To all y'all who are all "he's just a male Melanie" this song came out a year before dollhouse and Ben J was only 15 when he wrote this. The boy is hella...
I don't see how people think this is like dollhouse. Dollhouse is about a alcoholic mum, a cheating dad, and a drug addicted brother. How are gender roles like that?
+Ava Bickford The beat is kind of the same and it has the same creepy childish tune to it. Also, like in dollhouse it says. "Throw on your dress" In here, it says "Throw on your jersey". And the funny thing is that they both have been said at the same time, the beat also drops at the same time. Just personal observations. Though the plot of the two songs are extremely different. I'm not saying that Melanie or Benny copied one another, I'm just saying it's a coinsidence.
ClockWork // because they think theyre better than us, they come from a time where important problems like these were "solved" by brainwashing the others into thinking things like "being gay is wrong, its wrong for a boy to wear makeup" etc. So we have to adress it ourselves or we'll all go downhill fast.
YES!!! This song is about gender roles, not Mangle from FNAF .-. I am a -*-MASSIVE-*- FNAF fan though ^-^ I don't even see how this reminds people about mangle xD Probably because of sonic99rae's video I suppose ;3;
I feel really bad for people who have to deal with this whole "gender role" crap. Why can't we be the way we want to be? Society shouldn't be telling other people how to live.
Gabbi Jainniney Faggot indeed came from Fagot, but they made the word Faggot for a reason, and I mean queer. And you did mention smoking means you're gay: "For three, are you calling cigarettes depressed/emo/suicidal? Cause that's what a faggot is". And if i wanted to call someone a bundle of sticks, I would just call them a bundle of sticks instead of having them misunderstand me. I have many queer friends too, and I have nothing against them, and I hate to admit to say this, but when I call someone a faggot, I say it because I go with the crowd sometimes. And I am going to judge you the same way you judged me thinking I might be straight, but you look like a 10 year old.
Gabbi Jainniney You implied I was straight here:" I don't think it's appropriate or polite for a non-queer person to use the term faggot" and you don't have to agree with how I "go with the crowd", that's my choice, and you also don't have to explain how its an offensive term, because I was trying to be offensive.
A song about how society is pushing people into following gender roles: Underrated and overlooked. A song about drugs and sex with no effort whatsoever and overuses autotune- Praised and wins ever award out there.
EnchantedEmpress if you meaning Melanie and Benny then your right but people don't ship them in that way. They ship them because their songs are creepy as shit.
If the second one is Melanie than you obviously don't understand the message of many of her songs (haven't heard all of them but the ones I have were deeper than you seem to think).
Ok, so Im gonna go out on a limb here and say that for the second one they meant the over rated rap and hip hop songs, not Melanie Martinez. Yes, sippy cup and dollhouse are songs about sex and drugs but I don't think that's the song they were implying. Then again, I could be totally confused.
I just realized my dad gender roled me.... When I was a bit younger I asked for an Xbox for Christmas. He said "Those are for boys. How bout something different?" I thought I was angry because he said no. But really I was mad because he said they're for boys. But really it doesn't matter. A girl could have an Xbox. And I'm one of those girls. But my dad thought differently.... Gender roles are the worst....
My dad bought us an Xbox, it sat in the box for over a year before we even opened it XD my brother and step mum had time to fully move out before we opened it XD
As a trans kid i relate to this song so much...I'm ftm and there's a lot of judgement about how i don't fit the man gender roles and i always have to worry about what I'm doing and how i do it.
Miss Cupiid me too but I’m scared to tell my father is going to have a melt down about it when I ask to cut my hair above my shoulders he yelled at me “NO you need to look like a girl and he only lets me cut my hair to my shoulders but I’d never down it my step mom had a fit when my sister did it
A girl can like video games and sports - 'boyish' things. A girl can also like dressing up and singing - 'feminine' things. Like how a boy can like video games and sports - 'boyish' things. And how a boy can like dressing up and singing - 'feminine' things. Its your choice... I like how this song captures it ^-^
+Ava dela Pena yup i found this song on a youtube mix and i was scared by the music video but i surched (sorry for my bad spelling) but now i'm obsessed with it.
I love video games and sports but I like singing and I hate wearing dresses my ex boyfriend couldn't understand that so I broke up with him. I got a new boyfriend and he understands. and I do agree it's choice. be how you want to be don't let society choose for you.
