as a whole, we should stop feeling the need to share everything and anything with people who don't even know us. stay unknown, bask in the silence, just relax
I feel this way too, do you need to put it out there for the world to see? Next thing you know youll get ratiod hard or be remembered for an embarassing meme. People need to fall back to privacy, sure take pictures with your friends and family for memories but do you need to post it for your other "friends" to see. Straight up even minors are in danger if they dont stay anonymous, happened so many times. If anything, posting is what an insecure person would do. Dont use your real name on the internet when having discussions with other people from the internet. People need to be more knowledgeable, there will be consequences for portraying a public image.
For people who weren’t born yesterday: you know that Facebook was founded exactly like that, right? To connect you to long-lost friends from high school or college, no ads, no monetization for a long time. And now look at what it has become. Because investing money year after year without getting anything back for it, that’s just not the way companies work.
Tbh most people still use or used FB for their friends and all that. There are still the terminally online degens but they're the vocal minority. There are ads now, but that shouldn't surprise anyone. Though I gotta say FB as a company? I could've never imagined this is the route they take with the metaverse and all that lol
Yeah, but I had some good times on Facebook before it really became a fart swamp, just like Livejournal, Tumblr, etc... so might as well enjoy this one while it lasts.
People become close friends by spending lots of time together, not by sending each other photos of them doing random crap without context when prompted by a phone app.
A man walks into a room with two tied up and gagged hostages. He is wearing a mask with 'BeReal' written on it. He removes the gags from both people. "BE FRIENDS, NOW! WHAT, YA THINK THIS ISN'T HOW PEOPLE BECOME FRIENDS!? SAVE YOUR WORDS." He holds two guns, one pointing at each hostage. "Please.. let me go home." "Not until you show eachother random pictures of whatever the fuck you were doing earlier today. Now isn't that what friends do?"
I think you're missing the point of it. It's just meant to break down that facade of 'perfection' that people put on over social media with all the filters and flexing, and to greatly reduce the incentives toward unfulfilling things such as likes, follows, clout and such. Basically to show that, in reality, we're really all just boring ol' people who only occasionally might do something cool, and we should all learn to show our actual selves to the world and be happy in our own skin. In that aspect, I'd argue it has actually succeeded in some ways. It also succeeded in showing that people aren't at all alone in their distain for the hyper-addictive drama filled cesspit of social media.
It's not about becoming friends, it's about keeping in contact with friends, without the clutter and fakeness of Instagram. This is something you're supposed to use with people that are already your friends and staying friends with them
I feel like using Bereal is like switching from regular cigarettes to filtered cigarettes. It's just a small thing to make people feel better about their bad habit. Some major issues with social media that this app probably doesn't fix is the issue of selling user data, data leaks and hacks, and echo chambers.
A lot of people have success quitting after using a patch or chewing gum, theres people that are happy staying on the gum and then there's people that don't see themselves using anything but the cigarette themselves.
I forsee hundreds of influencers with a set-up all ready to show off how genuine they are. Props all piled up and ready for when the random alert comes. "Wow how random that you caught me while I was perusing this vintage Victorian scrapbook in my distressed Madewell jacket..."
I hate seeing everyone around me all simultaneously pull out their phones and take a photo of their surroundings due to the notification demands of the BeReal app. It's literally an addiction and hiveminded action.
Like, how is this superior than other social media? Also I’m just straight up locked out of its whole system because I don’t know anyone who uses it and I’m not going to invite anyone.
I only learned of it now and I dont use social media anymore, I want to reach 10 years, 2030, and see if I want to keep using it or not. It's tempting with BeReal but I decided its all the same really. I dont like the idea that I must show myself to the world all the time either. But what you said, reminded me of, how at a family gathering, with 10 people, how when others wernt gathered and out taking the dishes to the kitchen, the others pulled out their smartphones. So sad.
@@croissantlover1 as someone who's never used social media, I can tell you that it's more than possible and that there are plenty of other ways to feed your hunger for social interactions and validation
BeReal is somewhat of an anomaly for me. While people will first see this as an opportunity to showcase their 'real life', it wont take long for people to somehow cultivate the image that we put out. to gamify the system, to have something interesting and noteworthy to share to effectively 'win' at socialisation. This is how society has always worked. People with money used to sit in visible boxes with poor views when watching shows, just so that they would be seen by the commoners below. By creating a system where we can follow and like others reels, people will pride themselves on the growth they can generate through their life. In my eyes, this represents a tangible cultural shift. What people want is a return to authenticity, a countercultural shift away from images of perfection. Quite a lot of brands are mirroring this shift with their social media presence applying more more bold, memetic strategies that would never make it through being justified to the higher ups in the company. It resonates because it speaks directly to what the youngest generation (with money) wants from their companies. realism. We should be prepared to see a lot more 'false realism' in the coming years. a veiled stripping back of industry facades, while not really revealing anything
We're shifting away from perfection, but there will always be a comparison component. All it takes is for one beReal post to show your friends at an enviable destination and then comes the pangs of jealousy and competition
"how things always worked" except that's untrue. Right at the start of the video it was commented that the "no friends" category rose from 2% to 15% due to changes in the economy and technology. You are taking the worst aspects of our society, which are contextually contingent, and declaring it some right wing "Human nature" shit.
I think this app would force people to be actually engaged in some interesting stuff. People would actually engage and do fun things, things they fond productive and important because they don't know when that notification is arriving, and whenever it does, they want to be ready for it. But only if this app gets mainstream and stays cool and prestigious.
Already I can see cracks showing in BeReals “anti-social” strategy. As a very active BeReal user and pretty much the target audience, all of my friends use the app as well. At the start, everyone was being as real as possible and trying to post on time. But already there are people who don’t mind being hours late and wait until that football game or party with friends before posting. I feel like at a certain point people will get bored of posting on time and will just either not post or wait until something exciting happens, ruining the point of the app
I just know for a fact that if i were a user of this app, i would live with the constant anxiety of always looking good and always doing something exciting at least until the notification appears
I was thinking the same thing. The pop-up notice to "BeReal" should stay "active" for like 10 mins only. If you don't "BeReal" in that 10 min window, you missed that day's posting...
