True. But generally speaking, I'm a lot more talkative 1 on 1. I just really had conversations in large groups because you always end up with 2-3 loud people dominating the conversation and then I just stop participating because it's annoying and I really have no interest in fighting over attention.
@My name is Steve Rogers nah, you just don't know the difference between outward behavior and inner experience. Not everyone who behaves the same thinks the same or is driven to be that way for the same reasons.
The reason I searched and came for this video because I felt my insecurity is I'm an "INTROVERT"! Today, i went to hospital to greet my sick uncle with my mom. There, there are my lots of relatives were there, they're talking, sharing their talks openly and freely. And I can't even able to tell my name. I become very tense, nervous, insecure, frightened! My mom's telling that I should be open n an extrovert to be in this soceity! But, i just can't!!
I'm an introvert and I hate to have useless conversations with anyone. I talk only when it's necessary, only on things that matter and that's why I don't have any friends. Although I enjoy my own company sometimes I feel lonely.
the same with me but i have a lot of friends. In a conversation you dont have to be the one who talks, you can be the one listening and sometimes a smile will help you join the chat so well.
I swear I'm an introvert and really quite but when it comes to my relationships with people I love , I'm the most funniest and craziest guy to hang out with 😚✌
It's because you are comfortable around them. Do you also go silent in a group that has a lot of new people? I think it also shows in inviting people to your home. An Introvert is unlikely to invite someone who they don't know well to his/her home. Say.. it's the first day of in a new school.. who is going to invite all classmates to his/her house and have a party? An Extrovert. Introvert only invites those who he/she feels comfortable around. My house is my castle.
Wow great thought here. Even still people would be thinking extroverts are people who knows how to speak and introverts don't. Well wrong. extroverts are people who want to speak publicly and introverts don't. As an introverts I have always been spoken over by extroverts those who don't even know how speak what had to be spoken at that time. pissing me off. But that's not to say all extroverts are like that. But the generalisation should end.
this is about a guy with poor vision... a guy named +Muhammad Aditya We live in the same planet, solar system, galaxy, universe and same time....... you don't need to be physically in touch if you can feel the way +Michelle Butler does.
Being an introvert, I could say that, its the best gift of the nature as you don't need any person to make you feel happy and just surrounded by few but true people in once life. Introverts maynot express their love,idea verbally but they express this in their actions..
I feel so lonely in my class, I can't fit in. Sometimes I try interacting, then it gets awkward, other times I don't give a damn but I still want to be a part of it because I'm a team-player but at the same time can't communicate. It's so stressful. I'm so alone there.
Kilimandzsáró Lakatos Oh my, I know what it feels like. I'm going to get a little personal here, I remember back in middle I wasn't able to talk to girls and make that many friends when I got super depressed. A lot of the people I've met in high-school so far don't know how to be good friends and try to help someone in need when they need it. (I'm actually a senior) I honestly don't feel at place, I feel like an interloper, a puzzle piece that just doesn't fit with the other. I have made a lot of progress since middle school with my communication skills, I still continue to try my best to improve on my flaws. Recently I have been turned down by someone, but that's another story I can tell the next time. The point is, hang in there. There's good people out there as well, just like how there's shit people there will always be amazing people out there as well, that's something I like to think. I honestly do hope this comment helped you in any way.
Kilimandzsáró Lakatos loneliness is horrible, I remember I cried on one of my friends when I was feeling really sad and lonely. She hugged me and we spent more time together. She's someone who knows how to be a good friend, I need to learn to my end as well. You have to be patient as well, there's no rush. It feels like torture to be lonely, but I can give to you a recommendation that helps me get by. I really recommend to read, write, and draw a sketch. I know it sounds childish but these things are valuable things that are always great to practice, it's something I can say helps a lot.
Leo of Nohr Thank you very much for writing me back about this:) Although I'm not really good at drawing and stuff, I will try what you said and keep going. I believe when I finish high school, maybe there will be people (at university perhaps) whom I'm more "compatible" with. I hope. Anyway, thanks for cheering me up! And I wish the best of bests to you as well, my friend!! :)
Yeah I'm an amateur at drawing. But it's definitely a good distraction and it's good to be kept busy with something to do for fun. Heh, I'm really glad I could help. By the way you can always message me and we can be friends as well. I might be some guy from the Internet, but that shouldn't stop anything. In fact the Internet brings people together like with how we're able to communicate right now. :D
As an introvert, most of my classmates think that I am dumb because I don't perform well at school. But I'm proud to say that I have lots of talents learned through solitude. Mostly, technical aspects.