Kierstyn Justice thank you i personally like video games growing up and I got picked on for it. boys telling me that video games are for boys only. but I know plenty of girls who like video games and plenty of boys who play with barbie dolls.
Fudge'n THANK YOU like seriously finally a song about something other than love,break ups,and ... body...parts. Thank you Benny 4 raising awareness of the kids who are slowly slipping into depression and insanity because of bullies and peer pressure, and cyber bullies. Once again good job
I love how people love songs about sex that don't even have a real message behind them But then songs like this go unnoticed because today's media uses gender roles to sell things so they wouldn't promote a song that calls gender roles out like this So I guess what im trying to say is:Everyone likes songs about sex and drugs but not songs that are actually meaningful like this one
@@allydoodahdee I kinda don't like her because she just seems to edgy for me, or at least how everyone that I know who is a fan of her is edgy, plus who care about popularity, it's just about if its meaning full or not to me
I guess I'm not the only one who hates drugs and s*x songs C: Sincerely, I'm like... You're kidding me ?! People are really listening to this... Thing ?! Sooo... Yeah, you're right :3
Funny how a teenager can make such an expressive song about the way society has divided male and female into two specific categories, categories that have to be followed by society's expectations or else they will be labeled as a freak and cast out. But an adult seems to only make songs about sex, drugs, or other such unoriginal and distasteful topics. Don't try to defend these songs, because there is nothing to them, other than the artists seem to only care about a person's body in the song, and not the actual personality of the person. I know, some artists that write these songs do not act these ways in real life, but it's just so annoying to hear the newest song on the radio just be about some girl that met some guy in a bar, had sex, and then ditched each other.
A 15 year old can write an amazing song about gender roles and how society is trying to say no to us and push us under the rug and shit but not get any recognition but some untalented/cliche people write stupid songs that seem like they mean something but all said before 1000 times and win Grammys for it what the fuck(no I'm not calling specifically someone out)
that is the fucking truth . heck , jene aiko and seven streeter sound exactly the same! but little side note benny and cameron boyce look like the could be brothers
"Into living up to gender roles and having absent minds." I quote because gender roles is not a great thing. Feminine or not, boys can have girl stuff. And in the original video it shows a girl opening a book. If I wasn't allowed to open a book, I would seriously just open a book.
OK, so in class once I requested to play this song over everyone else's usual pop requests. Everyone else now thinks I'm crazy and I do get quite a lot of crap for it. Honestly, I think kids need to listen to this songs powerful message before deeming it stupid...
Yeah... This is how i feel about anaconda: THIS SONG IS SO RETARTED... ITS ALL ABOUT BUTTS... ITS ALL ABOUT BUTTS... ALL I GET IS SURGERY EVERY DAY... I GET SURGERY EVERYDAY... THATS WHY MY BUTTS SO BIG. YAY! THIS SONG GOT ME OVER 1MIL DOLLARS.: im with you...
"living up to gender roles.. don't you think it's funny, how they tell us how to live" This song stole my heart. Just to be sure, It is talking about transexualism, right?
+Prince-Oliver transsexualism? Being trans means that you feel uncomfortable in the body you were born in, or rather, the sex you were born in. So, a girl is born, and she feels uncomfortable in her body as a female, and wants to be a boy. Most of the cases, it causes people like that to be looked upon negatively, they get bullied, called names and MOST often "gay" (because they dress up as the opposite sex, and for some reason that is "gay" for them), etc. so they get gender disphoria. Basically, they're depressed about their gender.
Earlier at school a 4yr old was told to 'Sit like a lady' . Like, what the hell does that even mean? How do you sit like a lady because I really don't get it?
3clipse Moonlight_xxx not trying to hate on you but he has said a 100 times that the song is actually about gender roles. Again not trying to hate, I’m NB myself.
