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I met my husband less than 2 weeks before my 36th birthday. I was not sure if it would happen up to that point and did deal with frustration towards God about the very long wait. Some family/friends recommended that I even freeze my eggs, but I felt convicted to wait. I will just say that waiting on God was worth every second of what I perceived as delay. He was working throughout that time to prepare both myself and my husband for one another. I also did not have to “settle” at all and I got everything important that I prayed for and more that I did not know I needed. God even gave my mom a vision about my future child when I was still single, which encouraged me to wait. I will be giving birth in a few months to that child. I hope that this encourages anyone in their 30’s that is contending with God about their future marriage. Pray, watch and wait.
This gave me so much hope recently ending my engagement at the age of 34 to a manipulative abuser. I stayed longer than I should've out of fear and just wanting to settle down and start a family. Thank You!
I just got married last month and I’m 32. I wanted to be married a while ago but I needed to work on myself. I lost 60 lbs, did some therapy, and my mother kept telling me start praying for a spouse. She was praying too unbeknownst to me. I moved back to Las Vegas (I’m from Atlanta), I got on the apps and met my husband by the end of the week. Prayer changes things. Gods timeline of writing my love story Moved back to Vegas: April 2022 Met my now husband: May 2022 Became official: August 2022 Met each others families: Dec 2022 He preposed: July 2023 We got married: Sept 2023 Please stay encouraged, I met my husband after 30. After watching others get married, instead of being envious I always said to myself “I’m next”. I just kept saying that. God changed my life in the blink of an eye. God bless everyone. ❤
You don’t want kids? No offense I believe the pressure for most of us is that part. I will be 33 in a few months If it wasn’t for that, I really wouldn’t care
@@Vavavoum-gr8 but now you are already falling into the pressure of having children, so you will settle for a man and have a baby so you need to be careful and stop letting society pressure you, woman are allowed to have children later, men will always seek woman who are desperate and not to be rude, you sound desperate
I love these kinda of conversations. The struggle is soo intense sometimes, I'm 32 and I honestly feel my body wanting to make a baby. My hormones are all over the place, you just want that hug, that cuddle and when you are married you just that loving. It's sooo real. My thoughts sometimes are often unclean and it's hard. But I'm trying, and praying every night for God to help me.
God is creating platforms and conversations for women in a beautiful way❤ I got married at 37 and I am so thankful for my single time. Solo dates, treating myself to nice gifts, keeping my home clean with pretty flowers and decor prepared me for marriage. If you are single, enjoy YOURSELF and love GOD through the journey.
Why haven't u started a platform for us single women. I am 23 and in my final year at university everyday God tells me to not awaken love b4 time. We need advice from u what are we to do to enjoy our single season. I don't wanna be single and thinking of marriage,i don't wanna be single and miss the moment surely it's great but how do we make it be great?
I LOVED this episode. People really don't talk about the challenges of being a single Christian in your 30s, it is very hard. I just want to encourage everyone to stay in the will of God and trust that he listens and he cares. This year I have been in a relationship with a non believer, I know for a fact this man is not for me yet I compromised alot out of comfortability and loneliness. I also broke my 3 year celibacy ( if I'm being transparent). My soul was genuinely conflicted each time I saw him cause I knew this man was not for me yet I kept forcing it and forcing it, I was warned multiple times and ignored. This ended up in such a horrible heart break and having to rebuild myself once again. Ladies it's not worth ! Stay in prayer, seek God and trust that he loves you enough not to let you settle. X
Been avoiding this video for 7days thinking its same old story but after watching, it resonates with me. In my 30's, re-dedicated my life to Christ 3years ago, single and waiting on God for marriage. 2years praying for my future husband but sometimes the hormones are something else as I go older. I just want to feel loved, serve the Lord with him and carry his babies.
What a beautiful talk ❤ thanks so much for encouraging! I am 34, single lady and so far I have been trying to enjoy my singleness. There are ups and downs; I want to grow more in knowing Jesus and knowing His heart towards me ❤
I'm a Muslim woman who's nearing 30, and I resonate with this so much! It gets easier to deal with societal pressures once you realize that it's always been you and God -- everything else is secondary. God will take care of you and guide you to what's best for you, so "get on the dance floor of Life" (as Joy says) and keep doing you! Everything's gonna work out for the best ❤
Women had evolved, but this crucial period has just been postponed from the 20’s to 30’s. I doubt it will go further to the 40´s as event if we improve fertility process, reducing a pregnancy risk is always better. I’m 45, happy in my coupe and had a beautiful son. We deal with 7 years of fertility issue, our journey to have a family wasn’t easy. But i have a beautiful family now. Our friends becomes parents way before us even if we were the oldest couple among our friends. That being said, our friends reach their mid-40 as well and they are mostly divorced and dealing with kids custody. Relationship is never easy. All I can say is, with the time I become more comprehensive and empathetic towards peoples as life is really 50 shades of grey…nothing is black or white.
