’t make me feel embarrassed and is always like “don’t worry, you do it when you’re ready” and she’ll remind me to always remember protection when I decide to do it because never trust a guy to 😂
You should be extremely proud of yourself for still being a virgin. Sure it’s extremely rare in today’s society, but that’s something worth being proud of. You have morals and values unlike most people. Embrace it! ❤
I'm a lesbian and on the ace spectrum and not sexually active. I had mine and it was painful and really uncomfortable. Best of luck to anyone that has theirs, I think it really just depends on the person and on who is giving you the pap smear. If you are more comfortable with a woman, I would recommend you have a woman do it. A man did my first pap and it was highly uncomfy.
@@karolinawojcik3266 Same here, no offence and i respect the work and time it takes to become an OBGYN but why would a man think to do it 😭 pretty much everyone woman i know prefers a female gynaecologist
@@tauma_the_goat7156 I agree i don’t get why they’d choose to do it, but there are women out there that would prefer men maybe due to trauma caused by another woman :(
@@karolinawojcik3266 they may not advertise the option of having a woman but if you’re scheduling an appointment and request a woman they will give you a woman.
I'm a virgin at 36 and I've never had sex with a guy and my last boyfriend broke up with me because I refused to sleep with him. Oh well! His lose and my gain. That was six years ago and thank you Jesus I was dumped 😂 I wish people wouldn't make fun of people who are virgins or who decide to stay virgins for their own personal sake. I've always been afraid to go to the OBGYN but, after watching these videos it really calms my nerves and now I feel going to my first appointment this mid February want be as bad.
I absolutely love your different ideas for these videos! I have a suggestion for you to maybe consider. It's a definite more serious kind of roleplay and perhaps this is too sensitive of a roleplay for you. But this was a common problem for me personally when it came to OBGYN visits. You can just ignore this, no problem, but I'm just throwing it out there for you! I'm a survivor of childhood abuse by a male relative. As a result, I couldn't handle being "opened" down there because I kept automatically panicking every time I felt my doctor penetrate me in any way; speculum, fingers, etc. It was like a reflex I couldn't stop. One time, I literally started yelling, and the doctors had to calm me down. I felt horrible about it. MANY doctors couldn't help and told me I had to get over it. I eventually found a gynecologist who proved very helpful to me. I first went to her because my period cramps became very near debilitating for me; I knew I couldn't deal with this level of pain every month and was desperate for help. She recommended I get the Mirena IUD for my period problem and I explained my childhood trauma issue to her. She said she could have me put under anesthesia so I would be out for it and, given I was previously unable to get my pap smear done, could have that done for me as well while I was under. I said yes and was VERY grateful. I got the IUD (my extremely painful cramps have disappeared), she got the pap done (my results were healthy), and she said to come to her again to make the process easy for me. To say this was a relief for me... would be an understatement. I was thrilled I found her as my gynecologist and am very happy about it! Maybe you could tackle a roleplay related to this kind of issue? If you don't want to, no problem whatsoever. Totally understand the sensitivity around it. I was just putting it out there for you since, for me personally, this was a HUGE issue for me when it came to seeing the gynecologist and it made things so much harder for me. Especially with doctors who told me to just "get over it". It was a relief to find a doctor who actually was sympathetic to me and offered me real solutions the others didn't.
I am so sorry you went through this as a child and I am also sorry that you had to deal with ignorant, cold-hearted people who made you feel as though what you were experiencing was something you could just get over. Good on you for being so brave and speaking openly about it.
It genuinley shocks me to hear that doctors told you that, I do believe the education you get to become a Doctor isn’t nearly as extensive enough as it needs to be. Having the facts about the body is great it’ll get you half there, but being able to communicate and deal with diffirent types of patients is an extensive part of the job which they dont deal with and I find that crazy when in other Fields of care like in elder care it’s huge.
