I am so sorry this happened to you Ivan. You are a really awesome person. Edward fucked up big time. You have made the right decision to cut him from your life. Sending prayers your way to get through this ordeal.🙏😢
Completely agree and I’m wondering what the laws are in that country for age and consent. I know it doesn’t make a difference because I would go APE SHIT.
Ivan, it is disgusting and you're correct, criminal activity. Edward is totally responsible for this in his home. Your sister needs to change her group of friends and be honest with your mother. She needs to understand this world has many perverts, alcohol and drug addicts who abuse young girls. No country is immune. You are handling this correctly. Stay strong, and be an excellent big brother.
It saddens me that Edward would disrespect you like that. You need to make sure that your family knows about this so your baby sister gets the guidance she needs. We all make mistakes.
HOLY COW IVAN, What a betrayal indeed!! So sorry for your sister. And so sorry for you, realizing someone who you thought was a friend, really cared nothing for you, to show no respect to your sister. HORRIBLE.
You’re a good man for protecting your sister. Eduard and the others are sick and need to answer to the law. While Eduard’s “happy go lucky” attitude seemed refreshing when joking around, it’s clear he is a follower rather than a leader. He’s always going to be someone who bows to peer pressure and just “goes along to get along” even when in the company of others who are clearly doing something wrong. One of the things that I admire most about you is that you are a leader who sets a good example for others. Your peers clearly look up to you. You’re industrious, level-headed, and clearly care about those closest to you and others. More importantly, you have good morals and know right from wrong. One thing I know for sure is that you would never be part of such a situation and would do the right thing if you encountered similar circumstances. You have handled this adverse situation extremely well thus far and I am confident you will do what’s necessary to resolve it appropriately. You absolutely did the right thing in ending things with Eduard and looking out for your sister. There will be a lot of other people entering your life in the future who will be more worthy of your friendship. I know this must have been incredibly hard to discuss, but thanks for sharing. Many of us would have been curious why Eduard vanished and it’s better to let people know.
The proliferation of alcohol (36% alcoholism rate) leads to degenerate attitudes in a society. As a "big brother" your concern should always be with her vulnerability as a child. 👎 To Edward!!!😡
Ivan you and Evelina need to have a heart to heart conversation with your sister about teenage guys and alcohol and how all they want is take advantage of her, use her.
Yeah, those 18 years could be in trouble. Here in the states you can go to jail. You need to have a talk with your family as well how your going to handle this unfortunate situation. Please don’t let your sister hang around those girls anymore they’re a bad influence.
Once they start drinking like that, it will be all down hill till they hit bottom. That's why it's not a good idea for underage people to drink ! They don't understand the consequences till it's too late !
I commend you for even being able to talk about and NOW you will see how valuable this community will be with very much STRONG support that you will get from them RIGHT NOW. (Florida Bob) USA.
Family comes first. I have two younger sisters and know how you would feel. Thanks for clearing the air on this. We were all wondering what happened. Stay safe my friend
Ivan, I am horrified to hear this. Your mother will have to wise up about where your sister is. You must be heartbroken. Well done for confronting that guy but not getting into a fight. Your sister is very lucky to have a brother like you. Very best wishes from the UK. Xx
Ivan, I have been watching you for a very long time. Now, I am not a young man, have been a Military Officer, and have a professional career so I have seen a lot and been through a lot. There is absolutely no excuse for what Edward did or in reality did not do. As soon as your 13 year old sister showed up he should have immediately put her in his car and driven her home, or if his car is not working then called you. You have every right to be furious with Edward and disgusted and with those other idiots who were involved. I am from the US and do not know the law in Russia but this has to be a crime in my book. Too bad for Edward, through his stupidity he lost a very good friend and in life good friends are hard to come by. Good luck Ivan and you did the right thing not taking the law into your own hands. Best, David
I can’t begin to tell you how angry I am that this happened to your sister! My heart goes out to your entire family! It just sickens me just sickening! Damn you Ivan to betray your friend and their family! FOR HEAVENS SAKE WHY DIDN’T YOU CALL IVAN OR CALLED AN UBER AND TAKEN HER HOME! You are a sick b@&$);d! I’m sooooo angry - SHE JUST TURNED 13!!! Just makes me sick 🤢 very 🤮
@@betlun3172 normally, if a 13- year old child in Russia tells her mum she will be celebrating the whole New Year night at some friend's place, her mum is sure to discuss it with the friend's parents first. Even the logistics of this situation is a bit dubious given that Ivan's sister and their mum live in a city apartment from which the girl had to somehow get to the countryside area where Eduard's and Ivan's houses are.