Kid I know although it may be hard to spot a nearby introvert, but we should feel contempt cuz somewhere on parts of the earth there are our buddies introverts who go through the same condition and we arent alone
So... you're an introvert and only found out by the age of 22? Seems unlikely in this day and age where introverts thrive with technology that allows us to be alone, yet stay connected to other people just like extroverts. On the internet, the topic of personality traits is frequently discussed. Strange that you've only heard about it just now. Anyway, for what reasons did you think something is wrong with you?
I can feel her breath about to hitch with every sentence, just like mine does when I'm giving a presentation. What she has done is incredibly courageous. So many people. I don't know when I'll get there but right now talking to a group of 50 has to count as my limit. #steadyprogress
Being introvert is so hard 1-comparing your self with others 2-sometimes you have no friends cause your so quiet 3-you feel that people hate you 4-you want to do that thing but your afraid to be a failure 5-being bully cause your introvert BEING INTROVERT IS SO HARD... YOU FEEL ME I FEEL YOU ! 😢😥 I want to say alot but im tired.. Comment down bellow if i miss something 😍
Yeah I can relate.. recently I joined a new school.. And most of the time I feel lonely while the whole class is busy in group talks cause I'm an introvert..
Idk, being bullied isn't a problem since all you have to do is fight back and if you don't fight back then that isn't being an introvert its being a coward . Pretty sure all of that is depression but don't quote me on this. Maybe it's just me but I believe being introverted is not wanting to say anything because you don't need or have to say something people would always ask me why I'm so quiet but it's just because I have nothing to say. Being introverted doesn't mean being shy although it's close to that. EDIT: Either you have Social Anxiety or Depression but am not a doctor so don't take my word for it .
Beautiful Lady exactly. there's a difference between introversion and shyness. shyness is actually not a good thing. introversion is a good characteristic
I am an introvert . In my school everybody says that" i have never heard this girls voice" . Trust me that's the most annoying thing u may get to hear. People never understands introverts. whenever there's a good ,fun conversation going on I really feel like an outcast .all my friends and classmates says "why don't you talk or u should talk more "😒😒 do they think i dont know how to talk or what . They just dont understand that how difficult and akward it is for me to start a conversation. But now i dont care about about people think about me .i m just happy with how i am .😁😁
The same case was with me during *pre-covid school days* , I love to be alone, a shy kid at the back of the class minding his own business , and still am in last years of high school and i never ever went to stage or gave a speech. my classmates used to say , "Why you are so quiet and shy" and even some were like, "bruh.,,,,,,(long pause,) Get a life!". Brats. Nevermind, but i do understand that sometimes there conversations turns into an awkward one, In most of these situations, would usually say 'well, nevermind'(in my mother-tounge ofc) and would get out of there asaf (with Anxiety all over my head ,LoL). Just asking you to be not afraid to be quiet and alone if you love doing it, you were never alone.. :)
I am an introvert. I cant help it. I seriously cant. I really needed to hear this talk. I have been told by my teachers, by friends and by my family that i just need to be more outgoing, but now hearing this talk makes me realise that it is perfectly fine to be an introvert.
I lost so much disrespect for this one teacher, she humiliated me in front of the whole class because I was to quiet and she started mimicking my voice and everyone laughed
I'm an introvert but my parents and my teachers just don't get it. They tell my parents the same thing every single time that "she doesn't ask any questions" like i just can't do that. Sometimes i look at people talking to big groups of people, making everyone laugh and i'm like wow how do they do that.
I have been an introvert for as long as I can remember and I have ALWAYS loved being one; I personally can't stand society, social gatherings and socialising because I only talk about things that matter to me and I am passionate about, instead of mindless conversations. I'am the kind of person who loves my own company and can easily entertain myself. Personally, it was a shock when I heard that other introverts may not be happy with themselves.