Wow! I'm so sorry for all the trauma you went through as a child. I don't think people understand what someone else has been through and you shouldn't be such jerks. You can't approach everyone the same.
I absolutely love your videos! I just found you yesterday, and you’ve really calmed my nerves about booking an appointment! Growing up most people around me would say awful things about appointments for this and really scared me throughout the years, but you have totally calmed these fears! Thank you so much for what you do! You’re doing absolutely amazing with ASMR sweetheart! I hope you keep it up! ❤️
Hey, I was wondering if you can do a “giving my little sister the talk” video. I need to give it to my sister soon and seeing your videos would be really helpful.
I love your videos it's very educational and I feel less scared to get one. I just turned 21 and terrified because I'm a virgin and like im scared it's going to hurt. Watching your videos relaxes me.
YOU DON'T NEED IT if you're a virgin. Because basically a pap smear is a pair of forceps going up inside your body, and splitting you open to check for cancer. Please don't do it if you're not sexually active. You're going to end up traumatized and violated. Say NO and step away. Please talk to your mother or grandmother about this topic. Be safe, Pang.
It should not hurt. If it begins to hurt you let them know right away. They have different size speculums for a reason. And if they're disrespectful to you in any way, take your leave. You can find another gynaecologist. In the end, they do not have the right to do anything to you that you do not want done 👍🏼 I hope it goes well for you
Wish I had you as a doctor! I went for a pap smear, virgin. I have pelvic problems, so I can barely get a tampon in, and they literally just took a standard size, shoved it up in there, didn't stop when I said I was uncomfortable, and told me: the pain is normal. Most painful thing I've ever felt. 😭 I never wanna go back!
@@tapel6407 No, it was the fact that my periods have been really irregular since I was 10, and the Doctor's only solution was birth control, which didn't work. They were concerned about cysts and other problems, and to be safe they wanted to do a pap smear and other exams too.
If that was me I would’ve started screaming and make a fool of myself. I hate the pap so much. It’s invasive and in my opinion not necessary unless you have symptoms of cervical cancer or abnormal bleeding.
I wish every OBGYN was like this. I was so scared before my first visit, because of stories I'd heard! Your videos are amazing. It's like finally getting the care I didn't when I needed it. 😘
I'm supposed to go to a follow up appointment with my gynecologist in a few months and the first time I was terrified, this actually helped me get a little more relaxed and at ease with the idea
This is really nice! I am a virgin, which is less common for someone my age. A few years ago, I had a traumatic first pap experience. The doctor I had back then was rude and lied about using the smaller speculum. Her assistant held my legs open as I screamed and cried! I went to see a new doctor a couple of days ago! She was much nicer than my first. Respectful and gentle! This time she tried to use the pediatric speculum with lubricant, and I tried to tolerate it the best I could, but could only get it halfway in. Then my doctor did the blind pap. It still hurt, but not as much as the speculum, and it didn't last long.
The thought of getting a pap smear is just so anxiety inducing. Even after watching this (which was amazing btw) I still broke down and sobbed at the idea of getting it done. As someone who is extremely fearful of anything medical related, I worry I’ll never be able to bring myself to get one. Here in australia the age is 25 (that could be wrong), so I have 6 years to get over this fear 😅🙃
If it’s any consolation it’s really not that bad. I’ve had a few now and I get really scared too and I don’t like anything medical and I have a low pain tolerance 😅 you can do it, it’s very important for your health. I promise it’s not that bad ❤
When I had my first pap, my gyno didn’t even take it out when I was crying in pain, she just kept saying “I know I’m sorry sweetie”. Wish I had the option of no speculum but now I don’t have an issue with it
STOP THE WAY MY HEAD TURNED SO FAST AND I SMILED SO BIG WHEN YOU ASKED OUR PREFERRED PRONOUNS 😭😭 THAT MADE ME SO HAPPY NOT ENOUGH PEOPLE ASK THIS 😭😭 I KNOW IT'S ONLY A VIDEO BUT THIS REALLY HIT ME IN THE FEELS THANK YOU 💜💜 I'm a trans Male and I love these videos but I always get scared for when I have to actually have to do these apoiments as I still have female parts and will without a doubt be treated as a female with she/her pronouns straight away
i’ve never gotten a pap… i’m not old enough yet. but i remember when i was like 14 i had terrible irregular periods that i went to an OBGYN to get checked out. AND OMG. it hurt so bad. they were nice, (not as nice as this, but still very nice) and they wanted to make sure i was comfortable and relaxed. but the speculum was too big and it was making me cry. and they kept telling me to relax and stuff but i couldn’t. she ended up just checking with her fingers to see if she could feel anything after struggling for so long. she said everything was good and that i shouldn’t feel bad. i did. but it hurt so bad that i don’t want to get a pap. she did use two different tools and her fingers but idk it was just so weird. i hated it. but they were so nice about it. and said that i could come back if i still had issues to make sure that nothing was missed.
