My last video really made me realise something...i should just do it. I wrote an awful lot in the bio and i thought, let's actually put a video out there then. More is coming i hope.
i watch this because i find myself ugly, no one thinks how i think. you can give me 1000 compliments, yet the idea of how I see myself will not ease. Sometimes I cry for days and I don't dare to go out, I don't dare to date, I feel inferior. it hurts and nobody understands me
All I see is a beautiful man with a wonderful lisp sharing his story and I thank you for that. Stay awesome and keep your videos coming please, I am here, panda bear hugs.
Bro. You are not ugly at all. and let me tell you the truth. Ugly people have it WAY harder than attractive people. I would say im a 8-10 based on people's reaction (yes also girls) im 22 years old as wel.. If you get some cool clothes and get a haircut you would look at least at least 7/10. Your eyes are good. Your eyebrows are prominent. I mean bro... How are you gonna look back at yourself in 10 years. Im not joking. The regret will HAUNT you. Ive had terrible BDD as well. And god you will regret it. You really need to fkin work because it honestly makes me sad to see people destroy themselves like this. If you want to have a zoom call you can comment on this. Because i have had BDD.
Bro you're trippin, you look fine, you talk fine. Getting stuck in the details of how you have been taught to perceive yourself and how others could potentially perceive you are an easy way to have a cyclical bad time. Being/feeling confident is more important than anything else in life, in terms of how you feel and how others feel when they are around you, so a focus on thought and action framings that build your internal confidence is very helpful. Like for example I personally don't shave/trim my facial hair and shower because it potentially looks good to others, I do it so that I feel slightly different, more self cared for. This creates feelings of self worth and allows for feeling more confident. When I feel internally confident I act with more levity and more freedom whether socialising, working, or relaxing. I have also felt many of the ways of how you are expressing feeling in this video. In my experience, the way you frame your experiences matters more than anything else. Experimenting with allowing yourself to feel differently can let you interact with yourself and others in new ways you might find more ideal. There are so many people and all types and kinds. Like for example, you talk in this video about feeling self conscious about appearing pale skinned. I personally have known some women who specifically like the aesthetic of paleness, and don't associate it with being unhealthy or being inside a lot. Imo the status quo of average opinions is not an ideal way to filter your perception of yourself. It's highly likely hardly anyone is thinking what we think they are thinking. Assuming everyone is running status quo judgements and perceptions builds an unnecessarily prerestricted experience. Hope this message is helpful in some way, I also just wanted to let you know that I hear you and the type of experience you are describing is not abnormal or unchangeable. Also that everyone is literally always fine just the way they are, oftentimes many just haven't found ideal contexts to experience their inherent value directly, I know it personally took me many years to learn about all this and start applying it
Wow, that's a lot of information to wrap my head around. You seem like a really wise, kind, and understanding person from what i can read here. I understand a large majority of problems come from a frame of mind and that's what i try to tackle a large majority of the time. I think there's no easy to way to the path i want to get to? I'm terrible at explaining things. I think i'm mostly saying i understand but i just can't get to where i want to be? Thanks again :)
Mate have you spoke to anyone about body dismorphoa? My therapist diagnosed me with it.. I feel ugly also but get told the oppose quite often.. its horrible to live with that perception.. your not an ugly fella at all.
Thank you for being straight, I can respect it, I am much like that in regards to real life. You could totally be right on suffering from such a thing but it's completely hard to tell, sometimes my mind can be in one place and sometimes it can be fine, even that can be a condition, it seems most things are, and it can be even harder to acknowledge that myself and seek help, which I have still not done because I honestly don't believe I need it..who knows. Thank you for being straight nonetheless, I really appreciate it. I just copy and pasted this from a comment i just replied too, I guess that makes two of you that think this! Sadly I have not spoken to anyone yet.
Personally I think you're ridiculously, adorably, handsome. You also seem like a really sweet person and you're a deep thinker which is far more attractive than the opposite in my book. You're someone I would definitely invest the time in in getting to know better, even just as friends. I know all that may not mean much coming from a guy, but it's true.
You're very handsome. :) I have body dysmorphia and i pick myself apart daily and call myself ugly and what not. Im not saying you have it as well as Im not in a position to, but if you feel like your low self image is ruining your quality of your life and your relationships ie especially when you said not leaving the house. Seeing a doctor might be an option here. Take care xx
Focus on something else, music, nature, education, exercise, go to speech therapy if the lisp bothers you, work and save some cash and get yourself some dreams.
I have no idea why you think you're ugly - take a look around you out there, because there are many who are (through no fault of their own), and you are not one of them. Best of luck.
This seems like a parody video that you hoped to go viral honestly and failed.. You are better than average looking, and you have attractive eyes for females... I think you know this... With that being said, I might be wrong and you're sexually frustrated like 90% of men when it comes to not getting the attention you want from females, and you want to make a I hate my life video... It's just the way it is today man.. trust me, you're better off than the average dude today though when it comes to women
If it makes you feel any better, your redeeming qualities are you face complexing, your clear skin, your eyes, your eyebrows and your beard grows nice. You are very lucky to have clear skin, I envy that a lot. Growing up with acne scars and all that has ultimately gave me a ugly and impulsive outlook on life. In my opinion, you can improve your looks, in particular, dramatically if you were to wear your hair different or grow it out a little. Take my advice, I do everything to not make my face stand out.