I just turned 31 few days ago.. oh yes, being single in your 30s is challenging. The pressure is real. Looks like you have a terminal illness when you dont have a husband and child at this age. Same as Joy, I also loss 5yrs of my life trying to move on from a long term relationship
I have stopped using social media because it triggers me so much I can’t watch people be happy in relationships when it’s something I desperately want 😢
Have you thought about about getting a cat? I've seen some of these types of videos where the women say they have a pet cat which helped them. It may help you as well.
As a 44-year-old woman, I resonated with and appreciated this conversation. Yes, my identity is in Christ and my maker is my husband. Being both single and married is a blessing with different priorities. Maximize the season God has you in! Tfs
I am single for life. Not my choice. I am a literal eunuch and I will never marry. But I am sad that I am unable to marry when I see my brothers and sisters with their families and I will never experience this. I accept my condition, but I am not happy about it. My poor health prohibits me from being very active in outreach and other ministries.
Just turned 30 this year! I’ve been praying for my husband since I was 16 years old. I always thought I was going to be married before 30, this year I was able to let that go and realize that God’s plan is not what I expected it to be. Waiting is hard, but having that little mustard seed of hope of knowing that he will do it for me one day and that it will be good! ❤️🙏🏽
1.When Eve met Adam, she was "whole" That's an intense truth. Our period of singlehood is actually a preparation stage for you to be who God wants you to be before He presents you to your partner. 2. The intentionality about dating. Wow 3. I can totally relate with the faith of the person being an important factor. I tell my friends my first look out is to know if my partner has the fear of God and a relationship. Because i strongly believe that anyone with the fear of God will treat his partner like Christ loved the church. Funny enough, most people don't agree completely with this and make it seem i will wait forever.
I resonate with Delphine so much, I am 31 years old I often feel so alone because I've been single and waiting for so long and it definitely is a struggle. I often ask God why I'm in the situation that I'm in because I've been faithful and waiting on him.
I'm 32, single and celibate since 2016 and it's been hard... I resonated with: - knowing your identity and self worth in God - being excited to go on a date instead of scared, desperate and in a hurry to get married - sometimes the guy is good on paper but there's no spark/attraction/fun. - "just get on the dancefloor of life" : this is for me - your passion/purpose keeps you busy and joyful and this joy is attractive for a man - being open to being surprised and flexible with standards These are good reminders And I wasn't expecting Joy to be 47!
Celibate since 2015. I thought I was the only one also in my 30s. Sometimes I feel so left out and alone. I been trying dating but it's been alot of love bombing then ghosting and just disappointment. Trying to hold on to what I know is right. While trying to not be jealous of everyone who is just living their life. This seems like such a burden sometimes.
@@caribbeanflora2119 I defo feel the same sometimes especially when I meet a good guy I want to compromise but I think about Isaac and Ishmael and the consequences of doing things my own way, it's not worth it. Plus my mom and sis are single moms so I gotta do something different to have a different outcome. Felt very good to read your comment sis 💜let's hang on to God 🙏🏾
I love Delphine's responses. I could relate when she talked about her pressure... having lots of weddings to attend and then engagements etc. Currently in that phase. I am glad I listened to this. Thank you!
Joy married at 39 is so inspiring. She seems God really made her in her singleness, just like he made eve.. The way she speaks, carries herself and matures is so MARRIAGE.
Turning 30 next week, still single and my ever thoughtful big sis decided to share this video with me 😊 trusting GOD on this journey. GOD’S best is worth waiting for. It’s not easy waiting, but I’d rather wait than regret. Grateful to be surrounded by those who understand how it is to be single in one’s 30s especially as a Believer who’s trying to please GOD.
Happy birthday to you! I too was single for many many years and did a whole bunch of inner work before meeting my now boyfriend (and father of our two children) at 30. Keep believing and trusting, and allow God to do his magic :D
Saaaamme I’m 30 on the 12th and I feel this video was from God I’ve been really struggling the last two months of who I am but I am now praying more so for peace and to trust in God! Not to idolise a relationship but to find joy in everything praying without giving up but also asking God to reveal more of me to me so I can change and grow for my husband! We got this!