I was always comfortable with my introversion but my dad, being an extrovert, treats me as if there's something wrong with me because of that (I think may it also be a psychological thing as well because he assumes that would be just like him due to our strong resemblance). This was before I realised that I was an introvert, so it took a great toll on my self-esteem. Now that I know that this is what I am I feel more comfortable with myself but I feel like my father will never understand because he still berates me for "being in a shell".
Well done. As an introvert now in my later 20s, I'd like to point out to any younger viewers (i.e. high school and before) that you should be proud. Even if certain people frown upon your 'shyness' now, they're ignorant, and you'll meet many more people in the future that will value your thoughtfulness and compassion. You can be both shy and quietly confident at the same time.
Davy OD Yeah I hate when people are like "Are you shy?" or "Why don't you talk?" or even "You should talk more." Note: These are all things people have literally said to me. One guy at my work (a real social butterfly) told me to just talk. Like he's SOME SORT OF FLIPPING EXPERT??! Maybe on talking--NOT on introverts! But whatever he's just a teen so I get it he doesn't know he's doing something wrong.
Elizabeth Walker I feel exactly the same way, I’m shy and quiet and people always tell me when don’t you talk, why are you shy, or you should talk more. It’s not that easy to change , I can’t change into someone I’m not .
I'm that kid that sits quietly in the back or within the crowd. But you know what? I'm gonna start approaching other introverts. But then it's going to turn awkward really fast. And I'm usually the introvert in the class... sighs. But listening to this does make me feel better about myself. Thank you.
MichuV I started doing that (approaching other introverts) and yeah at first it's awkward, but give it a few weeks. You'll both open up and you'll both be able to talk when you want, or just sit together in quiet and do your own thing. Promise 💜
Emy Anderson yeah true. I have this one friend that took me awhile to approach with and share stuff about introversion, but i was like yolo im just gonna do it. When i share with her the book about introvert by susan chain God she is engaged and we start to be closer
You're not alone. Look at me I started high school and I don't have any friends in my class. I'm always the person who sits alone all the time. In second term came a new girl in my class. If you considered ''we are friend with that girl'' my answer is NO. She started talk everyone in the class in first week. So, I realize I didn't try talk with people. If you push yourself , it will continue.
I had no friends for 3 years in highschool but then I tried to make friends and did make a few. And trust me, itt just need a little push and you'll be happier.
Being an introvert with extroverted parents it's very hard! I feel like my granny is the only person that understands me, and also, my best friend, she's also an introvert. My mom always tells me that i have to ''get out of my shell'', and i've told her like 100 times that that's just the way i am, i showed her articles about introverts...but she keeps on repeating: ,,no, you're just shy''. lol. it seems like all my relatives are extroverts, because they often organise parties and obviously, they invite me to those parties, sometimes i go and oh my gosh, after 1 hour-i'm dead. like, literally dead. i feel like i can't talk anymore or even move, i don't want anyone to touch me or listen to their conversations, because i'm bored and f*cking annoyed, i don't have any energy left. i feel like it's easier for me to work the whole day or go to the gym than have the ''small-talk'' with people. and they don't understand, they always ask me: ''what's wrong with you? why are you sad?''
This is my life, exactly. I can't tell how many times I've been rediculed, misunderstood, and fired and dumped by extroverted bosses, Co-workers, and girlfriends who didn't get me too.
Sasha Stolz I also understand how it feels. My mom is an extrovert and when I try talking to her about introvert problems she just doesn’t get it. Like sometimes she’ll tell me “why are you so shy?” And I respond with “mom I’m an introvert remember?” But I tried my best to explain to her what it’s like being in introvert although she still doesn’t really understand. Although my dad is an introvert and he understands how I feel although I used to think he was an extrovert because he seems very social when we go to parties. I am not sure. But anyways I wish you good luck with explaining how you feel to your parents. And you’re not the only one who feels like this. :) I felt I needed to change so many times. I ask myself “why am I so shy?” And “why can’t I just talk to them (my classmates)”
This is literally the same for me but I don't have anyone I know that can understand me. No one wants to accept me for who I am. It's sad how society tries to force someone to follow the norms and act like the person they're not and shames people for being different.
