Ben Shapiro: Why You Should Get Married Young 

Very true

Some of the best advice I heard is for you to write down the list of things you'd want from your future partner and then be that person.

Facts...

dude who cares i think this guy is forgetting the "facts dont care about your feelings" yeah first you need to see how you can provide for your wife, and for the family you plan on having, also start making plans on how you want your kids raised, think of all that before letting the feelings get in the way

The thing is, that is something that YOU wanna to do. That is not something the society does these days.

I agree. I'll be 39 soon and have zero complaints. Get married if you want folks, but don't rush. If you get divorced before your 30 and are on wife number 2 at 35 that's not fun either.

Here's the thing, when you're old and sickly, you might want someone to take care of you, buddy. A husband or a wife is good for that. Being alone when you're old loses it's charm. Unless you plan on being fabulously wealthy, which most people are not. When they're single they tend to spend all their money. Save some of that money for when you get old and sickly if you're planning on staying single. Also, married people live longer. It's a fact.

I’m 49. No wife, no kids. No stress.😎🕺

How dare you not have pets in your life! Dogs and cats make awesome companion animals. Dogs are more loyal to you than having a partner or spouse that cheats on you and is toxic.

Bad idea. You’re doing exactly what the forces of evil in the world today want you to do: not reproduce. It’s really simple, if you think that you’ll get screwed out of the marriage deal, then buck off legal conventions. Make a prenuptial agreement with your partner before marriage that except in legitimate cases, such as with adultery or domestic abuse, whoever initiates a divorce forfeits all rights to taking care of the children and all rights to all the money owned by both parties. It’s seriously that simple. And if a woman isn’t willing to go that far with you, then she clear isn’t the right one to begin with.

This. And Ben doesn't address that issue. It is one that generally speaking, only men face.

Ben got lucky and married a good woman. If he had mistakenly married an evil women, she could very easily take him to the cleaners right now via the family law courts.

What confuses me is that the laws have been the same for decades and it's only recently that there's been increased discussion about those laws which in my opinions aren't go to change, I mean it's not like people should wait for the politicians to change laws and help people get married it sound ridiculous, I mean come on waiting for the government to help people get married??? the government is already far too powerful and to deeply involved with how the economy is running which by the way they've made more dysfunctional and now people want to fix people's personal lives??? doesn't make sense.

It's easier to do when making marriage a requirement for any kind of sex to take place.

That's because you weren't mature 😂😂😂

@@graceclark3481 oh you know all that about him from one youtube comment? wow women sure are clever, i wonder how they always end up with abusive guys hmmm

How old were you when you got married?

@@jamesthepassionateyoutuber9059 27

Because your marriage failed. It’s not everyone

Use it to your benefit though. My husband and I met online on catholicmatch. I think it was great because you can weed out people that are not serious. My husbands first message to me was that he’s seeking a wife, thinks I’m gorgeous and wants to get to know me better to see if we’re compatible. Most people I know met online too and are very happy

@@alqoshgirl Online dating is the worst for men. Have you not looked at any of the data on this? Men have to work 1000x hard than women do dating online. Your "advice" is meaningless. You were the hunted not the hunter.

@@cheeeeezewizzz so? That’s how it supposed to be. Man up and take rejection. You’re acting like I married myself. I married a man that put himself out there, had never been in a relationship and took a chance by messaging me. What is doom and gloom going to do for you? Try it! Maybe you’ll be surprised. You certainly won’t get married whining about it in your room behind a keyboard

@@cheeeeezewizzz Being a Doomer won't do any good for you. Sure Men have to do 1000x the work, but that's irrelevant. What is relevant, is that most boys are just pathetic nowadays. So if you just know how to talk to a woman, don't complain, and have a basic plan for your life and are following it, you'll do just fine. And if you are the least bit charismatic (which is simply learned), have a job/career with potential that you're going after, and have some standing within your community, then you're heads and shoulders above 90% of your competition.

@@alqoshgirl the very least I expect from a woman who tells us to "man up" is celibacy until marriage.....

Lol what a way to waste your youth😂😂

Right

@UC9UUawbNBIPNlgMgUo6ti1g excuses

Save some money for alimony and child support

Good for you. Grow your life with another person instead of wasting it away alone. Don't let anybody tell you different!

Because you failing at your marriage is a you problem. I’m not sure what you want Ben to talk about? Choose a woman with strong morals and values and understanding of what a marriage entails and that you don’t divorce. Be a good husband and father and your chances of divorce is low. Most divorces are by degenerate people with low morals and values

Well, the second half of the problem is for you to share the same values as your spouse. You need to marry a spouse who is reluctant to divorce. Or look for a spouse that works out problems and is not a complete jerk when they're angry. Generally, the people who turn into monsters in a divorce show signs of being an angry person in the relationship beforehand. The answer to the divorce problem is for people to get back to the marriages of the 1950s, where divorce was a last resort. Not the first choice to resolving a conflict! And be a part of that change by marrying a person of faith! Faith in God is the key, dude. Because unless you have a deep faith, people in general are very selfish. That is the only way to avoid the terrible situation of divorce

Faith is probably the reason why Ben Shapiro doesn't mention divorce, he is jewish. Judaism really frowns on divorce, and unless you are a person of a deep faith you are more likely to choose divorce to get out of a marriage. Instead of working hard to save the marriage in resolve conflict. Ben Shapiro probably sees that a lot of young people don't have faith in god, so how on Earth do you approach divorce when you don't have a belief in God? People by nature are selfish.

