Can I just say how much I appreciate that Josh totally gets it with the money situation as far as splitting the bill. A lot of us want to hang out with friends but still live on a budget and it gets tricky especially when u have to deal with people that take advantage. It’s not black or white when it comes to this topic. Every situation is different.
You guys should have Karen and another female friend for a part 2 and hear the “Do’s & Dont’s” from them, I think that would make another great episode. #mondaysdontsuck ❤
Josh, I agree with you 100%. People don't have to know the In's and Out's of someone's relationship. Acting responsible and respectful and having a good mindset on the situation is the main topic. Taking one's feelings into consideration is also huge if you really care about your partner. Everyone has different feelings, and that's okay. Communication is the key for your Loved one.
I love josh and his way of thinking. He is so humble and grounded. I feel like with Seas is this way or no way his very firm with his answers as there is no other way
I love my boi Sebas but he def seems to see a lot of things from a more privileged perspective Also when Josh said that he hates money tension and would rather take care of it, THATS ME! I’ll use my credit card if I have to lol I hate money awkwardness
@@2073228 yea I think sometimes perhaps they forget that most of their viewers dont have it like that. a little bit out of touch on this episode with the bachelor party expectations lol
I think that strip clubs aren’t necessarily for the bachelor, they are for the groomsman because why would an engaged man need to celebrate his engagement by having naked women who are not his fiancé performing for him? 🤔 that’s just my take. Great episode!
Personally if I’m the one getting married, I would NOT expect anyone to spend anything on me. It’s my choice to get married why should they have to pay for any of it. If there was a party planned I would pay for what I want and just have them pay for whatever they want to do or take. I don’t get why others have to spend on something I am choosing to do 🤷🏻♀️ secondly if I could not afford to do pay it myself I would not expect anyone else to pay for anything.
Heck, some ppl are just fine with a sit down brunch, lunch or dinner surrounded by their loved ones. But like Sebas says, communicating with the newlyweds to be and the wedding party. Heck, it maybe even nicer that instead of doing anything, maybe a honeymoon fund.
I literally love this poddy oddy woddy!! Buuuuut for the first time I felt super *side eye* when sebas was talking about the money situation, you only feel that way because you’re privileged maaaa boiiii. Haha yes you deserve to fine dine bc you have the money you well earned but not everyone had that luxury to just pay for everyone this time and they pay next because not everyone has that type of money. Either way still love y’all but hope you consider that next time you classify money situation as maturity vs case by case scenario. In the perfect world we would all love to pay for everyone and ball out lol
I think he would have a different perspective if he was making regular job money. Most of us arent influencers or have boujee circle of friends. Some of have kids to feed vs inflating an entitled friend’s “Specialness” by “servicing” them. Its for the birds in this economy. Also ppl in the ranchos didnt have these bachelor “parties” lol sorry for MY hot take 🫣still love yall!!!
I love that you are ready to have a great time with your friends but keeping your relationship boundaries in mind. All men & women should be this way in a relationship. Trust and communication is definitely key!! Great episode ❤
Sebas needs to be humbled. He acts like he wasn’t on a budget a few years ago. I’ve never gotten this vibe from the queen herself, Karen. But Sebas come on, a lot of us didn’t even know who you were until Karen. Sorry but I was not feeling your vibes in this episode. Josh on the other hand is always good vibes 🌀
I wish I could’ve sent this to my bridesmaids party before my bachelorette trip !! I had a bridesmaid who stays penny pinching and it brought everyone’s vibe down . Me as the bride I had to be the mediator between her and the rest of the party . It was so uncomfortable. Please do an financial episode to social etiquette because some people need to learn 🙃🙃
@@priscillapie my friend has an expensive taste . Always buying brand names purses and clothes. But when it comes to splitting dinner bills or splitting drinks when We go out , she always makes comments of how expensive things are and sometimes tells me if she can pay me later. I never went on a trip with her before though and it got awkward with money real fast & I ended up paying her part just to avoid conflict with the rest of the girls
About the paying etiquette, I agree with one person paying & everyone else paying that person for example if a party is being planned. However most of the time when me and my girls go for dinner(we're a small group) we just do separate bills, it's easier so everyone can eat as little or as much as they want.
Sebas talks like that because he has the money to go the extra mile. But if I’m the friend that has money I have to be considerate about my friends that don’t make as much money as me.
It’s a damned if you do, damned if you don’t scenario. I would hate for my friend to change her or his plans for me because I can’t afford to do certain things. It’s about THEM. But, everyone views things differently and your opinion matters too.
