Mum needs to be prepared to say one day " it's ok to go " I had to do that and even though it was the hardest thing I had to say and didn't want her to go, I said those words and said "we will be ok" she went 10 minutes later. She needed to hear those words before she could start her next journey.
As sad as it is, you are correct. I worked other end(seniors) and quite often families had to tell their parents the same thing, with the same result. Thank you for having the courage to give that gift.
I told my mom that she needs to go on that me and my sister will be just fine. We both have our own families and my mom passed away right after I told her that. My father inlaw I told him that granny would be taken care of we called our mother inlaw granny. I whispered in his ear and even though he was bout gone i know I heard him say OK and he drew his last breath. I’ve said that to a couple people and kept my word till they passed on.
My mom had adopted a little baby before i was born and she said he had a organ weakening issue. As much as she wanted him to live she said she'd rather let him go rather than have him suffer. It's been over 25 years when this happened and even I'm 22. She still is heart broken about it but she said as soon she told him "bubba if you're hurting you can go. If you cam fight this then stay" mom said he made a little sound, looked at her with wide open eyes after a long time being sick and finally let a breath out and just calmly passed. I've not met him or seen him but It's my big brother and even I'd want him to be comfortable and healthy
Martk's horrible ordeal broke my heart. I can't imagine having your life brought to a halt at such a young age. His mother is the picture of theperfect mother, the love she professes for her son is of unmeasurable proportions. I ended up in tears at the end, when Mark was finaly back at home. I wish the new technology and advances in medicine could bring a ray of hope to these beautiful people who are living a situation no one should. My best wishes and love to mark, his mother, and all those who love this brave and corageous young man.
@@MF2_ETaube Well, it was brought on by the bash to his head and MS is more aggressive when the person gets it when they are young, in their 40s+ and/or male. He has 2 out of 3 points against him.
Back when I became a type one diabetic in 71 I was nine years old and the hospital room that I was in were three other girls two of which had cancer. The youngest was five years old. The next one was nine years old. At this age, they didn’t even know what living was. Brenda the nine-year-old passed away three months later and Marlene. We never found out what happened to her. To me that’s too young. We think of everyone getting old and dying, but when you have babies for being diagnosed at three months old with cancer, those are the ones that are too young to have a monster like that growing in them. I’m not saying Mark isn’t young, but in my experience, I saw young that have died.
As someone with MS for over a decade, this was a hard one to watch. I was septic from a uti before I was diagnosed and I didn’t realize how bad it could have been. It’s not the MS that kills you. It’s the infections or cancer.
MS is a nervous system issue, where in the immune system attacks the nervous system as a virus. This causes many problems when the brain can not communicate with the body.
@@annieconway8998my daughter got diagnosed with MS at 12 on Mother’s Day 😢. She’s 21 now, just about to finish collage but it has taken a toll on her health. She’s a brave, courageous young woman
Agree. He’s likely homeless due to pushing back against cultural expectations. He’s a well spoken, polite, young boy not a trouble maker. He needs urgent help to make it. A lovely boy in likely difficult circumstances.
I love the 3 bingo ladies. As a teenager, I worked a lot of bingos as a caller. I recon sitting in the cigarette smoke for hours at a time took a few years off my life, but some of the grannies were a right laugh!
Feel so bad for the mom . It’s hard when you know your son will die . You care for them , never an arms length away . To me it was like my arm was cut off . After barely getting a shower before you child need suctioning to never having them there is very hard . I know he’s in a better place . But it’s still hard . Like people say you shouldn’t have to bury your children
Big hearted Laura. I worked for many years with homeless young people. Also spent years with the elderly. Jen, you are a sweetheart with those senior citizens. That homeless boy makes my heart hurt. It’s horrible,isn’t it? Children deserve a home; a loving home. We all do. We all need to be hugged and loved. You continue being a softie, Laura.
The discussion of Marks treatment in my view should have been discussed with mum and family in a seperate room not at Marks bedside he was unable to verbalise and very sick. That really upset me even after 45 years nursing
I felt so bad for the mom. I wish the nurse would’ve waited until the husband or daughter was there when she came to talk to her about the no resuscitation order. It would’ve been nice to have had one of them there with her when she’s hearing that her son could die soon, very soon. I know the nurse was only doing her job, but I just felt they could’ve waited until the husband or daughter was there with her. Then Jen goes in and be the support that she really needed at that point and you can see Jen had great empathy for her. Then the homeless young man there’s one thing I can’t stand to see is the young people being homeless. In high school my son brought a friend home and the friend was having trouble at home and he had been sleeping under a bridge and so I said he could stay with us and he did for a couple of weeks and then his family informed him that they were moving to Toronto so he moved to Toronto with them. He ended up married and back here in Victoria BC. He was a good kid, but you see can’t rely on the family and so where do you go? To live under a bridge? That’s good and healthy. You can’t do it for everyone, but if you could do it for one person, it helps them a great deal in life later on as that young man who is now 40 years old, has said to my son. I hope the young man in this video was able to find a place that was safe because I on the streets of London it’s not safe. Not safe anywhere really but I think Lund does have the record for being quite rough with gangs and just being rowdy and they’ve been like that since the beginning of time. it’s a rough element.
We all get a chance the living, we all have choices to make and challenges that we face. We do not all get support or love, some get pain and hurt. Mark is not poor, Mark has family and Mark is loved.
Agree wholeheartedly. The only consolation is that he has such an outstanding mum, one who unconditionally loves & supports him through his darkest hours. She’s an exceptional mum & he’s an incredibly courageous young man
@@kathycannon4805 We need to stop with the false belief that drug users are all trauma victims. I know MANY, MANY addicts who had great, loving families, economic stability, a wonderful childhood, etc, and started using drugs either because they were bored and wanted to try something "fun", or because their friends were doing it and they wanted to be "cool".
