That thing Bill is talking about "Im tired of being sober" is the biggest struggle for me... sitting around on a Friday night in the basement playing video games alone is pathetic without a bottle of Winking Owl
I'm an alcoholic and addict. I used drugs and drank for 25+ years. I am 40, I'll be 41 in a month. Today, one day at a time, I am now 1 year and 5 months sober! Bars were never my thing. Too expensive, shitty music, and amateur drinkers that couldn't hold their booze. Needless to say, I'm much better off sober for countless reasons! One day at a time...
Get what you need for today... everyday. Good on ya, Mark. I'm 42, and a few months ago I hit 16 yrs without a drop! I'm proud to have finally gotten outta my own way, which allowed me to be a present father, and better husband today. Stay going man! You got it!
@@hyvsan9425 No, YOU are missing something. Empathy, for ONE thing. You also are incredibly ignorant and callous about addiction, as well as extremely arrogant to claim you know something about myself better than I do. Good luck to you in life! I don't ever want people like you in my life. This is as close as you will ever get. Go to a meeting, it'd be good for you. Volunteer some time at a local charity. Help your fellow humans.
Bill Burr is very helpful to listen to for people who want to quit drinking. Because his effort is all self motivated without some unrelatable religious experience, or some tragic event like a divorce etc… and he’s still cool as hell… even cooler…. He just wisely and thoughtfully looked at his situation and changed it.
4:11 "i just want to do it" - When you're sober, you have hard moments (like this one you had in your car), but when you're drinking, you have hard months, years, and decades. This thought usually helps that impulse pass for me. Hope it helps someone else.
I'm glad peer pressure was never much of an issue for me. And whenever I wanted to cave in and drink or smoke I told myslef that I was encouraging a weakness. I don't drink heavy often and I smoke cigarettes rarely. Cigars like once a month. If you're gonna get addicted, get addicted to cultivating a craft.
I tried the one day every month thing. Didn't work. By that point you have really low tolerance but you're like, 'Yay, I can drink!', so you overdo it, quickly get sick from it and the hangovers are as bad as I've ever had.
The main thing I noticed after getting sober was how bad the smell is in the average bar. I never noticed it during my days of drinking. I have several clean years in a row now and a pretty hefty piggy bank. I still use alcohol when cooking a handful of times in a year. I do enjoy watching my friends say and do stupid things when they are drunk. I just hope they don't go where I have been because of drinking.
I drank Henny once and beer once and got high once also. I decided all these three and just not my thing, I just don’t roll like that. I’m a sober 24/7 kinda guy and I love it, it’s great for me. Call me boring whatever I don’t even care 🤷🏽♂️
The great obsession of every alcoholic is that we will somehow someway control and enjoy our drinking like we see others do. The power of this illusion is astonishing and we often follow it into the gates of insanity and death.
I'm into my 11th month of sobriety. But still have ideas about drinking on holidays. Having said that, I've accepted that drinking after work, especially on paydays and weekends for me, is retarded.
I always see people in drinking at dinner and having a great time. But then there's me trying to sneak extra drinks and getting black out after the dinner. There's no way I'll be able to drink and just have fun.
Glad alcohol skips generations. My dad and his brother were 40 year alcoholics just like their dad. My brother and I don't even like drinking. Maybe once a year I have a couple beers and just don't like it.
I drank heavily almost every day many years ago. Now I don't do anything that impacts my brain other than coffee sometimes. I might drink again if the mood ever takes me, but it never does. I like thinking clearly.
@@ZekeMan62 No, I maybe didn't do this long enough to get to that point. I was a young guy in the Army just drinking and clubbing every night getting trashed. I would stop when sent on deployment then do it again when I came back. When I got out, it became increasingly rare until I just stopped to focus more on making money.
Damn, that’s such great advice! Where were you when I was a drunk? Wow, you mean I could have just not been a drunk? By not drinking? Hmmmm.🤔. You should definitely become a counselor.
AFTER 20 YEARS OF CRIPPLING ALCOHOLISM AND LOSING EVERYTHING AND LOSING MY LEGS I FINALLY CAME ACROSS YOUR ADVICE ! THANK YOU SO MUCH! I TRIED KEEPING IT UNDER CONTROL LIKE YOU SAID AND IM FINALLY CURED! I DIDNT KNOW BEFORE! F(ck you
Hi mate late to the show but I wanted to tell you. I've been doing bascially what you describe for about 3 years now. I have one weekend a month (normally the weekend of my pay landing) where i drink and smoke. I also drink on special occasions, like bank holiday or when I take time off work or weddings and that. Its sort of working, but its got to say I get so itchy for a drink some days its painful. I once drove to the Co Op (its a shop) for beer cursing myself, did a 180 in the car park screaming and sped off just about steering with my teeth. Worth it though. So much more money, I'm not constantly missing the gym because I'm hanging, but I do love my monthly blow out.
Once we've crossed the line where one drink needs more-and more is not enough-then the chances are we just can't have that first one without setting off the dominoes and wake up hating ourselves AGAIN, wondering why we couldn't remember that we didn't want to be waking that way again because it ALWAYS gets worse, never better. It takes a while for the synapses to rewire in sobriety. Try to get to a place where you don't NEED to drink. Then you'll eventually get to a place where you don't WANT to. Yes, you too. If I could, anyone can.
I'm with him on the hockey. Tampa Bay, Las Vegas, and Dallas are cities where hockey is just not necessary, and a Canadian team has not won since 1993. Now, I used to live next to Canada. I put up with Canadians all the time, and when it comes to hockey, they are ten times more obnoxious and arrogant then they already are, but still! With the exception of the Vancouver Canucks, I would like to see one of those teams win a cup someday. That said, Detroit, Minneapolis, New York, New Jersey, and yes, even Boston, all should win instead of teams from Florida, Texas, and Arizona. Blecch
Go Leafs Go! Your comment is absolutely correct. Except I live in Ohio and have been a Leaf’s fan since I was a kid vacationing in Ontario with family. The Columbus Blue Jackets?! LMFAO! Is that actually an NHL franchise? LMFAO! Go Leafs Go!