Never make decisions when you are angry. Think carefully and think of all repercussions and how it affects all those involved. Before involving the police about an event that you were not present and did not witness. I think your little sister needs to be talked to about her friends and what her reputation will be hanging out with those girls. That everything that ends up on social media will follow her and can't be erased when she regrets it later.
If it was just kissing, I would not worry too much about it. But he mentioned and 18 year old guy with a 13 year old girl. Thats a crime. That guy will be sent to the front lines to learn.
Man, I was really hoping that the image and title were something goofy like he ran into your Lada again or something. Yo. This is something else completely. I am so sorry Ivan.The fact he didn't let you know she was there but then had enough time to tell you happy new year is really f'd up. I can tell you now, hell would have been unleashed all over the place.13 is a baby. Ivan you've handled this way more adult than I would have and I've got a good 20 years on you. This is one thing that will get me to a boiling temp faster than anything else.
Man, I hope the game involves drifting Ladas, eating burgers and feeding cats! Edit: Man, young girls must not be alone with drunk young adults, what the heck. I agree with your rage, unacceptable.
Ivan, I am truly sorry that you had to experience that. I admire you for looking out for your sister. Older people should know better than that around MINORS. I wish you the best in handling a terrible situation Please explain to your sister to be aware of people's behavior Your Vlogs are always light hearted and positive. I truly understand how you are feeling and I wish you nothing but the best
So sorry to hear this! I cannot imagine how you feel! When your sister walked in, he should have called you immediately to come and get her! I’m not sure of the laws in Russia, but in America, it is illegal to engage in sexual relations with a minor ( under 18)! I would advise you to tell your mother and find out why your sister is possibly on a very dangerous website! I would never speak to Edward again; there’s an understanding between friends and he definitely crossed the line!
I'm sorry this happened, Ivan. To be honest, I've always found Edward to be a little "off". A mousey guy with no personality, I'm not completely surprised. I think you're better off without him in your life.
I am so sorry Ivan. I remember how pissed I was when someone harassed my younger brother when we used to be kids... So this what happened to you must've been way more bad. Just draw a line and keep your circle as small as possible. Also explain to your sis what might have happened to her. God bless, stay strong.
She lied to her mom. I absolutely went to innocent female sleepovers on New Year’s as a little girl. The parents were home, we ate pizza, and played games. I’m sure she said she was going to a close female friend’s house.
@@TacoBelle777in Russia, the December 31 New Year celebration is more of a family circle&close friends event(basically, it's the most important holiday for the majority of people, much more important then Xmas), thus it's very uncommon for a 13 year old child to celebrate outside their family. Also, the kind of 'sleepovers' you mentioned are much less typical here than where you come from, and if they do take place, the parents of the children involved will be in touch over that. Overall, the explanation how the young lady was able to pull it off is not very plausible.
@@TacoBelle777Solution.. parents need to phone the sleepover parents to confirm that's where they are going.. Teenagers will be teenagers but they also need to be protected from themselves sometimes.. I was guilty of not phoning parents when the I4 15 year olds were going to a party in one of the lads houses, my son included. I assumed the parents would be there in the background but no... They went out deliberately.. leaving a full sideboard of all kinds of alcohol there unlocked.. You know the kids will maybe have bought some beer and think it's a big deal... but they started drinking competitions with the all the parents real alcohol... My lad got very drunk.. but fortunately a girl with sense took his phone and phoned me .. and I went and rescued him before he had serious alcohol poisoning... The girl said some lads were worse.. out for the count.. She was phoning their parents too.. I was very grateful to her... But had I some words with the parents in that house next day.. !
I'm an old grandma and experience has taught me there are many different types of people. Unfortunately your friend is not a very good person. It is very upsetting and sad to find out someone you would trust would o something bad like that.
Friendship is a relationship of trust and Edvard,in my opinion,betrayed you trust and he certainly knew how you cared for your sister,but he didn`t really care,quite sad.
Ivan, I think a lot of us have sensed something "off" about Edward. All I can I say is a guy who didn't look out for your sister is NOT a friend. Too bad, but at least now you know. Move on, forget about Edward and do the best you can to steer your sister away from trouble. - R.W.