I think people switch back and forth too. You can be real when there's nothing fun going on and if there's something really fun, there's no harm in showing it once in a while
I don’t think BeReal will really replace Instagram for the average social media addict. It’s not a very flexible system. For many hardcore users, the likes and filters are the focus of their day, and it doesn’t let you post anything you want whenever you want. I think the main standout thing is the idea of no filters and no likes, but it’s not appealing to audiences the same way Instagram is.
This will turn into a competition for "how real you can be". All apps where you document your own life hinge on the desire for connection. Another app is ultimately just another data harvesting exercise. What actually works is getting off apps all together, stopping all notifications and actually getting out in the world, summing up the courage to call someone, talking to someone and actually "being real" - ie, actually connect. Deep relationships take time and nurturing. Apps promise a quick fix, a short cut, that never eventuates. These apps are a tool, but so many people instead of using the tool, end up being used by the tool - and that is by design.
That's true .. a drug,medicine should be used when need,anything we use often than it should,eventually become a drug/addict itself .. that's not a good thing 😃 We control our mindset,life,career is called one own's his life than ended up losing for something 😇(like going to a job for saving money for family,career but end up with overwhelming/reality crisis for a loop that can be escaped,but people unaware of it 😌) Wish everyone read this,realize this & get their life as they wish 😃🌟✨🙌 07.09.2022 06:44 pm ist
Since when do you need an app to be “anti-something”. Just don’t use what you don’t want to use. The problem is that some people always need to be part of something.
Pretty much everyone got sick of most social media and every problem it's been causing. Which is a lot. I think it mostly always comes down to which platforms your friends are using in the end unless you're into the whole arguing and sharing with strangers thing though. For the younger generations, they probably just want to use anything their parents aren't on really hahaha
people still like doing the same thing all their friends are doing, which can actually be a good thing but it gets co-opted for various reasons. the only real "anti-social" (more like private, not ad-driven) app is Signal as far as I'm concerned. Send messages to your friends, that's it.
Bingo. The app makes no sense at all. But the edgy kids need to have fun I guess. Btw this is coming form someone who hates social media, I'm not defending the other apps
I guess things are a bit different for me. I'm late genX and grew up with no computers/internet until my teens. Been working in IT for plenty of years now (what a change compared to the 80s). I don't base my worth on what people online think, but social media is a great way to keep in touch with friends and I've made real connections with people I've never met in person, even helping each other through tough times. Results may vary.
yea, i dont use facebook anymore but i still have the account, all because I have many relatives there that I can contact thru messenger when needed, but i dont spend hours browsing the timeline and checking people's profile and posts. the only pages usually check are those related to government branch, bank announcements, water and electric provider announcements, favorite artists (for drawing inspirations), etc etc
Each time there is a new social network there is a gold rush... at least to get the most valuable nicknames 😅 Each time there is a promise to be ethical, to be soft with ads, etc. And each time there is someone paying all the checks that wants his money back...
Yeah you are supposed to ride the waves of free money, and when the money runs out and they start looking to be profitable you start looking for the next wave.
I started using BeReal in like May this year, and I only had 3 friends on it. Now it's grown incredibly, and I still try to keep it private but I have around 35 friends on it. But even back then, I liked seeing that my friends were having normal, mundane lives, just like me. I knew it already, and consciously we all know life is not what Instagram portrays, but that's not the message our unconsciousness gets. So it's been amazing to have that reminder.
Yeah, we used to believe people were living these perfect lives, then we learned most is fabricated, but we saw some people having these actual lives and most approaching the ideal, then we got bombarded with daily cries for realness. In the end we figured other people close to us are probs having the same boring life, but it's hard to believe the logically obvious when there are no visual confirmation and we only have our own life to gauge "normalness". Didn't use the app yet - not even knew it existed, maybe it won't survive 4 months when it peaks, but seems like the reset button we all needed
I saw the rise of this app a few months ago and understood immediately that this is the next direction for Social medial. However, this is EVEN WORSE than Instagram. People will now start to feel the pressure to not just fake an interesting life, but actually focus so much on making their life interesting ALL THE TIME, just to be ready to take the "coolest" BeReal photo.
Or, they could also accept and be proud of how they're spending their time and decide to share it. Half of my beReals are my laptop and my cat and I'm happy about it.
@@eyondev You can be as happy as you want to be - but soon you will feel how the image the others have of you will start to shift. The more they see you just looking at your laptop with your cat - the more they will see you that way. And that's not a very appealing image. They may start see you as boring person. So your "social credit" with them will start to drop.
@@alexforce9 i mean if i’m gonna judge everyone’s life on the one frame i see of it everyday… then i’d think i’m really close minded but I could see how that would work for people i only see very infrequently besides on social media
@@sweggemen42069 Its not one frame. Its one frame every day. So after a month you would have see this person doing the same 15/20 times. Its the same as if some gymbro post gym selfie every day on insta. After 30 days everyone will assume this is the only thing going on for him.
Social media apps show alot about a person, if you can see past the smoke & mirrors. Times have changed people express more online , questions make it real. Topics, pictures & interests are a glimpse of a state of mind at the moment then it can be deleted or expanded on, being real is spending the time
Me, listening to the former facebook executive as someone who never touched a single social media app beside whatsapp for family and friends for my entire life: "I like your funny words magic man."
@@yahalomren But RU-vid is very different from the rest of social media, because it focuses in other type of content like gameplays, educational videos, etc. whereas other social media are more about sharing your personal life and following trends.
Yeah i don't see how this is the most downloaded app. The vid literally says it only has 20 mil downloads. Googling the download count told me it was 28 million downloads. Far cry from being "most downloaded app" Maybe it's referring to fastest growth?
This app has been out for 2 years and now has 20mil downloads. I have absolutely no idea what metric they could possibly be using for it to be the "most downloaded" app. Sure most other big apps have a headstart, but I can 100% guarantee you that apps like WhatsApp, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Snapchat have had a LOT more in that time. They sit at 1b+ downloads on the playstore alone. It ridiculous to imagine that not one of these apps had at least 2% of their installs in the last 2 years.
Yeah, the way the video is presented, the personal accounts in the comments that feel fake and plasticky, the title and thumbnail. This feels like an ad campaign.
The idea of an anti-social media, social media app is inherently absurd in my opinion. I could maybe see it being used as a social media lite to wean yourself off of more destructive apps but the only way to really "be real" is not to constantly worry about sharing what you do or checking up on what other people are doing.