I have a nurse at my doctor's office who you remind me of!! She's such a gentle, kind, and really sweet person who always makes me feel comfortable and is respectful. I feel relief when I see that she's the nurse during my visit(s) because as an anxious person i know that she will be comforting.
Interestingly enough, my first pap went really easily-- no pain, just awkward... Then my most recent was not very pleasant. I think my gyno had only been gentle with me because I hadn't had it done before. Now it's just like them speedrunning jabbing my cervix 😭
When I got my Pap smear done, it was so uncomfortable 😭😭 I felt violated even tho the doctor and MA were very gentle and were giving me words of encouragement.
Would you consider doing a video focused on how you would respond to a patient who went through serial CSA and is really apprehensive about it? It would be really awesome to see. Your videos help take some of the anxiety away for me. I still have about a year until I need my first pap smear but it's already something I think and worry about. Thank you. :)
This video is so comforting I have my first pap smear next week and I am so nervous about it 😭😭 I am totally a virgin, so I'm really freaking out about feeling pain or discomfort but this was very educational and you're so nice I wish you were doing the pap smear for me 😭
YOU DON'T NEED IT if you're a virgin. Because basically a pap smear is a pair of forceps going up inside your body, and splitting you open to check for cancer. Please don't do it if you're not sexually active. You're going to end up traumatized and violated. Say NO and step away. Please talk to your mother or grandmother about this topic. Be safe, Pang.
@@happystar2058 I went to my appointment, but they told me it wasn't necessary because I've never had intercourse with anyone or in any way. My Dr. said that the reason they check you after you have been sexually active is because HPV virus is a very common std that could causes cancer in the future. Hence why the check for signs of cancer in the cervix. But since I haven't had any sexual contact in any shape or form, I "didn't need one". 🤷♀️
@@azul5502 Yes, that is right. A pap smear should normally not be done on a virgin. But did you do a normal gynecological exam except for that, or was is a GP you met?
I love your videos ! I saw an obgyn for the first time a couple weeks ago and she was so kind and comforting just as I had hoped from watching your videos
I'm 47, and I've had several pap tests since I was 22. I hate the exam itself, because it hurts me when the speculum goes in (and I've never thought to mention it to the doctor). Thanks for telling me not using the speculum is an option. When I had my last one about a two and a half months ago, I was practically screaming through my teeth by the time the doctor was finishing (I've been married for 20 years, so I'm not a virgin). I thought for sure the only way to get me to hold still during that exam was to either knock me out completely or put me under twilight anesthesia.
Where I live (Serbia) we do this pap smear every 6-12 months and I am 23 years old. I was very surprised when you said that it should be done every 3 years, because I did it over 10 times already
Wow that’s crazy, we don’t get our first one til 25, then every 5 years after that in Australia. They’re even rolling out a vaginal swab instead of the traditional cervical test so it’s much more comfortable!