@@graceclark3481 An even easier way to solve this is to get the state out of the marriage business, and end women getting free gifts and prizes after the dissolution of a marital union. That would nip things in the bud rather quickly, but that will never be done, and people like Ben will never advocate something this sensible.

I fret sometime about waiting, but then I think that if I had married young, I would have married the wrong person and may never have been with the person I am with now...

How late? I'm 35 and Celibate. Am I stuck being Celibate the rest of my life now?!?!

@@adamzygote2126- Nahh, you can still bang chicks, and I’m sure that some ratchet single mom will marry you and shit out a kid or two before she divorces you, takes half your shit, and hits you with child support for the kids she had with you, plus her little bastards that she convinced you to adopt.

@@stormz.9579 that is what I did. I married young and because I was immature I married the wrong person. Couldn't divorce because I am indian and its not acepted. I ended up being able to divorce thou after a very bad time. I wish I had wait more so I could be more developed and wise inside, to actually have a healthy relationship. Didn't wanna be single at 21. I thought being single was a terrible thing specially after 30. Now I am 33, divorced. Sometimes when you rush into things out of fear, that somehow magnetize the exact same things you were fearfull of. I am a man so I can still get married again. However its not very acepted here to get married if you have been already married and have kids.

@@adamzygote2126 not at all. This guy is simply trying to have a point about the beauty of marriage and family which is being lost in the West. So he is pushing back against a superficial culture. That doesnt mean plenty of people doesnt get married and are happy after 35 or even after 40. Sometimes even way happier than people who married younger. Read my other comment. I married very young. Didnt go well. Divorce rates all over the world are higher for people who marry so young.

Because peoples values change. And sometimes they cannot reconcile. Often before the age of 18, you just follow along with what your family believes. But when you leave home or go to college, a lot of people realize they don’t have the same values. They’re a “different” person they say. I know someone who met at 12, they appeared to have a happy marriage with one child later on, and then out of nowhere her husband left her for another woman at age 25. She didn’t even see it coming. She thought she had a happy marriage. It’s pretty clear, that the people who met young and stayed together were just lucky in choosing the right person. If it were not luck, then I’d expect to see more successful young marriages. But that isn’t the case.

There’s no such thing as perfect person

100 percent.agrree! Young people are never going to be unhappy relationships because they have been brainwashed into thinking that their partner is always supposed to make them happy the rest of their lives. That is a fairy tale and it is not the main point of marriage. Life isn't perfect, you are never going to find someone who is going to be there for you all the time. You have to be there for each other, be the bigger person when the other one is down! Sometimes you have to be the adult when the other person acts like a child. Marriage is a serious, lifelong commitment that is not based solely on the fleeting emotion of love.

@jeli142, You're right ma'am, people's values can change. But you can't make a generalization of everyone that way. Some people have good families who taught them right values, and they never change. You need to stop assuming that everyone makes a mistake by marrying someone they knew as a kid. I am the same person I was 15 years ago. Same values, same personality. It really depends on your situation, and what family you had. In most cases, I find that if people wait longer to get married they find excuses to break up. Because they get tired of waiting!

But most of us don't have that. So I think the goal is unrealistic. I am 24 and I don't know any eligible women. So the whole "growing up" part of my life is already over. I've graduated now. The hardship is past in that sense.

At the age of 40? I suggest you just get some cats.

@@Greywolf-91 lol, you must either be a child or ugly to think that 🤣 Do yourself a favor and look up some statistics on marriage over 40. 😬 oof, I’m embarrassed for you now.

@@blissfulmomentsfarm3730- I did, and frankly no man in his right mind would marry a 40 year old woman. It would be pointless.

@@Greywolf-91 hahaha, Oy. You must live a sad, rejected, and lonely life. Very brave of you to put it all out there in public though. I would say I hope your outlook on life improves, but it seems that you are stuck.

you are really bad at choosing a man.

Agreed other than that age enters into the marriage equation very little. Maturity is much more common with age. Modern culture also promotes extended adolescence which isn't good.

This is the correct answer. Ben is wrong.

​@@zachdproductions123Ben isn't wrong. Some people are mature at a young age. And getting married and growing with your spouse is actually a very good thing. You share experiences together. That is if you truly love each other. So sorry, you're the one that's wrong

@@graceclark3481 Yeah, if you actually are in a position to be married, but not everyone is.