Well said. If you are alcoholic, you can't say that you aren't that if you just drink bears instead hard drinks. Both will get you drunk just in a different way.
An antisocial media app!? Are you f*cking kidding me?!?? Just switch your damn phone off once in a while and appreciate Nature and physically reconnect with family and friends... That's an 'app' that's free, real and was 'uploaded' millions of years ago with the arrival of our species!
I think it's more like people want and like the concept of social media, but the current one sucks. Many people want to be able to share and celebrate their achievements and keep up with their friends. They just want a better social media.
i remember instagram being kinda like this app, when i was in junior high. Just a few people i knew had instagram and they just posted having a coffee in one hand, being silly with their friends, flowers, quotes etc, sometimes with Retrica or candy camera filters. Now instagram is a scary supermassive blackhole of people who are so perfect that you are jealous of their perfection and people who are so "real and raw" that you are jealous of their quirky style, friends and activities. I just cant win, thats why i dont look at it anymore, i feel like im doing nothing with my life while others are on vacation or just a simple walk with their dog. i think we dont need to see what everyone is doing 24/7 no matter how "real" the photos are. Why post so your friends would see anyway, cant we just tell our friends what we are doing and talk about our day??
Fr tho, this is on point. Why MUST we let everybody know what we're doing at all times? No thanks. I only talk to a few ppl and let them know what i'm up to once in a while. I don't have to know every details about their lives to be friends. Keeping up with everyone no matter how "real" those photos are will eventually exhaust yourself. It's just better to mind your own business. No matter how much I like my friends, I just don't need their "happy" photos to bombard me while I'm busy not having fun. I got work to do.
I like your opinion on Instagram. I've been using this social network since many years ago, although lightly and occasionally now, but I haven't had the courage to delete my account. Anyway, I miss the old Instagram, before it got bought by Facebook, before A.I. systems constantly analyzing everything public for potential censorship, before generalized narcissism, back when it was mostly just an app for hipsters and other people who appreciated photography and sharing their lives through this medium. The content was different back then, too.
Or just stay out of social media and reconnect with your friends any time you feel like it, not share everything you're doing, go out and be a human being.
i agree with you there but i think what this app does is give another definition of "social". some wants to connect but without receiving any flex post about other people seemingly always living a better life than yours. even meeting up with old friends can be a stage for the same flexing purpose as social media
Highly unrealistic for this generation unfortunately. You almost have to have a social media now a days because it’s the only way people keep up with each other
If ppl won't get real, social media will just die. We are tired of fake-looking models, hyper reality, fake accounts, fake comments, and fake photos and names.
@@boyvol6428 he isnt speaking for himself, as said by this video title, it’s the most downloaded social app currently. He is speaking for the majority.
2:06 he is so damn right. Social media is toxic AF, it's an addiction that only pushes you down by showing you the illusion of how perfect everyone else's live is. The Twitter trends are chosen by the algorithm to trigger you in the most extreme way, just so you waste more time giving away personal details and watching their ads. What's really helpful is to only check social media for 5 minutes a day with a hard limit. And before you pick up the phone, ask yourself: would you rather spend your time doomscrolling, or do something else like going outside for a walk in the forest, cook something or pursue your hobbies.
Or just delete it all and make real friends. I can see RU-vid for learning stuff and maybe LinkedIn for professional stuff but the rest of it is so stressful and dehumanizing
@@Eloign I highly recommend anyone who gets addicted to comment sections (reading, replying, etc), turn off all notifications. You won't have the urge to engage in it as often because you'll never get a conversation out of it.
Faulty premise is that the divisions and lack of cohesion in society wasn't already there, these ideas and trends came from academia long before the smart phone.
I love the irony of BeReal as an "anti-social" social app, that is more real than the other offerings. Meanwhile, it asks people to obey push notification commands like a horde of automatons, "take a photo now of where you are and what you are doing, monkey". That app could be incredible for information gathering about a populace's whereabouts and activities. Nope, not for me. Why would i move from one big brother to another big brother (disguised as something else).
It is cynical, but it does seem like that for every problem capitalism creates for society someone creates a new venture to capitalize on that under the guise of making things better.
If you think about it as the app telling you to do something then sure that's a kinda shitty. But how I see it is an agreed upon time for all your friends and family to share what they're up to at that point in time on that particular day. If everyone does it then it's a lovely, almost effortless way to see what your peeps are up to and for your peeps to see what you're up to. I think the app has potential if it doesn't add a bunch of features
I have a feeling this app is going to take an interesting route in the next year. I think the app will allow users to form small online cliques of sorts and being apart of these “exclusive”/“real” media will make users feel more “together.” Idk, I could be reaching but I feel like they’re going to eventually become like Instagram with a twist.
I mean thats not too different to Discord servers. They're private servers but RU-vidrs will put up an invite in their description. Difference is that Discord servers are just forums with extra steps as opposed to another Instagram x
The "problem" with interesting new apps like this is that they always fail at some point because of money/"growth"... at some point in their history all of them start to monetise their service, they start the "need to grow" and after some time they will eventually break that "authentic" feel to keep growing or they will get bought out by some major corporation. Authenticity is amazing, and people search for it a lot, but it also doesn't monetise as well as hype or drama. These days adding advertisements isn't enough anymore, everyone wants user data. As soon as the big money comes in most of these apps will eventually start creating features to keep people on the platform longer, to create more views and more data... features also known as the infamous "algorithms". BeReal already is active in funding rounds with investors, as mentioned in this video, and sooner or later these investors or the need for more funding will pressure the app development into making more money by creating a better selling "experience" rather than just realism. It's how it always goes (even Instagram started as "just" a photo feed).
I agree with you. That infamous'algorithm'. I like the fact that it lets you tighten your circle, which is what I've been trying to do with fb, but failing. Instagram itself too, is simply a hyperreality , gluttonous feed of chicks with tits, a link for more content, and duck face poses with bunches of flowers, in sponsored dresses, on private yachts their boyfriends pay them for, to be on. Addictive, and sickening, to be frank.If be Real can stick to its name, i will shut down both fb and Instagram, and use something simpler. Here's hoping.
