"Bad Texters", Dan Bilzerian Being Cringe & The Truth About Intimacy With Women 

IF. A. WOMAN. GENUINELY. DESIRES. YOU. SHE. WILL. MAKE. THE. EFFORT. PERIOD.

It's interesting Courtney that you talk about older men dating high school girls. The plot of Licorice Pizza is about a 25-year-old woman who falls for a 15-year-old boy. I watched the movie and wondered why no one had a problem with this. They all praised it as a sweet coming-of-age love story. If the plot was about a 25-year-old man in love with a 15-year-old girl, there would be calls for the movie to be banned and outrage for days.

If she says, "I'm the type who forgets to text back" means either "I'm flooded with dm's from guys, if you're the type of guy I find attractive I'll respond or I like playing games and love the attention"

We all pay girls to hang out with us; it's called a date

To answer Courtney's question, the reason why some women (and guys) are okay being a side piece is simply because they know they're not relationship or marriage material. They are much more comfortable being the guy's side piece rather than the actual girlfriend or wife which bares a lot more responsibility and attention than they're willing to give. They know they wanna be out in these streets, yet still want some form of a bond with that guy and will take on that role.

It baffles me whenever I see a girl put “I’m not good texting or checking the dating app” on their profile. Sorry girl that’s a left swipe from me even if you’re hot, I ain’t got time or patience to deal with people who suck at basic communication.

Your comments on emotional and physical intimacy was spot on. Men aren't wired to need that. So it's very difficult for us to understand what a woman needs in this area. I also can say that women do a poor job of expressing what they need in this area. I have heard this statement in some form sooooo many times. "Well if you don't know, Then you don't really care for me." Women are so much better at feelings and emotions. Their brains are wired that way. If communication isn't present, the relationship breaks down. In my experience, once this happens. The woman will deny the physical intimacy and uses it a tool against the man. "Men display, Women choose" "Every woman wants a good man, until she finds one the requires her to be a better woman"

there's no such thing as toxic masculinity. there's masculinity and then there's being toxic. great content

I hate that it’s so rare for someone to publicly emphasize the importance of masculine and feminine energy. Most people have always thought this; thank you for saying it!

Damn the first one about the not texting back is so true. I have girls that like my profile first and I put effort into sending a thoughtful, funny personalized opener only to be ghosted or they'll just like or heart react to it and leave it. Really makes you wonder why you even bother. Dating apps have killed trying to get a relationship

I seriously hate “ghosting culture” like get a backbone and just simply be honest. Tell the person your dating / talking to that you’re just not into them. There’s no need to lead ppl on and then ghost them. Be polite and straight to the point period.

I stopped auditioning for a woman’s acceptance a long time ago and I’ve never felt better. If someone is interested in you, you’ll know it.

My second girlfriend, cheated on her boyfriend with me and everyone said she was going to do it to me, I was delusional and said nope she’s never doing it to me, but she did, she’s a cop in town and her last 2 boyfriends have killed themselves, “ who were also cops” lots of drama in my town, but anyway I’m glad I didn’t do the same thing because I didn’t own a gun back then, funny how in the moment in seems like it’s the end of the world, but 8 years later and you don’t even think about it anymore 🤣

My advice is don't text as much. If you can, try to hang out with women in person, voice and video chat. If someone doesn't wanna do that; they just don't like you like that. The whole bad texter thing is a just an excuse. I wouldn't want to be around people like that. Honestly i don't think a woman who is masculine is any less of a woman than one who is feminine. There just a whole a lot of weirdness with dating these days. Anyways i appreciate your healthy insight Courtney. Have a lovely day!😊🙌🏽♥️💫☕

Emotional intimacy requires men and women to be deeply honest with themselves, and many are not. But if it is so important to these women when they are married, why didn’t they place a higher value on this when they were single? This has been one of the greatest frustrations in my life.

