Autism Impatience at Restaurant 

I'm 16 and I have autism and a lot of people say I have the patience of a 2 year old. It hurts my feelings a little cause I try so hard to be patient, but it's not easy. Being compared to a two year makes all my hard work seem like I'm not trying at all. I wish neurotipical people could understand how hard it is for people with autism to be patient and not be impulsive. Maybe then they would be able to see how hard we actually work, and they wouldn't invalidate our hard work.

My 8 year old was so much like Alistair in public before he started anxiety meds. I always tried to be patient but never recognized that the touching and pushing and moving and being silly/annoying were total anxiety. He started the meds for other reasons but seeing him able to calmly wait and enjoy himself more are definitely bonuses.

BTW, as a fellow autistic individual, I'm happy to say that I've came a long way and I'm so proud of the boys' growth and I see myself in your boys cause I definitely know the feeling from experience 💙

Hearing Ian say in a serious monotone voice “Yes, im hungry. And I want to gobble up so much sushi.” Was surely interesting 😭

You could tell how excited everyone was for the food! Hope it was good!

I think it's so cool how autism presents differently in different people! My higher attention to detail makes me more patient, (ie I'm always thinking "well it could be taking a while because of this and this," while others are less patient! Though, I do have other issues instead 😅

Wow, impatience. This is something I really need to work on. My impatience isn’t just caused by autism, I think some of is also caused by trauma and even blindness. Because I can’t see how many people are in front of me. Also, I love sushi, just like Ian.

I see lots of changes to the kids ..patience hopefully my son will be like yours...God bless you all.

Hello to Ian and Connor awesome video on RU-vid today

love your videos!

Love this video ❤😊

Your videos are the only place I can unmask 🧡 Hey Ian and Connor!

I'm sorry to hear about your brother in law.❤❤💛💛

I’m about to turn 20, and I have autism, as well. And I will say I can relate to many of the experiences I’ve seen in watching the videos on this channel. Impatience and anxiety have been a struggle for myself from time to time, but yeah just but getting more experience, it always helps in life in growing as a person; regardless of where you came from and where you are, all along the way!

That is a long time to wait for anyone. The boys did great. :) What a cool restaurant.

My 10 yr old stims a lot but it’s just excited happy stims! I let him be! Your boys did great😊

What a lovely family! Watching ur videos giving me a hope that my son will be like your boys. My son is 2yrs and 6mo, and he was diagnosed with autism a few weeks ago. At this point, I pray he will start talking soon or even understand the speech. Can’t afford ABA therapy and Medicaid taking forever. Don’t know what to do. Thank u for ur channel.

Yes it requires a lot of patience lol, my son does the same thing making funny faces to stemming and then when the distraction happens he focuses. My husband is autistic too and he get impatient and suffers anxiety. So having them both in that situation is brutal for me lol, I’m calm and patient as Job. We seldom go out because of that.

I have never been diagnosed with autism or any other thing like that but i will be seeing a mental health professional soon to go through a diagnosis and see if i am on the autism spectrum. I definitely also get upset and impatient with stuff like this. i remember going to a market with my siblings to get new glasses and i immediately was put in a bad mood because of the smell. It smelled like fish everywhere and there were so many noises, smells, and sounds and it overwhelmed me very quickly. I completely broke down in less than an hour and it was very stressful, I couldn’t eat anything without feeling nauseous while we were waiting for the people working at the glasses place to get our prescriptions and glasses and other stuff ready. It’s very stressful whenever we have to stay at hotels and when we travel because I hate unfamiliar places and get overwhelmed with that stuff really quickly which sucks because my dad travels a lot for work, and the rest of the family lives in a different country

Looks like a great family night out for dinner. Quick-delivered appetizers help those with little patience for the main dishes.

I love this video!

Thank You somuch for sharing ❤

I love how even with his brother in front of him, and he even stated how his patentice was running low i love how Connor interacted with his brother.