@@Frenzy48 I think they mean that it hits harder for trans people bc we have more problems with gender roles than anyone else because of wanting to pass and other peoples judgment. I'm ftm and I wear skirts but I often get told I'm faking being trans bc 'skirts are for girls' and this song is saying that it's pure BS That's what I think anyway, sorry for the essay 😅
This is the song that sent me on my journey. I’m still travelling, I’m not sure when I’ll reach my destination. It’s nice discovering yourself, there’s always the downs. But there’s always ups too. And having friends help you always makes the journey more fun and better for all of us✌🏻
Like Imagine dragons and others (first thing I could think of off the top of my head, i know there are others who don't sing about bad things) this song is just wow
They expect us to be something we're don't need or have to be. Gender roles? No, we're all different, but we're all the same. Males can cry. Females can feel confident in an outfit that shows their skin because we have been shut down from doing that. We're all unique, we don't have to live up to society's expectations if we don't want to. For me, I live up to my own damn expectations, no one else's. I love myself for who I am, and I know I can change things about myself that I want to change. Gender roles are stupid. Be who you want to be. Your choice, not anyone else's.
"Put on false confidence just to feel alive" As a ftm trans person, I relate heavily to this. Just because I came out, cut my hair, and bought a chest binder doesn't mean I automatically love myself again. I hate myself. But I pretend to be alright and pretend to love who I am now because everyone around me assumes that's how it goes. As any other trans person would know, that's not how it works. Even after everything, a lot of people still take time to learn to love themselves. I'm not there yet, and I don't know if I ever will be. But I fake a smile and force confidence onto myself like a drug because that's the only way I ever feel alive and free. Thanks for coming to this shitshow of a TED-Talk.
As a genderfluid person, I relate a lot to your comment... I hope you'll soon feel better. Just remember that you don't have to put up a front of happiness. It's okay to be sad, it'll eventually pass with time but while you're struggling don't hesitate to talk to a friend if you need to. That can be really freeing to know that someone is supporting you. That's an occasion to let it all out.
Tbh, your profile pic looks like Jason Grace. And Piper as in Piper Mclean. Okay sorry u probably dont get it but I'm sorry my fandom needs representation-
I'm not going to complain about the fnaf fans. I'm going to complain about the people telling them to 'stfu' I see more complaints than the actual people commenting about fnaf. But back to the song, its really amazing c: everyone is the same, whether you're transgender or not, so please, don't use gender roles as everyone wants to be happy.
This is NOT AT ALL like dollhouse. Dollhouse is about broken families and this is about gender roles. This song tells you straight up whats going on and dollhouse uses a metaphor. Also this is better
this hits me extremely hard because I have a hard time identifying if I'm female or male. Like, some days I'll wear a dress and my hair will be straightened and such. Other days I'll want my hair to be short and want a Chest binder, I'll even snatch some of my bro's clothes and wear them. This song just speaks to me
CancerianEnvy 6969 THANK YOU SOMEONE KNOWS I used to think this song was about conformity but afte4 coming out as agender I realized: It's about struggling with gender identity in a world where cisgender is normal.
+Trick Graell i think it's just about gender rolls being too tough on people. i guess you could relate it to transgenderism, but i see it as more of an overall gender roll issue than about struggling with one's identity.
Honestly, this song means so much to me. It's not about breaking up with your boyfriend, it's about stereotypes and gender roles. Things like that are worse than your stupid boyfriend. Every time I'm somewhere I can request a song, I request this. It's amazing and I think Ben needs to make more music.
TWO YEARS LATER* YESSSSSSSSSSS I AGREE IT'S NOT ABOUT BREAK UPS OR BIG BUTTS, DRUGS, ETC IT HAS REAL MEANING!! I am a girl I like soccer, reading, drawing, hiking, I don't like being careful (Covered in scars :P), I HATE dressing up, I LOVE Fishing, camping, hunting, I love shooting bow and arrows. I hate stereotypes and how people get judged for being who they want to be. I don't like acting 'like a lady'. I love video games and doing 'guy things' People need to learn to respect that and leave people be. Love this song. Today is the first time that I've heard this and I have it on loop I FELL IN LOVE STOP THE STEREOTYPES!!!!
My dad grounded me for listening to this. He says it's "Untrue sh*t about genders and suicide for snowflakes" but I disagree with him. He believes there's boy girl and nothing more. No trans no non binary no they and no it. He or she is all my family believes in. But imma stand by people who despise gender roles and labels and keep listening to this no matter what my dad says.