I've been sick 😫 of my life, I'm placing effort into improving it. I was just laid off from a sheetmetal company. I purchased a newer laptop, purchased shelves and coat hangers for my home, bought new clothes, reorganizing my garage, got me a haircut, using shampoo and skin products, and polishing my resume for a new better career. I also posted an ad to fix electronics, I just got a customer and a project fixing a church organ power supply.

dating a high schooler is weird because it feels like the older one is taking advantage of their lack of experience and hormonal emotions

9:57 I was just talking to my wife about this the other day. I have run into this situation from time to time at the grocery store when wearing my wedding ring. I think it comes from 1 of 3 places: 1) She is so use to guys that won't commit to her, that when she sees a guy that she likes who is already committed she ignores the fact that he would have to break his current commitment to be with her, 2) It is a challenge to see if they can steal a guy away from someone else, and/or 3) They want a no-strings relationship and the fact that he is already attached means they can get the benefits of a relationship without actually being in one. All of which indicate the girl needs some time in therapy before talking to any more men.

"When you realize being feminine will get you more from men..." - I can understand women needed to be more masculine in the work place. Hell many men have to be more masculine than they normally are in the work place. One of the things that comes with maturity is understanding how to properly adjust for a given situation. As people we really do have many identities so to speak. Does a mother treat her children the way she treats her employees if she is a manager? So why should a woman bring the same masculine energy from work home to her man?

Oh god, I can already sense what's coming. If this guy was any more cringe, he'd probably punch a hole through time.

Hi Courtney, could you possibly make a video regarding introverted women, specifically on their personalities and the most effective ways of communicating with them? Thanks.

Courtney, your RU-vid presence/personality makes me feel like we could ge friends personally and I appreciate it! You keep it real. 💪🏾

With the "Women get turned on by emotional support/connections(talking)" I found that out a while ago reading John Gray. "Men are from mars, Women are from Venus" is a great and helpful book. Not only did I learn more about women, I learned more about myself in the process. I Completely understand that women need to talk and Share to get over Stress, but ladies, be mindful of the time you share. We do need time to ourselves to get through stress. If a woman is talking during the time that his Stress is high, it's going to be very tough to get an emotional connection. You're not wrong or weird for wanting to talk, just Communicate appropriate times to talk(and don't follow him)and I guarantee it can work out.

Reaching out is only attractive when attractive men reach out. If she doesn't VALUE that attention because it's not coming from a top ten guy, that attention is worthless to her and she will delete it before any of her friends see it and shame her or tease her about the kind of guys she attracts. The internet presents everyone with the best of the best, screened from literally millions of profiles and posts. That standard is nearly impossible to compete with but that insanely high standard for looks, has become the standard women expect.

If a 30 year old is a dating someone in high school I would argue that there’s some maturity issues. A man whose self aware at 30 should want someone close to the same stage in life as them (in my opinion). Not to take away from girls who are younger and mature for their age. But in my opinion if a dude is dating down to high school he’s probably only focused on physical attraction, or surface level character traits.

“Doesn’t he pay girls… to hang out with him?… 😒🤨” That look sent me lmao

Men will always look up to Dan blizeran no matter the criticism and embarrassment. Men don’t feel embarrassed as the way women feel. We have different feelings and moments. Men will look up to other men who have other women with them. It’s human psychology.

“How to be toxic” 😂😂😂😂 most girls on social media teaching women to hate men and be toxic, Thanks courtney for your content

Im 38 . As long as the girl is 18 and older. I follow the law and my desires. 18 is legal. I could care less what people think

On the topic of emotional openness, @Courtney I hope you can speak on the difference between that and vulnerability. Rebecca Barrett talked about how men complaining and crying literally drains women's attraction for their guy... so how much is too much?