As a woman’s perspective in the whole bachelor night out. I think both partners need to have a discussion about the event before. Y’all gonna do what you wanna do. Regardless. But if you have respect for one another there shouldn’t be anything to trip over. Both party’s have a memorable night! 🤪 Love you guys & Karen 💕
I agree 100% with mahboiis about splitting the check evenly. But also DONT be that person who takes advantage and order more and expect people to pay for that 👏🏻
I just know both of these guys love so genuinely and with a whole heart! Just the way Sebas expresses himself about Karen , and the way Josh speaks about how he will treat a partner and the way he sees his future relationship is sooooo warming and beautiful to hear 🥹❤️
I agree with Sebas, if our group of friends plan to go out to dinner then it should be split evenly. Now if I decide to buy an expensive bottle or meal then I know that I’m putting more money towards the bill. This is also a conversation you have with those friends before you start ordering food!
i definitely disagree on the whole restaurant paying the bill evenly thing. i’ve been in the situation where i’m broke af but i still wanna be included with my friends so i go out to eat with them, but all i can afford is an appetizer 😭 so ya i’m not about to pay the bill evenly when i just had artichoke dip & everyone else had steaks
I agree with everything you guys said - my friends and I split everything . order what you want ! and depending on the amount of ppl we typically just pay with one card and send the money right there. there's been times where I was damn near homeless and I would get invited out but I wouldn't go - cause if you don't got it don't force yaself to go out. you will be okay
HEY! I was the one who asked for a picture in Colombia while at the “Colosal” restaurant! Thank you so much for being so kind! Funny story, my male cousin confused you for Maluma when you walked in and he pointed you out, my female cousin knew exactly who you were and told me you walked in 😂 (she knew I follow you and Karen, and she had mentioned you were also in Colombia) Saludos!!
On my last girls/mommy get away to Mexico I told my girls (group of 7) up front let’s put everything on my card and at the end of our trip I will tell you how much you owe me, I just thought it was easier and not have to worry about the dollar to peso exchange… all my girls loved it and everyone paid right away after. Regarding a regular night out I think you hit the nail on the hat when you said if you all have similar dinners just even split it, nickel and dimming it is weird.
I love the wedding content. I really think we need Karen on again before the wedding. Maybe even one of her bridesmaids!! That would be an awesome episode!!
Sebas last point was so on pointttt, grounding yourself throughout moments where you're so caught up in the motion is such a great reminder and such a nice perspective to these celebrations. Luv u guiseeee
Josh’s way of thinking when it comes to relationships is goals, hes understanding and not one sighted. Hope he gets a girl that will reciprocate his effort 🥹
Splitting the bill evenly only works when it’s a max group of like six people and like you said we all kind of ordered evenly. once it’s more people and somebody ordered within their budget and somebody didn’t order within their budget and somebody just went crazy and somebody was just there like that’s when it gets murky because it’s not fair to split the bill. It’s definitely situational and I know the friends that I can do that with and the friends that I can’t do that with for whatever reason
Totally get what your saying, but sometimes people don’t have the funds and get guilt tripped in to participate anyway. I personally like to know a head of time roughly how much I’ll be spending so i can plan for it vs not knowing and being put in an awkward situation.
I’m with Sebas! The splitting the bill evening! I love tht my family we have this agreements and no1 cares Bcuz is the time we spend together and we never complain for paying for food! Even with kid we only count adults and if is a birthday the birthday person is included! And we ain’t a small family same with friendship I have a close circle and we don’t complain. 😊 I’m sorry Bt 100% agree with Sebas! Ain’t spending 30min to figure out a dam check.
No because our friend group does the EXACT same thing rotating paying for the bills. It’s always been an unsaid thing in our group and also cuts confusion and time for the staff/waiters. We’ve all worked our asses off to have it like this so it izzzz what it izzzzz mah ehhh
I 100% agree with the going out with friends etiquette! Just split it between everyone and if you don’t have enough, give what you can and everyone else can help with the rest. You should know your friends enough to know what to do with the bill but unless it’s a special circumstance, SPLIT THE BILL EVENLY!!!
Loved this poddy! ❤ and loved that the emphasis was on communicating with your person when it comes to these baches! 🎉 😅 I can’t even express how awkward/uncomfortable it is to sit there and watch people arguing with their significant other and be in a bad mood. It honestly makes the vibe change. Set the tone for the weekend, be transparent, communicate & be respectful 🙌🏻🤍 *if your not in a relationship, go ham heheheh!!
