Not that hard to do if you have "the connection" . It has happened to me twice. The best feeling ever. And I remember those conversations so vividly ❤️
@@lauralunaazul Same :) Because it has to be someone you don't know or at least you don't know well. And because you are yourself the most when you travel, I think :)
"The little space in between"...my favorite line in the whole movie. She means that love is not something we possess or acquire or consume--it is what connects us all and binds the universe together. And so it always in the space between us; not clutched in our hands or hearts or brains. We can never own love. We can only choose to be a part of it by allowing ourselves to be connected to others--through that little space that lies between us.
The torture of losing someone you can talk to like this is walking through life wondering if you're going to ever meet someone like them again. God, this film broke me.
I just lost someone like that, I watched this movie because I wanted to feel identified with the characters. I feel as if Id never ever met someone to speak like this ever again.
I found someone like this. We could talk for 6hrs straight till our lungs gave out. He didn’t want me back... I don’t regret the experience. I’m so grateful.
so dreamy, but so realistic... because the 'harsh reality of things' that society and our parents teach us is usually a load of crappy preconceptions and useless cookie-cutter routines ..
This movie always makes me think about the guy i met in China. We were both from Europe, we spent together only one night, just walking around and talking about everything and we felt like we were meant for each other. It was the first time in my life that i fell for someone for real. But i had a plane back to Europe next day and i left him there. We've been in touch but it wasn't the same. Yet none of us could move on and we still thought of each other often. The year passed and he said he have to see me again. I've never felt so nervous in my life but when i saw him on a train platform it was like magic, like nothing's has changed and we simply fell into each other's arms. We spent 3 days together. Now he was the one leaving me. But the story's not over yet and i can't wait for the next chapter:)
I agree... Despite "being in touched" thru our tech, the connection isn't as special and meaningful as you two facing and feeling each other presence...
“He had never really given anything of himself” i feel like the whole movie is made to show how beautiful it really is when you actually do give a piece of yourself to someone
I never thought of it that wat, that giving someone a piece of yourself like love can be beautiful.. All my life I've lived thinking that giving a piece of me was something against my best interests and better judgement, that it was something scary, but indeed it can be beautiful too.. Thank you for this.. ❤️
It’s like a metaphorical representation of a friendship necklace. You being able to be vulnerable, to give a part of yourself to someone while they do the same..it’s beautiful and such a profound thought on what love is to us
@@sumeetKumar91 She means that understanding someone is impossible/difficult but the attempt to understand someone is love. In the same way that the pursuit of perfection is unattainable because perfection is subjective and therefore not real. It's the pursuit of that perfection that's meaningful. It's about getting as close to perfection as possible. The attempt is meaningful.
@@hlomlamakwetu4119 This doesnt make sense, in the end its the end goal that matters right, say i am working hard to be a lawyer , i spend 20 years in pursuit of being one but in the end i give up , now tell me how can you find meaning in this pursuit? your pursuit is pointless unless it is backed by an acheivement
You can see yourself in both characters. Jesse nailed it. I know I'm capable of love. I don't fear any intimacy or romantic commitment. It's just that, I don't want my whole identity just to be based on the babies that pass through my birth canal or my identity be based on the different beef stews I can cook in a crock pot for a husband who would rather eat Hooters' wings.
Jumel Grace Ola id have to disagree with that. I mean like not to sound like a typical girl which i might sound like after saying this BUT you can still do the things you love and are passionate about while being in a committed relationship. Maybe not have kids too soon but having a spouse to guide you through the way is beautiful
I relate. Everything I do has always been in the pursuit of finding someone I can share my deepest self with, and I honestly question whether or not that’s a good thing.
Well, I for one agree with you. We’re conditioned and told we have to settle down, we have to have children and continue on. We “have” to leave our legacy to someone. But isn’t that just living for somebody else and forgetting yourself? If you try to experience life with everything all planned out you’re sure to be disappointed. If that’s the life somebody wants, of course, but don’t let your children or partner define who you are. You define who you are.
This movie hit me deep because there interactions actually seemed genuine and real, like it could happen. It shows not only there fun, intimate, loving moments but also the awkward and realistic conversations and scenes. I love every bit of dialogue, such a heartfelt movie.
You know, I still get butterflies when I think about the girl I met at the beach when I was 16. I fell in love over a week and it has never left me.. Summer love and youth, is there anything better?
The answer to what? I think they don't know what they are saying. They just are trying to sound deep and poetic. Too much free time in their hands, no responsibilities, traveling on their parents dime, and talking pretentious crap. Oh, the luxuries of upper middle class!
I love when she says that if there's a god it is in the space between 2 people. it's so profound. beautiful movie, i always discover something new to appreciate on that.
Julie Delpy is such a babe in this, such a babe. I loved this movie. Some quotes were really spot on. "everything we do is for a bit more love". I think we all want a moment like what was in this movie. That is honestly life-defining, think of the two movies that sprouted after. I think when I reach these feelings in my own life with people, I never forget it, even from childhood, its always stays there and I want to go back.