I think they should monetize it the wikipedia/discord way. Not a lot of ads, no big data. Just asking the users to help support the platform, for maybe a few minor bonuses that don't make a notable difference.
@@giarnovanzeijl399 Uhm Discord tracks data big time. They log your IP adress and all in-app activity (including chats, calls and server activity) and their website and user agreement explicitly state that they can sell that data to external firms. They also have no real option to op-out of a lot of user data collection. They are heavily financed by Tencent, one of the largest chinese players on the market, especially when it comes to big data business. So they are NOT comparable with any "support" based services like wikipedia.
I can’t wait for… three months from now when people start preparing for this “spontaneous” notification and it becomes as curated and ego driven as the others. The idea that this app stays this way seems awfully naive.
yeah. people will find a way to edit photos and have them backed up before the notif drops to upload and make it seem like it was spontaneous. it's going to end up just like Instagram, where it's real at first and slowly turns into a hellhole of celebrities, liars and bots.
It's already like this. I know people who have stuff set up so they can pretend they're doing something they're actually not. Like they put objects in easy reach so they can just grab it all quickly and fake a photo. That or they quickly run out of the house to pretend they're somewhere they really aren't. This app is just as much a parasite as any other.
I like that more people want to get away from fake reality, but sharing random photos at random time will lead to anxiety about your life being too boring, too repetitive, and now you "have to" share it. Thats on top of it getting boring. In the end only dropping social media all together can bring back the real life. Lets hope more and more people will go for it.
I can kind of get what the guy is saying: if you get down to earth images from everyone, and then there's that one guy/girl that has something interesting and fancy on their timeline every single time the random picture comes, well, you won't believe it. Whilst if you're inundated with people showing fancy and cool things, because filters and other tricks are just that easy to use, then it is much easier to doubt yourself.
I don't understand how it's nice to never know when you have to take a picture of yourself and what you're doing and only have 2 minutes to do so. Seems anxiety inducing to me. Also making sure you have your phone on you on case doesn't help either for people who wanna disconnect. What if someone's taking a shit..
You can always post a "late" if you miss the time. It's no big deal. The point is that you have 2 minutes to take a photo since you open the in-app camera, which is enough to retake a bad shot but disincentivizes staged activities and scenes
I get the appeal of the app but I find it kind of "black mirror-ish" that your phone can just randomly ask you at any point to take a photo and upload what you are doing. Of course you can decline but then you've got friends wondering what's up, the app also tells you when somebody uploaded late so your friends know if you didn't do it. If you have the wrong friends, you could easily feel pressured to send photos even when you don't want to. Also the app is designed to give you a dopamine rush to motivate you to post, many social media platforms and games delay times where you can use it so that when you are able to use it, you jump right on it. Think of candy crush, if you loose your lives you have to wait a day until you can play again, this makes you want to play it even more. Many companies use this tactic to say that they "don't want you to spend too much time on your phone" or in this case, so "You don't artificially edit pictures or get addicted"
I’ll be real (pun intended): this app gives me the creeps. Purposefully broadcasting your precise location at any given moment to “your friends” is ridiculously frightening to me.
The app is voluntary. Remember millions of people voluntarily share their location anyway on IG/fb/snapchat when they _go live_ or post a story of what they're up to in that moment. Be real isn't any different, it just budges you to share what you are up to (if you want to) - I don't think many peoples would share themselves ugly-crying to the ending The Fault in Our Stars.
@@rrrr2150 As if people can't find out where someone else is based on context and photo background. And also by default the app will share your location everytime you take a picture unless you change the settings.
@@trevortrevose9124 Wall street will eventually want it's money back. The app will then probably add ad's or some kind of montizable feature. Which would then destroy the apps main purpose and killing it's userbase.
I understand how the original function of the app is just for ppl to take their pictures within the time limit and be real as much as possible but I sometimes find myself setting up for pictures just so I can make the most goofy pictures and make my friends laugh. I think it's ok for ppl to setup or wait for the perfect time to take a picture. I view this app as a far better alternative to snapchat or instagram stories as it's not riddled with bots and it doesn't have a messaging system in place.
Where do people see this stuff? Most downloaded this app but I haven't heard of it once and all these comments about feeling old are starting to apply to me. Either way, it's interesting and I want to see how far it can go
People have probably heard about this app the same way people have found about anything before social media: people they know told them about it and then they tell other people they know about it. If you do that six times (it's called degrees of separation) then everybody in the world will have heard about it.
I think it's great that it's "boring". Most of life is mundane; it's the people who are there with you or the experience itself that make something memorable, not telling everyone else about it. As to the app, I think it will be a net positive. Most who stick with it will just use it as a means to be connected and grounded with their friends. Some will probably use it in a smaller circle and become competitive, though I'd hope mostly in positive ways; if the capture notification can come up any time of day you might want to spend more time being productive just in case. The last group may find that it's a good detox and eventual escape from almost all social media, back to the days when you just text your friends and send them a pic when something interesting happens.
It sucks because yeah, I don't think social media is bad in concept. But it realies so heavily on psuedo-interactions, bots, and inflating people's egos, instead of promoting actual conversations and social interactions... ironically enough. I'm on social media but my space is small and all I do is draw, chat with friends, and spread pretty pics or funny memes around. As it should be.
One great why I've been combatting social media culture is shifting my focus towards people who are actually interested in me and my content. When you worry about the numbers or people unfollowing or whatever, that's where you get trapped in the idea that numbers matter.
Hrm Considering how it works, this looks like a very very incredible way of getting more randomized user data. The fact that Instagram decided to steal the feature is incredibly telling on that front.
I love how we use the featureless version of the great evil to solution the great evil. - We have reached the point where this is not even funny how hilarious this is. - You are battling a fire with a flame and thinking 1 will put out the other
Silly as it sounds, fighting fire with fire is useful sometimes, such as using controlled burns to block forest fires or burn dead trees and such before a forest fire can start, it's highly dependent on strategy
@@UNSCPILOT I firmly agree with that premise, though the sad end result is the normalization of a burnt place being part of how things are. This video shows the making a deal with a demon, to make up for the existing contract with a devil and calling the action a move towards heaven. - Its hilarious to the point of becoming a new adage in itself 🤣
Our cognition is geared to exist in a state of lazy, opportunistic hypervigilance in a small group of maybe six to twelve people in the wilderness. That is eons away from what we are presented with on a daily basis now. People wonder why anxiety is such a problem, it's because everyone is overloading their synapses 24/7 and doesn't know how to stop because we built the whole way the world works now around it.
