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Becoming Trauma Informed Changed My Life | Carla Carlisle | TEDxCharlotte 

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@billconconi3996
@billconconi3996 2 года назад
There is so much courage and vulnerability in this woman, it can't be easy to relive those events, especially in front of a room full of strangers. Thank you for sharing your story.
@carlacarlisle1946
@carlacarlisle1946 2 года назад
Bill, thank you so much for your kind words. I love him so very much. Being his mom has changed my life in such a beautiful way.
@cabbagedavidge
@cabbagedavidge 2 года назад
The messed up so called 'care' system nearly ruined this wonderful woman's life, and nearly cost the life of a child. This idea that a child is best off with their parents no matter what is just so short sighted and dangerous.
@mindfulmeditationsforall
@mindfulmeditationsforall 2 года назад
Growing up, my neighbour was a foster parent and I spent a lot of time at her house and with her family. It was always so sad when the little ones, some as young as 18months old, would come back from a 2 or 3 days visitation with their family and do things like try and hoard food in their bedrooms or under couches, become exceedingly attached and clingy or even withdraw and stop. They would pick up after a few days back with my neighbour but either weekly or fortnightly they would go through it all again. While having some connection with birth parents can be important, the trauma they were reliving was clear. Surely there is a better way for these kids to build connections with their birth family while making sure their long-term mental well being is supported?
@carlacarlisle1946
@carlacarlisle1946 2 года назад
I’ve seen it as well. You have a unique perspective that most people don’t see. It is such a difficult balance. I know reunification is the goal when a child is taken from their parents. Unfortunately, the support and services the parents require isn’t always made available or accepted. This is something that must change. I support reunification when the child is safe and the parents accept and receive the support and services they require. Thank you for your comment.
@athinibiza
@athinibiza 2 месяца назад
So much admiration and respect I honor you beautiful soul Thank you for being such an inspiration and sharing your epic journey So happy for what you have achieved ❤🥰✨
@kendrasroom
@kendrasroom 2 года назад
How I wish more children had someone to advocate like this for them.
@carlacarlisle1946
@carlacarlisle1946 2 года назад
That’s my goal! 💚
@kendrasroom
@kendrasroom 2 года назад
@@carlacarlisle1946 You deserve to reach it!
@carlacarlisle1946
@carlacarlisle1946 2 года назад
@@kendrasroom Thank you so very much. It really does take a village.
@valarchavez
@valarchavez 2 года назад
This is such a rollercoaster of a story, I'm so glad this woman and her son were finally able to make a loving and safe home for each other.
@carlacarlisle1946
@carlacarlisle1946 2 года назад
Thank you so much!
@SteveO-f5v
@SteveO-f5v Месяц назад
If shes going to through out statistics, she should be referencing the source. Otherwise, they're meaningless.
@alisabae3226
@alisabae3226 3 года назад
Being the advocate for another person is unfortunately a hard uphill battle. But it can sometimes be the only light in that person's life. Carla, you have done something so incredibly special. We may never know all the ways in which you have improved the world. Thank you!
@carlacarlisle1946
@carlacarlisle1946 3 года назад
Thank you! It’s been an honor!!!
@themarybasse
@themarybasse 2 года назад
This needs to be seen way more. Her experience in the adoption system is much more common that anyone tells us. Thankfully there are people like Carla!
@carlacarlisle1946
@carlacarlisle1946 2 года назад
Mary - thank you! I believe a broader audience will shine the light on the impact of trauma on our children. First comes awareness. Thank you for watching and commenting. 💚
@privateperson5769
@privateperson5769 Год назад
He is not your son. He is her son. You are his long term caregiver.
@valeriedijkstra
@valeriedijkstra 2 года назад
It is so sad she had to fight so hard for her son. If the system was better, he would never have gone back in the first place. The way the system is set up only sets individuals and families up for failure :(
@carlacarlisle1946
@carlacarlisle1946 2 года назад
While our journey was a hard one, I’m thankful that the system is getting educated about trauma and it’s impact. Thank you for taking the time to comment. I appreciate it!
