Theres nothing wrong with asking if someone is clean. Why is this a thing people get offended by now. Sorry but im not going to sleep with anyone whos infected with HIV. Yeah i know you can do it safely but your not a horrible person if youd rather not take the chance
Who you choose to sleep with is your prerogative, but I would suggest changing how you ask the question? Asking if someone is "clean" makes it seem as if an HIV-positive person should be considered dirty or rotten. People from all walks of life either have or are susceptible to STD infections, so it would be naive and unfairly stereotypical to assume HIV only affects carelessly promiscuous gay men.
I’m just straight-up honest and get to the point when I reject people, I’m super-picky. If that makes me rude and come off like a douche, then so be it! 🤷🏻♂️
That's a great. But it's also good practice to deliver our honesty politely and treat others with the kindness we would want. I personally struggle with that balance, sometimes I'm either too blunt or too lenient. LOL.
@@tatabanyan "Your list of 'no's" is too long for me, so I'm sorry, but I'm not interested." That was in response to a guy who was very specific about what his type WASN'T. The implication is that we're not allowed to have specific types that we're attracted to and we're required to encourage anybody and everybody who tries to connect with us whether we're actually physically attracted to him or not. And that's just not how physical attraction works. What possible good can come from not being upfront about what we like and what we don't?
@@legaleagle46 I think he was trying to say to be open to all kinds of guys regardless of race or age considering that the guy he mentioned out right decides that he will never be with blacks, Asians, or older guys. I'm not saying it's wrong to have a preference, but to completely disregard a person because of their race or age is.
@@joseraph But why would I waste my time with a man that I'm simply not attracted to and never will be? Leading him on like that is not fair to me OR to him. Look, it's no more wrong to disregard someone whom you know up front isn't going to be a good match because you're just not hard-wired to be attracted to his type than it is sexist for ANY gay man to disregard women because he's not hard-wired to be attracted to them. I know what I like and what I don't like, and I'm not going to apologize for liking what I like and not wasting time with what I don't. Life is far too short for that.
So sad this is even necessary. Why did good manners, courtesy and consideration for others disappear? People treat others particularly on line, as if they were a commodity? Something to be bought in the supermarket. Do you do that to your family, parents, friends...... if the answer is no.... don’t do it to strangers just because they are anonymous.
Unfortunately that is the result of the virtual communication era that we live in. The senses that we use to create bonds between each other are not there when we text or SnapChat so the result is that we treat each other like objects. Fortunately, for most people, manners are not lost through use of online communication.
Kindness sounds easy, but it's harder to practice than it seems. One can either be too blunt, too permissive, or ghost/block people when you don't know how to handle the situation. I especially struggled when I hit it off with a guy I initially found attractive, and after a long chat or a date I changed my mind for whatever reason, but would end up in awkward situations that could have been avoided if I had handled the situation better.