I can feel you . My parents are extroverts and very socialising people . And my mom keeps complaining to our relatives that I am a very reserved person and I don’t share anything with them .
being an introvert is seen as a problem at school. My effort grades are usually very good or good in the subjects that im not confident in because i don't really participate in class. You are expected to talk well in class, be perfect at presenting presentations without shaking or stuttering, work in groups, etc. When my parents come to school or when they see my written reports they're all about how 'quiet' I am. But what's wrong with that? I never get in trouble, I'm always just average or above average academically. I don't really see myself as an introvert tho. I'm just shy. Really shy.
Hanin Abdullah I'm an introvert. Last year( seventh grade) and before, I would always raise my hand answer question, pass tests, have very high grades. But I stopped this year. I moved to a new school. I always wanted to bet my friend Kaila that I could be quiet and not answer questions for a day last year but always failed. This charter school that I'm going to is way more strict than my other one. Now I resort to reading. Never read a lot last year cuz I got to talk, but now I can't. Teachers now always want me to participate more which is funny. But the good thing is that when my math teacher starts calling random ppl to answer a question, he never chooses me because he thinks I know. I never know and is just lucky to not be picked. Unnecessary info lol. Have a great day or night
Hanin Abdullah in my school some of my classes require participation points and I hate it :”) Like, I would rather do individual work. I don’t like speaking up and raising my hand.
Why would you bother about other people? (had the same thoughts before) Remember that you have a powerful mind, use it and you will make others feel that they are left out. Also be very self-confident.
My introvert quote for my life "I know how to do it right, you are doing it wrong. I am just scared I will get yelled at over what has happend me so far thro my life..."
I’m an introvert as well. I choose my words wisely. I speak when needed, not when able. If I’ve learned anything, its that keeping your mouth shut and just listening for awhile can help you learn so many things that people who talk more won’t be able to learn.
This was an amazing speech! Yes, I am an introvert and I really relate to this video. Being an introvert is not being a shy, non-talkative, or a rude person. No, being an introvert is being creative minded, brilliant, and skilled at reading the actions but also mood of other people. Like also every introvert I am quiet, that can effect how people truly see me in their own light but for me I don't exactly care. I have my circle of close friends and I like it the way it is for an introvert like me. Of course I want to make friends, of course I want to speak my thoughts to other people, and of course I want to be. An extrovert. But I know that changing myself won't do anything for anyone, and I'll never turn into an extrovert. I love every single minute I get of just quiet, it makes me calm and I don't have to deal with the over and over pounding of stress and anxiety. I tend to have an interesting mind on paper though. Drawing and sketching, any of those I love because I can what ever thought that processes in my mind then I can go through it and make it. I come off as a rude person at school though because I don't talk too much. According to one of my close friend she says, "You have a weird vibe to you, I can understand why people would think you're an introvert." Of course she only made a joke and me and her laughed it off but then I started focusing on that sentence. "People think that?" I wasn't a introverted type at all. At least that's what I was thinking. I realized that I don't show emotion at all, it's like when I looked at myself I never realized until that one day. I just get so lost in thought and feelings that I don't even say anything, that's what introverts do. I learned to accept it a while ago and I'm still believing. I think that introverts are amazing people on the inside and out. They are amazing and talented and they can have a variety of different unique ways of showing it. If you're an introvert, thank you for reading this and consider yourself as an extraordinary person. Please, in the future find hope, peace, and love somewhere in your life because you surely will find it. I am a middle schooler and this is my comment speech.
Gerry C Introverts have great potential. They will work hard to get what they want like other people but will usually not participate in unnecessary and mindless social talks. They like to have a small group of friends they can talk to instead of hundreds of fake friends. They find happiness with other things. They can socialize if they want but they simply choose not to usually with strangers when it's not required. It's not like they can't. Most people just follow the crowd without thinking if what they are doing is right or if they actually want to do it. It's sad how misunderstood introverts are.
Thankyou young lady for speaking about this. From childhood I have been mocked for simply being an introvert. I have taken over 50 years to understand this, and not be afraid to be myself.
Great talk! I was a shy introvert most of my life, but I finally had a breakthrough just within a year! Thanks to the mentor I learned from! I am forever grateful to have found him!