@fannybottom
@fannybottom 2 года назад
I don't think people who haven't been through something like this understand the full impact that physical violence can have on someone.
@carlacarlisle1946
@carlacarlisle1946 2 года назад
I am hoping our story helps provide a window into intergenerational trauma and the impact of physical and mental abuse & neglect. Thanks for your comment.
@rudygoofysrh
@rudygoofysrh Год назад
This was an awesome presentation. I’m happy for dealing with my ACE’s in life and business. It’s making a great deal in my life. We must do the internal work to be our best self.
@Beloved42822
@Beloved42822 Год назад
Happy for you. God bless !
@pjj0805
@pjj0805 3 года назад
Beauty from ashes!
@phillipnorris3rd
@phillipnorris3rd 2 года назад
My BF took his life at 23, I still can't get over it.
@carlacarlisle1946
@carlacarlisle1946 2 года назад
I’m so very sorry for your loss. I hope you’re doing what you need to take care of yourself. Therapy does help.
@phillipnorris3rd
@phillipnorris3rd 2 года назад
@@carlacarlisle1946 Thanks Carla, I am talking more to other people who seem depressed, I am trying to give them an ear that will listen.
@carlacarlisle1946
@carlacarlisle1946 2 года назад
@@phillipnorris3rd consider trying out for a TEDx talk. It is an amazing experience and can get your message out to the masses.
@phillipnorris3rd
@phillipnorris3rd 2 года назад
@@carlacarlisle1946 to raw for a stage for me
@xhdkdjxbfnnsnd8481
@xhdkdjxbfnnsnd8481 2 года назад
Eo P
@Iamshawnawashington
@Iamshawnawashington 2 года назад
Understanding of Trauma (both big ‘T’ and little ‘t’) is becoming so much more available and I am so glad that this conversation and understanding is growing. Thank you for your talk.
@carlacarlisle1946
@carlacarlisle1946 2 года назад
Thank you for watching and helping to spread the word about the impact of trauma.
@6misslyss
@6misslyss 2 года назад
The clarity and conversation is really helping people move forward now
@ValerieAlbarda
@ValerieAlbarda 3 года назад
What a great message, Carla. You've opened up and laid yourself bare, and brought an important message to the masses. Wonderful.
@carlacarlisle1946
@carlacarlisle1946 3 года назад
Thank you so much!
@sashapetrovic1678
@sashapetrovic1678 2 года назад
The terrible part about this, is that her case is not the exception. I have met and heard of so many foster carers and adopting parents who go through this with the birth parents who are bad. Thank god for her!
@carlacarlisle1946
@carlacarlisle1946 2 года назад
I am glad you see that this one story is not unique. Unfortunately intergenerational trauma without intervention and support perpetuates this kind of pain. That’s one reason why advocacy is so critical. It can help break the cycle.
@pnw6324
@pnw6324 Год назад
I hate how people spread both mother hate. Stop it. Most mothers do not do this.
@melrobertsreal
@melrobertsreal 2 года назад
Yes absolutely we have to talk about this stuff to normalise it! So much of the work around dealing with trauma is getting over your own feelings of guilt and shame. But when we start to talk about it and realise those are normal feelings we start to blame ourselves less and that creates opportunities for healing.
@carlacarlisle4366
@carlacarlisle4366 2 года назад
Well said. So many people suffer in silence alone! We are in this together.
@michealdrozd
@michealdrozd 2 года назад
There are studies about how the mothers behaviours affect the child while in the womb, how trauma is inherited that way as well. This poor child is such a survivor and I really admire how hard this woman worked for him to get through it all.
@carlacarlisle1946
@carlacarlisle1946 2 года назад
Thank you for your kindness.
@iamacatslave
@iamacatslave 2 года назад
What a powerful and incredible woman. Thank you for sharing your story so openly and vulnerability.
@carlacarlisle1946
@carlacarlisle1946 2 года назад
Thank you for watching. 💚
@larindabattle8659
@larindabattle8659 3 года назад
Im in tears Carla! You are amazing! What a powerful story!