Well your boys should be fine, even if they’re a little restless. Alister likes being funny in front of your camera, poor Ian he looks like he’s wants to eat. Alister has the giggles right now. The two older boys couldn’t wait to have their food right away, I’m sure they were very hungry even though they had to wait.😊😊😊

I'll be 45 on September 19, 2024. I was diagnosed with autism at age 3. I've been watching your channel for awhile now and I never knew about the terms stimming and masking before. For my stimming I would flap my hands or rub them together if I'm very excited and happy. Or I would be scripting if I get bored.

When i was allisters age i was acting just like him he is doing quite alright for his age you know what helps me cope... ACTING!

Alistair is so funny lol. I love how active and happy he is

I’m so sorry about your sister is husband. tell the boys I said hello and hope they are doing well. 1:01

You have amazing boys, they look so happy 👌👏

I am a very difficult person to dine out with! Being extremely sound sensitive, I can only tolerate a very small amount of noise and chaos. Basically, any place that requires anything more than earplugs is out of the question. My Friends find it very hard to find locations where I can go. Like many other Autistics, I have a very limited type of food I can eat. I am so predictable in my food choices, most of the time my meal is ordered for me. I would not have even gotten in the door of the location you were at! Aside from noise and chaos challenges, I do not like being touched on my torso, so "close contact eating" does not work for me.

I used to touch everything when in public. I feel anxious if I don't move around or hold something. Autism is like being a million stars bursting all at once and you don't know what direction you should go unless someone guides you through the void. They have to get my attention or I don't know what to do. I will star off for a moment before I get the point. Eating is hard for me though. I can barely hold a spoon and fork I never could use a knife. Also, I love the sushi bar because it has the simulation I like. We have a sushi bar with a large fish tank and I made friends with one of the large fish. He greets me every time I visit the restaurant. The owner knows me and my mom by name too. It's my favorite restaurant. I would only go to that restaurant if I could.

For me at restaurants we usually wait until the least busiest day, least busiest time. To your sister, so sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine losing my other half ❤😢

Yeah my kids would not be able to do that, at all. I avoid so much right now. I know my girls hate it. But I can't put the littles through things like this yet. (4&2 both with ASD) I hope and pray when they get older it will be easier for them, so we can do more stuff.

Hi there I’m New To The Channel And Did subscribe To Channel Yea I was born with Autism and I have half of Ian and I do not like sit so long and I do like to look at people when they talk to me and I do Have anxiety and Depression I also like to play game and I also take meds every day if I need it And I Have AHAD Hard me to do something and something I can do on my own Happy Autism Day This Friday i hope that people can show kind day Love someone with Autism ❤️💚🧡💙💛💜🖤💝🤗

Japanese food is my most favorite food in the world that is like my go to especially sushi

Cool! Alister was making funny faces for the camera 😂 and I love the comment Am I saying hi to millions of people. You have great boys thanks for sharing.

I think I was at there once. I think I saw you guys

Is it just me or is 0:42 really cute

Your boys did so good! Our kiddo can have a hard time with waiting. Praying and seeing changes-Praise God! Thankful for your channel!

Alester is a funny little dude

Alister did so good also Conner and Ian

I've been there and done that! Snacks and toys in the purse are a must for this mom. Uncomfortable situations like these can be unpleasant but ultimately it's an important learning experience. As an autistic mom with autistic kids it can be tricky balancing between preventing overstimulation and experiencing some typical activities. It's challenging to be sure. You are a good, smart dad turning this into a learning experience for your kiddos.. and a great video for us to enjoy and learn from. That's what autism awareness and acceptance is all about. God bless!

4:36 😂😂alister said “a wee that smells bad”

I have autism. I like a lot of food that not many people like. Sometimes it takes me quite a while to order what I want at restaurants.

Yeah, Impatience I have a lot of problems of with my anxiety and adhd, I can like be so eager and mess things up and then gotta do it again Btw, I’m so sorry to hear about your sister’s husband, my prayers are out here for you all, also, I love Japanese culture, such a nice restraunt!

Ian's so grown upppp🥺🥺🥺

I have pacent problems but it is getting better

Boys, you did so well being so patient waiting for your meal.

