@@feonor26 Indeed, my point is the opener can't be simple and it must lead to some sort of performance. The observation has to start the dance of reproduction. You gotta go in with a plan, like a spider.
But it's the best advice given the predicament he put himself in by shyly complementing her. She already friend zone him given her reaction. He has nothing to lose now.
This is the worst advice I've ever heard 😂😂 normally I'd say to just leave her alone. But if you must speak to her if she's wearing cool shoes or neat earrings, compliment those. Talk about something harmless. I'm not saying be a big eyed puppy. Just be fucking chill. Don't get hit with a sexual harassment law suit. Then say, if she ever wants to go out for a coffee, let me know. Ball is in her court. Don't let an awkward moment happen. A tiny pause and then change the subject to something else innocuous. And then excuse yourself and do your workout because you're at the gym.
This is an underrated comment. Smooth, direct and relaxed that's the way... as you are jung as a man you tend to think that you get rejected because of your words but it's way more complex than that. First of all your mindset and personality it's the only thing on which you really have control and would at the end open or close doors for you, and last but not least, who told you that because you speak, dress and talk on a certain way every woman has to like you? if you think it that way that is an absurd idea. The only thing that you can do ultimately is to try, go and do it the best you can... but not because you're playing the game, means that you're going to always win... actually most of the time is the other way. Remember, the winners on everything are the ones that proudly collect their L's and keep trying harder, not the whiny ones
What he should have done immediately after the compliment was a subtle insult. "You work out hard but nobody else is getting a workout in because of those things, so selfish of you."
This kid probably never had a chance but what little chance he had was clearly already blown when she hit him with the "aww". She saw him as more like a nephew or grandkid. Also huge mistake approaching her the same way dozens of other men have done before he shot his shot
Burr said my exact thoughts on fake boobs. They absolutely do feel weird. And covered they look better than natural, but uncovered they almost always look atrocious.
@@TheSinatra Here's what I would do. If there is a girl you want to talk to in the gym, I would ask her about what she's doing and why. Like, 'Excuse me. I noticed you really like using (insert machine here). Why do you use that instead of the others?'. The best way to cold approach is to have something you want to ask them. Hopefully, the conversation picks up from there. If you can tell she doesn't want to talk to you, END THE CONVERSATION. Say 'Thanks', and you don't talk to her ANYMORE.
the way you choose to go about interacting with someone influences the level of attraction. you can be acceptably attractive but destroy your chances by coming off weird. you can be slightly below someone's attractiveness threshold but pull it off with smooth approach.
Oh my God!! "They're sittin there starin at you like they're judging you!" 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣 Fuck he's so funny and he doesn't even try. He's the 2nd place G.O.A.T hands down. (Dave Chappelle is, HANDS DOWN, thee G-O-A-T)
As a girl who s considered pretty and who deals with these situations all the time at the gym or at outdoor workout facilities (no fake boobs or butts on my side, but Im small and athletic and I guess old wide shorts and a no cleavage sports bra are enough for gym bros), I'll drop my 2cents. No matter how sneaky you think you are, we know. We know who s gonna come and talk, so in a way you being younger and getting ballsy enough to come and talk to her in public could work in your favour. Just dont compliment her, we get compliments multiple times a day from polite people we barely know so another one will not make us happier, it just shows that you are too desperate to get between our legs and that you think we re easy. Instead never compliment her, look straight into her eyes, no remarks to her physique, challenge her to workout (idk 200 burpees or weighted push ups or pull ups or whatever), create situations where you are tactile but still never address it or show your interest in her body. When you feel she is no longer polite when talking to you and reciprocating the "tactile"ness offer to drop her off or ask her to drop you off for whatever reason.
From a young guy who wishes to understand the female perspective, I'm curious, how is that approach gonna work ? You said you would know no matter how sneaky guys think they are, I agree. So if we approach you in any situation whatsoever, whether to compliment or to 'challenge her to workout', you would still know we're trying to get between your legs, right ? The gym is a place where people get in, workout, get out. Girls or guys, we typically don't wanna be interrupted while lifting heavy, or at least that's how I feel.
