I don’t think one person in this entire world acc eats normally. If u think about it, u only know what they show. No one has a perfect relationship with food. We are all trying. It’s okay u got this ✨
Taking a gap year (or in my case doing a year of voluntary work) was the best decision I ever made. It helped me grow so much character and experience wise and even helped me to the job that I have now (I love my job).
@@sammsu4668 during my voluntary/ gap year I found out that I wanted to be a mechanic (started off as a car mechanic, soon gonna be specializing in more...interesting vehicles but I can't really share what)
This video is extremely comforting because I go through the same thing with binge eating and it feels like you are alone. It is okay if you don’t know what u want to do because we are all humans living in this crazy world and none of us know what we are doing but we can try out best! Remember you body can run,walk,jump,and keep u alive so just listen to it because the human body is a complicated machine lol. U got this!❤
as a person who also struggles w/ disordered eating and stress with high school (just finished 9th grade and still remember how mega stressed i was about finals week even though i ended up doing better on them than i thought i would 💀), i just wanted to say that watching this video really gave me a strangely huge feeling of comfort. (ㅠ_ㅠ) sometimes i’ll have days when i feel so alone with my mental health struggles, or days when 90% of my thoughts are stupid worries like how many calories i ate that day and how much/what i should eat for the day. it’s truly exhausting asf, but watching this honestly was like a warm reminder that I’m not alone, so tysm for making this ^^!! i also think it’s so wholesome the way you try your best not to worry about food when ur eating with your siblings. i could feel it resonate with me since i recently went on a trip to visit my family, and we went out to eat a lot. i was worried about this at first since like, what if i suddenly feel triggered and possibly try to restrict DURING my trip? but then I realized it was just my ED thoughts bullying me again. I realized i deserved to enjoy my life and the time i still had with my family while i was still there instead of worrying about something so insignificant like food intake. i ended up having a really good time overall, all the food i tried was so yummy ! I may not really know you, but thank you for making this video! it makes me so happy to see how you treat yourself so nicely in this vid + understand the importance of self-care.╰(*´︶`*)╯♡ you seem like such a kind, genuine person and i feel like i’d wanna be friends if i ever met you. this was hella wholesome and you’ve earned a new sub. ALSO THANKS A LOT NOW I’M CRAVING SUSHI AND BOBA MILK TEA NOW ARGH 😭
Please don't be too hard on yourself, your exams and life choices after school might be what increases your stress at the moment, it's normal to eat a lot during those times, speaking from experience. 😅 I think it's a great accomplishment that you're binging less and don't 🤮 anymore. Keep in mind that recovery is no straightforward path and ups and downs happen, it doesn't mean that you've failed though. Proud of you either way. Also great you had a nice time at your sister's birthday, I'm sure she appreciated it a lot. 🥰
this video literally describes exactly everything I’m going through as well. I restrict then binge and try to eat normal but feel so guilty and then the cycle repeats. I’m also doing a gap year! Just know you’re not alone in this 💗
God the comment section is filled with trauma dumping😂😂 But ngl it feels good being a part of a comment section with ppl who get what living with controlling parents is like
I took a 5 year gap after trying community College. I wasn't ready then but my aunt kept pestering me about how most people that take a break don't finish college. I took that time off and worked and lived on my own and guess what, I'm currently in online classes. I ddnt want it then but I do now and am more motivated to finish because I've had time to truly think about it. College is expensive and not something I think someone should rush into. Some people don't even need college, but it doesn't hurt to have that extra education. Just because it's what your parents want doesn't mean it can't be something you want to. And if you don't want it that cool too 😊😎
At first I thought your mom may have been concerned because she didn’t want you to repeat her mistakes, until you quoted what she said to you regarding her reputation. You’re parents sound extremely harsh and I agree that a gap year would be beneficial. For some reason parents are extremely against them, but live ur own life man.