@carlacarlisle4366
@carlacarlisle4366 3 года назад
Thank you so much. It was therapeutic to share and I hope it helps others!
@emmasmythe
@emmasmythe 2 года назад
What a good woman and a great mom I am sure.
@carlacarlisle1946
@carlacarlisle1946 2 года назад
Thank you!
@arlinegeorge6967
@arlinegeorge6967 3 года назад
Great talk. Thank you, bless you. All your dreams come true.
@carlacarlisle1946
@carlacarlisle1946 3 года назад
Thank you Arline. God bless you. This has been the biggest test leading to my testimony. God is good!
@jackstanger
@jackstanger 2 года назад
This gift you gave to your son is so beautiful.
@carlacarlisle1946
@carlacarlisle1946 2 года назад
Thank you for making me smile. Being his mom is my greatest gift. 💚
@tinabina808
@tinabina808 Год назад
Working with families has taught me that all family members are impacted by trauma. The actions of parents are very likely informed by trauma they experienced as a child too. We are all children before we become parents. I recommend learning more about Ghosts in the Nursery. "Only when the mother's cries are heard, will she hear her child's cries." -Selma Fraiberg
@misssquizza5616
@misssquizza5616 Год назад
Beautiful lady! As a mum with 2 kids and an abusive ex husband we are working though trauma. Its not easy. Thank goodness we have God!
@sharonhaynes5113
@sharonhaynes5113 3 месяца назад
The power of persistence and determination is what I appreciate. She fought for freedom for her son and utilized trauma informed therapy and tools while in the battle.
@avabedden8706
@avabedden8706 3 года назад
Incredible! What a story 💜
@carlacarlisle1946
@carlacarlisle1946 2 года назад
Thank you for watching! I appreciate you.
@khloetaylor1674
@khloetaylor1674 2 года назад
That poor boy. He is blessed that you gave all you could and fought for him. So few children have anything like this and fall through the cracks. My heart breaks for this reality.
@carlacarlisle1946
@carlacarlisle1946 2 года назад
It is overwhelming to think about sometime. That’s why I wanted to share our story. How many more children are in need of a loving advocate? I believe we can make a difference - probably in a smarter way than I sis. 💚 Thank you for watching and commenting.
@khloetaylor1674
@khloetaylor1674 2 года назад
@@carlacarlisle1946 it moved me, thank you.
@hischosenoutreachministrie2328
@hischosenoutreachministrie2328 2 года назад
Becoming trauma informed changed my life as well. Thank you for sharing your testimony. May God continue to richly bless you Carla and JC.
@nancyhagan7553
@nancyhagan7553 Год назад
thank you your son will never forget your fight for him your love and kindness God reward you and i am so glad you never gave up on Jessie
@dariasotnykova
@dariasotnykova 2 года назад
This opening. I just felt so much.
@carlacarlisle1946
@carlacarlisle1946 2 года назад
Oh thank you so much! That was the intent - to grab your attention and drive the point home. I appreciate you!
@bernadebtjoy
@bernadebtjoy 3 года назад
I love this so much
@carlacarlisle1946
@carlacarlisle1946 2 года назад
Thank you Bernadette. What a labor of love. I hope you walked away feeling more informed about trauma and resilience. 💚
@timebeingfarm8880
@timebeingfarm8880 2 года назад
Calling the mother of a child their "birth mom" and calling yourself that child's mother, is traumatizing to the mother of the child. You've learned nothing.
@racheal2036
@racheal2036 9 месяцев назад
It could be triggering and upsetting for the mother.
@namedrop721
@namedrop721 8 месяцев назад
If one cannot fulfill the purpose of a mother besides giving birth to them, and do not have the guts to get their child somewhere they will actually live Then yes, they are the biological parent but they are not the mom
@Babybullyleo1
@Babybullyleo1 3 года назад
From surviving, to thriving, to powerful and inspiring. Thank you for sharing your story.
@carlacarlisle1946
@carlacarlisle1946 3 года назад
Thank you so much for your kind words!
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