Amazing writing. They did such a good job with Stella's character. She really feels like a real person and even though her entire life is lived through manipulating others, and the horrible things she did, I can't help but feel sorry for her, for how lonely she must be.
That's exactly how my mom is. Playing the victim. She just texted me moving back here and ranted at me. She said "I'll tell your dad you don't want to see me."
The stupid thing is Ben grew up like this. Just like Stella, convinced his dad didn't love him, accept him, see him, Ben burnt Louise with a spoon and he turned hateful and all his life he blamed his Dad because he reckoned Phil was ashamed of him. Phil loved him, didn't understand him but Phil always protected him. Ben and Stella are the same kind of people. Reckon they were unloved, and this need to be seen, to be accepted was always there and they both could be hateful and cruel only they don't see themselves as the Bullies they see themselves as the victim of their own brain.
Wtf Ben only became like that because of the abuse he suffered it’s actually very common for people who have been abused to treat others the same as their brains become wired to interact in an aggressive and manipulative way
@@shannonclark8313 I'm not buying it. Sure, it's not an uncommon thing but Ben set his Dad up for something years ago, so he's always had a hateful vengeful spirit, he's lied, he's killed etc. I like the Ben who plays him now but I didn't like the pervious Ben, the one who says is he now a Mitchell because he's tried to put his Dad behind bars - and I'm saying this now just because in reality I know people who have been abused, a boy at my school actually who suffered abuse and he was one of the nicest people anyone could ever meet, was really grateful anything you did for him and used ways to better himself so I don't believe that, I used to, years ago but people make their choices. You can't use their past as an excuse for bad behaviour even though I learnt that the hard way. Reverse this, would you feel obligated to defend someone who has raised his hand to his wife and repeatedly hurt her to then sit down and tell her after in a tender moment how he was attacked and hit by his Dad or his Step Dad as a child. Does that make it right to now exert that energy to hitting his wife another time he gets so angry? Or is his wife going to justify staying because she now has to heal that wounded inner boy who was abused by his Dad and love him better? Because it's not her job. Try and think about it like that. You might be a loving caring person who leans to an individuals past to justify why they're acting the way they are in the present but can't you see by doing that essentially your enabling that bad behaviour instead of saying that you understand the pain, feel the sorrow but reminding them to make better choices - just as much we are able to create who we want to be in life - other people have that exact same option.
@@alcudiababe1 You’re right, it doesn’t justify or even slightly excuse that behaviour. If a person who was abused is still so angry about it that they start becoming the same, then they should go get therapy, and any other help necessary to avoid becoming the same, then people might believe that they genuinely have issues and are not just hiding behind past horrors to use them as an excuse to commit their own
I know Phil played his part in causing Ben damage with drinking after this a year later, but also Ben's awful experience at the hands of Stella is what made him the damaged and hurt person he is today in the story, amongst other things of course
Im hindsight this could have been an interesting time to draw a parallel between the way Phil was tormented and beaten as a child. What a haunting end it would have been to make him realise that that they are one and the same. Both unhinged bullies in their own way, not because thats who they are, but because they were both warped as children.