​@@graceclark3481yeah,I used to act like a 7 year old up until i was 20.. It's from 20 that I started having any sense of self control and self reflection. Up until then I was 100% on autopilot. Whenever I read comments about how 15 year olds are working on improving themselves I feel like sht because I've wasted all those valuable years being on autopilot. Not sure what makes some people become mentally mature so early but I wish I was like that. Now Im 22 and slowly improving. Better late than never i guess

Welcome to the neighborhood 😂

Trying to surround yourself with like-minded people and not giving in to the convenience of hookup culture and the friend groups that come with it (meaning easy access to meet a lot of people can be counter-productive). When you date with the intention of marriage, you can quickly weed out those that don‘t intend on marriage. Plus, when you do find someone you want to date and feel a connection with, don‘t shy away from hard conversations. Know what your values are and stand firm within. Don‘t compromise on your moral compass.

@@zx1906 Those are all good things certainly, but that itself does not cut it. I have spent the last 15 years of my life looking for a potential wife candidate. And I have yet to find even one woman worth marrying. A woman can be conservative in her values, Christian, kind, beautiful, and a good cook, and yet STILL not be worth marrying. Because while those things are all important, they are not by themselves "enough". That's what makes finding the right person so difficult.

Trust in God. Pray! Put yourself out there. Don’t let rejection lead you into a mindset of doom and gloom. Keep working on yourself to be a worthy person for your future spouse.

@@kingofbudokai Im all for having high standards. But if someone is ticking all the boxes and you still find them not ‘good enough’, that’s a you problem. Love isn’t mere feelings, it’s actually working for it and putting the effort to love and dedicate yourself to that person. I honestly didn’t feel a spark immediately with my husband. But he absolutely ticked all the boxes. I decided to continue despite my feelings because I knew feelings are deceiving. Thank God I did. 7 years of marriage and 4 kids. He’s my everything, my best friend and I am just loving him more and more as time goes by.

​@@alqoshgirlpeople are repulsed by compromises and integrating lifestyles to come up with something that works for each individual and together as a couple. That takes a lot of mental and intimate work when communicating with each other because it's not instant.

Find it in your church. And base the relationship off the church

'plan to get married' ha, so did i; 15 years ago. now i'm single at 27, find the person you want to marry and do it. dragging your feet like i did will result in a failed 10 year relationship

It's really sad. I'm sorry you deal with that. My husband and I were born in the 80s and most of our friends are non-committal but they are very unhappy. Many too afraid to "make the jump" yet they've risked their livelihood many times by sleeping with people. Try to abstain as much as is "possible" for you. I used to be obsessed with the idea that you need sex first.....but no. My husband and I both think it wasn't worth it. We had amazing experiences with other people, but the lack of real commitment (marriage) made it not worth the risks. He and I only got married due to having a child we were both told we couldn't have (medically). Took hard work the first years, and once we found Jesus together honestly it's been great most the time, for a decade married now, just about 11.5 years together. I think your best bet is someone of similar faith to you, or perhaps if you figure out your own faith if you haven't, and get therapy if you need it. Hopefully you'll find someone who's done the same. People also need to remember marriage isn't about some fairytale of people being perfect for one another. That doesn't exist. Everyone has issues, it's how you work through them together, how you communicate, and how you each problem solve. I know it's hard out there now for sure. ♥️ Take care

@@ari3lz3pp i was born in '95, got with my highschool sweetheart in 2011, did everything 'right' (abstained 100%, both graduated then got full time jobs) proposed to her in 2013, things went downhill slowly after that, but after 9 years we realized we hadn't communicated something super important; children. I 100% want to have a child of my own. and she 100% absolutely would not be giving birth. an irreconcilable difference, so after 10 years i had to break it off.

Thanks to online dating and dating apps in particular people have been made disposable. Don't like who you currently have? Go swipe for a better one!

When it comes to dating, women get quantity over quality; men get neither.

Omg thank you for saying that.

It's easy for people like Ben and his friends a DW which I respect by the way to lecture people about getting married because their all rich and swimming in dough they can afford it no problem in fact it's easy for them to have more Conservatives lives in regards to family when their rich but for a large percentage people in America that's not possible their simply too poor to be lead more Conservative - traditional type of lives centered around marriage and family, also the culture more broadly has succeeded in training people into believing that marriage, child rearing and family in general is a bad thing and shouldn't be prioritized as a result going into the future the vast majority of people will never marry and have kids but apparently some Conservatives haven't accepted that they've lost that cultural battle.