i love how you place so much importance on mental health! as a current psychology major, a lot of the topics you highlighted are very related to what i've been studying at uni. i know you're still seeking your own pathway, but i think you might want to look into psych during your gap year, especially because of how you have such a good understanding of your own stress levels and how food acts a bad coping mechanism for it. wishing you well in everything! take care ❤
i’ve always had a love for psychologu and always been into , n rn i’m doing gcse psychology and i’m kind of thinking of doing it for uni but i’m not sure, would u recommend it ? is there anything i should know ? what’s the main focus ?
hey, I've been stuck in a binge cycle since about September, well, that's when it got really bad but can I ask you something, how did you stop 🤮, I don't know how to stop cause after a binge I can't leave that food in my body ykand my parents are really concerned about me(ಥ﹏ಥ) ps. 4:43 I would really wanna video on what you do after a binge cause I kinda feel gross the next day (ಥ﹏ಥ)
personally for me I would just try to do something to distract myself from the urge to binge in the first place (ex. listening to music, drawing, taking a nap) but if the temptation to binge is too strong, i’d suggest getting something to drink like water, helps you feel full which can reduce the cravings. this usually works for me, hope this helps you (ㆀ･з･)
take a gap year and explore, go to another country! do you like foreign languages? i love studying different languages, thats my personal hobby. you'll find what clicks with you do not worry. sending you soo much love and hugs. xoxo
My parents (especially my mom) wanted me to go to uni as well, we had many fights, i ended up living in the US for almost 2 years as an au pair (can recommend), came back, went to uni and then dropped out because i didn’t like it lol Now i work and make my own money, and they’re okay with that :D
I’m not sure how it is where you live. However with universities and colleges here in America. You can be declared an “undecided” or exploratory” major. Most people just take general education courses until they decide what they want to do. Also maybe get involved in clubs, volunteering, research opportunities and shadowing which could help.
Having a gap year is honestly a great idea!! I ended up taking two years out before university and it was the best decision I have ever made. I was so stuck for what I wanted to study but giving myself the time to gain some experience and think about it helped SO much! I switched around a lot but I'm now studying occupational therapy and I really love it ❤ Just give yourself some time and I'm sure you'll find something you enjoy!! Good luck :) x
I understand what u mean omg 😭 I’m in grade ten (I just started highschool) and my parents keeping asking me what I wanna be and I really don’t know 😭 if you wanna take a gap year to think about it I think that’s okay and I also think it’s natural to want support from your parents :( start by sorting out what you dislike and if you can see what you like. like for example I don’t like science and math so now I know I won’t become an engineer or a scientist or something involving those subjects. if a gap year will help you then I definitely support you and I think you should do whatever is good for you. also I really love your videos when I started watching youtubers who post ed stuff you really stood out for me I really related to ur videos and felt less alone I love you sm thank you for making these video and please try your best to take care of yourself 🫶
I feel like my skin crawled s bit when you said food doesn't solve anything. It really doesn't. I'm also struggling with binging a lot and then vomiting and it's so exhausting, I'm always drained, depression has a chokehold on me and I feel so worthless when I see how much my peers are working on themselves. I'm entering 11th grade this September and everyone is already so decided as to what they want to dedicate their lives to, what they want to study and I feel like I do not know myself at all. My love for art, primarily painting has defined me since young yet now I'm starting to doubt liking it, being good at it and feel so lost. Ive been struggling with food for 3 years now, binging, anorexia, overexercising, bulimia, you name it. And I'm just tired. Life is so much better when there is no food in it. No temptations. I look good, I feel good and I can focus on what interests me. I hope you all get better. I hope I get better; and we can all finally live.