@@Big-guy1981 i think in order to succeed in hollywood u really have to he willing to sacrifice a lot. privacy, moral standards, honesty etc. she stayed her true self
A few years ago, not long after I first watched this movie, I went on a 5-week trip across Europe with my friends. We were following the downhill longboarding eurotour. We met another van full of European girls doing the same thing (we're American), one of which I instantly had a connection with. It was eerily similar to this in some ways, kicked off with a long night in Prague when we snuck away from all of our friends and wandered around the city together. In retrospect I don't remember a lot of what we talked about, somehow. It wasn't necessarily profound like this. I just remember the feeling. Throughout the remaining month I was still hesitant and gave her space, but our fling continued. By the end it was something I hadn't experienced before. Saying goodbye toward the end of the trip was absolutely brutal but we ended up crossing paths two more times after we thought we'd gone separate ways. At the end we were able to spend the entire last two days together before a Hollywood-level romantic goodbye at a bus stop. I don't think I'll ever experience anything like that again. This was about 2 years ago and we don't talk now. We had said we'd try to stay in touch unless it just didn't work. It didn't work. It's weird because I've faded out of that community and I'll likely never see her again. Who knows. I'm grateful for the experience at least. I was a bit of a mess in the wake of it and immediately rewatched this film when I returned. The last scene with the empty streets of Vienna absolutely killed me. I miss her and I miss whatever that was. It was a magical thing during a magical journey that I think will remain untouchable throughout the remainder of my life. The memories are so potent it's sometimes awful to dwell too heavily on them. Anyway, just wanted to say things like this really do happen and this movie depicts it with such pinpoint emotional accuracy it's unbelievable that it even exists. Linklater Hawke Delpie and everyone involved have created something timeless, transcendent and indescribable and through it I'm able to understand a bit more of what already feels like a dream that perhaps never actually happened to me..
I had forgotten how much I love this movie. It was the first movie I had ever watched with so much talking and not a second of it was boring. This movie gets me daydreaming and thinking deep. I love it so much. Honestly I think before sunrise and before sunset are unsurpassed but before midnight did not live much up to my expectations.
@@VanezArt I agree completely. When I was younger I didn't like it at all but now that I'm much older I think I will understand it and like it someday.
"if there is any kind of magic in this world, it must be in the attempt of understanding someone sharing something." nasil en sevdigim ask filmi bu olmasin? :')
Cèline😍😍u totally said my heart in your dialogue we women might try to be appear strong to prove we dont need anybody we are independent etc but deep down being loved mean so much for us .
'The answer must be in the attempt" is the best life advice I've ever received from a movie or by anyone. Today, I really appreciate those little attempts people make irrespective of their results. And I hope they just continue doing what they love.
Watched this movie on Netflix on a bus going home and wishing that the bus would be the train and I'll find my own Jesse. Someone to have meaningful conversations with such as this.
when i was 20 I was a lot like jesse. I wanted to be loved widely for something I was good at and to leave a mark on the world. at 25, I realized that mark I wanted to leave is just on the hearts of the people I care the most about. Nothing is more important that the time, dedication and love you give to your friends.
Agree, I love it when that happens. You know, just talking about little things in life and slowly getting into deep conversations. It just makes you think about life in a different perspective and it feels so rejuvenating.
What?! I got the opposite impression! Jesse is cynical about almost everything! He doesn't think healthy happy relationships are possible. He thinks love is almost a selfish pursuit--just finding someone who will make YOU happy. Celine on the other hand has such a true heart and intelligent mind. She has a far better understanding of love and its true potential! It is all about the space in between us--the connection! Not our individual desires and needs and egos...
I have been coming to this scene for almost 8 years now.. Though there are many beautiful scenes in before trilogy this one is my absolute favourite. It's sweet yet painful, comfortable yet gloomy, hopeful yet vulnerable.
I had my Before Sunrise moment a few years back. Actually, a lot of it in a short amount of time. And it's the best feeling ever. On some days, usually at 3 AM when I'm smoking alone, I still find myself recoiling from the feeling of it ending--remembering those moments and just hankering for one more. Just one more night of vulnerability with someone who understands.
I think and feel it is more important to find your life than to find love...once you're clear about yourself, you automatically become more attractive to the right person. Without knowing your life's work, you are not really alive.
This reflects to what they become in the 3rd movie Before Midnight. They became what they're talking about themselves in this scene. Jesse felt like he was missing out on his son, Celine became that strong independent woman she is talking about.
When you were young, you connected with someone right away. But only to realized later in life how rare it is to meet someone like that in this life. You tell yourself Cest la vie. When you were older, you met someone who you connect with right away. But only to find yourself in a picture frame with partner and kids. You tell yourself cest la vie. Hope you are able to keep that iridescent person in your life :)
I believe love is one of those things that you only get out of it what you put in, and true love is being with someone who knows and acts on that same truth. It's far too easy to be in a relationship where you do all the work. Real love takes hard work and sacrifice on the parts of both people, and if their hearts and minds are in the right place, the results are beautiful. If more people were like that, divorce wouldn't be so rampant and marriage would never be seen as a negative thing.