Yeah no doubt, it's a spectrum and not a complete outcast of society. I've lead class projects before and now own a successful small business. I'm still doing research but can consider myself introvert.
Kareem Hesham I don't. If only i had a classes that i am interested in like History and learning about Computers, PC building, pc part learning, etc... I didn't get History class this year...
Me too! But every year in primary school I would get the award for best conduct because I was too quiet which cause the teachers to think that I am a super good kid
Awesome talk! Am an introvert and am proud to be. Introvert people talk when its needed and to say meaningful things. We are more than you can see from the outside.
Great speech..!!! Introverts are not the kind of persons who will raise their voice to every topic(they know or they might not it) but they will raise their voice to the topic(they mastered it) at that time you cant even stop him or her because they are the masters and others have to listen them.
Honestly I find this very relatable as an introvert I feel society has placed a stigma on us that it's a bad thing to be an introvert and it's even caused my own mother to say it to me, not going to lie that did hurt a lot and made me start to believe it. But then I realised I have nothing to be ashamed of because introversion made me who I am, it's made me more intelligent than I would have been (not to say extroverts are below par in intelligence, my brother is certainly an example of that) and I wouldn't have myself any other way than I am now. Also good work on the speaker, she sounds confident but you can tell she's a little nervous but she's powering through and she even messed up at one point and played it off like a pro.
I started my RU-vid Channel for Introverts and those dealing with Anxiety because as an introvert I believe we need more people talking about introversion and anxiety in order to bring awareness and a sense of normalcy.
It's hard to like someone you don't know. It doesn't mean they don't like you, it just means they don't know you. There's nothing wrong with being an introvert, you don't have to feel guilty about it. You are who you are and if others can't respect or understand that, then that's on them. Not you.
Watching this amazing talk and reading the comments make me finally realize that I'm an introvert. as a child, I was so active, energetic and talkative, but growing up, I gradually see myself so lonely. there was a time that I had nothing to say, it seemed awkward around everyone, even with my best friends and my family... I had no idea what was wrong with me, and when it became so silent and awkward I said silly things, just asked a question so many times and tried to make sounds to drown out. Sometimes I think talking is the hardest thing in the world... But recently, I've found out that all I need to do is being myself, say what I think ( not make up sth to avoid silence), just being comfortable with my true feelings and my head will feel lighter. Along with being an introvert, I'm kind of a person who think a lot and easily get negative feelings: I can be mean, jealous, arrogant even though I want to smile and happy. As a monitor in my class, I feel depressed often, at first they all didn't listen to me, and now after 5 months, they do, just because they have to, and I've struggled a lot but we can't really get along, can't tease each other and I feel like I'm not cut out for this position, I'm afraid I'm not good enough (in both study or personality). there are other girls better than me: they're prettier, richer, dynamic and don't think as much as me. All I have is a responsibility and high scores, though recently not like that. I don't hate being an introvert as it helps me meet good friends, and know myself clearly, but I hate the fact that I can't stop thinking, worrying, being anxious and not confident to show what I got, which resulted in me being angry and upset because others take that chance ....... ANYONE READING THIS, I'd be so grateful to read what you think about my case, thank you♥
I am an introvert. Everytime society tells me to start speaking I come to this comment section. It is so heartwarming seeing so many introverts unite together and share their experiences. The worst part is people think I am egoistical because I don't talk. But this comment section makes me feel better. You guys are the best!
There's a misconception that introverts are shy, afraid to speak up, asocial, ... Those are problems and need to be dealt with. However, those characteristics don't make you an introvert. An introvert can function normally in a society, but they simply don't have the need to be in the center of attention, they don't feel the need to share things about themselves and they don't crave constant social interaction. A healthy introvert can socialize and communicate normally, they simply choose not to more often than an extrovert would.
I believe that an introvert is a person who is able to mingle with others, but 'recharges their battery' when they are alone, unlike extroverts, who recharge their battery by being social. Omniverts are able to do both, though they may have aa preference.