@@dehonore Columbus beats Floridian teams, but still! Cleveland at least is on a lake where they can play REAL hockey. They had a franchise once, for two years, the Cleveland Barons, and when it looked like they could make the playoffs, the city turned electric. This was back in the 70's, when NHL and NBA franchises were very flimsy, so when the season collapsed, the team folded. So close! Mistakes are made. Large cities such as Columbus, San Jose, and Phoenix that are massive, suburban sprawls with no urban centers should not have sports teams. Good luck to your Leafs (they need it)
I just love the nerve of adults who complain about inflation and having no money spending a significant amount of their paycheck on drinks. I grew up thinking alcohol was an adult beverage when it's quite the opposite. Every drop of alcohol I've ever consumed was before I turned 21. Never understood the appeal. It makes me feel like shit and turns me into an asshole who causes chaos. Ten years later and nothing's changed. I guess I'm one of the lucky ones? 🤷♂️
Doesn't effect everyone that way. It makes me nicer and never makes me feel like shit. I'm also not an alcoholic. But i understand why people feel it compliments their lifestyle.
@@nasigeorgopoulos4075 I've known way too many people who are much more interesting after 2 or 3 drinks. It's strange how it affects certain people one way but has the opposite affect on others.
@@sadhu7191 I come from a family of functioning alcoholics. My Dad has never talked about or addressed his drunkenness in any way, shape or form because he's a sociopathic coward and my Mom simply says she likes the taste and beer takes the edge off. Ironically her father was a tetotaler despite being a master bartender. I guess it skips a generation.
My godfather had a get fucked up schedule but was more extreme. Instead of the drunk a week it was more of an opium ride through thailand twice a year type thing. He kept his cool with professional life and stuff but never swung being a drug addict. It seemed to work out and he died natural and old. You can throw a drink in somewhere but takes more control than quitting outright if can get outa hand usually.
I did 10 weeks sober and I think it was probably the best time in my life. Unfortunately i had a massive relapse and fell off my bike cycling home. I have fucked up my shoulder and have a black eye. Seriously wtf
Yep same here. life can become very boring and routine when you don't ever go out and have a few drinks, enjoy nightlife and have a dew drinks just don't do it every week. especially if your a single male.
It's not hard. That's like saying "being a mother is the hardest job in the world." it's not hard to quit alcohol. If you worked construction, that's hard. I don't drink because my Dad was an alcoholic and owned a construction company. Then it's very unstable so I may have had to work a 10 hour day in 100 degree weather and 100% humidity from sun up to sun down digging by hand. On those days no one wants to drink. My dad would be drinking and doing other stuff. The days off I would go the gym or if I had extra energy instead of going to the bar or partying I would go to the gym so that I could survive the insane days. With construction workers, they don't drink when they have work or when they are out of money. But if they have any time off all they do is drink, or go on a drug bender. I couldn't hide from my Dad so when they didn't show up I would have to make for them. Or you have to be bitch for the machine operator drunk or the plumbing. They need a bitch laborer so that they can sit on the machine drunk or hung over all day.
If I could, I'd tell this guy to never start. Sure drinking is fun but getting hammered too often, you'll eventually end up a loser. So dont start because you'll regret it if you do.
My friend was like this. He'd drink to blackout. Not even to enjoy it. One time he went to Vegas and next morning he woke up in the middle of the desert because the broad he was with threw him out the car. One time he tried to get me to cosign for a new mustang. It's down a rabbit hole with these people and they take everyone down with them. Stay away.
Curious to see if legalizing marijuana helps reduce alcoholism in the long term. It seems most people need a "crutch", relief, time to let go and take a little break from the regular world and it's problems, etc, and like the dumb monkeys our parents and grandparents are, they left us with nothing but alcohol, cigarettes, and caffeine on the store shelves. 🤦♂️
@Down with Corporate Amerika You know what good point. The social aspect of alcohol is a big lure. Not that I would've expected a huge drop anyway, but there may still be a slight drop. Especially considering pot helps with most withdrawal symptoms, so people trying to quit drinking have another great aid to try.
I've been told people who are not alcoholics don't schedule their drinking or reson with themselves, whatever so sick of hearing ,Oh your NATIVE AMERICAN your allergic, do u know how fast u were going , why are u nekked is that a goat in ur backseat? Wait what were we talking about? Roflmao
Why do y’all shit on people who decide to drink? Let people enjoy shit, if you don’t like it, don’t drink it. You cannot deny the extremely beneficial benefits of moderate alcohol consumption.
I wouldn’t knock someone for choosing it. Not everyone is “allergic” to it the way I am. I only ask if they aren’t happy why would they consume a depressant & assume it’ll help? If it seems like it does in the moment congrats but it’s not a long term solution
You can’t measure the likelihood of someone being more susceptible to be an addict. Some people can quiet easier than others. There’s a lot of factors that are involved l.
Not hard at all. Unless you're an alcoholic, just don't drink. If you are an alcoholic, you should have stopped yourself a long time ago. It just like junk food. It's all in your head and you need literally none of it. Chemical dependency is no joke but the only things truly hard to quit are nicotine and hard drugs.
@@VCT3333 Except alcohol is made from things like hops, barley, and other grains. It is not chemically dependent or addictive. I have actually gone through substance abuse courses for alcohol and even attended AA. What exactly in my comments makes you think I don't know what I'm talking about? Simpleton