On the “money tension” conversation, I think it’s hard to create an “etiquette” on that because everyone spends money differently, splits differently & ppl have different approaches to it. I don’t think it depends on income levels but like just the approach or mindset that people take it with. My personal approach is 1 person pays the bill and send them that money right away!
For our bachelorette/bachelor party. We did one night of boys & girls. It gave our wedding party an opportunity to all get to know each other and then we split the next day and everyone had the best time!
Strippers are just straight up disrespectful… it has nothing to do with omg you’re so boring, it’s your last time.. blah blah blah. You are checking out lusting over another women. There is no way around it. If you need to have that thrill of a stripper when you’re about to be married.. then don’t get married. If you’re single fine do whatever you want. But if my boyfriend/fiancé/husband did that I would be disgusted and hurt.
If bride of groom want to plan a big bachelorette or bachelor party they should think about their party too. I get it’s their day it’s about making them happy. But I wouldn’t want to plan something where my party can’t afford it either. I’m not going to make my friends spend money like that. Not everyone is in the same boat as both of you were your able to go to a whole other country. I’m sorry. I hear so many stories about friendship breaking up because of a weeding issue. It’s my worth it to me.
Yeah I agree on the financial aspect. When I plan trips or go on trips it’s always with the friends that are also financially stable. I have friends that are not and that’s ok. But when it comes to trips I only have a select few that I travel with
sebas stop trying to explain yourself so hard mah boi we get your point we got you ok don’t worry to much about what people are going to think about your opinion
I hope I don't get dragged for this but, I think sebas you are saying splitting the bill because of your financial situation. YOU have the money. We are not all in the same financial situation that you are in. Some people literally scrape all the money they can to go on a trip/vacation because they desperately need a little escape from their day to day life. No one should be pressured to pay someone else's bill. Now if ofcourse you have the extra money and money is not an issue to you if you feel like paying for someone else in the group that looks like they are tight on money go ahead and do it by all means.
Ive actually have been waiting for an episode like this 😂 honestly I agree with josh as far as the whole strip club thing … I’ve always thought that I feel like out of respect for the partner why would someone want to go out and look at other people and get turned on by the whole scene. Yes it sounds like fun and having a good night with people you admire but you could also do that with doing other things. Had to put it out there but I definitely understand all the perspectives what you guys have said! Much love
It’s unspoken rule that if you order an expensive meal and a lot more drinks you’ll pitch in more that’s just the right thing to do and if you’re that person that doesn’t think that way trash.
I loved hearing about both of your perspectives on these fun celebrations prior to the big day. Now, I actually appreciate the perspective on splitting the bill when out with friends, I thought that was pretty cool to learn a new perspective as we all do things different.
Mah boi Sebas talking like a true “tiene dinero” y le vale lol As someone that’s not rich and are middle class When I go out w friends and It’s a little tight atm I want to pay my stuff only But si ahorita si traigo dineroooo I’ll pay for everyone or we can split idc I also don’t think that just because my finances a little tight that people should say well then stay home…I’m obviously not spending my rent money to go out but I can be on a budget and still deserve to have fun
I think its important to know with who you can do what and those you can’t do certain things with. We all have specific friends we can fully travel with & theres no issues on budget. Theres situations at dinners were like Sebas said you take care of the bill & then someone takes it next time. Theres other people where you know you can put your card down & people will send the money over & not have to ask for it. Please have Karen & Ale on to discuss the dos & donts!! (Will be attending a bachelorette party this year thats still in the works)
One time I went out with a group of friends for a friend's birthday. The birthday girl also invited like 4 fam members. When the bill came she wanted the bill to be split by whoever is paying. None of her fam memebers were paying. Mind u they got multiple drinks and the plates were like min of 30 each. I had to speak up bc that was not ok. I felt bad bc it was her bday which I paid for her meal and she had to pay her family memebers part. It was soooo awkward!