I did not notice a lisp until he said he had one. He is going and quite cute. His voice is nice, deep tonally, and British! When I was young I thought I was ugly. It gets bad later in life.
Your definately not ugly most people arn't, just average. And that seems to be a bigger problem. We cannot appreciate our own averageness as some people have above average looks and we look at them and feel ashamed. Most of the population is average looking as am I so don't sweat it. Just do what you enjoy and live your life to the fullest.
All you need to stop defining who you are by someone else's standards. Do you look like a slick magazine model? No. You look like a nice human. You are not photoshopped to death. NO ONE can live up to the ridiculous 'beauty' standards put forth by society and the media. You don't like how you speak? Okay, go to a speech therapist. You don't like your clothes? Okay. Change your personal style. NOTHING is going happen for you unless YOU take charge of yourself and change the things you can change. You appearance is perfectly fine. STOP OBSESSING OVER STUPID THINGS LIKE YOUR EYEBROWS. Get off your ass, go outside and do things you like to do. Stop having pity parties. This is not healthy, nor is it productive. I am not a 'pretty' woman. I am pretty average, considered by society to be fat and 'too old'. So what? DO NOT LET SOCIETY DEFINE WHO YOU ARE.
You're ugly? Bruh I have a friend who is definitely ugly and yet the dude has a girlfriend. Don't take serious negative words on your face on how you look. You ain't ugly, my dude :)
I think the point is not him being "ugly" or not, what it is to be ugly after all? nobody should go through experiences like that, regardless of looks.
He is not ugly, but totally average... Those people who console him he is handsome, are completely mad... But there is a lot of place for improvement. Jaw surgery for a better jawline is the first step. Mewing also can help a bit. A 6-7 is easily can be achievable. It's not the rope already...
What is up with all these dudes getting on RU-vid and claiming to be unattractive?? I have yet to see an ugly one yet. I’m not gay but I can tell whether or not someone is attractive. I used to be very good looking but not so much anymore.
The good news is that you're not ugly. You're actually well above average looking. The bad news is you've got BDD and you'll have to get some help with that. Doesn't matter if a thousand people tell you you're good looking, you have to know it yourself. Look into bdd
Looks wise, you are normie tier. Not chad, but not sub 5 either. You mentioned in your video that you suffer from laziness. I don't think it's laziness. It's really easy for some people (Chads) to wake up everyday and chase their goals because life is fun and easy mode for them. They constantly receive compliments, people want to be their friends, attention from women, etc. However, if you are normie or sub 5, then life is not like that and life is on veteran mode. so ofc, getting things done will be much harder. You're not lazy, you were just spawned on veteran mode
(disclaimer: i didnt watch the video so idk if he was talking about sth else) dude I'm really sorry people made you feel like you were ugly but you really are NOT. You would be considered good looking by so many people. Also I was watching that popular video called "being ugly" so I searched on youtube to see if there was any other videos like that and if I really felt ugly and came across this video I would feel so much worse omg lol
I hope this is not came as offensive but I think the real attention of this video is to fish compliments. you know a scenario where someone praises you and you will reply "No. I'm not.... etc" Then the opposite someone directly tells you the truth and it came as insult and offensive. I hope it make sense
@@mechanikalbull5626 this is definitely an interesting comment to read because I really appreciate it when people are straight with me, as I normally am with others. I wish I could say the intent was for people to compliment me and make me feel better but it wasn't. I hope if you read a few of my other replies it might help clarify how I feel and why I uploaded this, I watched it back a few times but generally hate watching it back nowadays, it was a difficulty place I was in at the time I guess and despite not getting any outside help, I'm in a better state of mind currently.
Wish I replied to this sooner because the video you mentioned actually inspired me to make this, after watching his video I thought how much I could potentially help myself by just talking about whatever came into my mind while talking about myself and how I look. I guess a few negative comments do stick with me, which sucks, but overall I think I've made myself think about how ugly I am, more so than other people making me think that way.
Bro, you've got that "hunter gaze" facial structure that other guys would literally KILL for! You're not ugly in the slightest, on the contrary! You look like a solid 7-8. You gotta get rid of these negative ideas and perceptions you have about yourself, because they're complete ans total lies.
Believe me, you're not even remotely ugly. If you ever got that message, it was probably from an insecure, immature woman. Later you'll realise how broken most women are in their 20s. You will be amazed.
I had a girlfriend like that... She would find defects in her appearance and make an obsession so self centered she was... totally egoistic and useless... That's why us in America have a grudge against Brittish and French as they are so self centered as being the only important beings in their own eyes. Count the number of time the guy says me me and me.... Me , myself and I... Does he care for anyone else than himself... 🙌
My first thoughts "you look totally normal, except maybe the weak chin", then I fast-forwarded to 9:25 and you said people say that's a weak chin lol. Overall a 6 if you didn't frown all the time.
You are really so handsome! You Coud be an actor! What the hell are you saying??? Ahahah! But, also if you were, that is always sobject and there are different ugly normal guys that have success
Dude, You are suffering from (paying too close attention to yourself) You are not ugly at all. But mostly nothing really matters anyway. People love who you are not how you look.
Thanks for the comment Tala! My beard game definitely needs improving but i've never really left it untrimmed for more than a month, maybe i should try :) Oh and...yeah my room is messy, i'm trying to hide it haha.
@@omarthecupoftea7224 for self development, do something about yourself, feel better about yourself, look physically better and more attractive instead of sooking on youtube.