Am glad my parents are proud of me..!! I came as a student to America, finished my education and bought half of my family to America even now my parents are US citizens because of me. I praise God for my achievements.
Am from Massachusetts USA 🇺🇲 🇺🇲 but what Roy is talking about is true, this is reality when I came here in USA I saw this from the black society, that's why when I came I was so conscious who to associate with. Alot of laziness, unfocused and lack of moral conduct in the youth. May God help us but parents have pain in their hearts.
Naaye as a child of a disporan parent, I came abroad at 13. Mr. Roy is right about some of these issues he's narrating in this video. The problem is he is only detailing the consequences not the root problem!! First of all, parents do not account for the culture shock as the children experience especially if they are 14-25. How being in a new environment, being treated differently in society and the process of assimilation in a new country affects that child. Secondly, parents fail to remember that most of them didn't grow up with us though we understand they move to green pastures for our benefit....naaye the truth is we didn't grow up with you there so some of us may not have an attachment to you parents atte you parents taught us to fear you so much that we can't even talk to you about our challenges. Third, most people don't know that what a child was doing in Uganda will only multiply when they move abroad especially in the U.S. 🤷🏾♀️
These are my exact thoughts! I came here at 12yrs of age and went through some challenges attributed to puberty & assimilation to my environment i grew up in. However with patience & proper guidance I eventually turned out ok, college educated and one of the youngest leaders in healthcare in my state. He has some good points but his opinions are kind of biased. It's like he's seek white validation like most Africans in & out of diaspora. Today white people are the most addicted to drugs & violence due to the opioid epidemic.
Lots of challenges there, I agree it's never easy settling in especially teenagers, we have lots of don'ts here and lots of dos's over there. The distance and time away from each other as parents process their paperwork leaves their children vulnerable back home. The relatives or friends that are left with the children don't make it any easier. These kids come over there with lots of entitlement. The parents usually send uneccessary goodies to compensate for time apart. Sibyangu.abaana bamwe temubakotogera, work on their papers so that they also enjoy the privileges of having a parent in diaspora. . The best time to have them over there with you is before they become teenagers or after they are done with high school here. Mubawe obudde, mwogerenabo ekirungi mumanyi amateeka gaffe tegakola eyo gyemuli. All the best.
Heavenly Father thank you for my children obutampa buzibu. I have 5 teaneagers and 3 working and full-time school, 2 will also be working as soon as they turn 16. Am a single mother silina budde bwabana kuntabula mutwe in the mighty name of My Lord Christ Jesus 🙏🙏♥️
Iwe yamaawe abaana bataano tinkachihulilagaho since I have started watching these shows,iwe farook akuloonde otuhe interview 🙄🙄 eeehhhh my lord i wonder 🥰🥰🥰🥰💪💪💪big up to all of us single mothers,me 3 naye ndimu Uganda 😊
What an interview! Parenting is one of the toughest challenges that our Generation is facing. I thought Roy has done so well to dig deep into the reality that many a Diaspora Parent face. Pam dear,this is what we've always been talking about. Farouk,kudos to this piece..👌🙏🏼🤝👊
When I the I brought materials bricks 🧱 cement at home 🏠 on Christmas 🎄 after spending 2yrs in Kampala My my instead she cried and I also started to cry 😭😭 and My second visit after 5months I went with closing doors glasses and windows she tached on my head cried and said you are blessed for the All of your life after 3months I boarded away am now 1yr and 5 months working in Emirates flights. May God protect my parents until they see the bazukulu Amen 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
I like this gentleman's take on so many things. Infantilization of children is very real . Treat them the same way you'd treat them in Uganda. Don't babysit them .
Wawawawa finally Roy has appeared. Big up to u brother Roy and brother farook serkozi. We really appreciate ur efforts towards building us across all walks of life. Ahmed Gossip live Ambassador in Qatar omu bwati.