This is terrible news, Ivan. I am so very sorry. I hope the Police can take action. You stay away from all those young men now and let the law deal with it. I hope your little Sister understands how very wrong it all was. Don't let her see those 'friends' of hers again. This could have been far, far worse and is a lesson for her to learn. Thank God nothing else happened to her. Take some time for yourself. None of this is your fault. Sending love.
I have a suspicion that the police won't do anything. It is illegal, the age of consent in Russia is 16, and you can be charged if over 18, but that does not mean anyone will be charged. The police may say "close enough" and not think it worth their time, plus either the girl or the parents would have to lay a complaint, and if she was a willing participant that is probably not going to happen. Prosecutors have discretion when it comes to pressing charges, and they have to have cooperation from the victim or they can't do anything.
Sorry to hear about your sister I think if it was me I would have punched the guys lights out but I do admire the fact that you didn’t you flipping legend got to say he’s not much of a friend if he was he would have called you and told you about your sister I hope she learns from this Hope you and evelina are ok happy new year Ivan all the best from Scotland 🏴 🏴🇬🇧🇬🇧
It sucks so bad when the people closest to you hurt you the most. You are handling it better than a lot of us would right now. This is exactly why I quit drinking years ago. I got so sick of the way drunk people acted. It really brings the piece of shit out of people. Hope your sister is ok.
Ivan, I commend you for your restraint for fear of doing something that you would regret. I would not have been that levelheaded in this situation. Take care of yourself and your sister and make sure she understands that she could have easily been taken adavantage of. Happy New Year to you and Evelina.
What are 13 year olds doing on Tinder? The way to prevent this from happening is for you and your mom to have a long talk with your young sister. But ultimately its up to your sister to behave herself, because you and your mom can not be with her every minute of the day. ... What happened is quite common, because they are all so young and do not think about what can happen.
It's not even about not being able to be with one's child every minute of the day. In Russia, a 13 year old is not supposed to be out after 10 pm unless accompanied by a parent or any other caregiver. Period.
@@gvsku who is at fault for her being out, she lied to her mom and said she was going to her friends house. Mom should have said no, or said be home by 10 o'clock.
@@STONE69_ New Year celebration is the biggest family event in Russia( it effectively replaced Christmas during the Soviet times and is still viewed as No1) with all the arrangements being made in advance. If a 13 year old child suddenly announces she is going to spend the New Year night celebrating with her friend's family instead of her own, it means the parents on both(!) sides will have to sort out the details.
@@gvsku this is a huge problem in white Countries with all the extra freedoms. Divorce is what brings on most of these problems. Fathers are generally more protective of their daughters. In this case, the father chooses not to be involved with his kids.
So disgusted, better man than me. I wouldn’t be able to contain myself. For the best you aren’t socializing anymore. I believe you said he is 17 and I think you are 24 or 25. He has some maturing to do. Your girl is a real one for telling you straight away. Again I feel for you.
I'm so sorry this happened to your family. It always hurts to find out your friend isn't really a friend. I hope this time will open some lines of communication for your mom and your sister as well. As a mom myself I can tell they need to talk and perhaps make some rules to live by. 13 is a rough time for a girl. She isn't grown up but she isn't a child anymore either! Love you Ivan, Gid's blessings to you and your family❤
Ivan, I really have to agree with you on this. A good friend would have informed you of what was happening. Especially when he knew your 13 year old sister was there and what she could have encountered. Especially with 18 year oldest who were drinking and smoking. A phone call would have been the right thing to do.🙏❤
Not a good situation, but she should have been home at 8 oclock especially only being 13, and definitly Edward should have known better . thats where todays parenting has got us
I believe in omens, signs, messages etc.. edward crashing into your car was like a precurser to the events that have followed, violation of your friendship.. trust and respect in relationships come as a consequence of honesty and integrity.. I can relate to similar experiences in my own life, especially when young, and the need to be ever vigilant of my friends putting themselves in potentialy life changing, vunerable situations that could and sometimes did, alter their lives forever.. its great to have fun but not at the expense of others safety and wellbeing.. you are handling everything just as you should.. NZ🕊
Ivan we love you buddy. Don’t stop what you do. Come to Boston I’ll show you around. You and evelina deserve to live somewhere where you weren’t persecuted just for the way you think and the stuff that you might say I wish you both the best of luck. You guys deserve all the success and happiness in the world.
