Hey guys, if you want more tips & tactics around people skills and emotional intelligence, Vanessa has a great class on negotiation coming up. RSVP and watch for free tomorrow 9AM. cr8.lv/2oQyqqZ
I really appreciate the fact that she used to be insanely shy and has taught herself how to overcome that social barrier, when it often becomes an identity - speaking as a self-described "shy" person!
I had to comment, and correct, the emotion on Botox comment. I have a high forehead that scrunches to deep furrows, and the "11" above the bridge of my nose. This crinkle makes me look pissed off, harsh, and hard to approach. Looking to move up to a senior position at work I decided to try Botox as an experiment to see how a softening might improve my interactions. So doc poke-poke-poke in just those problem areas, allowing ability to still express emotion with raised eyebrows. Loved the results! Over the next couple days as the treatment settled in there was a noticible change. People were approach me more, often asked if I had gotten a haircut, or did make up diff, new sweater, etc....? They couldn't quite place what had changed but all interactions seemed to feel more positive, ending with a smile for both me and my friend or coworker. I bought a book about Botox and emotions (Didn't get to read it all as I gave it to my oral surgeon who did the Botox, on my follow up when he showed interest and had not read the book.) One thing I took from those couple chapters, and felt very much in my own life, was how Botox easing the tension of all those facial muscles improved my mood, left me with more energy, and fewer dull headache at end of the workday. Removing the stress & tension in the muscles blocked that feedback loop. I also felt happier knowing my expression on the outside matched more of how I felt on the inside. This also makes Botox an effective treatment for migraines, and increasing use for treating depression. Botox isnt just for rich old woment trying to look younger by voiding expression. 😑 Less is more.
She has a matrix for people...I extremely love math and now she's my new favorite person! Overall, this interview provided so much insight into the human mind. Thank you Chase!
Do more videos together, you guys have a really good connection!! Watching both of you made me desire to have such a positive, and natural relationship with that kind of respect, building each other up, while also having so much fun 😄
I thought by using almost a military style kind of management is best. I am direct and inpatient. I like order and to have everything planned out . But that did not get any one motivated , it’s just work but I found that they don’t have heart . Thank you for your sharing . Absolutely eye opening
Love Vanessa, love Chase and Creative Live--what a terrific combo! Thank you, Vanessa for sharing some of your personal journey with us. You're an inspiration!
I can associate with the conclusions Vanessa brings to the table regarding how each os us chooses their careers or areas of interest. Very enlightening! Great interview!
My favourite of your videos to date. I hadn't realised I was holding the phone over my face in bed for over an hour. I was remembering times when I've given and received different micro expressions, etc. Pre ordering her book now!
Chase, this is probably my favourite episode so far on your podcast. I have gone through and replayed thrice. So much knowledge! I had to then listen to Vanessa on 2 other podcasts haha. Keep up the great work man
I didn't know who Vanessa was before this but loved this podcast. She's super likable and I feel like I want to be friends with her now (and of course Chase, I want to be friends with you too). Going off to find more of her content to keep consuming, thanks Vanessa and Chase!
Vanessa, extremely helpful...packed with practices to communicate, negotiate. Thank you! And Chase Jarvis, appreciate you bringing fascinating guests! Thank you!
Oh my goodness, this is by far one of my favorite interviews!!! Sooo much information, I could've listen to this conversation for hours. Loved all the tips and tactics shared! Thank you Vanessa and Chase for this interview.
Captivate is a great read! I bought the audio and the book. Now I'm listening to it for the second time. Great and useful information. Love this interview!
THANK YOU! I am getting so much delicious value from this talk! I am aiming to continue to improve my listening and pattern recognition skills be great at communicating in any context.
There are so many strings that are connected between us.I almost feel I know the content of your book even without reading it.Its crazy!I mean lie to me got me excited on the same level!Biomimcry of perfection.Taking pride being an introvert is my take away.The fact that you fear being on stage and have overcome it by practice is incredible.Thanks.