I downloaded BeReal and only had it for a week. It’s cool to see friends posting real pics but I personally got bored and didn’t like how I had to upload at certain times and had to upload to view posts.
They thought so deep about these "problems" they came out with an even more problematic and dystopian thing. The idea being that you literally don't know when you're gonna get this notification and might start fixing your behaviour all the time, with some anxiety that anytime might be the time. This is literally the panocticon (not ever knowing whether you're being watched, and so start surveilling yourself). Also The same ideas and technologies have been "re-thought" to fix our relation with them. All this did was relaxing the obsessive relation with social media we delevoped over time; time which allowed other shifts of paradigm to happen, the most obvious being that it's now given as granted that everyone uses the phone to do everything.
If people want to spend all their waking hours waiting in anticipation to pose for the timer, then those people deserve the non-life that they're going to live! That's fine by me...the influencers who want to control the minds of others for the sake of cash or clout will finally get to live to fake life they splash on instagram.
@@IhabFahmy Except this sort of thing very much 'hacks' the human brain. Most people who are unaware or don't have the ability for one reason or another, will not be able to avoid the effects of this sort of thing. That's what makes these technologies so dangerous. It makes it seem like its your *choice*, but our choices are very much constrained, molded, and incentivized by the environment (in this case, notifications and social feed). Good on you if you can avoid this, but what about kids? What about vulnerable people? What about technically illiterate people? There are many MANY people who can and will fall prey to this. We can't just throw them to the wolves. It's not just about influences who want to control others (and even they are just as likely to be controlled).
@@IhabFahmy Maybe, but if more and more people develop this new variant of the already very prevalent personality disorder, this will also directly affect everybody around them. So even if you keep avoiding all of this, it still will directly affect you and your life.
@@qmurec The last time I checked my Instagram feed was probably two years ago... I suggest more people do the same. It goes a looooong way towards neutralizing those problems.
@@IhabFahmy that's nice and all, but I was referring to the changes in behaviour in real life due to being obsessed with those services. So even if one does not check any feed at all, the fact that others constantly do is very noticeable during many daily in-persona interactions.
A 2-minute timer that can pop anytime during the day sounds like a truckload of anxiety to me. I can see all the influencers all dressed up and pampered up dusk till dawn sitting in their perfect spot for hours to just to post about their perfect life. I can see people stopping in their tracks. leaving everything they are doing and scrambling to get in the perfect light, perfect background, do the perfect pose in that 2-minute window. How is this an improvement? This will degenerate into a pokemon go like frenzy in no-time. I can see how it's going to add yet another layer of frustration and anxiety to social media, not how it's going to solve it. You want to be social? Attend a workshop, join a club, learn a new skill, interact with strangers for no reason, call your old colleagues or friends, get them out for a drink. You know, just like we used to do 20 years ago!
Because there's no like system, people won't get that dopamine rush from putting in all that effort. It helps break the cycle if you're not rewarded for that.
That’s the whole point, it’s not supposed to be something you can prepare for. That’s why people are tired of Instagram, people take their time to post the perfect content and everything looks so fake. It hasn’t become trending where I am from, so I haven’t used it. But I absolutely love the idea. A 2 minute window to upload something is just great for people looking for regular stuff. We have lost our original idea of social media and it has turned into a race of becoming popular.
This comment immediately showcases your ignorance of the app's functions and rules from the very start. You can't look up and follow an influencer's page the same way you can on Instagram or Twitter. You have to essentially add them and they personally add you back (not unlike traditional friend requesting on something like Facebook). This entire comment reeks of "back in my day" old man yells at cloud energy. I also appreciate your red herring of "stop using this app as a substitute for social time and go outside or something!!" as if the app has ever been marketed as a replacement for real life interaction. From talking to people who do use the app, it seems to me they spend less time on their phones only because they have the short span of two minutes to post one thing every day and nothing after. Please try to be more informed about the things you speak on before you leave a bitter comment about them.
5:33 "600 million in funding" You know it's going to highly deviate from what it is right now. Because the simple question is, what's really monetizable in its current state?
A few ad examples that come to mind: - Simply put ads in the feed. - Identify products in images, and make them searchable. Great time to show an ad. - Promoted posts in Discovery, basically ads that are in the format of the organic posts. That's three ad ideas in under 2 minutes. I'm not saying I like these ideas or want the company to pursue them, but there are many ad options. Honestly, I prefer a strategy that WhatsApp originally looked like they would pursue: a $1 annual subscription model. Would be nice if an emerging social media platform never got into the ad space. A company with 50 million users and so $50 million in annual revenue if using the $1 annual fee strategy would probably be valued at a few billion just due to the potential of what they could become (could make it freemium, with a $10 per year cost for a few extra features that don't taint the original product vision).
I like this app, I get to see what my friends are doing in their off time. It's not that I want to see their private lives, but that I get to know a little bit more about them when they aren't presenting themselves. Ofc, you can always skip a bereal if you don't want to show yourself so there isn't any pressure. And plus, there isn't a social feed - it's just friends. We aren't always with each other in person, so it's nice to have a little reminder of them everyday.
I think the main driving point of this app is the notion of “disconnect” we’re moving into. For example the minimalist movement has taken hold where people are switching their smartphones for dumb phones. I think this app in a way ties into the bystander effect, not sure how effective it is in terms of “being real” when everyone has access to everyone’s posts and privacy is still in question. At the end of the day we still live in a very attention driven society where everyone is now competing to be as “seen” as possible online.
yes, attention is not minimal, but rather fully committed, and should be worth dedicating time to! (the concept of 'worth'/value depends a lot on the person ofc)
I imagine people will use the apparent realness of people using this app, to put an even more impressive show than before. For people selling their influencer lifestyle, prepping for those random 2 minutes is not that hard, and they will only look even more impressive compared to poor folks who have jobs they can't easily leave in order to take a selfie. This will create an even bigger rift between influencers and common people, as 2 minutes to prepare are going to hit people with "normal" jobs the most. Although I think it's even more likely that it's going to be a fad.