I've always been the type to think, just as you said, if you want something go for it... And while I agree that women will find it attractive when we pursue, some still need to understand that most of the time when we don't, it's not that we're playing hard to get or anything... but what about when things are flipped? I'm not saying that women should be masculine about it, but if you want a guy, go after him. Lost a "friend" because of that, apparently she was into me, but expected me to start pursuing her when I wasn't attracted to her that way, she got mad at me for that and for not magically realizing she wanted be with me

3:50, so the "blaming men for everything" thing has been older than i thought... It's not like she couldn't have said no...women and accountability....

Masculine and feminine energy. Boom! This is the way. Yin and Yang.

What I do at work with a prospect is say “I just tried to reach you again. Per our lack of communication I will assume you no longer need my services at this time. If you need me in the future please save my contact information. Then insert all of my contact information.” This one actually works a lot and has won deals when people realize you’re actually moving on

I wasn’t highschool age, but I always dated older women. I’m 26 and when I was 20 I dated women 25-38. The idea someone younger has nothing to offer is very close minded. We would have great convos, financially I’m independent and can provide, I always take into account other people’s emotions and perspectives, to the best of my ability, etc. Someone younger may not be able to bring things to the table in the same way someone your own age can’t. but that doesn’t mean they can’t at all. Again I say this as the person that is typically younger and usually I’m the youngest guy women have dated (based on age difference). Many of my relationships ended amicably and maturely. People are individuals.

When I was 17, a 31 yr guy wanted to date me 🤮 ew! I don’t know that Dan guy but paying women to like you is hilariously embarrassing! 🤦🏽‍♀️😂

Always great to watch this woman as she’s a perfect example of why you never listen to women/female advice on intersexual dynamics.

If they do it with you, they'll do it to you. Very true.

I think that as long as the girl is of age it is okay for there to be a relatively large disparity between the age of a man and a woman especially considering that women are attracted to older men because it usually means they are better leaders and higher status than younger men.

@Courtney, the thing you said about guys being the first to message girls on social media, isn't it weird to send such messages to strangers? Also what if you're not on social media at all? Wouldn't you rather wait for an opportunity to come or a social situation to happen?

Best positive solution: STAY SIGNGLE!

Every guy pays a girl to hang out with them. I have never ever been on a date where a female grabs the bill. It might happen but it is rare.

“Why would a 24 year old want to date a 17-year-old in high school?“. How funny. Literally the age that my wife and I were when we started dating. Don’t get me wrong. I actually 100% agree with the statement years later. I think it’s weird too. I definitely think my wife was an exception. Incredibly grounded and mature for her age. (I may have been an exception also as I did NOT pursue her sexually. As Christians we both agreed that would wait until after we were married). 27 years and six kids later we’re still together and very happy.

I’m 21, but I still like girls who are a little older than me like 23, 24, or 25 or so

If someone is truly interested in you you can be as normal as you can in texting or talking. They won’t care.

The women who are always sitting around Dan in those social media pics are getting paid. Dan's company has been outed for spending thousands of dollars on modeling agencies in So Cal. Women do not hang out with Dan because they actually like him.

If a 30 year old is dating a high schooler....that's just creepy and may have to register as an offender.

"What is wrong with people?". That's the million dollar question.

Courtney, are men settling for women that have a past? With the exception of an abused woman (sexually not mentally) or a widow. This letter is referencing marriage, not dating.

High School girls dating guys in college was a normal thing back in the 50s and 60s but these days it comes off as strange and I can understand that.

I'm 28 & I Don't Want To Date A 14 Year Old Woman Which Doesn't Make Any Sense! A Grown Man Can Never Date A 14 Year Old Woman & That's Not A Real Date & That's A Bad Excuse.