@@JemimaDoesASMR I'd love this to be more comfortable. We have our pap smear every year from age, like about 14 when you have your first period. They also check your breasts for cancer. And I feel a lot safer after my check ups. Most of the time they find nothing, but better be safe than sorry.
Here in Brazil we get pap smears once a year and we should start getting the exams once we get sexually active (this can range from early teens to young adults, for example I got my 1st pap done at 19 right after I got sexually active), regardless of the gender of your partner But ofc folks who never got sexually active before can also get pap smears and they give many options for this here, it's not as common as it should be (unfortunately many ppl simply don't get their pap done exactly bc they aren't sexually active) But since I went through menarch (and I believe this is the case of many AFAB folks here in Brazil) at 11 I get the breast exam and the exam where the obgyn looks at your vulva + a cotton swab of the vaginal discharge to see if everything is healthy done once a year, I also get a breast and abdominal ultrasound done every year to see if everything is okay... I still get those exams since I was 11 done, but now I also get the pap smear + transvaginal ultrasound yearly since 19 (now it's gonna be my 6th year), and bc I have endometriosis I also have to get yearly abdominal and pelvic MRIs with contrast agent to caught new lesions and monitor the other lesions I already have
This was honestly amazing I am a virgin who has never had penetrative sex, and last year I had my first pap ever and it was a mortifying experience. The doctor I had put a speculum in and then proceeded to crank it around and I told her that I was in pain and she said and did nothing and then proceeded to use a larger speculum. It was the most uncomfortable and terrifying experience at a doctor I’ve ever had. I genuinely wish I had a doctor that is as kind as you are in these videos
I think a lot of people also define a virgin as consensually having penetrative sex. A few people I know and myself by the overall definition of virginity are not virgins but by our definition we are. It rlly depends on what u believe in and how u feel. Also u never fail to put me to sleep with ur vids keep up the good work!
A virgin is a person who has never had sexual intercourse. There's really no other way to "define it" since that^ is the definition. In that case it would be your opinion
@@emilygunning1972 yes but u can say ur a virgin if it was taking from u a rape or SA since u didn’t get a say. There’s a difference between saying u r and actually being one
I wish the doctor who did my first check was like this. Kind, gentle, and accommodating. The lady who did my first was cold, seemed annoyed, and just poked about with no warning. It was so incredibly awkward and uncomfortable. It made me feel so ashamed and violated.
not that i’m educated in medical work at all, but when you explained how to use the drape by wrapping it around yourself, i had an idea that explaining it as if you’re wrapping a towel around you when you get out of the shower would be a great way to explain to an anxious patient!
I love your videos, so gentle, understanding, caring and so relaxing. Such a sweet soothing voice and gentle manner. It is such a shame when you to the nurse for such delicate matters it is always an ordeal. The last time l went the nurse did not listen to my concerns and repeatedly pushed the important of doing it and the repercussions of not doing it. Basically being bullied and made to feel it was not a choice but my duty to do it. There was no explanations when doing it either
Your video topics is really informative, in our country we rarely talk about these topics frankly, this education is a taboo here, so glad that I followed you and learnt a lot which I should have learnt a bit earlier. Although late but arrived at this finally, thank you Leanne ❤
I would literally travel to see you. I wish that my first couple of Pap smears were with someone as courteous and thoughtful as you. Patient centered care should be the norm but unfortunately I’ve had a couple of bad experiences that made me terrified of Pap smears. Thankfully, though, I just had a successful one a few days ago, where I advocated for myself heavily, and thankfully, this doctor understood that I needed to go very slow, use the smallest size, and all I felt was a small pinch. Much better than last time.
i would love a video for people who have a female partner or one for trans people, as a lesbian it was really nerve wracking to go to the gyno for the first time but it ended up being very reassuring and affirming. a lot of queer people do not get that experience so it might be nice especially for younger queer people who have not gone yet and don't know what to expect :) thank you for these videos gyno asmr is something i never knew i needed lol !