What the heck is wrong with that nurse talking about poor Mark dying in front of him and to tell a vunerable patient that if your heart stops that it is better not to be resuscitated is so very cruel beyond words. That heartless nurse should not be practicing medicine !!!! Marks strength & fighting spirit proved her compl wrong
I loved whatching them as well. I loved this episode because for once it was friends that are the social background and not family like it is for me, as my birth family was abusive. It hurts always whatching the close and supportive families and feeling like I'm the only person in this position not having family. I consider myself lucky having such close friends as my chosen familiy, but it's still hard sometimes that it's not the normal way in our society.
Love is proved in the letting go. It's extremely difficult, but sometimes you just need to end your loved1s suffering, by letting them go. They're paying the price for you holding on.
My mom was also addicted to bingo, and I could not believe one of the ladies name was Jean. Same as my mom, may she rest in peace. And hopefully she is playing bingo in heaven!
I’ve just realised I’ve got a uti , I just hope I don’t become septic this time. I did last summer, and it was touch and go. These series sometimes remind me of this. I’m happy that I know my own body., and that the hospital is less than a mile away.😌😊
Those “conversations “ should not be in front of Mark. Ask Mom if they should talk in front of her son. It’s a terribly sad thing to have to “let go” of a loved one. It’s hurts so.
The gentleman has Primary Progressive MS. Thank God it is rare. I watched my aunt die from it. I started with relapsing/remitting MS, but have now moved into secondary progressive MS. I have never heard of anyone getting MS from head trauma. It's an autoimmune disease. Relapsing-remitting MS (RRMS) Symptoms come in the form of attacks, and some people with RRMS may have a very mild form of the disease with long periods of no symptoms. Without treatment, 50% of people with RRMS will develop secondary progressive MS (SPMS) within 10 years, and 90% will develop SPMS within 25 years. Secondary progressive MS (SPMS) People with SPMS usually have a history of MS attacks, but then develop gradual symptoms and deterioration over time. SPMS can be difficult to treat, and symptoms worsen at different rates for each person. Primary progressive MS (PPMS) This less common type of MS is characterized by steadily worsening symptoms from the beginning, with no noticeable relapses or exacerbations. However, there may be temporary or minor relief from symptoms.
I really wish RU-vid would not allow the provocative profile pictures...... especially when multiple "accounts" are being created using the images repeatedly. Not to mention when you check to see what is on "their" page are links to websites that for lack of better term are NSFW (not safe for work).
You can install the extension called unhook, and turn off profile picture all together available on firefox and all chromium based browsers and on firefox on android.
People with just a cut finger or a cold that go to hospital in the UK. What do you expect with hours at the A&E hours long waiting! when people who really need help are also waiting for hours?!. In The Netherlands we have to call out of hours General practice center, & they give advice if needed to go to hospital. They also treat you with wounds or a cold. Don’t understand how the English work with just a cut finger and they go to the A&E please. So many people who are nearly dying waiting at hospitals because of people with just a small cut or flu or drunk
That doctor is deciding about the type of intervention for Mark. How cold, unprofessional, and unethical for her to tell the family what she thinks. She did not for once ASK the family or the patients for their input, his wishes. Never allow this to happen to you or your family. That doctor was devoid of any compassion. She didn’t discuss risks, benefits, the logic behind her opinion.
One it was a condensed version of what was talked about between them and two I feel like the Dr. Decided what was going to be the most humane thing IF things had progressed to his organs shutting down due to sepsis and MS. No one wants to see their loved one live on life support and possibly be suffering. The main reason it happens in the US is hospital’s and insurance companies get bigger payouts
What an absolutely wild comment. All you know about that interaction is that short clip they showed. No medical professional should lie or sugarcoat anything in such critical situations as that one could have lead to.
It's hard to know everything that was discussed by just one clip.. but I think in America/Canada they have to perform all life saving measures if the person/family requests it. It's not always the most humane thing to do, and in that case it's nice for a doctor to be able to explain gently to the family why not resuscitating might be the better option. Editing to add: Jen explains it pretty well in the next segment. :)
In The Netherlands we have no NHS we pay around €200 a month from 18 also from are taxes. We first have to go to out of hours surgery’s Dr’s and they decide if we need to go to hospital. Unless of course you have an heart attack then you call 112. That is why the UK if full of people who just cut there finger or a cold.
I always wonder how old these videos are since I don’t see forehead scans or ear probe temperatures. Also I wonder if the young MS patient has been screened for dysphagia.
First of all, Americans have to learn how to make it. One does not pop a bag into a mug and pour mere hot water over it. Neither does one provide a cup and a little teapot of mere hot water with a teabag on the side, which the victim is required to put into said pot. On my first visit to the U.S. I vowed never to order tea again. It was not tea as most people would understand the word.
In The Netherlands we pay healthcare every month from 18 also on top of that work taxes. I pay €200 a month also on top of that all risk €385 also out of your own pocket. Maybe the UK need to do do something about this.
I’m not bragging here by no means but I consider myself tough as the best of them but I’ve got a soft spot for people in the shape these poor people are. I probably couldn’t stop shedding a tear for them if need be. Praying for them all Amen 🙏
I didn't think nurses would say what that nurse said straight out to Mark :-( His heart was ok, so why did she say that to him and in front of the poor Mum :-(
everyone that moans and groans about petty things in life should really watch, or if at all possible volunteer some time with unwell or injured people or even animals, it is a very humbling experience. does anyone know anything about Banijay Bluelight? just curious.
@@Charley7771 his parents may have been dirt poor. It's confusing for a child to find themselves suddenly in danger, without a safety net, in an adult world they do not understand - particularily if parental rejection has convinced them that they are worthless