My before sunrise was at the beginning of the february. I think of him every time I see this movie. We spent two days but he has returned to his home country and I don't know if I will ever see him again but the two days were truly a dream. We danced and talked all the time. We talked about our dreams, our goals, the things we've lost and the things we love. He even bought me a goodbye present so I wouldn't forget him. Leaving was very difficult for us. Two days is such a short time, but you know what I felt like I knew him before. Nothing happened between us, we didn't even kiss each other. We hugged and parted. But thanks to social media, we still keep in touch. Our conversation is still very deep and it makes me happy to stay in touch with him. But I'm also very sad. I hope I will be able to see him again because I can't get him out of my head... I hope this bond between us doesn't end without a closure. You may be asking me why do you think it will have an end? Because I have 4 months left in europe and I know that I will not be able to come here again. So even if I see him again, it will most likely be the last time I see him. So I give you an advice. it's very difficult to understand and be understood by someone. And it's also very difficult that find a connection between two souls. When you find it, please don't lose it. The last words he said to me when he said goodbye, "I hope you can get your book published and your dreams come true." Now I'm writing a book about him :')
'I believe if there's any kind of God it wouldn't be in any of us... not you or me... but just this little space in between.' For some reason I always remembered that line. Really love this movie!
This is my fave movie ever! First time I watched this fully was way back in college tho I was by born in the early 90's. Out of the trilogy I have only watched before sunrise and before sunset, I am trying so hard to refrain myself to watch the final of out of the trilogy before midnight, since I promised to myself that I will only watch it with the person in which I think and sure that will be the one and I will spend the rest of my life with... Currently, I am dating this guy for 7 months now. Planning to watch to rewatch the 2 movies and the final one with him .. He knows I'm obsessed with this film, I invited and asked him to watch the 3rd one with me tho he has no idea the reason behind it. (He haven't seen any of the trilogy yet). He said yes and he would watch it with me.. I'll keep you guys updated if we have already watched it together. 😊
You have to watch the scene in the bar/cafe immediately after this scene to understand more of what she means by "the space between us" and "in the attempt."
Celine is always the cynic one of the two relationship while Jesse is the romantic. They are opposite each other and yet they are perfect for each other.
Never did I expect that I would have such an encounter in my life!! I was a cynic. Until I met him. It felt like Divine Timing. The SPARK lit my life for a moment and vanished. That's when I realised how I have been in darkness all my life! I panicked and searched for the light but in vain. And now I am learning to create that LIGHT instead of searching for it!
What she said about the man being 52 and it struck him that he hadn’t given himself to anything other than his career is something I think about all the time. It’s crazy to me that some people will step on others and do people dirty to get to the top of their career or get their ideal job. What’s all that matter in the end? I had a similar epiphany during Covid. I have a more reserved personality but on the extreme side I think of never sharing myself and I suddenly thought what’s the purpose of living that way. If you’re private till your death did you really live? That sounds very lonely and I don’t want to live like that. All that matters in life is people and the relationships and connections we make. So be good to people and don’t let “ambitions” make you forget about what really matters
I watched this movie when i was a teenager and now i’m in my 20s, it’s a different feelings i understand what they are saying now as i experience life and pondering life more
One of the best love scenes. I remember watching this film in Cinema, I go out so alive and happy ! I feel so much like them, and I had almost the same age at that time, omg... happens so much time till now! I remember all those feelings in me. Jessie here now I realize was very similar to his rol in "X Generation" ( also called " Reallity Bites")
I love this series. Funny part is, I usually hate Romance films. Something about this just resonated with me. One of my all time favorites. Simple Genius
sometimes I wonder if some people we met in our lives, not just only love acquaintances but brief friendships as well think about us from time to time.
Oh I don't think I can watch this movie anymore. This movie stirs up a lot of my past. Back in 1995, I was 22 and being madly in love with a girl as well; and she was madly in love with me. And then, I let her go. Why? Because I simply didn't want to commit to any relationship at 22. There is a lot of parallels about my life in comparison to this movie. There is a sense of pain and forlorn whenever I see this movie.
Why when you’re younger do these nights happen more than when you’re older. I’m 35 now and I don’t live my life too different to what I did when I was 20, and I spend a lot of my time criticising myself for that, but also a lot of time missing the past. Why does it all have to change? Why do we get scared the older we get? It should be the other way around. Anyway, this movie was my life age 19-23, at least I wished it was. I get sad when I think of all the adventure that has gone, but thankful that I lived those magical days.
In my teens and early twenties I thought their conversations were very deep and meaningful. Now that I’m in my mid thirties I realize that these are just two people with no care in the world other than romanticising everything around them. My husband and I fell in love during our study trip to Paris and it was magical. 15 years and two kids later our love and bond is still very strong, but we haven’t had those kind of conversations for years😂 The reality is that when you first meet someone that you’re very attracted to, you always try to portray the best version of yourself, but after a few months or a few years when the fierce excitement of being around that person fades away, those deep conversations turn into conversations about daily struggles of life, which often leads to arguments and deep dissatisfaction from both sides. That’s why Before Midnight is the most realistic movie out of these three. It might not be as romantic or satisfying to watch as the first two, but it portrays the reality of long term relationships very accurately.