The truth and nothing but the truth!! Roy is speaking for many parents in the diaspora. The pain and heartbreak many endure because of the grown kids they brought to the diaspora is unfathomable! Many regret their choices.
i am sorry naye oluusi, us the parents have alot to do with how these kids end up. When we go abroad we bring maalo and instead of knowing where we came from we want to behave like the people we found there. Instead of helping them to know where they came from "i hear comments alot.............the kids are American" as if they are untouchables. The parents who make these statements after the excitement of being in the US wears off then they start to see the pain of not counselling, and not setting expectations. Secondly, brining children before they finish senior six is too early because they don't appreciate the pains that their parents have gone through to get the papers. Keep the kids grounded. Help them not to forget the good values you have at home and help them be selective what they choose.
@@fk5371 You’re very right. Older kids fair better. And parents wanting to raise kids nga Americans doesn’t help. I had my child here and I raised him the same way I was raised not these tokuba baana, tobagambako etc and he knew not to try it on. He’s now grown and is a respectable human being, taddamu bakulu, taleekana, etc.
@@motungi5520 True, Naye anti nabe’kampala bazibanja non-stop, Maama mulwadde, senga yafudde, olumbe lwataaata, kojja boda yamukoonye and if those parents don’t send money nga bagamba yye maama since she took her kids takyatufaako. Case of between a rock and a hard place.
Ebiseera ebisinga the feeling of accomplishment kubside yameka brings in lots of issues, abaana buli wamu beetaga guidance home oba diaspora, most of the people in diaspora bayita wala okutuuka kukyebagala nebeerabira. I went to school with classmates that had parents in diaspora naye we attended traditional schools here and they were only able to join their parents after high school, they've turned out successful in all their endeavours. Abantu eno mubabuulire byemuyitamu okubasanyusa. Nekirala empower your extended families by supporting them to start up self sustaining projects. Kyanaku nti mubeera kubunkenke over every phone call that comes in okuvabeno.mulekere awo okumala gagaba freebies kubanga mulemaza abantu bamwe nebabafukira sitaani.
We thank God for the gift of life. Roy Mubiru, thanks for that good advice and for being a good parent. We that God guides both us parents and our children.
100% on point! I believe in chores housework, limit screen time, family time is a must. Watch shows together, go to mall together, go to restaurants together. Talk to your children. You are so right. Who are their friends. American born or not, children need boundaries. Even when you have maids in Uganda, children should have chores, help with cooking and cleaning.
Thank you for interviewing this Gentleman, I have learned a lot. The truth is, if we don't go back to our foundations, the majority are heading for destruction. Thank you Mr. Roy, well said. I concur with all you have stated.
You said the truth. I went to America and saw my sister"s children who were taken at the age of 13 yes doing exactly that. Keep uour children in Africa.
Ono omwami muzadde ddala owenjawulo, nze ndiku side yo Taata tweyanzizzannyo okutulungamya nobutabikkilila nsongankulu eyo abanji jebabuusa amaaso ate nga ekabya amaziga
Tx Roy ur on point we parents in diaspora we need to hear this its 4 real our generation is being depleted if we dont caution our kids .let's go back to the basics tx Farouk 4 this episode much appreciated
Thank you gentlemen. Omwami oyo byayogera newano e Uganda bwekiri. Once your children start distancing and locking themselves in the room, just know they are up to no good. Immediately start the strict talk and grounding. Be it here in Uganda. Kawukumi neeno yatuuka dda!
This is very true. Here in the U.K. the kids getting knifed are black kids, most are those who grew up in africa and came here. Those born here usually will go on and finish school Naye bebaleese!! Hoh! One parent didn’t even know her 11 year old boy had a gun under his mattress. She only found out when police came to her house and she swore they had the wrong address Naye aba police bakebela. They found it and he confessed they were blackmailing him threatening to kill his mum so he hid the gun for a gang to protect his Mum. Abaana kilungi basomere Uganda and come here for universit. Ofcourse every parent wants to be with their kids and you can’t advise especially if yours were born here Naye kyanaku nnyo.
My dear what I see here is a different story. It's personality . Those are doing mass shooting are for bazungu. Though Omulya mamba ...... Even those for whites or born there are wasted. Mukkirize nti na mwe abazadde tumufuddeyo. But i repeat it's personality EVEN IF he or she remained in Uganda would be spoiled.