The app is gaining hype due to the trend. I believe that it'll stop growing soon coz its lacking in features. Hyper reality will proceed as long as there are people who follows it.
And this app doesn't escape the most annoying thing about social-media: it's still about me me me... In fact, it might end up being used by the most narcissistic of all, those who think they look so good that they don't need filters... I don't see them succeed with what they are and what they are not is what they don't want to be. Cool premise but they had 2 years to realise it was doomed to fail. Social medias for narcissistic people didn't took the world by storm because of a lack of alternatives, but because they are precisely what people want. All of them are a shot at your 15 minutes of fame. Which is in such high demand than most people would settle for 15 minutes of shame instead, people just want to be seen. There is a reason why India is the country with the most people and the highest amount of very stupid Guiness world records. Internet made everyone realise that they were a drop in the ocean, now they all want to feel seen and special (hence why cringy videos of people stating that their pronouns are clown and clownself... No, I'm not making that up...). Social medias are for people who feel overwhelmed by the amount of people in the world. This app is the equivalent of giving up. If people could give up, social medias wouldn't exist. Want to bet? I bet you that 99.3% of all the people on .beReal have at least 1 other social media account... It also ties back to the point about wanting to feel special, if this app becomes popular, you stop being special and become mainstream... For most of them, .beReal is probably just a way to feel hip. Best case scenario, .beReal will be used by paid influencers, who are being sent on trips to promote stuff and live the fakest of lives. The "only share with my friends" feature won't work. If your friends cared about your pointless pictures, you'd be sharing them with them already... That app is the equivalent of your friend sending you an email per day saying "look, I made brownies!"... So, yeah, I'm with you on that. This app is doomed to fail. It's like it's not made for actual people.
@@SLRModShop i agree. i think the first people to move to such an app would be the narcissist and clout finders. now this guy made a video thats bound to reach the masses and spread the site more, literally just another facebook.
I find the majority of users of this app are women, and I imagine they actually do want to share their totally boring lives doing their taxes and nor wearing make up
Creating a real social media doesn’t mean you have to be actively stripping down any sort of creative potential for the app, creativity is the light and can help people see their escape from their addictions.
Went back to a Nokia, no social media apps, and have more RL meetups with mates 5 years ago. Life got so much better again since then. Best wishes, everybody!
You cannot escape self-edition/self-creation, conditioned by previous social media experiences and the sheer need for attention and acceptance from others. It always boils down to somehow fit in the system created by app design and pressure to stay cool, even if the definition of staying cool will shift.
I think it's a brilliant idea, but I think I will stay the hell away from it since I've actually struggled to keep myself away from all other social media for the last year. And I feel so much better since I stopped using it.
@Don't read profile photo Dang bro, nice trick with the profile and cover photo. I knew what was up but curiosity got me up until the About page. Nice one 😂🔥
@@kev792 oh yeah dude. The Royal Institution is also an actual place in London with a rich history. Founded in the late 1799, perhaps the earliest Science popularizer among public. People like Faraday lectured there.
I've stopped using all social media, except for Instagram. I'm almost ready to delete my Instagram account. I feel it has messed up my mind and I notice it on my concentration. I get distracted while studying or while working. In the end of the day it is your own choice to keep using any type of Social Media app or ditch it. BeReal is like the same bs but only in a new package.
its messing up our minds, our society, our chemical levels, our elections, etc etc. why government dont outlaw it. why people havent realised it oen masse yet and just deleted all the shit baffles me.
@@kasten8020 I don't see YT as a social media but unfortunately it begins to look like with the introduction of stories. YT is still one of my main sources to get knowledge about a lot of topics. I can live with YT and it is less distracting for me compared to FB, Insta Snap etc etc. Once you have cracked the code how to hack your own mind, you will be strong enough to ditch regular Social Media platforms. The "Digital wellbeing" option on your phone can help a bit.
@@kasten8020 RU-vid is incredibly addictive because I pretend like I’m learning something from all the videos I’ve been watching. Sadly it has become the exact opposite. My brain is sitting dormant and losing the ability to think and experience life first hand. It is being fed a constant stream of carefully edited content designed to catch my attention. There is no way to fully escape it and still be part of society with event scheduling and international communication.
The irony behind the be real app is that I watch my friends pose and act happy and group up for pictures to post on be real, but that’s not real… They’re still putting on a façade of what they want others to see… And then it makes people like me who might actually use the app to “be real“ look awkward…
The fact that it is receiving so much investment, makes me worry that the app itself will lose its innocence, will be used for data mining and have data leaks... probably bought at some point by a bigger player. And then everyone needs to find a new place to be genuine..
I haven't heard of it. But taking from the purpose you said it has, to me it's a pointless app, which wants you to share even your boring random daily moments. This means you'll share more, not less. This is precious food for big data, which draws people in by a political statement (the name tells it, "be real [period]") - it's another voluntary giveaway of your privacy for no apparent gain. The most glorious random moments will still stand out for unavoidable comparison ("today at this time I'm literally getting married", "I'm test-driving this gorgeous car in this beautiful city") and the shameful real moments will still never be spontaneously shared ("this is a real photo of me cheating on my husband right now", "I've just taken this much cash for a big-time bribe", "look at me watching this thing on the internet yet again" etc.). If social media is ripping the fabric of society, it's not because people share the best of their own image and opinions, but because we're crashing against a new universe of inifinite information and enclosing ourselves in bubbles of alienation and reinforcing our old opinions and prejudgement and ignorance all the way into complete denial of reality and radicalization. And this new social media doesn't even try to adress any of it! Where's the effort on education, self-inquiry, debate and broadening of view? Where's the effort against fake news and propaganda and hatred? We might literally be on the edge of the Third World War or the freaking Singularity, and this new social media is shamefully missing the point!
Honestly, I think having those discussions on social media is part of the issue. We should be talking to people in our own real life communities more, solving our own community's problems, instead of getting angry about something that happened to 1 person 3,000 miles away and screaming into the social media void. Things usually aren't as bad as social media makes it seem. You likely can't do anything about that news story you heard about on Twitter or Facebook. But what you can do is talk to real people in real life and make things better in your own towns. Social media gets in the way of that.
DAY 1: Here is me scrolling twitter. DAY 2: Here is me scrolling youtube. DAY 3: Here is me on twitter ...again.... DAY 32: Having seen my daily tweets for a month, it's nothing but twitter and youtube and other garbage, I have no life, and no prospects, HELP AHHHHH. -Typical bereal user.