@@fraserfir19 that’s so not true! They all were poor and struggling when they got married. If anything they became better humans and more successful because they were married. My husband and I have a similar story as young millennials. We had nothing when we got married, and we build quite a life together in just 7 years. It’s amazing what you can do together

@@alqoshgirl The average millennial woman is getting married in their 30s. Not 20s. They aren't building anything, they are looking for someone to take care of them and their spawn

I’m in the same boat. I’ve tried and keep trying every day to work on myself. Since high school I’ve set my mind to godly things, and I’ve concentrated on my academics and I even got a college degree, all while always being open to going on dates, kind behavior, being agreeable and willing to fall in love. But nothing sticks. You know, you get left behind for whatever reason. You find these ‘godly’ men who enjoy your friendship and act like they find value in your humor and your beauty, but then they find someone more feminine and softer than you, I suppose. Of course that’s sweet for them but you’re left reeling. And now I’m 29 and still, you know, “working on myself,” looking to God, being brave, putting myself out there. I don’t want to give up but time, ya know? Time is precious.

You're a woman. Look in your friend zone. Dating is easy for women, because you just have to exist. Chad has many options and not just you.

Hmmm, I feel the same

I have always heard stay single fir as long as possible. Then you have people who tell you to get married young. It's really confusing. I have had married people tell me point blank to stay single. It's crazy man

​@@Davey97 Each person is different. Marriage is useful and fulfilling for some people, but for others it is not. Assuming you have children, it is the most expensive endeavor a regular person will ever have to sacrifice themselves for. It's an endless cycle, we are born, we procreate, and then spend the rest of our limited life-span on our children, and by the time they leave we are alone once more, and eventually we die. For some, this is an affordable journey, but most people nowadays are realizing how paradoxical it is to continue this endless cycle of birth and death.

Genuinely I always thinks it's up to people themselves it's annoying seeing society tells us we should get married then we shouldn't personally I would like to get married I do hope to find someone but I understand some people who don't it is a commitment you make with another person. Most people like to stay commited to themselves and that's an ok think loving yourself over loving someone

Don't get married

Yeah divorce rates for young people are the worst out of any age group actually. Countries with average marriage of 35 have lower divorce rates (Ireland, etc).

I wish society would think like you do

Very high divorce rates and climbing

Hubby and I were (still are) both military when we married at 20 and 23. Unfortunately we could only have 2 kids due to childcare needs but now that I'm nearing retirement, we have one and are planning for one more pregnancy. It's great when it works out.

ugh

A real life dependa “You had me at tricare” 🥰

Just beautiful 🙂 Wishing you many more happy years x

Y’all are the exception to the rule. Most of those types of relationships don’t work out

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Congrats on your wedding anniversary ❤️ love is so beautiful.

That was back in ye’ olden times. Things don’t work like they did back then. The system is irrevocably broken. Thanks Boomers you piles of irredeemable excrement.

@@trembling3674 You can do it!

Just do it!!! Seriously everything can be worked out in marriage. You commit to stay together no matter what. Put God first, that you are committed to what God calls of you in marriage and your responsibility to stay rather than only for that person. That makes you work on you and not focus on them which makes for a healthy union. Your partner will always disappoint you but you give the same grace and forgiveness God gave us and keep being the man God called you to be as a husband and you can’t fail. Do it! I married at 20 and quickly had 2 kids after and married 19 years now. When I tried to leave my husband said no you will stay and we will work this out no matter what, walking out the door is the first step to divorce. So tell me what it takes and we will do it. So glad he stepped up as a man and stayed true to his vows and we couldn’t be happier

When folks say "It hasnt always been easy" I always wonder if that ranges from simple boredom to another person having to forgive cheating of the other to stay together

Note that it specifies "quarrelsome wife" and not simply "wife". He is referring to a very specific TYPE of woman, not women in general. Solomon was not advocating for singleness, but for careful choosing of one's spouse. Proverbs 31 is all about how great it is to find a good woman.

, I'm 27 and to most people what I may say might shock some, but I don't care, I've been married to my sister for 3 years now and it's just the most beautiful soul changing thing we've done the only downside is we can't have biological kids but our love and connection that we have is what's important, young marriage is key folks. ❤️

Shut up! All of you old farts just SHUT THE HELL UP! You obviously do not comprehend how toxic the environment has become for marriage. You obtained your habits before your generation destroyed your Children’s future, and here you are preaching like arrogant, clueless morons. Next you’ll be condescendingly explaining to the youngins how to code on java script. You people make me sick!

@@titanproductions3628- Holy shit! Talk about F’ed up. 🤮

@@Greywolf-91 Yeah you should look in the mirror.

Are you actually happy? My sister has been married 20 something years and I think she is unhappy!!! She did not get to live being single and knowing yourself and traveling!!

💯 Most people don’t even know who they are let alone what the want/need in a partner. I married at 36. Established, financially secure and responsible. I was none of those things in my 20s

with 18 you are different than 25 and with 30 you are different again. Young marriage that works out is rare.

@@nataliefeelme4416 That's why I said it can work, but it doesn't always work. Tldr. Ben got lucky with his wife. He married a moral woman instead of an immoral woman.

That's just marriage in general though. Sure, age can be a factor, but it doesn't make this point super valid. Lots of things can be contributing factors to a failed relationship. The reality is that it simply doesn't work for some people. It requires both parties to be dedicated to the same cause. Once that happens, and as long as it stays that way, it doesn't matter if you got married at 17 or at 37.