Really hit the nail on the head with the take on Dan Bilzerian. While I do like the _idea_ of "treating oneself like they are their own celebrity," it's also not necessarily based in _reality_ and that's what's misleading about that concept. Sure we can have the "abundance mindset" and walk and talk like we're bigger than we are...but that only goes so far because of reality. In reality, not _everyone is_ a celebrity, and deep down, we know that we only make so-and-so amount of money and we're only so-and-so pounds and so-and-so feet tall. We know we can only project so much and we can't fake everything about our lives. Dan sets unrealistic expectations for men because he himself is rich famous and is able to pay for luxuries and women to hang out with him. That isn't everyone...and it _can't be_ everyone. That's not to sound super negative or anything, but it's to be honest with ourselves and other people because we can only fake so much and it's miles better and easier to just be ourselves and not some fake version of who we think we are.

if they do not meet you with the same Energy, Attention & Time that you are giving - Go E.A.T. somewhere else. Nuke the contact. Block, Unfollow, Unfriend, Mute, Hide, Unsubscribe. meh. There is *NOTHING* special about her - there are 3.5 other Billion girls ready to ignore you as well.

When I say I can't stand texting! I mean it!!!! I'm so glad I don't have Tick Tock

Dan has money so he CAN act like that. Regular men don't have FU money so obviously they shouldn't.

I think love matters, not the age...

Dan Bilzerian gives not only men a bad name, but humanity in general.

Even though it's the same person, glasses Courtney and contacts Courtney have different energy.

I have difficulty with talking to my wife properly too. It also goes the other way, women don't talk to men properly. Like what my mother-in-law says to both me and my wife, just keep our mouths shut. Attraction comes a lot of times when we say nothing. Our own mouths get us into a lot of problems.

Because they were once that age and that never leaves unless they give up on their inner child. Truth is, it's a beautiful thing. When your my age and a younger dude is attracted towards you, guaranteed you'll be flaterd and if you were single would be more open or receptive to the idea. Young Energy is healthy and vibrant and we all desire that livelineenes and impressionable connects. Great vid sweetheart.

LOVE the glasses !!!!!!!!!!!

This dude may be the most hated person in the military/veteran community. The lies and lifestyle are just an absolute shame and a disgrace

Jeremy Fragrance, awesome fragrance advice, abysmal moments sometimes. Lol.

I used to think a woman asking a man out was a testament to how much the guy impresses her. I had a woman once tell me she thinks we'd make a good couple, but unfortunately she wasn't my type.

It's another time of the year. One need to set goals and take bold steps in achieving them. Remember success is not obtained overnight. You just have to stop procrastinating and try what you have always wanted, to improve your life and wellbeing Investments will take you closer to that your dreams.

I get that we as men need to give women the space to be feminine but there’s a dynamic that I think is missing from that sort of conversation. Men don’t like or even know how to compete properly with women. We can compete with other men because there is an underlying threat of physicality and that keeps things in order. At the base root of it, when we compete with other men, we are competing with other “hunters”, other “providers”. I’m not saying this is all how it should be btw but when we compete with women we get kind of confused because women are simultaneously being the ones we’re trying to provide for/trying to show that we can provide and hunt for, and also they’re being the providers and hunters themselves. If a woman enters a relationship in a masculine frame, then she makes it so that we try to compete and provide for her at the same time which is impossible. We then try to bridge the two concepts and wind up providing her with things and getting out of her way which looks like subservience. Many women enter relationships in a masculine frame and expect the men to make room for them to be feminine. But, since the woman is competing, the man makes room for her in the only way he can but instead of becoming feminine, she becomes hyper masculine. Bottom line, men and women need to become masculine and feminine respectively outside of the relationship first and then they can come together properly within one. Ladies, if you want a leader, you have to be a follower. Gentlemen, if you want a follower, become a leader. Thanks for coming to my TEDTalk.

we need a video about how make friendships with girls in a friendly way . you're content is beautiful as you

Thanks for the content Courtney! We really appreciate you

Different people have their own traits that attract and repel others, the strategies that you use are going to determine the type of people that you attract. What works for one person may not work for another. There was a girl that I would regularly flirt with and she loved attention, but by not falling over to please her unlike the 100s of other guys that messaged her, I always had her attention and she would go after me. It wasn't a serious situation as I didn't see her as girlfriend material, but our interactions were mutually enjoyable.