taking a gap year is so smart, I wish I'd done it after high school but now I'm waiting until after college so I can save up money for grad school & my own place :)
To anyone reading you are so beautiful and make the world way better. You are an amazing person with one life, there’s millions of people to meet, memories to make and things to do
Seeing all this being made for someone's birthday makes me feel weird...no one ever celebrated my birthday properly (my mom would make me a small cake, like, a whole month after my bday and we'd just eat it as dessert after supper then go to sleep like usual. I never got any gifts or party.) so Its cool that your sister got to have a special day with her family :) I hope you all had fun
That's insane the way your parents handled you wanting to take a gap year. That is not normal. I did the same things (actually for multiple years lol) and my parents still supported me. I worked during that time, then went to a coding bootcamp to learn how to become a software engineer. They might want the best for you, but there are better ways of going about it. ALSO, even if you had a good relationship with your parents, they still shouldn't be mad at you. They have 0 reason to be angry with you for choosing to do a gap year. They might not want you to, which is fine, but it's not ok to take that out on you and make the decision even harder/more stressful. If you had a good relationship with them, they wouldn't treat you that way, they'd try to understand why you want a gap year. So whether or not you have a good relationship with them, they shouldn't shame you for not performing how they want you to.
Im watching this after a binge. Feels so much better knowing that im not alone! I had chicken w bread then i ate some of the popeyes my mom brought even tho i was full :-: i hardly ever eat fast foox but this time i screwed up
i know you havent posted for a while but ive been watching your videos for a bit and whether or not you see this comment just know that you can get through this and i really do hope you can find the good in life. i belive in you .
Staying i can decide on my own and sleeping un der their roof. Wow. That is kinda rude. Sorry that your parents don't get you but this mentality is selfish and greedy.
I feel ur frustration. I also took a 6-12 month break after HSchool graduation. Just try to keep a good relationship with ur parents. It will help you. I know it's not easy. And ur right to want to figure things out before committing. Try to explain to them if u don't get a much needed break u may end up waisting more time and money. Just keep going though. Life is not easy. I get it u want to leave but if you can't do it on ur own maybe u should stay until u are 3/4 done with school. Just my advice. 💕 I'm 37 yrs old btw so trust me u will get ur freedom. Most of my so called friends have left me and started families and I visit my parents often now. So try to value that while u still have them
As someone else who was lost near high school graduation & didn't know what to study, I highly encourage a gap year. Or at the very least if you're forced to go to uni-- go in undeclared, and see if any subject really stand out to you. I also felt so much pressure from my peers because they were so passionate about what they wanted to go study, so I kind of faked it & pretended that I also was passionate about wanting to study something and now I regret it so much. I managed to graduate with my degree, but now I feel like a fake. Stay safe & take care of yourself.! (Also would love self care videos, I have no clue how to do it tbh)
I took a year gap (I had to) now I totally changed my major and I’m so glad. Don’t listen them mine did the same as yours. Now they act like they supported me from very beginning :d
hi! i used to suffer with binge eating disorder. i mainly binged on sugary foods and icecream and bread, because that was what i would usually restrict. i gained weight from it, developed depression as well as body dysmorphia. i also began punishing myself by cutting. 5 years passed before i finally got help (i went to see a psychiatrist and a psychologist for my depression) at volunteering centre consisting of people who’ve recovered from eating disorders and they taught me some tools to help me recover. ever since then, i’ve used those tools every single day to overcome my binge eating. even though i’ve recovered from my ed, i’m sadly still mentally ill and stuck in the psych system and i’ve been diagnosed with ocd, which is often linked to eating disorders. just know that missing a day or two of using these tools isn’t the end of the world. of course there are always bumps on the road. relapses are very likely to happen, but that is okay, even though it’s scary, because that is part of the journey! progress is not meant to be linear. it is possible to get better even though it doesn’t feel like that! i promise
Just dont spend gap year beeing at home doing nothing much, teka up a course (design, coding, etc) get a job to earn some extra cash, be productive, it is a high chance when people don't go to college right away that they lose motivation, I personally don't recommend it, I know plenty of people who changed course and it wasn't that complicated
my dream would be to take fine arts in university but idk if i’ll be able to cope going straight to uni in september 2024 😭 i could take a gap year but it’d make me feel behind everyone else my age
I went to college right after hs, hated it, dropped out and took that gap year. now i'm going to a college i love and i appreciate that gap year so much. i won't lie, i feel like i fell behind and i want to catch up with my peers but it also allowed me to focus on my mental health and what i really wanted to do. ❤️
omg I relate so much to this, I also binge quite a lot after my recovery from a different ed and now I've just signed up for some random course for uni because I don't know what to do :(((, hope you're having a nice day!