@@FinalLugiaGuardian But that’s the point. People should be moral. The problem wasn’t the early age of marriage, the problem was the immorality.

yeesh. nah, you should have accomplished a bit more first. it's just not a good idea to jump the gun. sure, some last, but why not do something with life first? travel, write a book, perform in a band, write speeches for protests, *anything*. plus, those who married young are always lamenting that they didn't do more first. they feel bleak. some just convince themselves they're super happy with their choice, that they're superior. lol. oppsite day. these silly kids think they are filling in their BINGO spaces. but most people don't see getting hitched young as successful. it's just playing house we see it as cringe. you know how liberals take all this pride in letting drag q u eens read to their kids and everyone else is like "dear god, no thx".. well it's kinda like that. there's a reason successful and high class people tend to get married in their 30s.

Amen

I got married a month away from 21, was the best decision of my life. The way I was going was not the career driven route. My husband and I have learned how to run a household and manage our money. You don't need an education to make money and budget. You need a spouse to keep you accountable and have dreams and goals together. ✨️ My husband and I did alot , too much partying and drinking before we even got married, we know about that life and it's nothing to be missed.

Ben traded his foreskin for a silly hat, I wouldn’t take his opinions seriously.

@@legalfictionnaturalfact3969 Everyone I know who got married relatively young is happy about it, and everyone I know who followed your advice has a lot of regret. Good partners don't stay on the market. If you are in your 30s looking for a partner, you're just sifting through the leftovers.

Exactly.

Girlfriend/boyfriend relationships in high school just prepare young people for later divorce. Save your money, spend your time developing your mind and character, set your life goals and concentrate on becoming an adult. When the time comes to marry, go courting.

God isn't real. That's your first problem. Delusions.

@@LoganArmbrust1 I'm 21 never even had a girlfriend before. Getting married and having kids just don't seem like a good life to me.

Yes, you dodged a few bullets. But you are still at risk by waiting for a woman. Never get married.

Sure! But you also shouldn't be having sex then just to be frank. I think therapy is a huge necessity to guarantee as much success as possible before marriage. It used to be required in some states. It was in the one I was in but my husband pushed it as he felt rushed because we did it under precarious circumstances. He had mental problems that caused his abusive behavior. He had BPD but we didn't know. I was also undiagnosed for ASD, so that would've helped us recognize why we had communication difficulties when it came to my tone issues and similar. I truly believe if we had both been diagnosed before marriagez even right before, or during (before divorce) we would've made it. We both really did want to commit, and still love one another but he refused to stick with a treatment plan and started a really promiscuous lifestyle. I've now been remarried for a decade and it's not always been easy, in the beginning there was a lot of hate and even apathy. Ironically, the fact that we both found Jesus when I had been considering leaving for my ex husband...and my current was willing to stand up like a real husband and say no..that we need to work it out. That's what saved it. Jesus and real commitment...which is what marriage is. It's not *about* being happy all the time. It's about being able to be content most days and to make it through the major struggles together, to grow together, and to build up a life with another person. People believe this myth of the perfect partner, and unfortunately I think most divorce now is unecessary...some people need to make it through the haze of that b.s. to see they DID pick the right partner, a good partner, they just are hit with reality that that person isn't perfect just like they aren't. It's lazy and childish to leave in most cases. I

@@ari3lz3pp I don't have sex anymore, but I do have porn. Porn is better because I don't have to risk a partner.

@@Bothsidesmakenosense lol this lowlife cannot take a different perspective when it comes to people seeing marriage flaw.

Stop looking, unicorns don't exist

Absolutely not. But I suppose you just have a different view on marriage due to life experiences

It is very beautiful. I agree with him.. It's also important to find someone who has your same values. Which I don't think Shapiro talks about as much. What makes a long-lasting marriage is not just love, but the same values. Making sure that you both have a deep commitment to each other no matter what. Especially nowadays when a lot of young men and women have gotten caught up in the hookup culture, it's especially important to find someone with your same values. Even if you have to wait a little bit. I waited 31 years for the right one. I don't regret it a single day

Men should focus on career

True...you can choose to do "more to life" with or without a spouse and/or kids. It's more rewarding when starting younger.

But nothing as impactful on a personal level. Time flies by starting in your 30s it picks up the pace. Most women in their late 30s and early 40s have issues having healthy pregnancies, and trying to raise a young child in your 40s+...yikes. Anyone I've known who has shyed away from marriage (even if "committed" long term) is unhappy most nights. They just are...they might have fun partying or being consumers of video games, cars, etc...but they always have a loneliness and general sadness. They aren't growing and improving as much as their married friends, they don't have that person to count on and come home to. (Some even in the partnerships or living with a friend...it's clearly not the same). They aren't pushed to improve as a unit. They are emotionally stunted and not contributing to the progress of humanity. It's NOT for everyone...no doubt.. nature has its way of weeding out certain people through time. But most people I've met that go through this, even compared to divorced people that had kids...most are hit with hard cold reality once they let it slide by and they are too old to do anything about it.