Cool video

I’m fine when I have my iPad and decent connection 😂

I have a question. When Alistair (spelling?) Does get like this, does he end up crashing hard when back home, like I know it can linger even when back home for a while. But does he end up crashing hard? Only asking b.c when my 4 year old has a longer moment with like high sensory, we get home and he will continue for a while and crash,and it can even be later,but not yet bed time. And there is no waking him up when he does, and then it can easier effect bed time. Unless it's early enough In the day that a nap wouldn't effect bed time. I hope that question made since?! 😅

I was at hero’s a place the same exact thing and it was so loud I could not stop stimming I just have like small stims.

Sometimes if the food is taking too long, I would get impatience, but sometimes I won't have meltdown(at least for now)

When you take the boys out might be a good idea for a sensory bag ready for you when the boys are having a hard time

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Hoo would dislike this video this has like 2 dislikes but why. And conner looks like me no JOKE

They looked excited for the food. ADHD or ADD is also common

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4:24 he ate that sushi with fork 💀

Why didn't they have theor earphones on? I could barely cope with the video especially the cooking utensils! 😢

I like sushi

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When I was about allister s age I use to my mouth

I’m sure you’re against corporal punishment, but have you ever made a video talking about the topic of autism and spanking? It would be quite informative to know your thoughts and experiences as a parent

Soda is so good but water is better for us and you

My son is like your youngest- always making loud noise and flapping his hands. Do they behave better or calmer when they grow older. Hopefully 🙏

Set my kids haven’t tried sushi and they love Japanese food you don’t because there’s a thing here you don’t eat raw food but I live in Massachusetts so I eat a little while I will. I like to start ones I like spicy spicy rolls but see that’s with crab like imitation Krabs I don’t like doing that but I like the spice in a Dere. Yeah, I’m very good sushi restaurants in Massachusetts, but I don’t know of any, but my sisters have gone through thing sort of like what your sister of gone through three years ago in the video and we’re going through something else with my mother. We just lost her not more than three years ago and I am it’s actually coming up farm almost towards Mother’s Day she almost died on Mother’s Day. My mother and my kids were way too young to remember her but one of them says she does remember about. I don’t know about that because he was so young, I hopefully he’s just making us feel better because I was surprise. He said he remembered my mom and everyone else was too and everyone and we’re having something here but we can have a Chinese food. I’m gonna get a bunch of sushi because I’ve never had it really because I don’t like it raw food because all my older brothers used to eat little pieces of raw hamburger. My mother always yelled at them and I tried raw hamburger and it’s disgusting but yeah it’s time to give sushi chance I guess because Ian looks like he loved it.❤ play party all weekend I have them eating till Saturday night and we’re gonna I’m gonna bring them late because they do sleep in the car and we’re only like 20 minutes away from each other. That’s why I moved to be close to them so I can bring them to school more often and it’s like a blessing and we did have a differences but we’re totally working a lot and she does do something wrong but I said something wrong but hey, I still don’t feel bad about it. I told her that and she agrees with me but it’s difficult for the kids but we’re trying not to fight around them. We’re trying to make things work because I don’t want my little kids who have autism not have a mother and I don’t want them not to have me cause I love them to death like it’s very hard.

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that went well I think, sitting at a crowded table, and with work happening is pretty strange for me even as an adult

Why did you not get take out after waiting ages to be seated and then having to wait for the food to be prepared? It’s a bit much to have to wait for anyone, let alone children with special needs and them being hungry

Autism Impatience at Restaurant

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I can't stand noisy restaurants because it hurts my ears!!!!!!!!!!!