I'm from small country called Bhutan which has population less then million, when I was young there is no social media but as the time passes, social media changed how the life we used to live now... And as mentioned in video now we only see one side of the story and fall in love with what we see only one part of the story but the game changer app #BeReal is the real deal... I liked it so much that it shows what we are supposed to see... Both side of the story... #BeReal #Bhutan #SocialMedia #BeReal
I gave up all social media when I realized I was Facebook's product. Never looked back and I only associate with those who are in my life for real, not digitally. I can definitely say I have avoided all kinds of issues I've seen friends have that started online way more than the times I missed out in a get together because it was only announced online. Most of my friends just call or text me when they plan something on social media knowing I'm not on. They find it interesting because of all our friends I'm the one they come to for help with electronics and technical issues yet I'm not on any platform, at least not publicly. I do use Twitter to follow need outlets. I hope people start to realize the damage these apps cause, especially to teens. The US and many other countries are so divided because algorithms fed them negative info to keep them engaged. Best of luck to BeReal
@@justvolt I googled "social media platforms 2022" and RU-vid is mentioned in almost every link... So, what is modern social media compared to year 2010-2015? (or whichever year you want to use)
@@1337-i3v I would say with the evolution of shorts and that type of content youtube has become a social media platform, but I personally only use the video part of it, so I would consider it not to be a social media site. Of course, everyone has different opinions, and I am not here to disprove anyone's point, I just want to express my thoughts on this matter.
@@justvolt I agree that RU-vid is part of social media however, I don't share pictures, videos, updates about my life, or communicate with anyone I know or am friends with here so for me, it's no different than commenting on an article anonymously. I guess it depends on how you use it.
As a 64 year old with adult children in their 20s and 30s, I've never felt pressure to look good on social media. My RU-vid channel used to be monetized but RU-vid didn't think my content was good enough for commercials. They pressured me to make more content that sponsors want to advertise on. I let it go, my life is more than meeting RU-vid's monetizing requirements. I like the concept of Keep It Real, but I also find it boring. Regarding real life friends, most of mine aren't active on any social media so most of my interactions are with total strangers who have similar interest and views as I do, i.e. religion, politics, tech, automotive, etc. For me the best thing about any of this social media is tutorial/education information where I can learn something new. BTW I love your content.
BeReal brings another sense of dystopia in my opinion. It's like the app is telling you what to do. While I would go years posting anything, BeReal wants me to share everything. It's weird. It's still a great option for people oversharing on the internet.
Fundamentally, I see three reasons to share moments of our lives. There might be more, these seem to be the main ones. 1. To create momentos of important events that we don't want to forget or would like to reminisce on later. 2. To pretend that it makes you and/or others feel like you or your lifestyle have additional value beyond the intrinsic (popularity). 3. To monetize views or fanbases. BeReal still falls under number two, despite the anti-culture attached to the platform. So I don't think it will ultimately help us avoid the pitfalls of social media outside of furthering the discussion.
I imagine people will use the apparent realness of people using this app, to put an even more impressive show than before. For people selling their influencer lifestyle, prepping for those random 2 minutes is not that hard, and they will only look even more impressive compared to poor folks who have jobs they can't easily leave in order to take a selfie. This will create an even bigger rift between influencers and common people, as 2 minutes to prepare are going to hit people with "normal" jobs the most. Although I think it's even more likely that it's going to be a fad.
Social media never really sucked me in, I suspect there's a noticable percentage of people being in the same situation. I do like RU-vid and Twitch though For me twitter and facebook were extremely anxiety, depression and rage enducing. And they were so obviously the trigger that I just stopped using them on the regular basis after a very short time, I didn't even need any time to figure out what's messing with my life. Whenever someone talks about how social media drawn in so many people and changed their values and thinking, it's extremely strange for me..
@@sanriosonderweg Corrupted to the core, everywhere around the world. It seems the only winning move is to not play the game... and to opt out of it completely
I appreciate it that you care enough about this to not need a sponsorship for this episode. I'm not sure what to do about this besides adamantly continuing not to apply any filters to any photos of me ever (except those that I keep unpublished on my device), and focusing on meeting my friends irl
this. facebook, instagram even tinder where pretty good ways to connect with people in their early days. but then, the monetization cookie monster arrived. if this app survives, it won't be that different
A problem I can see for bereal is influencers pivoting to the platform. As such they can stage a "real shot" the entire day and just wait for the notification to appear to get the shot. Regular people with normal jobs won't have that ability, and as such the established influencers yet again rise to the top.
I downloaded this app and imported my contacts, immediately followed all the people I hadn't seen or spoken to in over a decade. Two weeks later, I've been invited to two parties, and I've hung out with people I haven't seen since high school multiple times. I don't know what it is about the app, I can't put it into words, but it's like it forces it's users to engage in a psychological shift, and BECAUSE they've decided to use the app, they've also decided to engage more directly with people. That's how it was for me, I wanted to reconnect, and it worked perfectly. I feel like everyone on my contacts who I ended up connecting with on the app, they all felt the same way - they just wanted to.... be real again. I ain't sponsored either, I just think this is how social media should be. That isn't to say the more glitzy models of social media are inherently bad, but they're not conducive to developing close interpersonal relationships, or conducive to maintaining the existing relationships you have. If anything, traditional social media has done more to drive wedges between me and people I care about. I don't see BeReal doing that.
i was interning at a large aerospace company last summer, and one of the full-time guys mentioned how my project wasn’t stared on the facebook post from the expo, and i said oh i wouldn’t know; i don’t have facebook. his later response to that has stuck with me and made me realize how negatively people view the platform. he said he was shocked that i wasn’t on the platform but said it was a good thing from what he knows, and given he’s expressed he knows people who work there, i can only imagine where that knowledge is rooted
Well it already received 600 million smackaroonies in funding. Tells me all I need to know about how it'll become yet another data gathering giant for an already overcontrolling "Big Brother".
It's interesting. I think it creates a border where friends and acquiantances fall either in or out the BeReal circle. In Real life, there is a spectrum of categories that you put the people in your life in and they often move from one to the other and back depending on what phase of life you're in and how the relationship evolves. Now this app will create a sort of v.i.p. status where people are explicitly part of your closest inner circle or not. Instead of gradually becoming closer or more distant like actual, Real, relationships work.