@@ari3lz3pp it’s a personal choice that I don’t think it’s a great world to bring kids into, I think it’s selfish and just perpetuates the cycle of misery, you’ve one life and I think it should be lived to the max

This is why men are struggling. There’s simply no incentive.

"I want to get married for the tax cuts" said no one.

@@TL-xv1fd People getting married for the tax cuts would be better than what we’re doing now.

@@TL-xv1fd who the hell would say that out loud

Complaints about laws that have been on the books for decades is basically an excuse I think if the laws were favorable people would still not get married because they don't care and don't want to make it a priority it's just that many haven't admitted that to themselves yet which is that they never wanted or valued marriage when they were younger in the first place because if they did they would have married when they were younger but chose not because they never made it a number 1 priority and didn't care, basically people should be more honest with themselves and make the necessary adjustments and plans for being single long term into old age because that's where their setting themselves up for, and I suspect there's going to be more apartment blocks built in the future and less traditional homes with yards etc.

True...

I mean the high/low body count thing is basically virgin or not right? Because anyone can claim whatever body count they want.

Marriage is a man-made concept. The "God" part of your marriage is just the psychology you use to justify it. If it serves you well, so be it.

Bros name I says it all

@@indykkowalski9366 Which one?

@Millennial Smark I agree with everything you just said. You literally described being a God in a temporary body.

​@@demonicaxeman7264marriage is made by God. It's man who hates marriage.. You're full of s***!

Most actually become financially stable when they marry. My husband tells me all the time. He probably wouldn’t be in the position he is in if it wasn’t for me and our kids. It’s amazing what motivates a man that has a purpose and drive to provide for his loved ones. My husband doubled his salary in our short 7 years marriage. We had 4 kids in that time and all on 1 salary. He’s looking at getting a raise again in the next half year. God provides and there is an out of this world joy knowing we build this life together

@@alqoshgirl Bottom line if I get married I can’t travel that’s where my money is.

@@alqoshgirl But it’s not BECAUSE of the wife 🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️ Get out of here.

@@the1prodig432 why are you so miserable? 🤣 does it feel good being alone?

@Matthew Goodwin I’ve basically been alone for years I can go a few dozen more

I totally agree, telling young men to just get married is setting them up for disaster. And that is how tons of young men see it, conservative and libertarian minded men feel this way. The culture itself has turned marriage into a trap.

Same. And if you're religious, women outnumber men in church. It's at least 3:1 in my fairly large church and similar ratios when I visit other churches. On Christian dating sites....it's a mess and a scam. None of my married couple friends knows any single guys and/or wants to set up their friends. A new well-groomed single man just started attending my church and I know at least 5 of us are probably eyeing him. We want to be married.

I Absolutely agree!

Jesus and most of his disciples, Paul, Elijah, Elisha, Jeremiah and Daniel were all single. In fact, there is not a single family in the Bible that never had a failure recorded. CS Lewis didn't get married until he was almost 60. Isaac didn't marry Rebekah until he was 40.

@@jackcarraway4707 Jesus was married to Mary Magdalen. The Gospel of Phillip relates that Jesus "loved her more than the other disciples" and would "often kiss her on the lips". In the Gospel of Luke, Mary Magdalen wipes her hair on Jesus' feet. According to Jewish law, only a husband was allowed to see a woman's hair unbound and if a woman let down her hair in front of another man, this was a sign of impropriety and grounds for mandatory divorce. This incident , then can be seen as portraying Jesus and Mary either as man and wife or as libertine lovers with scant regard for moral niceties.

@Voice Nerd~ Wonderful testimony. God bless you and your family.

Did you need parental consent?

Any updates on your relationship? That's quite the age gap but if both are mature it's not impossible I guess

it's always difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation my wife for 12 years left me, i couldn't just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual adviser who helped me bring her back.

@@haynesatteh4463 her name is SHELLY RENEE WHITE,and she is a great spiritual adviser as well as caster who can bring her back

@@jamesbennett3843 Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive.

Exactly, as a wise man once said, no serious guys until you're 30.

@@Lenin95 lol

I’m sorry guys, this is nonsense. The fact that our society has extended adolescence until your 30 is gross. You’re an adult at 18. If you’re not a serious person by 30 you’ve wasted half your adult life.