Ok I uderstand, I am at my second year at higschool and I will be making that decision soon too, but our english teacher told us to go to any uni even if we dont know which an then we can transfer, because it is pretty hard to get back to studying after one year gap(differentiate from person to person ofc) but i can see it too after for example summer holydays it is pretty hard to get back on track❤
im 16 rn but bc of the way my system works i’ve already had to decide what im roughly doing for university bc kinda similar to you, my mum really wants me to go and rlly disapproves of the fact that i’ll probably take a gap year 😭 but really i think it’s the best decision you could make!!
Reminds me of my high school... back to then I was also fighting w my mum bc she wanted me to go to law school and i wanted study literature. I was also obsessed with food and grades / exams. I was focusing on that bc there was too much negative stuff to deal with in my life and it was easier to think about food & fatness. You have to resist to your parents pressure bc by doing that you will start to understand how to face other real difficult things in your current life and in the past, and that will potentially reduce your struggles with food
Mach dir keinen Stress wegen der Uni. Ein Jahr Pause klingt nach einer super Idee! Nimm etwas Abstand von Allem und du wirst bestimmt etwas finden, was zu dir passt!
As a parent …parents just want the best for their kids that is why we yell and get upset bc we think oh my gosh,they are going to struggle in life and life is hard …social media makes life seem so simple without money you can’t pay bills or have 401k or IRA or bonds or money that can build wealth your basically struggling this is why education is important bc the pay rate vs non -college degrees (hence doctors,lawyers make more then cashiers ) but you can make money …it just is a harder struggle though trades make great money …we don’t mean harm my daughter feels the same about me but I pay her bills …without us who do you run to friends ?the street ?the government? They don’t care mental struggle is real and it’s best to sit and write your feelings and have your parents read your feelings is my opinion my daughter is the exact way with me ,trust me as a parent we get it we have been in your shoes too we had to impress our parents as well
im a junior in college and have absolutely no clue what i want to do w my life and sometimes it stresses me out but u have to remember we’re all on different paths and that’s ok. i hope you’re doing well now ❤️🫂
Please seek Jesus you won’t regret it. Just say out loud for God to heal you if your current struggles and to reveal himself to you. He’s listening. We all have the key to the door but we just have to unlock it 😊 🔑🚪 🎊
Seek Jesus. I felt how u feel your internal need to be satisfied but are still starving no matter how much you consume past your limits. Matthew Chapter 6 verse 33 : “But seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto ye.” Seek Jesus before it’s too late.
I know your intentions are good, but telling someone with a disorder to just not starve themselves isn't going to work. they have to want it, take it from me, who has an eating disorder. no amount of telling them to stop, or telling them to find Jesus will help. you don't know them so you cannot force them into treatment, and so the best you can do is just hope they get better. she's said in some of these videos that she is trying recovery and wants recovery, so I hope so too. I appreciate your good intentions.
@@bdawgdub I understand what u mean. But to at least in spite of what she’s going through to get the mental/internal healing ❤️🩹 which is only from Christ Jesus. Take from me.
No offense but is find Jesus really all the answer? I mean if we really are his subjects then why must we suffer and why must me find him to be better doesn't he already control our lives? Why can't people just heal by themselves? And what exactly do you mean by find Jesus to solve problems... don't take this one to heart but if I were to be getting killed would I pray and pray in the middle of it instead of just helping myself and moving? I'm not here to disapprove your beliefs but I am just a curious person
im recovering from 🤮 as well (lol im gonna start using that) but still restricting/losing and binging, but this video made me feel less alone bc i struggle with similar problems with my parents and school. you've got this!! i hope your gap year works out 🫶
maybe unrelated but ur literally such a sweet sister!! i'm 16 and so im torn between wishing i had a sister like you and wishing i could be a sister like you lol. i have an older (half) sister but i can't talk to her about ed stuff cuz she struggled with the same stuff and i don't want to trigger her or for her to get mad at me :,)