@@petepersimmons7938 they say there is a misconception of an introvert of being shy fear of speech social phobia etc, actually NO there is no misconception Introverts are really shy . Introverts don't like small talks but they also talk or like to have A meaningful conversation with 1 or 2 people not more then that. They don't like getting bothered nor they like to bother others. They stay in their own world doing their own favorite stuffs....if they are being dragged to a party they will always find themselves alone there no matter if there are 100 people surrounded. If introverts like to do party also they will choose only 1 person to enjoy that's it. They are very selective to people. An opposite person doesn't need to be an introvert to be friends with. But the vibes does. Introverts prefer only those who has a good manners, a person who can understand them dont make fun of them because introverts are really different they are complete reserved person . If you think that you can't date introverts then yes u can date but as like I say they don't trust people that easily so it will take time to work at first but once they finally accepted you then there is no way they will abandon you. Go slow with them they will test your patience level. Hence they are trustworthy ,loyal, they dont like gossips, you can complete rely on them when you are sad or need to talk your difficulties they are always there to listen to from their favt.person. Once you break their trust then there is no way they will forget it. They might forgive you but those deeds will keep on reminding them to not forget. As they choose their surrounding very limited so each person are very valuable to them.
I love being an introvert. I’m perfectly fine being alone. It makes life easier in my opinion cause I’m not creating superficial relationships just really special and few ones unlike extroverts who talk to anyone and everyone
Something2ChewOn OMG same ! Most people think that in strange, for example if I think badly of myself I’m stronger, I’m basically Mara/Adora from She-ra and the princesses of power (reboot) WHEN I have the strength to do that (it takes long hours of reading and rereading books so I have them memorized in my head and replay them at parties and gatherings 😅 oh and of course, a set of sentences to repeat to every one 😪)
She spoke so well! I'm an ambivert who has a lot of introvert friends and it's not like they don't speak at all. They are amazing in their own ways. And you have to accept them as who they are, not as what u consider amazing, or what you want them to be. Introverts neutralise the highly excited crowd of extrovert with logical thinking. That's what I have experienced. Thank you soo much for this talk.
I’m an introvert but I don’t get nervous in public speaking anymore and almost enjoy it. I get to speak without interruption. I just need to be prepared and I’ll speak loud and confidently in front of a room of people.
When the day came where I got closer to myself and got to know who I really am, then i knew that I was actually an introvert. I though being an introvert is bad, I told things to myself like "you are always like this, you lack so much courage, how disappointing" so I try to change myself into someone that I am not. Now I am happy and I learned to accept who I really am :)
We introverts believe, complete silence is better than “small talk” our earphones is our bestfriend most of the time just to avoid unecessary small talk. Warm smile is the best thing we can offer 😊 silence is very much appreciated.
Every single word she spoke went directly into my heart and totally agree with whatever she said and really really loved this speech and I just want to hug this girl love you loads 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹
If there is a person who loves being introverted, it's me ..... i love my personality and i have never pretended to be otherwise. I know who i am and I love it
@@elirien4264 same :’) ppl i knew years ago ask me what happened and why i’m quiet they used to ask me that too all the pressure for being talkative and outgoing was on me, but i wasn’t like that :((
There is no such thing as strictly introverted or extroverted people its just a matter of what situtaion and whom you are speaking with will determine how you will react. Everyone is introverted in some situtaions and extroverted in others. ITS CALLED BEING HUMAN PEOPLE. Only with practice of self-love can you develop the confidence to allow you to become less shy in front of people and also help you decrease the need to be the center of attention and so oblivously happy all the time. The reality is everyone gets sad and depressed but everyone also gets super excited and exentric at times. Just live your life and know what ever you are feeling right now will pass and in 5-10yrs from now you will laugh about the feelings your having and acutally be proud to speak about it becuase you will have overcome it. Just remember to have loving conversations with your internal thoughts and question WHY you think the way you think and "am I upholding my values?"
I have read so many comments It felt so good to meet so many introverts like me Its okay to be an introvert Hope at least now i will be able to overcome my Depression
Thanks Ms. Robello for such an inspiring speech. I am an introvert and till I saw your speech, I had a different perspective that I being an introvert is useless. Once again, thanks for inspiring speech that had changed direction towards life
As a life long introvert I’m as proud as ever to be one, particularly in this day and age. Most people (not all) are loud, brash, and full of themselves. I’m certainly not missing out on any interesting conversations. People only yap about themselves. Be PROUD of your introversion.