Wow dude that’s harsh, in this day and age you could end up on the front lines rather than sending them to the Gulog, one would have hoped and expected Edward to protect your sister, you made the right call
Sorry Ivan,it sounds like a distasteful night that your sister was involved in. I feel for you. Edward was definitely not a good friend to you that night and betrayed your trust. Your sister and her friends are not blameless and have reached the age when girls are quite vulnerable to being physically a woman but mentally a naive child. All the best to you and love to Evalina. I am glad that you found out Evalina.
Your sis lied to your parents? Sounds like every 13 year old ever. I'm gonna be frank with you Ivan. It's your parents responsibility to protect your siblings.Edward should have called your parents. If your parents then got you involved, well that's different as that's how your family rolls. I will say this: you are a good big brother. And think of this Ivan. How often does this happen? Around the world. Not just to you. Girls are taken advantage of every day, everywhere. Guys are in charge of the world Ivan. Girls, all girls need to be protected from all the 10's of millions of predators out there and their hormones.
WTF, this is so messed up! I don't think you can go back to what you had after such a betrayal. I can only hope that Edward did this out of a lack of judgement or booze and not because of a more disturbing behavioral issue. Thank you for the content and protect your sister and family. Stay safe!
It sounds like the situation was out of control. Edward seems to be a guy who does not take charge, but is a guy who is a follower. If he was an Alpha Male, I could see him doing what you wanted, however I think it happened and he was like a deer in the headlights. I think he just goes along with whatever is happening because he has found that to be the easiest way. This time, that practice burned him. He needs to come crawling to you, explain it all, and apologize profusely. If he doesn't, then wash your hands of him. Sad, but that is the way it goes.
Edward is 15? does not have a license, he is a kid. Had everyone at the party been under 18, it would be looked at as normal. Young people have parties.
@@STONE69_ I believe Edward is 16. In any case, when I was 23 and living in a house with a bunch of other guys, I came home from work one night and there were three girls there partying with the other guys, who were about the same age. I assumed the girls were in their 20's. We all went over to another house down the street and paired up with a girl. Later, I found out the girl I was making out with was 14. I was shocked The girl didn't look like 14. Think Brooke Shields at 14. The thing is, many times they look like they are over 18. Anyway, in the US, the law on statutory rape is a difference of more than 3 years. So, if a guy is 18 and the girl is 15, it is OK. Any more and the guy is in trouble if it goes to the law.
@@russmartin4189 Had a similar encounter, the girl showed her ID at the bar, so I thought, its all good. But when I called her home a time later, I spoke to her step Dad and he figured out my age just by having a talk, and he told me she was only 15. Wow, he saved my behind. She had a chest like Dolly Parton, I was clueless.
@@STONE69_ If the girls lie or don't tell, what are you going to do, proof them? Maybe if you are a young guy, that wouldn't be a bad idea. One more story. I ran/worked at a very small State Park groceery store that same summer. This girl who lived very close used to come over and talk to me. I learned her age. She was 16. She was very attractive, but I never touched her. She even wrote to me when I moved 350 miles away to go to graduate school. I broke it to her that it would be good if she found a boyfriend in her school her age and I would not be coming back. Also that summer, another girl, who's family camped there, used to come over and talk/flirt. This one looked quite young. They lived out in the country, so evidently there were no boys where they lived and I looked good to them. If I had been immoral or a pedophile, I would have had two willing victims. I used to get about one customer per day, sometimes none. It was a brand new State Park and not even on the maps yet! Parents do not know what their angelic daughters may have in mind.
That is disgusting, DISGUSTING behavior by those animals. I'm surprised you are telling us this because it takes a lot of courage to do so. I am praying that your family is alright, will heal from this trauma, and never experience it again.
Oh wow, that sucks bad. You are right to be concerned and upset. As a Dad to a 12 year old, that is way to young to be partying with adults. Your friend Edward should have known better. He will look back on this day one day and realize how wrong he was.
While I agree the guys where wrong , thats 1/2 the story , the fact you ignore your sisters fault entirely , as IF she was not responsible for her own actions , they where wrong and so was your sister .She knowly went to that party , and she also could have left at anytime , you seem to ignore the actions of your sister . So the problem lies equally with the guys & the girls , they all knew what they where doing , thats the reality .