Yes I can't do a good thing I'm kind of smart. It was I can't help daddy did this one time. I wanted to take him so bad but I wanted to be when you're older. I wantedna take a right now because I wanna see if you can do it and cause? But it's just didn't get stimulus so happy and then I'd make it so easy. I just find something like it may be a little hardware. Something soft like a little piece of bread from a sandwich. I do rather have little food fights but I think it was good to me. My buzz didn't say we do wait much further each other and we felt bad going up because we knew we had bugs but I cannot find weak. Maybe it wasn't worth doing this? We have no idea what kind of body was this? It was not we had a can't even look it up but it was just so weird growing up with the eggs that I think they said it was in. The eighties when they found his butt seat. I do think I'm a little ocd but I had a little kid. I just have something column hes sick right now and I feel so bad for him right now. I'm going to a lot with I'm ready to do something I and said I would never do but I have to do it. I'd like to talk to you but I wanna talk to yeah. I see I forget names a lot the dad from summer ahead cause his kids are more close to me. That's why I watch a lot of you II do like. What are you doing with your kids? But I think I watch you as if I like you. You're a good guy and I'm surprised when I pop up. I didn't even bother channel your sister reminds me of someone who I know but see hes work really hard hes a very good. Person and studied so hard and my father just said he did not like what you did to your kids. But I have my kids now and so I can have coffee but I really. Don't I make it sound like I tried so hard when I want through? I've never had a sinslip up with I have to talk to social services. I just I had to give my guns a week sometimes I have to go to hospitals but I don't talk about my kids I don't want you. To think I'm a bad parrot I try as much as I have I make a lot of money I don't want my. I like to talk to you personally but I think you will agree. I also agree I'm not raising like they should be but they're doing well. Didn't just have to watch them all from school right now and then said it's OK. I'm proud of my boys too also and it's so conbusiness like I have time but we're only 2. I'm trying to get my sun's just cool everyday cause. I can't miss it but sometimes I have to take one to the doctor I want. Try to do something with my daughter because I wanted to see my twins together. I'm gonna try to see I mean I don't even think of this. I'm like the ones using twins together but I like that too but it's like I don't even know if you do it it's like I. Have a lot of things to do but I don't work right now but I do very well for myself and my kids are won't take care of now. I had a wild ride and you will not know believe between the East Coast. How many people I know? I was especially ed almost my whole life but I had fun when I was. I learned a lot from a lot of people special ed and I didn't want to fund stuff for them. You seem to think I was wrong to say what I did in special library. It was a special case and felt like I had to be fitted in and it's all always how I felt because they always thought I was a twisted. But they had no idea. I still don't know if my little kid that calm helped me with. It's autistic I don't see a d*** thing but I am gonna get impressed with it again cause. I don't see it at all but yeah she has trouble reading. That's the only thing hes so smart but it's so confusing. I like to talk to you but I think we'd argue but I think just

I wanna know if they get the try to catch any piece of food in their mouth when they swap it like. Did you do that when they cause? I didn't I missed it and I wanted to do it again but I was like I wanted. I think it's cool but I only went to one sushi restaurant. I went to? Another but I. Wouldn't I just mean my brother used to throw it and we just make each other mad with throws? It just has to be sent not messaging. My parents said they were picking a lot of food up. It was like at the floor and we did not want roaches. We'd never got roaches I we've stayed with boggies party for some reason mice cause. We do have we. Yeah I'd and that don't want because I think it's right that they get to go outside. But I keep I'm trying to keep my. But that was fun favorite month. Did your kids experience that that she even thinks about one and then they just got to do? It didn't even a thing out there that would've been cool to see on the video. How would they like it like

Blakethegreat 3 weeks ago I'm 16 and I have autism and a lot of people say I have the patience of a 2 year old. It hurts my feelings a little cause I try so hard to be patient, but it's not easy. Being compared to a two year makes all my hard work seem like I'm not trying

Why so eager to not let him appreciate the worth of time by teaching him how to cook his own stuff? Also, why do you have to make him wait? Can't you just order the stuff without taking him there and make him arrive just in time when the plate is served? Give him a GameBoy at least! And that place is filled with noisy people! And the worst... you are giving them highly sugary stuff! 4:34 he was already eating. No wonder he shows such a face to you after such stupid question...

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I also saw his recommendation and approach Dr Oyalo for the herbs on RU-vid. The herbs has so far work positive on my child’s eye contacts and speech improvement. My child social skill is good now and response to name has improved too

Thank You somuch for sharing ❤