I saw a documentary that said it's actually white kids doing more stabbing than black kids, but for some reason it's black kids that are usually put in media making it seem like it's mostly black kids.
@@day2dayhuman44 In London, there are areas where mostly black kids will be involved in knife crime. There are areas like North London where minorities have settled and white people have vacated. Yes some white kids will be involved but mainly black kids.
I agree taking children abroad during university. They are old enough to appreciate their identity sikubeera mu maalo. I came abroad to study in university and I’m grateful that I enjoyed my earlier years in Uganda
Good evening everyone watching ,Farooq nd Roy Mubiru we are glad to see u again. We thank the almighty we are still alive 🙏 many are gone ,many are sick , Lord we give you the glory.
I came to the USA when am 29 years old, lived in the USA for 7 years, and am a citizen, in 7 years of living here I have learned a lot worse and good. To my knowledge, I can't raise my kids in the USA period.
Big up Mr Farooq Sarqoz and Mr Roy Mubiru , that was a very interesting topic, we face so many challenges abroad but we should never forget where we come from, we need to embrace our culture, values and traditions.
But by the time some of you realise its too late. If we stop malala, things can change. But the more we start to behave like the people we found their we are doomed.
Am not in diaspora but I have liked ur quote of moving out of a relationship which is not developmental, it's the best decision I have ever made in life
Am still confused, i want to get out of this relationship because its not developmental at all, but i have a daughter in him it still hard for me to make final decision. 🤣🤣🤣🤣 because i fear to start over
Mr Roy Mubiru u have reminded me of linked clip of one of the Uganda's tycoon 🤔musajja wattu nakaba amaziga nayenga muwalawe ne nyina bebamukabya ku bintu bye byakoleredde ebbanga🥺things do happen in daily life jst abamu tetufuna chance bilaba. Nd this goes to parents to groom their children accordingly 😌 kuba tewali kiswaza nga mwana kuyisamu maso nga tamanyi biki byoyisemu okumutusa wali. Lord have mercy on our kids 🙏
Mwanagwe it's God's mercy me I can't blame anyone on a spoilt kid whether here in Uganda or outside it's only pleading to God as soon as u get pregnant,Ur role u do it but put that kid Infront of God's mercy
Oh my God watched this interview to the end this man is very correct I have a friend her kids one is 28 another is 32 but these kids balisiza mummy wabwe akakanja bange one day she almost cried she came and tell me that am so tired I told her sorry she told me can u imagine I went in the fridge to take milk to cook for my husband and I find milk finish the way am tired I had to go to supermarket to buy another one and I have to wash also their clothes I was so mad I asked ger why she doesn’t tell these kids who wash them she just looked at me and cried the kids cnt do anything at home and makes matters worse one she is a lady I was like what she alway brings the boy friend to eat the food and she cnt do anything in the house it’s their mum who is doing everything.
Thanks 🤝what's saying is 100%but nze i blame this on parents reason being they say they love their kids in the end they are now crying but wen they are the trouble causes 🤞
This is the best interviewee have seen on ur show. I hold a permanent residency which allow’s me to stay to countries in Europe expect UK but I refused to bring my children in Europe unless when their joining university
You're very smart and forward thinking. I lived moved back for the same reason,,,,,,,,,,,wanting an environment that would enable me to raise my kids the way they want and not the way government wants so that it can continue incarcerating my kind of people. The prison system is a game in the western countries. .
@@fk5371 Very true. I had and raised mine here in England but brought him up like we were raised, sikiliza kwesiliwaza. He’s now a big boy and im proud of him. Even if he’s way taller than me he knows who the parent is and would not dare disrespect me or any other adults. I also did myself a favour and moved to a smaller town away from London where trouble starts. Too many gangs, petty crime, grooming into gangs etc tend to start in big cities. If you have the option, raise kids in Africa, let them come for university studies and thereafter.
Imagine am not yet a mother ,have no one in America that maybe I will one day be filed to America not even married yet but I had to listen to this interview till it's end.. perhaps the information will help me some day. Thanks 😊
Mr, Farooq thanks for the work done, I am requesting you to host a lawyer who studied his or her bachelor's in Uganda and relocated to America and continued with his or her career.