Please stop comparing him to Melanie Martinez. Sure, their music is similar, but they’re two completely different people with different styles. Comparing someone to another person doesn’t make them feel good-especially when you make it seem as if they’re copying another being, when they’re not.
seriously this song throws out an important message.. kids now days need to listen to this and realize the world isn't about gender roles. I mean yes we are all raised differently, but kids now days and even older people needs to learn that you dont have to be a boy to wear this or be a girl to do this.. we are human.. we have skin.. we have minds, and we have hearts.. we can use them in the way we like to.. (: ~ sorry if this offended anyone, I was using common since and thinking about life now days (:~
I’m a trans guy. The second I started presenting as a boy, I was expected to be strong and confident. I don’t know how they’d all expect me to be confident when I’m not comfortable at all in my body. I cant be feminine at all, even when I feel like it. I can no longer cry in front of people without being called a wimp.
I'm also a trans guy and I experience simular things. it feels like I can't even like things that don't include sports or anything like that without being questioned and asked if I'm sure I'm a guy
the worst part about gender roles is how girls can wear "men's clothes" and no one seems to care, but a guy wears "girly things" and you'll never hear the end of it!!! If a girl can be a tomboy a guy can be "girly"
Okay I was just reading strangers comments because that's what I do And most of them aren't about the song Why are you putting full paragraphs about your opinion of other people's comments Just listen to the song like good little internet explorers I'm pretty sure someone is going to say "But you just did what your comment said people are doing" or something along those lines I know man, I know But this is song is reeeallly awesome like seriously
When I first heard this song (there wasn't any lyrics), I was like, "I need to see the lyrics." And it is official. This song is by far one of the best I've ever listened to.
This song is like one of the songs I obsess with and then forget about and then go back to obsessing over along with literally any fnaf song in existence
I did come here from a video about Mangle, but not because I think it fits 'em. I came here because I related to the part of the song used in it, so I wanted to hear the rest. And, I fully relate to it. I'm female in real life, but I want to be a boy, but society looks down on people like me. We're forced to be in these roles, but we wanna break out, and not act how our genders are seen. Be who we truly are inside.
Everyone: "When i was a kid my mom didnt get me a toy because she thought it was only for boys/girls" Me: "My mom just didnt get me a toy when i was a kid because we were broke as shit lmao"
TBH my friend sent me the link to this song. And I'm gonna just say I am a FNaF fan but this song doesn't remind me of FNaF. I'm just here to listen to music.
Can I ask you why you think of HS? I haven't read it yet, but I know the characters and I want an exPLANATION. TH3 PROS3CUT1ON S33S NO -EXPL4N4T1ON- CO1N.
It reminds me of FNaF ";-; *Im a mega FNaF fan though- I can think of any song fitting into FNaF- Example: *I can **-Kind Of-** find a place to put Alone by Nico Collins into FNaF* ";-;
Nope, I was looking into the song remixes (the ones where RU-vid strings all the songs together) and it got my interest. Not many songs can do that to me nowadays.
I remember listening to this a lot when I was younger Now I'm basically an adult for two years Accepting being comfortable with being born female, yet I still need to find myself whilst realising how gender roles as a whole are absolute bullcrap which resulted in me wearing whatever the hell I want, not caring if it's for men or women Still unsure if the fact that my father attempted to raise me male when I was a toddler while later being raised a girl by my mother who still allowed me to do what i wanted played a part in this development
I think the chorus' meaning is like whenever people try to stick up for their "roles" they're always hushed and brainwashed into gender roles, hence the "hush boy/girl, throw on a Jersey/just bat your eyes"
People don't look for song that have deep meanings, they usually look for songs that sounds nice and have nice rhythm. People like trap music and nothing's wrong with that. People like ballads and nothing's wrong with that. Y'all need to get the fact that not everyone's gonna like the same thing ingrained in your shriveling brains. I'm just here because this song sound nice.
This song actually gained me a friend when a fellow queer kid on my bus heard me listening and we started talking!! I felt really open with him and now that hes graduated I really miss him. Luv u Alex!!
Dollhouse: Places places get in your places throw on your dress and put on your doll faces Little Game: Hush boy, oh, hush boy Dont say a word. Throw on a jersey and no one get hurt. Yes, I see the similarities but the topic is different...
This hits me close to home. I’m transgender FtM and I’ve always hated gender roles. In gym, although teachers never imply for it, girls always stay on one side in groups and boys on the other. Me and my other transgender friend were in the middle. The only two of us. The weirdos. It pains me how girls wearing oversized hoodies and messy hair with no makeup is “unladylike” and guys wearing dresses, pretty hair, and makeup is “gay”. Society, let us live our lives in peace.