Age has no limits on love it's hard to see it at times with people what happens age difference hopefully video Courtney Ryan 😊

Also, some people just don’t prioritize texting as much. I agree that if you are pursuing a relationship you should be attentive and engaged in the conversation, but also recognize that some people don’t like to text, so be willing to talk to them about your communication needs instead of just writing them off as a thot and engaging in all kinds of cognitive distortions like convincing yourself that she’s getting blown out by a bunch of other dudes.

I’m so glad you said guys need to pursue, I always prefer it that way anyway.

Jeremy's videos are so off the wall. He cracks me up. 😂😂

Dan Bilzerian being cringe? Never would've guessed

Y’all ever open a message and be like “how the f am I even supposed to reply to this?”

I think I've some explanation about question 'why older guys date younger girls?' and it's not all that strange as Courtney pictured it to my view. We live in 2022 and let's facet it, if a girl is somewhat attractive, smart, ambitious etc. that kind of girl is very quickly out of the dating market, and considering dating aps i might even say in a blink of an eye. So yeah, guys are trying to date them in their youth, moreover they don't have that super crazy (as some girls, yes i know not all of them) expectations, money, status, looks and are more of this 'schoolgirl friend' type, fun, just easy to hang out, trying to find first or one of their first love, and well IG put expectations sky high, all this luxury lifestyle, they aren't yet soaked by it and blinded. Many of them don't have tinder or other aps so yeah overall chance of finding good girl in high school let's say for a student are much much higer than on the university. And there's a negative aspect to it like really older guys dating a girls but well it's their choice, that eventuall turns out bad for them. And at the ending i've got some friends that were so focused on education, high grades, studies, work mainkg a good living and they missed it, missed the best part of beeing young, careless love in high school, escaping form lessons to go on a trip, hugging girlfriend on the campfire near the lake with their best pack of friends around them, partying when it's sth new and they try to taste it even a bit beeing with younger girl, and it's quite sad when you think about it :/

30 year old guys who date high schoolers do it because of they like the control. The guy decides what they do and where they go and while he'll often treat the high schooler like a princess, he's the one in the driver's seat in the relationship. Some guys find equality in relationships to be a turn off. ( and yes it's very cringy )

Thank you Courtny it’s nice to know you know what you’re doing. I’ve learned a lot from you even though I’ve been married for 30 years and my wife passed away recently unexpectedly. I’m going to start hitting the dating scene pretty soon so I’ve learned a lot from you. Thank you again

The duality of the universe cannot be ignored but human beings exist on a spectrum. Feminine men and masculine women have existed for a very long time, and they often find each other to form relationships. A feminine woman needs to avoid a feminine man for a partner just has a masculine man needs to avoid a masculine woman for a partner. This just creates conflict and eventually apathy. Know yourself and your natural energy. There is a difference between attraction and lust. Lust burns hot but it also burns out, where attraction endures. A masculine man will lust for a masculine woman because he is attracted to that part of her that is within himself just as she will for him. This would be fine if the relationship remained only sexual but becomes problematic when it tries to be more than that. This is also true for a feminine woman that has a sexual relationship with a feminine man. He will be a delicate considerate lover but lack that energy that will deeply excite and satisfy her and inevitably she will leave him for a masculine man or suffer the consequences. Never violate your natural energy. We are born predisposed with these energies, and they strongly influence our sexual energy. The feminine man and masculine woman is evolutions answer to creating complexity so human beings become more than just instinctual creatures.

Regarding men "don't know how to talk to their spouse.", It's not all on the men. Both sides need to make the effort to communicate. Primarily, active listening. If a spouse is hyper critical or makes everything about themselves, the other partner might not want to "talk" much with their spouse.