I just had my Bachelors Party in August 2021 before I got married in October. It was me and a good amount of my friends. We went to Las Vegas for a quick 3 day trip. First night we took it easy and got some food and drinks. Next day, we had a day club event during the day then we were gonna hit the strip club and night club later that night. We left home the third day. In between all that time, we all paid for our food, my friends bought me drinks, they took care of parking whenever someone drove. They took care of me and made sure I had a great time. I think it’s great when guys put their friend before themselves for things like this. It’s just easier for guys to figure things like this out.
as a gemini, i whole heartedly agree with Sebas in terms of friendship etiquette. We're very kind and think of others first and ultimately, the secret people pleaser in us wants to avoiddddd that awkward situation so were like let's pay and then get it over with. you pay me, you don't pay me. we're friends and I got you && the intention is there of were gonna have a win win situation. Homies first, in debt later. its not a money loss, in my eyes, becuase it is an INVESTMENT in my homies :) perooo lets not get it twisted with this happening too many times, its stuation by situation. such a good episode!!!! Good job mah boisssss much love, julz
I think the same!! When it comes to splitting the bill!! I am a server i always appreciate when people split the bill evenly rather than doing single checks. Btw I love you guys thank you for always posting!!! Mondays dont suck!! Maahh boiiii❤
First of all my husband and I have been married for 7 years. We got married in our early 20’s. We come from VERY conservative families. I remember our families right away said NO bachelors parties for both. We ultimately went against our families and left our bridal parties put something together. His guys planned a whole paid trip to Vegas for him. He initially told them no - because our parents were so against it. SO I 🙋🏻♀️- took him to the airport and told him to have fun. And that I trust him and his boys. Yes they took him to a strip club, and god knows what else they planned. When I picked up my husband he was sooo happy that I pushed him to go. I feel these parties are for your partner to create memories with his circle. Life is going to happen and only knows when you will party like that again. If you feel some type of way - yes talk - but ultimately analyze the relationship you are in. If you are questioning your partners behavior, you really shouldn’t be getting married. Next, I planned my sisters bach and I paid for everything all night long then broke even with the girls. We had multiple FaceTime calls agreeing on restaurants, bars, hotels. To make sure everyone had the budget. Everything came out so beautiful for her.
My co worker and i stopped sending each other money we know we got each other and we take turns paying but there’s always one that never pays us back so stopped asking her if she wants to order something with us.
One of the things that my girls and I do no matter what we get we split it down the middle-it makes things easy for the waiter and for us. If you can’t handle that then don’t go to me its ridiculous when you are adding things up when its time to pay
I loved the episode this week! Can we please ask Josh the same question in return. Often times only Sebas answers and ya girl be waiting on Josh’s answer 😂😂😂😮
I agree with sebas on the everyone splitting it evenly because that’s how I like to do it BUT I also know who I can and can’t do that with. I have friends who don’t mind it but I also have friends that do mind and when I’m with the ones that do mind I will personally say we need separate checks to just resolve the issue quick lol
To think you guys were in Cartagena and we didn't get to meet astounds me. I am one of your biggest fans and from the states. I usually visit every year. Too bad we ain't boys or we could have met up! So cool of an experience it would have been to meet two of the dopest Latino podcasters ever!
I love how you guys spoke about still respecting your partners while out for the trip. Also, I agree with you guys about the tab! If I order more than my friends, I usually cover the tab and they’ll tell me they got the next one. Yet I don’t always think they have to get me on the next one. When it comes to splitting, it’s always straight down the middle. I’m not going to calculate what I got and only pitch in that portion. But then again, that’s just me! ☺️
Man, excellent topics! Loved this. That whole paying segment, that’s so complicated. But honestly, I hate people that don’t pay. Super annoying. Anyways, love you guys! ❤ keep it up! I wish more poddy’s came out during the week!
Splitting the check really depends to me. If I'm out with people I'm not that close with, I'm only paying for stuff I ordered. If I'm out with family or close friends, we'll just split it. I don't put my card down for just anyone because I've been burned before where the person doesn't pay me back right away. But I do agree, if a person only had like one or two drinks, I'll normally just catch it. I have however been on a bachelorette trip once where I wasn't a bridesmaid but just a friend going on the trip not apart of the planning at all. We had about 2 years to plan for this trip bc it got pushed back bc of covid. The maid of honor ended up not being able to afford certain things and putting her burden on the other bridesmaids. Bc of that other bridesmaids started airing out that they can't afford this or that, so it ended up lacking as far as the planning and events went.
I am the friend that always puts my card down and has everyone pay me back. I do not like trying to figure out the bill, cause it is embarrassing. Trying to figure out how much everyone owes is a BIG ick!!! Either split it even or one person pays and figure it out! If it is my close girl friends I will just pay and most of the time expect nothing in return. I like to treat the people I love and I know they will take care of me at some point, or have taken care of me in the past.
32:29 I personally think this is how it should ALWAYS be when you go out as a group of friends. Don’t go out if you don’t have the funds & don’t be a penny pincher.. PERIODT!