I used it a few months ago but deleted it for two reasons: 1) It is kind of boring. I never was interested in the global community and had only the limited feed with my friends. 2) After some time I felt like only sharing a picture if I have to share something special, so I used it even less. Seems like some of my friends had the same experience, which lets me thinking it is just a hyped trend (and in the beginning it was actually fun to use it) EDIT: Another reason is probably having alternatives: In messengers we use group chats with our friends to share funny or cool moments. Not for likes or followers, simply just for fun with friends. And BeReal failed to contribute to this
And you get this popular enough, "influencers" will focus on trying to be on the right location.... And if more popular, cooperations will get similar looking people to be able to generate revenue, or use a way to fake the camera to always have to perfect image that advertises something
i think that everyoen that downloaded this app has done it so far because they want something new, fresh, withut ads, and thus will be very likely to report undesireable content ot hide it
My cousin was really pumped about this and I tried it for like a week... I hate posting myself on my social media's and this didn't help me at all lmao. I don't really get the appeal for someone who doesn't already like posting pictures. Most social media's I'm on are closer to chat apps
What about stripping away the superficiality of the dating apps like tinder and creating something in which you have to actually meet the person in real life and not solely be dependent on your external appearance. What do you think guys?
Not possible. Coz you have only so much free time every week, not to mention the "Who is gonna pay for the date" problem. No one wants to waste time and money and energy to go on gazillion dates without even knowing if the person you are gonna meet is good looking or not. The "superficiality of the dating apps" is actually the superficiality of the people themselves. Its us that care about the look of others, its not the apps. The apps dont care who you swipe right to.
How would you vet the people on the app to make sure people font get kidnapped or worse? Tinder execs once admitted that there are registered sex offenders who use their apps. In these days where people are so conscious of data theft I doubt people would consent to giving out their personal info for background checks.
I'm from Gen Y, so I remember a world without social. So naturally I'm going to raise an eyebrow at something like this and simply retreat into what I know - no social media (besides occasionally leaving a comment like this). But if it helps the younger generations in some way, I'm all for it. They never got a taste of a world that wasn't completely messed up, so if it brings them some solace, then that's good.
Even though Facebook has stolen the app, the fact that so many young people are choosing for more boring but realistic apps is telling. They're correcting mistakes that we, the older generation, made with social media. I just hope they continue on this path, and if Facebook ruins this app that they either move on to another one or even make their own better app. Go you, GenZ.
I installed it but 2 minutes to take a photo was what turned me off. I usually keep app notifications silent, so I ended up missing it most of time and finally uninstalled it after a week.
The biggest problem with looking at something like BeReal as the solution to the scourge that is facebook, instagram and others like it is that seeking to make friends online is frought with failure as online systems give you a percieved distance based control over the outcome. This "control" is and always will be the weakness in any online friendship or interaction as you are not "being real". People know this so the friendship will only develop so far. Online systems also are plagued with inevitable data harvesting and surveillance which are guaranteed relationship killers.
Doesnt it create even more pressure on its users by constantly being forced to "document" what you are doing? What if you dont want to post something you are doing, what if you try to do something "cool" later in the day because you wait for the app notification to post
All great questions, especially the part about waiting to do something “cool”. I think this app in a way ties into the bystander effect, not sure how effective it is in terms of “being real” when everyone has access to everyone’s posts and privacy is still in question. At the end of the day we still live in a very attention driven society where everyone is now competing to be as “seen” as possible online.
@@maxstr Just watched the video and apparently it chooses a different time each day for you to post. I wouldn’t necessarily call this an app “for people with busy lives” because if that was the case you could just as easily post the same photos on your Instagram story. Rather I think the purpose is to ease the burden of constantly showing the world a “picture perfect” aspect of your life with a well-curated feed to match. My original points still stand regarding how we’re being programmed to constantly be “seen” online and seek attention from others, nonetheless, I can see why people are drawn to the app.
"those who quip 'just go outside and talk to people' but for many people that's just not so easy." yes, because socializing is a skill, the more you do it, the better you get at it; but some people will be "better" at it than others, whether through genetic lottery or the home environment, just like anything else involving "skill." the thing we have to work on as a species is recognizing that no individual living thing is worth more or less than any other; as a species, we really need to work on what we consider "value" in general.
Just go outside and talk to people. Every skill if not latent is learnt through repeatation. And the skills worth learning are often times difficult. Social media just gave people the lazy way out. Some people do have mental issues, but even they will have to push through the mental illness and join the healthy collective.
Also the memories tab in bereal is awesome. Because we are taking real photos once per day, looking back to those photos after some months or years makes us feel really nostalgic and happy. But in Instagram our memories/archive tab is so cluttered because we share photos or posts or quotes etc and its so messy and we don't feel the same. I am a gen z, i really really like bereal and i hope the app become successful and it's okay if not everyone is using it. If everyone is using it companies like facebook will do anything to destroy it. So it's better this way, it's better to have a medium user base but most of those users will use it in daily basis
While I like the idea, I'm not sure I understand why I need to create a separate account on a separate app to do this. I prefer to do something like this as is on my social media. The only reason I would switch over is if the algorithms start to overly recommend media and profiles that I don't follow.
I believe it's because on other social media, you'll see hyper edited or idealized photos of people. It gives a distorted view of the world when everyone you see is "living their best life" or has filtered faces. So the driving force of BeReal is that you won't be inundated by those fake posts.
How convinient for the Goverments now being able to ask for pictures where you are on booth cameras and you give it for free. Lets be honest, where ever data is collected it rises up demands on authorities. BE REAL
It's a nice refreshing view on Social Media, but I think, the best way for me is to use as less Social Media as possible. Thats how I feel good as a person from day to day.
Think about how much time you’ve given to it and what you could’ve been doing with that. I pissed me off the first time I thought about that and deleted it.
I was willing to try the BeReal app as it has reached number one in the social media category on the iOS App Store. However after reading its privacy policy, and the unscrupulous thing every other social network has done, there is no way I’m handing my telephone number over to use this app. It’s a shame because I would have liked to try it, but you can’t get past that screen and my privacy is more important.