I don’t think he pays the girls but he does pay party promoters

So refreshing to hear Courtney acknowledge the fact that men complaining, or simply just discussing their experiences leads to them getting roasted by society. Assigning honesty as a weakness to only one gender is not an accurate acknowledgement of mens personality flaws, but it is rather a societal flaw. Shame.

Hello and thank you for your great content. Regarding the 24 year old dudes trying to date highschoolers I can give you a very simple answer: Guys want a girlfriend for the following purpose: A female human who treats them with care and love. (age doesn't matter as long as you are a grown woman and yes someone turning 18 is a grown woman, mentally and physically) Many highschoolers are actually more mature than older girls.

Feminine should equal masculine. You want 80% feminine? You better be 80% masculine.

Another great video, love your dedication 🙂

Women and men are not different at all and women don't need as much emotional intimacy as they say. Why? Because the average woman has a much higher body count than the average man and also more experience with 3 somes, multiple affairs and even real nasty stuff as well. No need for security at all

Courtney you give great advice thanks 👍

He looks a little like Simon cowell from American idol with a beard

Goodness that background noise when speeded up, kept making me think my daughter's phone was "ringing".

True Story: I was 17 I just signed my contract with the Navy and I'm approached by a 26 year old Army Ranger. Did I start dating this 26 year old man? Yes my Stupid self did AND HE WAS CRAZY! He thought it was funny to pretend to kidnap me, put me in a trunk and drove off with me in the trunk and until we got to his apartment and that started laughing like a hyena when he saw how traumatized I was and crying and he was like, "Relax it was just a joke"! Then 3 days later he screws my friend (she was 18) and then gets her to put him in a hotel for a month because he couldn't pay his rent and did yo know that heifer said I stole her cc and put him up in the hotel? So yeah it's weird and it shows something is wrong with the person who is older. That dude that doesn't do DM's . My, he thinks highly of himself. Especially since he pays for company. Which is fine by me, but don't walk around like King Cock of the walk when it's not true. marriage counselor is spot on! You know what I think it's really sad that girls and women are celebrating being home wreckers. Why is that something to be proud of. Get your own man. What is lacking in your self-esteem that you are going to behave in such a low vibration. The other lady had it right. Ohmylanta, I watch the perfume guy a lot. WHY?! Why is he putting that out there?!

Courtney is adorable when she gets triggered but has to hold back because the cam is pointing at her. Kudos for being able to articulate during those little moments though. That's not an easy thing to do.

But be careful on the "talking to your wife or girlfriend" advice. Sure, you need to talk but don't talk too much and you can't talk such that your wife or girlfriend will just start to consider you another girlfriend which means she will be less attracted to you. A certain degree of emotional unavailability is good and can raise a woman's interest level.

The thing about men past high school looking for girls in high school is one instance where "age is nothing but a number" doesn't fly. Got that, R. Kelly?

Sometimes the juice isn't worth the sqeeze!... I'd rather be single, alone ,and content than be totally miserable with the " wrong" person!.... Life is meant to be lived and not endured!

2:13 that's my mood And 5:34 too 😂

I think most reasonable People would agree with Courtney when it comes to grown men dating High School girls and the fact that it has been normalized in our culture in some ways is even more disturbing

Re: 30 yr old guys dating 17 year old girls. I'm a high school teacher and I don't see it either. Sure, they may look cute, but they're still kids--their mental/emotional maturity level isn't there yet. That 30/17 spread would be gross in the power imbalance and also the two of them wouldn't be able to connect intellectually/emotionally. It'd be a very shallow relationship.

What business does a 30 year old have with someone who still has to ask their parents for permission to go to a party? It’s weird.

That guy who likes being single with a bunch of girls on Instagram. Leave the girls alone. Put time and $$$ into cleaning and fixing your home, buy new clothes, and apply for jobs. You may take some technical college classes, spend time working on polishing your resume, and make your bed and wash your dishes. Prioritize

Women always shame men that are players and insist you should be a niceguy and go on endless foodie dates