This for me has been one of the best episodes so far. I love how both women articulated and executed themselves during this conversation. So authentic and something many of us can relate to ❤👏🏾
Why are the 20 meant for exploring? Did Maria explore? 😅 these so called christian woman are not to be followed, marry young cause now in youre 30,s. You are competing with 20’s who DO NOT want to explore etc and wanna get tied down.
Going to be 34 in another week, still single, still unmarried and no kids. No prospects. I have been praying and asking God to please bring me a mate. A companion, life partner and a husband. I also ask god to send me friends. The lord isn’t budging but it is okay because I am trying to grow in him everyday. I joined my churches praise and worship team so that I can apart of ministry. It feels awkward sometimes because there is not many single men and women at this church. And I mean completely single without children. I feel like some of the women do not want to get close to me because I’m single and they are married. No I’m not out for your husband. I am here for God. It is truly hard to be a single woman at this time. They are looking at me like you’re 30 with no kids or husband😮. I can feel it.
As a 32 year old single. Delphine has said everything I am feeling and currently going through. I could not understand for the longest time is why my secular friends were thriving and receiving everything that I’ve been praying God for for years.
I hear you! I think as Christians we sometimes feel entitled to marriage and struggle to understand why non-Christians get good things as well. God has convicted me of this and realised my ego makes me feel more “deserving” than others cause I try so hard
I am grateful to God for this community...to know I'm definitely not alone and that it's pretty OK to be content in one's single season and really just focus on God and oneself. I've learned so much and I thank you all for being transparent and honest ❤
I’m crying ladies,, this is soo timely😢 you just spoke to a sister from across the world…. God has been soo good to me, financial stability, good academic achievements, loving family BUT my personal life took on a life of its own. Left pregnant by a man I was hoping to marry me. 3 years later, grew my faith, single mom with my boy who’s suspected of autism… been celibate for 3 years. Overall God me peace as I’m still navigating my healing journey
I’m 33 and still single. Living with 5 dogs and I love my life, but there’s always this nagging feeling about me still being single at this age. All my cousins and siblings are already married, except for me. I also feel the pressure to have a baby as the “clock ticks away” 🙄 ugh. 😣
I loved the optimism from Joy. However what I would say is, how a person deals with singleness also depends a lot on what else is going on in their life. It sounds like Joy’s life was already very full and successful which is perhaps why singleness was a positive time for her. It should be borne in mind that some people have a very different experience in terms of what else is going on in their life
@newid10 SO TRUE! Sounds like she was able to travel and “live her best life”. But for some of us there are financial, health, or other challenges that make the season even more difficult, frustrating, and lonely. When You don’t have the “distraction” of fun trips, a successful business, and a solid community, etc.- it can get really rough some days. There’s beauty in the solitude with God, but it’s not always a “fun” season.
But people have had the things she had and still been empty... I think no matter your position, pray to be content. Cause like she said if she begins to look down on her life and compare. It's equivalent to her not believing God has done right by her. And just cause someone carries something well doesn't mean it's not heavy you know.
Financial pressures and health issues don’t go away when you get married lol. Let’s not forget that you’ll bring those same issues with you into a marriage
@@flexster5385 you’re absolutely right. My point was that facing those things in a single season vs not facing those things in a single season can make the season more difficult. When you’re able to live your best life as a single (having successful entrepreneurial pursuits, a community of believers, finances, travel, etc.), you’re going to have a very different experience than a single who isn’t able to do those things (someone in an isolated season, financial difficulties, health challenges, wilderness experience, etc.). I agree with @newid10 that it’s important to acknowledge this. Some singles don’t have a season of “contentment” and fun, and that’s okay too. For some singles- the season is much more challenging and full of spiritual battles (just like for some people, their marriage season is much more difficult).
It’s oké to be 30 and single. Don’t let sociale media rush you. These days people want to get married so fast and when time gets hard they want a divorce. Being single is hard but trust me marriage is harder. There’s a lot of friends and family that a know got married young but unfortunately got divorce at there 30s.
This was SO good. I love that you asked how you reconcile with God amid the frustration that comes with the waiting period. Such insightful, relatable stories that I needed more than you all know. Can we do a part 2!?!
I'm also in my 20s and I'm grateful to have come across this episode. I've chosen to date with intentionality and put God first. It's not easy dating in this day and age.
What an inspiring conversation. I am really encouraged to start living my life and enjoying it as opposed to holding back on things because I think I could be married in the next X years. Thank you ladies for the gift of your vulnerability.