Also don't have sex. That's part of the huge issue now. People think it's less important to share your body with someone that way, than it is to marry someone. Or to have kids but being married is whatever... Marriage is simply a commitment that makes it more difficult to quit for stupid reasons. Also if you hold yourself to the standard of saying you won't have sex unless you are willing to commit to someone else who will do the same, that you both have made a deal of what you expect from marriage, and the expectations. That issue comes with people having some naieve fairytale idea of what marriage is, also what freedom of promiscuity is. Before sex or marriage you should have therapy to unpack some of your garbage. Unfortunately the sluttiest people tend to be damaged and seeking a bandaid solution by being so. No one...NO ONE will ever be perfect for you. No one is perfect. But if you are lucky enough to find someone you can stand to be around every day, that you can effectively communicate with when things are bad....that you both feel this way, and can make one another laugh...that's something that honestly is a wonderful foundation to become married. And to "stand being together" as-in not constantly compromising but because you have enough core values in common (religion/spirituality, hopefully politics.. what about kids..) Honestly I have been married twice. The first time I was left by my husband, he had severe mental disorders undiagnosed and regretted leaving. I was torn apart by it too. It's always stuck with me. I still love him but I couldn't get a hold of him for years and moved on. I did something regrettable...I slept with someone. Luckily he ended up becoming my husband once I forced it to happen. But now he and I both advocate for people not to sleep together unless they are both ready and willing to get married and to risk children. I was ready to leave when I discovered I was pregnant. So we stayed together. I realised if we were not married, we would only be constantly at war with one another about the child. If we were married at least we could be a partnership again. No..this is NoT what I recommend (but I don't recommend doing the first part lol-we were both being sluts). We both found God several years in and things started to look up. Now it's been about a decade married, only a little longer together. We are very content and even unbelievably happy regularly. It's suprising tbh, but we both wanted to commit. We both wanted family, so we could grow together. I do think if you want real growth as an adult, and don't have a mental issue holding you back, you naturally will want to marry for good reasons . I see many partnerships of people together for decades on the cusp of marriage but never quite make it there. Most times they are very depressed and unfulfilled. Even though they have kids and all of the surface things of marriage. Why do you think gay marriage rights have been so major??? Because it *means* something.

@@tracibars9704 The “serious guys by 30” comment was a reference to Biden speaking to a young girl. Don’t take it seriously lol

What happened in the relationship

Hmmm there’s a beauty of doing it together. So what if the right person comes along? You’re just not gonna pursue them because you don’t have everything perfectly in order? My husband and I got married, had our first child and my husband couldn’t even get a mortgage. In just 7 years his salary doubled, we added 4 more kids, have a house and can send our oldest to catholic school. God provides. As long as you have ambition and a goal that’s what matters most. Like with my husband he was getting an engineering degree so we knew he would be financially getting ahead in the future

@@alqoshgirl what will a woman want with a guy who doesn’t have his own house?

So they are out there! Keep up hope since there are people your age that think like this and are married

I’m on a similar boat. I’m 26 years old now and it’s been very difficult finding the Ideal girl : someone who loves God & truth as much as me - or even more! I been working in the meantime to become the best possible future spouse, I know God will provide :)

There is a dating app out there for right wingers that have Conservatives Christian women out there.

@@ResidentRecon89 I’m personally opposed to use dating apps lol. Best way to find a partner is to get out there and be involved in the community. And not just hide behind a screen

@Potato Joe they are out there. There’s dozens of extremely devout Christian girls in my city. Only way to meet them is to get involved in your church and community

Helps if you are part of a religion. If both of you prioritize your faith over material success, hopefully you will realise the choice to be together is life long

@@b.melakail Not even religion is a guarantee. There are a lot of tradcon chameleons out there who have learned to hide their shady past. And while Jesus may forgive you, your body and psyche will remember. The more sexual partners a woman has had, the bigger your chance will be of a divorce. Jesus forgiving her for her sins will not change that.

No it just makes you someone that has poor decision making skills. You can know if you’re compatible within weeks. It’s not that hard. People don’t do that though and waste time for no reason and are with people they are not compatible with. Someone in the comments wasted 9 years of his life because they didn’t agree on having children. Like how? You can know that on the first day you meet them. Do you want kids? No? Ok, it was nice meeting you but you’re not the one. That’s it.

Well if society is still putting on that pressure it isn't working too well because marriage rates are dropping fast and hard. I'm 34 and still don't have the resources to start a family. I will within a few years but that puts me at my late 30s. My mom had me at 37 and my youngest sister at 42 (which wasn't common in early 90s like it is today) so it's fairly normal in my mind. I grew up upper middle class because they both had good paying careers already in our younger years. I'd like to do the same for my kids. I also am in good health / youthful and can see myself living to 120 so I don't see the rush other than I'd like my parents to see my kids and they're already in their early 70s. Society changed drastically in a short amount of time. Us Millennials have to figure it out as best we can.

There is no way that would have happened if I was married is too strong a statement. By 35 my wife and I had lived in four different countries, and had traveled to dozens of other countries. Our two children were born overseas. Because we were married when we had these adventures - hiking in the Alps and the Himalayas, walking through Red Square, riding camels around the Pyramids, strolling down the Champs Élysées, and so many more - we can recall them together.

Lol as if you can’t travel with a wife and kids. So you’re just going to sit around now and do nothing with your family?