@@tiktaktictac I agree with you, there s little more annoying than being interrupted in your workout or after your workout by someone hitting on you, and yes we know 90% of the time, but there s a difference between being slapstick in your face or not, and tbh we also think of what possible reward we would get from the situation, which may sound opportunistic to some but see it as collateral for the annoyance/time wasted.
@@TheSinatra When I say challenge her to workout you re being useful and creating a semi-neutral/playful interaction. I dont know what type of workout she does so you ll have to adapt it to your situation, but it could be anything from "let's see if we can increase our weigh by 70% by the end of the month" to unlocking some new figure if you re doing calisthenics etc. If she does planks at the end of her session you can make a comment on how she should aim to hold it for x minutes but that her hips were dropping and she should do x to correct it. If she stretches after her sessions, instead of complimenting her on how "flexible" she is, ask her to teach you some basic stretches to do then say your goal would be to touch your toes by x date or something, then ask her what her goal is, if she has none dare her to unlock splits or something random by the same time. My point is by shifting the interaction from blatant "I wish I could bang you" which we are to used to, to "you're good at X but you can do better" you create confusion (because you re straying from the standard expected reaction), anticipation, proximity and enough time for her desire to build up on her side.
It's actually women that initiate things with a guy, by giving those subtle signs she's interested. You know the ones. Maybe a bit of eye contact held a second or two longer than is needed etc etc. What's she's saying is...Green light to approach. Point is. If you approach without those signs then she'll see you as a creep. Biggest cause of dudes crashing and burning is guys approaching women with no clue if she's okay with it or not.
As a decent looking 53 yr, the 'lower tier' women will give you a better time because they appreciate it more. Hot women are more maintenance besides they fart, crap and have morning breath like everyone else, so it shouldn't be a big deal in approaching them. But you gotta be out there. Dale, from King of the Hill, his strategy was numbers game 1/10 is better than zero.
What you do is you tell her you have an issue with your parents and need some advice, then whatever the hell her dad did will make her talk to you about it and from there you ask her questions because you're clearly interested in her already, but that's one route I wouldn't take myself
What this guy should've done is literally just be honest. "Listen I've been coming here for blank, i just need to say, are those real? Bc they look sexy as hell I can't keep my eyes off em and I want to take you out to dinner or something idk" Done
Women respect confidence and restraint. Don't think too much about things, say them in a nice way that will make them feel special, don't shower them with compliments (or you'll end up as the "gay" friend), be a tad sensitive, being funny always helps, and show distance at the right time (most complicated imo). If you manage these, you will for sure get the attention of the girl, maybe not the desired ending, but for sure attention and respect for going out there and showing what you're about. For me, I think the best way is to be close when with them and a bit distant without while always hinting for another date in order to make the next meet up expected. Good luck kings
I’m in a situation I’m about 20 and i think this older woman is checking me out everytime i see her we always have the awkward eye contact moments and she always looks at me. She seems like she might be 28-30 or above but she looks good. How should i approach?
Just go up there make a funny remark about something and introduce yourself. Make it short and sweet. Say it's great that you share a gym and that you two should grab a drink sometime. Say your free this day/time? Say a place (even a post workout depending on what part of the day) Sound good? Great let me get your number... Something like that. Curious to hear how it goes.
That being direct and rude approach worked out for me with a girl with giant tits. Except they were real. The other important aspect here was we were in high school. Idk about that being a good approach as grown adults 😂. Especially nowadays .
This is fixable. No more direct compliments. If you can make her laugh, you’re on your way. You have to be confident too. Eye contact, a couple short conversations, and if it goes well get her to spot you or vice versa. If she ever asks your opinion or brings up her workout tell her she’s doing ok but she could do better.
Make conversation with her (not too much or too long,) compliment her once or twice so she thinks you're interested and then ignore her. No matter what just keep ignoring her and if she doesn't start a conversation with you eventually, even If it's just a small joke or conversation about bullshit, she isn't interested.
Of course he's 22....Still sounds 17 in his head....doubt she would be interested in someone who just sees them as an exploit/trophy, when she can have a man instead.