I was a virgin when I got my first (and only, I'm due for a second this year) pap done, and I jokingly say now that I lost my virginity to that speculum because yikes, was it all up in there and unpleasant. Not looking forward to the next one... But at least it was done fast!
I see that many girls write like this, which is sad, since it is not right to loose your virginity like that. Do you know which size was used? How old were you at that time?
I have a question, what is the difference between a gynecologist and an OBGYN? Like are they the same thing or? But as usual you did such a good job in making this video as educational and relaxing as possible! My most favorite ASMRtist ever!!
An OB(obstetrician) specifically works with pregnancy, childbirth, and postpartum. A gynecologist is general vaginal and reproductive health for those with female sex organs. So with an OBGYN, they do both.
Wished it was like this, no I wasn’t even 21 was worried about a yeast infection and she just DID it didn’t really explain what was going on, didn’t let me know I was good to go, just left, I was cramping and cried
Ever since I learned about the Gynecologist, and pap smears. I have been down right terrified to get them. Are they ABSOLUTELY required or can I not go? Is it my choice, or am I forced to go? Because, while I might change my mind between now and when I first should, has, or wants to get one, I do not one right now, under any circumstance.
I ended up not getting a pap because the place I went to told me that you don't need one if you have never been sexually active no matter how old you are..
YOU DON'T NEED IT if you're a virgin. Because basically a pap smear is a pair of forceps going up inside your body, and splitting you open to check for cancer. Please don't do it if you're not sexually active. You're going to end up traumatized and violated. Say NO and step away. Please talk to your mother or grandmother about this topic. Be safe, Pang.
I wish you’d do a video where we are a person with vagina that is in a relationship with a woman. So we talk about prevention and other stuff related to it! ❤️
Oh I’m so scared mines tomorrow at 9:15 I’ve had some personal trauma and I’m hoping that my doctor is as kind and compassionate I’m a virgin and I’m terrified
I love how sweet you always are! During my first pap smear when i told my gyno i wasn’t in a relationship she told me maybe i’ll meet a guy soon. I’m gay….
Hi! Can I ask do many places still use the metal speculum? Here in the UK we actually don't use them anymore, we use to but then stopped as lots of doctors described them as being uncomfortable and cold, which I believe haha.
So calming. I wish all mine had been like this. Sadly due to insurance issues I have not had one in several years. Have you ever done a video about uterus ablation? That was the last time I saw the obgyn. About 5 years ago.
I hope I don’t cross any boundaries or disrespect or trigger anyone. I’m very curious to know why there’s a pediatric speculum? Since vaginal checks are done around adulthood…..
A child can have illness in reproductive organs as well, cancer, infection, pregnancy etc. Also adults may use small speculums if that is the size that fits them.
When I was 11 I ruptured my first ovarian cyst The gyno put the adult speculum in and gave everyone a view of a hymen while I screamed in pain... really horrible first experience..I wish I had her...I ended up having a full hysterectomy at 23..
Any plans to create a video geared towards trans non-binary peeps who experience gender dysphoria? It’s a bit of a nightmare for some of us to even fathom going to the gyn.
Hi! As someone who lives in a conservative country, its only been recently that i learned pap smear can be done to those who are virgin...in here women who werent married yet are not allowed to do pap smear
You make me not so scared about getting an appointment I’m 17 and had been so scared but I think I’m ready I have extremely painful cramps and I have to take keterolac for it and my antidepressant isn’t supposed to be taken with it but I only take it every other time so the doctor says I’m fine sorry for the ramble 😂✌️
YOU DON'T NEED IT if you're a virgin. Because basically a pap smear is a pair of forceps going up inside your body, and splitting you open to check for cancer. Please don't do it if you're not sexually active. You're going to end up traumatized and violated. Say NO and step away. Please talk to your mother or grandmother about this topic. Be safe, Pang.