@@alqoshgirl I was living out of a backpack for 14 months, traveling through middle east, Eastern Europe, North Africa and South America. Not only is that unaffordable for a whole family, its not exactly safe, or feasible to organize a type of trip like that.

@@kenpumford754 amazing. That wasn't my experience. The woman I was with prior to finding my wife didn't have the money, the ability to take the time off, or even that strong of an interest. Me and my wife travel now, but the way we travel is a lot different than when I traveled solo

Lol is it more likely that it's most women who are the problem, or just you?

@Potato Joe haha. So hang on let me get this straight...MOST women in their early twenties are ruined? That must account for millions of people; can I ask how you conducted this investigation? The interview time alone! How did you decipher that they were 'ruined'? Gosh, all this happening without me knowing

very different dating scene right now. many of us men who want to get married are having a hell of a time finding someone to marry.

cringe

My parents don’t even let me date and I’m 19 😭

@@Professionalbsdetector you do realize you’re an adult… right?

That was a different time though. That's a thing oldtimers, and I'm only 2 years younger then you so I'm one too, find hard to keep in mind. What worked when we were young doesn't work today. And I am single and I can say, the dating scene is horrible. And it's so much worse for young guys now. They're getting out earned and out educated by women across the board, and unlike men women do not date down. They do not want a man that earns less then them, has a lower education then them, is shorter then them and with most educated women being extremely left wing they probably don't want a conservative man either. Unless they are really desperate. But by that time they are in their 30's with their best years gone.

Yea, how many people fall in love and and up marrying a childhood sweetheart? And how many women today will really even consider marrying a broke guy? Ben isn't experienced in today's sexual market place.

@@kenttyler1243 Yeah the unfortunate state of the current dating climate was completely neglected in this video. We don't live in a time era where you can just meet someone on the sidewalk or at a park, or at a shopping mall and, like a fairytale, everything just falls in place and you live happily ever after. Nowadays looking for a SO, or hell even just a date is fucking chore anymore. Everyone is either busy, broke, or both. They all have something going on. Even at social events, it seems like everyone is already taken and there isn't much opportunity to have a shot at finding someone anymore. The modern dating market is a fucking mess, and at some point the thrill of looking for someone just stops being fun. It really cripples your motivation to keep trying.

​@@bretbuckley704and then when you're still single because of these issues, Ben and half bus supporters just go on about how you must be a gay liberal Marxist/bad Christian/ destroying the fabric of the country because you didn't get married at 18 after proposing on your 3rd date and then have your first kid 9 months after the wedding.

… and I would very much like to.

@@BLASTIC0 The law only matters if your marriage fails.

Bad idea. You’re doing exactly what the forces of evil in the world today want you to do: not reproduce. It’s really simple, if you think that you’ll get screwed out of the marriage deal, then buck off legal conventions. Make a prenuptial agreement with your partner before marriage that except in legitimate cases, such as with adultery or domestic abuse, whoever initiates a divorce forfeits all rights to taking care of the children and all rights to all the money owned by both parties. It’s seriously that simple. And if a woman isn’t willing to go that far with you, then she clear isn’t the right one to begin with.

@@kevinrobinson5654 And it can fail much easier due to no fault divorce and the incentive of alimony and child support. The point of marriage was that there was no divorce. You can’t completely destroy that institution and then pretend as if it’s the same thing it was when Jesus talked about it.

I understand where you're coming from and it's sad that you and others feel that way. Marriage ìs such a beautiful experience with neither party has to worry about one betraying the other. Another consideration. With all the current laws in place, my husband can freely divorce and leave me at anytime with little consequence. He's not stuck with me and chooses to stay inspite of my temper, poor housekeeping skills, annoying habits, and every other thing I do that isn't up to my own standards. I can do the same to him but choose to stay with him inspite of all his faults where he doesn't live up to his own standards but I don't find them "that bad". The fact one can freely choose to leave the other, we can be secured in knowing that we're both freely choosing to stay to work things out.

I completely agree with you. You can’t put an age and time on something, especially marriage.

Bullshit. Humans are social creatures and we find ourselves in our community.

@@squidlytv Nobody finds themselves when they constantly feel pressure to fit in or to conform to a particular idea.

@@jimboramba It's not about conformation or fitting in. It's about helping other people besides yourself. You can't go far without other people

Stop trying to find yourself. It is a waste of time.

@@squidlytv That's true, but it is also true that you can find yourself in more trouble than you'd get yourself in on your own if you associate with the wrong kinds of people. Forget marriage, look at all the people who are teaching this woke garbage at schools. Herd mentality is strongest among children and they are very susceptible to being convinced of being something or someone that they are not.

you are still a young man. there a lot of men in their 40s and 50s who are marrying and having children.

Not everyone gets a happy ending

men are just as insane.

For real. Half of them should be in the looney bin. The other half can’t even make a sandwich. Where did all the real womxn go??