I believe in being around things and people who energize you too! I got away from toxic people a few years ago and WOW! WHAT A DIFFERENCE! I have so much more energy and joy and creativity and love!! Great stuff guys!!
Preorderd the book halfway through this interview...Watched Vanessa's CreativeLive class a couple years ago and loved it. Looking forward to the next class!
Once again, amazing interview of an amazing woman. Can you imagine one day put some subtitles on your big interviews ? I'd love to. help me get a bit more the details. Tks anyway for CreativeLive. Damien
Chase! It was great meeting you at Summit of Greatness with my boy, Lewis!! I was volunteering. Liberty Justice, I met you and your lovely wife with my sweet lady Jasmine Star! y'all ROCK! Hey, we need Vanessa at the next Summit don't ya think??
Hey Vanessa you clearly have those complimenting skills I lack. I am more the thinker, innovator, Inventor type, and not particularly abundant with energy for networking and promoting my ideas. I have enough business ideas to make me a billionaire if only I could break free from a life of no capital and get the ball rolling, it would be a lot easier once I get to a point where I have a team to complete the toolbox I need, In a matter of speaking. At the moment I am feeling the step I need to pursue now, is finding that one charismatic sales person type. Now if you, or anyone you know can just help me on my way to this success I would reward you handsomely for making my dreams come true. And of course I can't leave out that all of these are providing for a need, so it benefits the whole world. I'm only 31 now, and if this can happen for me, I believe I could drastically alter and improve the world for the good. People and the planet.
Thanks for all the value Chase, I've got a question for you - what's the best way to grow a blog? I'm adding a podcast soon and collaborating with others but wanted some of your suggestions. Thanks again!
Thanks for the forum. This episode is very enlightening. I feel like if Vanessa wasn't interrupted as much, more info might have come through. (I think the banter might've been distracting - not always - but early on in the interview) No offense intended at all - just some feedback from an only child too :) Again, thanks for the amazing forum.
OMG this is fantastic stuff. There is hope for all of us :-) I live in Italy where hand gestures are king and have often chided my friends about this - but now... all changed!! Thanks Chase and Vanessa. I will def pick up this book.
Chase, love Vanessa, tons of great information. a lot of the Paul Ekman research on universal emotion is now considered outdated. I would love to see you bring on Lisa Feldman Barrett to talk about the new theory of constructed emotion.
Amazing content. So many useful tips with great examples. Vanessa's charisma is so engaging, it's hard to understand how she was once Socially awkward but great to know how people can change with this knowledge and social / communication skills.
I really liked this video! I wish english was my first language so I could explain why :) I have read the book and I loved it and I want to Level my social skills UP! Thanks Chase
Vanessa, thank you for for sharing. It sounds as though you may be interested in a tool called Human Design. I am not designed to meet people randomly. I meet people through my network only. The reason being, I only trust people in my network. I am designed to be in a safe environment. Those people in my network, understand who I am. It has changed my life and the way I operate in the world.
First, thanks so much Chase you are spoiling us. I'm really interested about that hand gesture theory cause most of the time I listen Ted Talks or Chase Jarvis Live more than I watch it, do you think the personality of people with easy hand gesture also resonate in the voice? Does it have something to do with a more active/alive attitude? I would be curious to see the results of a research on the same videos but with the audio only 😃
This discussion on emotional intelligence is fascinating! Hearing how mirroring is the pathway to empathy = mind blown. Thank you for sharing +Chase Jarvis!
I have this verbal communication, I mean I can't think/respond really fast. Sometimes I can't explain things precisely without good preparation. Also sometimes I don't pick up the right word (not precise) when explaining things, I know it is there in my memory but I can't find it, and this could be "fatal" in verbal communication which in many cases needs fast response. My written communication is way better. It's really frustrating, any idea how to solve this?
Body language is super important. Don't rush/jump into conclusion over one reaction. Look for a pattern. We know how one reacted in this exact moment, we don't know what he was thinking about, or what was that random thought. The average brain process over 10,000 thoughts per day. Brains with higher 'rate' thinks way more.