I pray for healing🙏🏽. The fact that I’m still so upset right now whilst listening to this means I haven’t fully healed. Was with him through out my late 20s. I’m 30 now.. This video feels so real and therapeutic. Thank You ☺️
Wow this is beautiful am really glad I watched to the end of this video, have learned so much and I'm so Grateful for everything you guys talked about. You've given me a big picture to always appreciate God in every season am in.. Indeed is time is the best. God bless you thank you so much.
This is so so good So so relatable Thank you for having this conversation You have no idea how this has blessed me, not to talk of the many others blessed too God bless you
Sharing powerful stories in these conversations help women to feel seen and understood. Some seasons in life are gruelling. I loved listening to Joy and Delphine's lived experience is powerful. Great authentic episode.
My dear, I know one woman who gave birth to her first child at the age of 42. As the above commentator beautifully said, it’s in gods hands. Alhamdulillah ❤❤
I’m so glad this was such a POSITIVE conversation. Folks out there, I’m 31 as a Christian woman looking to jump back into dating. I went through a tough breakup and took time to heal and fall into God’s arms. He has filled my life so abundantly that I don’t feel dissatisfied. God blesses singleness and relationships. Make the most of what God brings, and fill your life with great community and fulfilling activities (all while pursuing God). If I end up never marrying I’ll be fine 😌 I trust God to provide through it all!!
Thank you so much for this video! It’s really not talked about enough (most of the conversation is around just generally meeting people/dating, but not specifically about being in 30s). I am 34, run my own business, have always followed my heart, and travelled and lived heaps. Right now Im just taking a 15 day solo trip to spend a few days with my sister and niece, and also two close friends. However, when nights are quiet I also feel like I really want to have that person, and fear being old and alone. But this video gave me great energy - I love the black woman and her mentality - having the confidence and just living life on her own terms.
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. The Book of Corinthians, KJV.
Thank you ladies for sharing your experiences with us! it feels so good hearing you speak about similar experiences to me. I feel a lot less lonely and more hopeful and ultimately ready to live a joyful life as a single woman!! THANK YOU!!
I absolutely loved this whole thing. This rush for women to be wives and not have identity or a life beforehand on their own is so common. Seems like we spend our singleness focused on marriage and then when women get married, they don’t even know who they are and can’t live without their husbands. It’s okay to be your own person while experiencing life with someone else. These conversations spark the new ideas🩷
Hearing this conversation is really so helpful to me. Im in very difficult situation now and I'm trying to figure out what im doing and whitch step im going to take... i really appreciate. It came in right time. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾Thank you all for sharing your thoughts and experiences with us. God bless you all.
Thank you for these conversations. It gets very lonely at times, you question God.. "Why Don't you give me a partner"? Like... at time I feel ugly n not worth being loved💔💔
Thank you for an enriching and uplifting conversation around this. I so identified with so much of what you ladies shared, they're conversations that I have with my friends a lot. What we come to the conclusion is, that as you say, we are all wonderfully and fearfully made, and God has a purpose for each one of us. Our job is to live that purpose well. Of course, there are times when we can feel frustrated when our 'dreams' don't seem to come about, and have so many questions about it, but God always has better. I look on my 30s so far (I'm 37), and I can honestly say that God's plans are so much better than mine. He has given me so many opportunities to understand my identity in Him, to serve Him, to do so much travel and adventures, make wonderful friends, grow in my confidence in myself and who I am (my faith, passions, joys, friends, family, character), that I really do love my life, and realising also what I don't want to compromise on. I love what you say, about "operating from a place of abundance, not scarcity", because when I look at my life, I am blessed to have so so so much, all because of what Jesus has done for me, us all... I also identify about dating with intentionality when older. And it really is hard to say 'no' when a 'potential' relationship seems good on paper, but deep down, something in your soul doesn't quite sit right. Keep immersing ourselves in God's mighty Word, lean on His truth, obey it, get used to hearing His voice, and see where God leads. Then we will know that what is here right now in front of us, is right where we're supposed to be. God bless this ministry and all who listen, watch and read this channel! :)
This channel was divinely sent to me.Learning a whole lot though we are miles apart.I love how basic yet real the topics are and so relatable. GOD BLESS YOU
Absolutely, Sis,"Just because someone goes to church, it does not mean the church is in them"! Actually, some men go to church to find women, but DO NOT have good intentions.
Thank you! Delphine you pretty much nailed every experience and the healing journey I have been going through these past few years. Grateful to you & Joy for sharing your stories and learning lessons. All the best on your journey!✨
